Feb 2011: the one where the babies are destruction machines

[ChestnutsREASTIEingOnTheFire]

...or is that just mine?

Ps ledkr we aim for N being down for 7...he was refusing his morning nap today but then realised he needed one at 11, so had 40 mins then, then another 40 mins at 3pm. Dinner at 5.30, bath for 6.30 & then bottle & lights out for 7. Tho he did struggle to go down at 7 tonight...think he ate too much at dinner (wee grubber) so after a massive fart, he was gone by 7.25...

Im a bit loathe to play around with naps as i simply cant be arsed tbh. Im going to try and force a small kip in the afternoon but she is very difficult to get to sleep in the day.Wheras at night she cant wait get to her cot and sinks into it all comfy without a peep.

Oh yikes I've not been on all weekend, and have missed loads, so, in no particular order...

Debka welcome back, and scary re choking incident, but possibly worth it to experience that which we all aspire to.....sequin poos?!

Ponyo sorry A is poorly, tough time.

OK. so in general, boooo for poorly babies, get well soon, and yaaaaay for babies who are getting better or who are otherwise the picture of health.

wiggles hoorah for lovely little birthday non party. We had a lovely weekend too, C loved her cake and candles and singing (3 part harmony in our family, natch), although she obviously had no idea what it was all about, and had her priceless WTactualF face on for most of it. SHe discovered houmous this weekend too, on her party sandwiches, and is a big fan.

I've resolved the breakfast issue, she loves scrambled egg, so I can do her toast and egg and also some fruit for brekkie instead of the porridge which she just won't have anymore. Gosh that was a boring paragraph.

C stood on her own yesterday, for about 10 seconds, then looked around and realised nobody was holding her and got a bit scared, went wide eyed, and lowered herself down really slowly onto her bum, then grinned and clapped.

Ledkr that exact issue - the 4 till bedtime devil child syndrome, is why I wake C from her morning nap, so she will have an afternoon one. She just can't go from before lunch until bedtime, and having only just cracked the early waking [frantically touching wood] I don't want to risk an earlier bedtime, even tho people say it doesn't necessarily mean an earlier wake.

So I wake her in the morning after half an hour, and then she will still sleep for up to an hour sometime between 1 and 4 (usually after about 2.30). I know you can't be ar$ed to mess around with naps, but if I don't do the waking in the morning thing, she is a horror from mid afternoon until bedtime.

That's all for now, have a nice day Feb Mummies.

D

Thanks D Yes that does make sense.The day before yesterday she did have an afternoon nap 4-5ish and still went down well and slept later if anything. Before tho i have noted a late nap has caused probs.

REASTIE this is specifically for you my friend. I HAVE DOTD. hahahahahahaha It only took about half an hour too.

Morning all and thanks for the birthday wishes for Cassia. We had a really lovely family party which she loved, loads of little monsters running around screaming obvs. She even showed off her 1 year old muscles by shoving her three year old cousin over when he tried to appropriate her vtech push along thing! Having a second birthday for her today as having friends over to demolish party leftovers of which there are many.
Poor Bean with choking scariness deb Altho maybe she was just trying to celebrate her birthday by producing a beautiful sequinned poo?
delia hummus is cass's utter fave too, esp in baked potato....
led haha glad you disgrace yourself also! I nearly missed my birthday trip to London last Sat as I got vomitously drunk the night before, and had the shakes and a grey face all day the next day. Hate getting that level 5 hangover, grim!
Just off to look at wiggles pics, will try to get round to updating mine soon (I won't).

Belated bday wishes to cass

wiggles love the piccies, esp of anna balancing precariously. The one of anna and emma makes me think how much our little ones have grown up now. All the clothes that looked so massive a few months ago fit her now

ledkr we have similar devil child issues, which peaks when she eats her dinner at about 5:30 but then as soon as she has her bath she perks up and goes crazy playing with everything until 8-9pm - last night she was still bouncing about at 9:30 .

Went to take something back to m&s this morning and came back with a toy musical laptop thing for alice - it's doing a great job occupying her though . She keeps dancing to the music and looks like a cross between elvis and michael jackson

Oh, got a call from hv office this morning informing me my lovely hv has left to work in another area and I've been allocated a new one and my appointment this week has been cancelled until my new one can be bothered to contacts me. Is it bad that I actually cried? It's just my old hv knew all my history and has been visiting me for a year and the only medical professional to bother helping me. Feels like I have to start from scratch again

Off to check the oven for DHs special heart shaped cake and check out ledkrs DOTD - you can join my special club now

OK, so today's pointless parenting worry is:

Both DH and I work full time, it is mostly necessary, we have bills, yes we also go on holidays, but bills/salary/holiday expenses wise it's not like I could work less if we just didn't go on holiday etc. (I don't know why I'm explaining that as you're all nice, but there are some threads on here that have gone a bit nuts with people talking about sacrifices you should make for kids etc.).

So in the week she is dropped at either nursery or GPs around 8-8.15ish, collected around 5.30-5.45ish.

She's fine, she is v happy & smiley etc. But I'm starting to worry about friends. I don't know how I would ever meet other mums to arrange 'playdates' etc. I don't know how I would know who to invite to a party etc. I don't know how I will know who her friends are, or if she has any? It seems like as they're still so little, a lot of baby social things are around Mum friends, and maybe as I'm not around to do that in the week, is she missing out? Will she miss out, when she's a bit older, if I can't have friends to tea etc.?

I'm being ridiculous aren't I? Someone tell me I'm being ridiculous...

Dx

Delia- I understand your worries, but c will be fine. She we have social time with nursery friends. Soon enough she will be old enough to tell you who her friends are. Play dates are not essential, but there is always the weekend to arrange dates with friends, sleepovers etc as she gets older. Btw you are not horrible because you work ft, don't let others guilt you into feeling rubbish about it. Sorry if I didn't come across well.

Reastie- sorry to get on at you but this another reason to take those ad's. I am sorry you are feeling crappy about this. Ease don't worry too much, the new hv should have all info in your files.
Hope you are ok.

delia I had a similar only opposite worry a few weeks ago when a 'helpful' colleague at work made a comment to me about my childcare arrangements (gps) and how I need to make sure Alice mingles with other children. I started telling her how I do have friends with little ones come over and MIL takes her to a baby class and we are joining another baby class once alice is 1 but then I thought why should I defend myself . I talked to my mum about it and she just rolled her eyes and said everyone will be full of advice as to what you should and shouldn't do but just ignore it all and do what you want. IME it sounds like Claudia will get lots of time with her friends at nursery, and in a year or so she will be old enough to tell you who her favourite of the children are so you can arrange playdates if you like, but in the meantime just meet up with the mums you like to chat with . That would be my thinking anyway.

Hi all
Ledkr, Noah goes to bed at 6.30/7ish on an evening, dpending on how much he's moaned in the late afternoon! he only has one nap a day now around1ish until 3ish. If he gets tired in the morning I let him have 15 minutes in his buggy to keep him going.

Delia, don't feel guilty about working full time, as long as C is happy then what does it matter. She will maske loads of friends at nursery. With Ben he's always had our NCT friends, then this last birthday we invited a few from nursery that he's been with since the baby unit, and his friend from across the road. I only work three days but don't generally have many playdates.
And Reastie, your colleague obviously has NO idea what they are talking about, so ignore, ignore, ignore. Also don;t worry about HV, I saw a different HV for Noahs check the other week and at first was a bit upset about it, but the hv who came was lovely and knew what had gone on with me.

Hhmmmm must try Noah with hummous, Ben used to love it on breadsticks. I love it too tho so he may not actually get much!

Right back to work, see ya'll later

Ooh Ledkr, congrats on your DOTD. Top of the list as well!!!!

OK yeah, you're right, I'm being a twit. She's only one, after all.

Emski you can practice your hypocritical parenting like me.....no Claudia, not with your fingers, with that bit of bread/breadstick....followed by me then myself dipping my fingers in it. Glad she's too young to point that out to me!

D I wont patronise you by agreeing with everything you say as you know. I am a believer in spending some time with the dc;s which is why i work part time only. Having said that id make the most of her being a baby cos when you throw in school holidays,trips,activities,parties,parents evening,sports days and matches,play dates,illness,in service days etc etc it all becomes very tricky.I actually find it easier to work with a baby than an Ella. As for friends and stuff she will have that need met at nursery,i didnt have many friends with dc when Els was little and she was at nursery 3 days and you can ask Deb and the others how sociable she is. It all works out in the end,as long as you love them and parent well.

I have to say my dotd is actually been quite nice and supportive.

It makes a change from arguing with the idiots who say you are insecure and controlling if you dont think your dh should visit strip or lap dance clubs.

Just a quick hello before we descend into the 2 hours of murder before bedtime

ledkr what was your DOTD?, I first read it quickly and thought you were saying you had DTD and I thought are you not always doing the deed?

deliaskis Sofia never went on a playdate (we don't have them here ) until she started P1 (when she was 4!!) Olivia has been to a friends house a few times from nursery but she's the sister of Sofias bestie so we all know each other and we all know how I avoid organised activities so basically don't worry C will be grand.

PS IMO - kids don't really have friends until they're at school anyway and can pick their own

Borg Happy Birthday Nate

Oh HAPPY BIRTHDAY NATE! Hope you all have a lovely day borg (where are you hiding?)
Thanks for the reminder wiggles

wiggs Im just gearing up for the bedtime nightmare. Dotd was the half term one,i started it when id had enough before 9am Have spent all day baking cakes and biscuits with Ella whilst chasing Dills about,am knackered.

Dh came in early with a Tesco bag.He announced he was cooking a thai curry tomorrow for V day. I didnt like to say but he has bought some frozen prawns and some thai paste,nothing else,no coconut milk or anything else dinner should be interesting,hes not even home till gone 6.I ususally cook a nice steak or something I have bought tickets for the comedy club but they havent come yet so ill have to do what im always doing according to wiggs as a treat and to say thanks for my pstey prawns.

Happy Birthday Nate Borg.

Happy belated birthday Cass and happy birthday Nate!

I can't really talk about hangovers. I had a headache on Sunday after 3 glasses of wine. Interested in the exploits too!

Delia, I have the opposite problem. I work incredibly part-time (3 hours a week) and I worry that S spends far too much time with me. He screams the place down when the baby sitter comes on a Monday at tea-time, because he is in full-on separation anxiety mode now. C will be absolutely fine, as she is becoming more independent.

I have to get Anna to write 24 valentines cards this afternoon as they all have to swap them in class. Barely have time to think about dh with all that going on!

Hope tea/bath/bed time is all going smoothly.

24 Valentines cards tad omg!! What a lucky girl.

I think C will be perfectly fine Delia don't waste another moment thinking about it. She will have a better social life than you very soon and you will be saying those infamous words 'I feel like a bloody taxi driver!'

wiggles loving the climbing Anna and the photo of her with Emma. Is Brona home?

All back to normal here. Half term so boys eating me out of house and home. Archie had his developmental check today, what a waste of time. She weighed him (he had dropped through the chart a bit), I explained that he had been so poorly last week again . She asked lots of questions...do I think he can hear? Does he copy? Etc etc......

Off to read ledkr's dotd!!!

Happy birthday to Nate! Borg where aaaaare yooou

ledkr woo, dotd, check you! Am interested to know how your tahi curry turns out... maybe he'll use normal milk instead of coconut milk

delia I can understand your concerns, I've thought the same but am not worrying about it - we only have hardly any friends with kids and i worry about A but she's fine at nursery which is the main thing! You're not being ridiculous though

reastie musical laptop sounds good... shame I don't have time to go to m&s!

Right just a quick one from me as I have to finish getting the house tidy for A's birthday tomo, we're only having a few (childless delia ) friends over but need to get things sorted!

Yes, Brona is home am not sure who is happier : her, her Mum or her Dad or her siblings

ponyo have a fab day tomorrow xx

Just watched Crazy Stupid Love (still on our Goslingathon ), really loved it.

Have a lovely Valentines Day tomorrow everyone [eyeroll)

Helloo,

I have been on me hols, got back last night. Thank you for the lovely birthday wishes for my Nate, I have been a bit teary today and remembering him when he was all brand new. Happy birthday to all the others I have missed whilst I was away too!

We went skiing (nods to delia), well we paid a lot of money to put N in creche but he haaattteedd being left with randoms, so DH and I split the day and one of us stayed with him, which sort of defeated the point of creche but at least he liked the toys and we used their sledges.

Due to hols and DH working nights this week, N is having a series of birthday events, he still hasn't opened his presents from us yet. Good thing he doesn't "know" yet!

In other news he has worked out how to walk down the stairs holding the spindles, but thinks this means he can get down all staircases even if they don't have spindles which is slightly terrifying.
neither DH nor I recall N waking up last night , could it be????? Did he????? Sleep???? Through???? Or are we now so tired we just don't remember?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANYA! hope you have a dab day Ponyo.

Borg - well done to Nate if he did indeed sleep through! Happy birthday to him as well. I get a bit teary when I think about how tiny L was, one of my work colleagues is pregnant so I'm massively broody now.

wiggles - I see you have a climber too.

Delia - I have the same problem re friends, all my close friends with children have moved away and I don't go to any groups to meet other mums now that I'm working.

L is properly walking now.

Right, must get some actual work done at work.