July 2010: It's about time, that we all went back to rhyme!

[Spirael]

Though mutiny is always an option.

Hand is much better thanks to eveyone asking. I have a problem with the bandaging because of the difficulties of keeping it all flat. The sticky stuff holing the gauze down has to go onto the palm of my hand which of course s constantly moving and gets sweaty...I've already had to have it rebandaged once. But the good news when she rebadaged my middle finger (the worst one) she looked at it and thought it was 'knitting' nicely under the steri strips. So fingers crossed (like what I did there? ) it'll heal no probs. It doesn't hurt unless I do something iyswim, like if I unclip the car seat at the wrong angle, that sort of thing.

Well, childcare is a tricky one cake. That job is full time as you know. It wouldn't make financial sense for my whole salary to go on childcare (it's only a starting salary of £15k and it would cost £15k for two in full time nursery). There is a nursery on site which I would get a discount for, but only baby would be able to go there as it's too far away for them to pick biglad up from school. So it would make sense to look for a childminder. I am not going to think about it more than that until I know if it's actually an issue. Competition for jobs is enormously high at the moment so will cross that bridge if I need to.

That shop looks great cake I'm actually going to take some of ds1's presents back as he has too much. He has a 12" bike for Christmas so that was a lot of money, I plan to take some of the smaller stuff back.

In a similar ilk to Vik's D, ds1 took his pyjamas off and pull ups in the night and wet the bed DH dealth with him in the night but it meant having to do yet more fucking washing as soon as I got up.

Very sorry to hear about your Dad, memphis. I hope it is treatable.

Gosh mlic, how awful about the knife. Glad you're on the mend. How did the children react when they saw you cry? Good luck for the job!

cake Very jealous about you being able to just pop into Cambridge. We always go when we're staying with family and I love it. Must be especially nice at Xmas.

viks Thinking of you! Would you like him to come earlier rather than later? I was quite happy to keep him in a bit longer, but I suppose you don't want him to come at Christams, do you. Made me all tearful what you said about D crying in the nursery. But I'm sure it was just a weird coincidence. FWIW, I think he is too tiny to be jealous already. M is the best biggest sister you can imagine, she is so loving and caring with F and worried about him, it is truly amazing. I'm sure D will feel the same about his baby brother.

Sorry for having been AWOL. Things are shitter than shit here. We've all been ill for over a week now. First we all had d&v, now we all have stinking colds, including F who can't sleep or drink. Unfortunately he can still scream like you wouldn't believe. I really don't know what to do anymore. Doctor couldn't find anything wrong with him, neither did osteopath or midwife. I'm not eating any dairy anymore, so really am at a loss. Me and DP keep losing it in turns, shouting at each other or crying (me). I know it will pass and it's just a phase, but it's not a very nice one. And who ever said second children are easier? (I'll let you off mlic cos I don't think you ever said it )

No other news here, we're just waiting patiently until the plague has left our family.

Hope you all have lovely weekends.

trudy it took 10 days completely dairy free to see a change in S so I'd keep at for a bit longer. Even though S cried for the first 12 weeks solid he was easier than L but then L was a horror baby and DH was away so anything was going to be easier as long as he was around! (I'm not exaggerating on how much S cried either, it was horrendous) Both mine probably explain why I really, really, really don't like babies til they get to around 6 months. Honestly I just don't like newborns at all. Definitely hoping 3rd time lucky! Hope you all get better quickly so you can enjoy Christmas!

mlisc I still can't get my head around how much childcare is, with L in nursery in Jan I have to pay for two lunch hours even though she'll take in her own lunch, strange system.

cake that shop is lovely, wish we had room for one! I got them a sledge so hoping it snows.

We went to a birthday party, S had 20 mins in the car on the way there and 5 mins on the way home and now isn't going to sleep. L is over tired and crashing from her sugar high, it's going to be a loooooooooong afternoon!

I know chul, the nursery they're at now is a staggering £1200 per month for two full time. It's no wonder people can't afford to work :(

cakes the shop is lovelt, we used to play with one like that at playschool when I was little, the mums and dads would bring in empty containers for us to 'sell'.
Regarding my Dad its a tricky one, he gound this lump 14 months ago (testicle) and when they tested it, it was clear (a machine lost control and hit him) he refused to have it removed and since then it has grown massive, he had it removed and op didnt go well and testing it now it is cancerous so we need to see how far it has spread, I feel quite numb about it he drinks and smokes and has a young family and he was such a bad dad growing up I dont know how I feel, im the only one who hasnt wailed the house down.
mlic childminder is a good idea as she can do the picking up of E from school! I really hope you get it, would you prefer one of the other jobs with less hours!

We have been all over the place posting cards and got home, ive cleared for last couple of hours, L has been in bed and got home and the dog has jumped up and ate all the teats and chewed the bottles so I have to go and buy more bottles! wish L would take to something other than a bottle!

SIL is suppost to be having L friday morning first thing so I can do the xmas food shop, she now wants to shop with mil and have him late afternoon, it will be hellish later on wont it? hoping one of my family will have him!

Home from my film fest at my mums. It went way too quickly and I ate a whole box of maltesers!

Now waiting for dinner to cook with a stressy D and DH is going out in a couple of hours so I'll be all alone.

Memph I would like to be offered it but I haven't even been shortlisted yet It was just an informal meeting yesterday to discuss the role.

Dh is out tonight but I didn't want to go. I think my friend next door is popping round for a glass or three of wine

mlic enjoy your wine, dh has gone bed for an hour so he can stay awake later tonight as he is normally asleep by now, I may have a wine with my pizza and conbo thing I bought from Asda!
L has been screaming with belly ache all afternoon and he just did a poo (he hasnt actually had one all day) he lay there having his bum changed screaming out and straing, it just kept coming! how can one little boy be so full of shit?!

Oh man, i feel like poo. Im soooooo tired, fed up and uncomfortable. I really shouted at D earlier and feel really bad about it. He was obviously tired and out of sorts and wouldnt lie still to have his nappy on, then wouldn't have his teeth cleaned. He's been so weird this week, off his food at the beginning of the week and just plain mardy today. Yesterday he was fine but i have to say it seems to be more of a struggle when DH is around, does anyone else have that problem? I really look forward to him being here but when he is its somehow stressful, and he's got 6 weeks off after monday....
D is asleep now, i wasn't grumpy with him, i did explain to him that he must have his nappy on when mommy says etc and gave him a good loving but i really hate the thought that he might have bad dreams about me shouting. How does everyone else cope with those sort of situations? My mom used to be a bit of a split personality one min shouting and smacking and the next we would be sat on her knee having a love, i really dont want to be like that, it breeds distrust and discontent, i know from experience, but i seem to be unable to know how else to deal with that sort of situation. I suppose i must recognise it in myself and be strong enough to find another way.
Im going in the spare(baby's) room tonight and dh is going to get up with D if (when) he needs to, i need some sleep, not only am i not sleeping due to discomfort and pain, dh kept me awake with his drunken snoring last night and then having to get up to D as well, all in all i feel utterly exhausted.
Im so sorry for the ME post, i just really need an outlet!
trudy things sound tough atm, i feel for u and ur dh, its really really hard but ur right it is a phase, but not a very nice one. I would much rather him come early and be here for xmas, the waiting over xmas and boxing day will kill me as i know no one really wants D over those few days.
memph i just changed D about a month ago to a cup for his milk, how much milk are lo's drinking now? A friend of mines lo is still having 16oz a day, D only has around 7 or 8 at the most, that includes his cerial.

vik D is weird here too, wakes up every hour at least through the eve then won't go down at all. Really hope it's just a phase.

Miss DH already he's only been gone 2 hours but im in bed already, don't trust D to stay asleep so I'm prepared.

Sooo know what you mean dh, in fact i hate going to bed/being in bed/ night time completly atm. Fingers crossed for a good night for all.

vik you're allowed to be pissed off, I remember how fed up I was at that late stage of pg. At least I had an end date (date for elective c section) and I knew it wouldn't go past that!

cake I wasn't in the car and when dh phoned to tell me he really downplayed it, made it sound like a minor bump. It was only when I saw the extent of the damage to the car that I realised it was bigger than that. Thinking about it, I think dh was downplaying it to stop me worrying - my mum died in a car crash and consequently I get very panicky and worried about the thought of car accidents.

Dh test drove an MX5 this pm and has gone off them as they're "too small" (yep, 2 seaters are small!) so I'm not sure what he's thinking of now.

I went to our local shopping centre this am, it wasn't very crowded - I finished off the last few bits of Christmas shopping, just some of the food to get on Friday or Saturday.

Trudy I'm sorry things are so shit, is F any better if you keep him upright? Or does it make no difference?

D woke at half 9 and that was it so came in our bed where we both tossed and turned for a while. I then randomly woke at 1am then dh text me saying he was just leaving to come home.

Then obv I couldn't sleep as he came in/ changed/ cleaned teeth/ had sex we didn't get to sleep til 3ish then D was up at half 7 which is good for him but could have done with a few more hours!

You have sex with D in the bed? Oh Lordy...

I went to bed at just after 11pm. I woke at 2.40 and realised dh wasn't home
so was toying with texting him but couldn't be arsed. He then came in about 2.50am and promptly started shaking the house snoring. So by 3.20am I went and slept in ds1's room...but after only 5-10mins in there he started being sick. He was up until 4.10am when I eventually got back to sleep then up at 7.30am. Bleurgh.

dh Oh my god! I genuinly think you have had sex in the last month than I have had since I actually gave birth! poor dh will leave me soon if I dont put out I reckon!
trudyla hope things improve quickly in your house, must be terrible!
wss cant blame DH for down playing the accident Im the same with car accidents,always worrying.
viksam L drinks a lot of milk as he wont drink anything else, he has a bottle at 6am, then one at lunch then one at bed (21oz all together) cant see him not having a bottle for quite a while yet.

Night from hell here he actually drank more milk than ever, he has had terrible stomach acheand his teeth were hurting him, he ran into his table today too and smacked his head as he is falling over he is so tired so he is in bed at the moment, I was having a lie in and fil rang at 8am to come over for a cuppa!

mlisc umm no we slip out the bed because I could NOT be in the mood with a baby next to me. Besides we'd wake him up!

memphis we have sex on avg 3 times a week. I think we'd do it more if we didn't have D but then it always goes down after a baby. It's me with the high sex drive though! Dh is happy to oblige

Oh I don't know where you find the energy! And I hate feeling yucky to go to sleep, I'd have to have a shower

We've just booked for a load of us to go for sunday dinner - 6 adults, 5 kids. Yay, no cooking for me today

I'm a fit and healthy 21 year old with boundless energy!

Have a nice lunch! We're having a lazy sun afternoon, the heatings on and D is playing nicely.

Evening all,
We had a really really good night last night, not a peep untill 6, dh settled him and he stayed quiet till 6.50 whe dh got up with him. I didnt get up till 9, and MAN i felt better, and have felt better the whole day. Sleep is sooooo important isnt it! Unfortunatly though it does sem that D is developing a cold and cough, fingers crossed it comes out quick and goes as quick! dont want newboy to have to come home to a cold. I havent felt much movement today, some but not much but in the last few hours the twinges have started again. They definatly are not contractions, not strong or long enough, not really sure what they are, id so love the baby to come in the next few days but i dont think he will now.
We have our tree up now!! Yay! DH was ok actually and fashioned some hooks for the glass baubels, D has enjoyed playing with ome bits and bobs and likes looking at all the tiny wooden things i have for the tree, i love christmas!

viks I had painful BH for two weeks before S came, it was rubbish! Keep posting even if it is all a good old 39wk whinge, we've all been there! (and some will be again...) Glad you had a good night last night, fingers crossed for another one tonight. You're so right, a good night's sleep makes all the difference.

dh I won't tell DH about your frequent antics, once a fortnight we about manage now. It will change, but when pg or bfing I lose all psyche for it completely! Luckily DH is very patient!

memphis I hope you told your FIL where to go! How rude on a Sunday!

S hasn't been sleeping well, crying til half midnight some nights, he's got a cold and a cough and as a result we're all tired. But we've still decided to put them both in the same room tonight, DH is off for 2 weeks so we want to do it when we're both here to do stuff during the day. I want to get it done before the baby comes and before L starts nursery so there aren't too many new things all at once. Let's face it, there's never going to be A Good Time to do it when they sleep as unreliably as this!

chu good luck for tonight, i hope it goes ok, does S wake L when he cries from the other room? Are u doing it because of the baby coming or do u want them in the same room anyhow?
memph thats a lot of milk L drinks, has anyone suggested to look at his dies with regards to his pooing?
D has a cough now which has already disturbed him twice! not gona be a good night me thinks.

loads to catch up on then!

mlic sounds like your fingers are healing well. i'm wary of knives myself after that happening to you, god knows how you must be!

tis a nightmare re childcare costs. i assume you're planning to work more for a break from what you're doing now than for the money?

F & A's nursery costs totals £800 just for the two days each. it'll be cheaper next month tho even tho F will be going up to 2.5 days

wss i can imagine how crashes must shake you up. pleased you were't in the car then, i must have misread what you said initially.

2 seater with 2 children?! [puzzled]

memph that sounds like a really complicated back-story and relationship with your father. it must be hard to know how to feel about everything.

trudy i love cambridge too - it was busy yday but lovely too. gorgeous decorations in the shopping centre which has John Lewis in.

pleased you all liked the shop i've bought. i'm very excited about playing in it myself vik

and mlic they're only allowed to play with certain toys in designated areas to prevent exactly what you said re boxes all over the house. they're only allowed to have their toy food and kitchen stuff in the playroom and sitting room for instance.

vik don't beat yourself up about getting cross with D. we all do it now and then afaik so either all our children will be screwed up or they'll all be ok . i haven't really shouted at A yet but have shouted at F countless times.

i agree with what trudy said about D crying about the baby coming - i'm sure it was a coincidence and he'll be a lovely big bro.

it still amazes and pleases me how much F enjoys having A around. he was first into her when she woke from her nap on fri and i heard him over the monitor saying 'hello A. i love you'

trudy that sounds fuck-awful there really sorry nothing's helping with F but maybe try the dairy exclusion longer like chul said.

we went to a maffis garden centre that we go to at xmas every year. saw santa, went on a carousel and a miniature railway and F and A chose their decorations for this year. F chose a tasteful red tin santa and A chose a fat white bird. could have definitely been worse

good luck for tonight chul!

re sex - we're usually once a weekers tho can be fortnightly during a dry spell

re milk - F still has an 8oz cup twice a day and A's bf so i don't know qty but has 2 feeds

vik S wakes her sometimes, if he cries tonight like he did last night he'll definitely wake her and we won't be able to leave him. We want them in the same room anyway, both of us are fans of room sharing. This next one won't need to be out of our room til about May so there's no rush on that front. We do want to do it though and no time is going to be a good time so thought we'd just crack on.

S doesn't have much milk, I don't measure it but some days he'll have a good drink, other days not. He has weetabix twice a day though so I'm not worried about him not getting enough. L would stop eating entirely and live off milk so again, she's alright on that front.

cake sounds lovely! I wish there was something like that round here, both of mine love trains.

We're off to the shops tomorrow, going to try and get in there early and home again before most people are up. I wouldn't go but there are some things that we really need to do, grr!