July 2010: It's about time, that we all went back to rhyme!

[Spirael]

Though mutiny is always an option.

vik jealous if your good night, would love a night like that even just once. D has a cold/ cough too he's v chesty I might take him to the docs if it doesn't clear up soon.

D has cows milk in the morning, don't know how much I don't measure it I just pour out the amount I know he'll drink. He just has it in a plastic cup with a normal drinking straw, I hold the cup for him though!
He then gets more cows milk when he has cereal so I think he gets enough.

cake so sweet re F and A. He sounds like he really loves her. I hope I D has a relationship like that with his sibling.

Well, both DC are still awake, they're usually out by now. S started really crying when we put him in bed so DH gave him a cuddle and asked L to call us if he kept crying and it made her sad. 2 mins later she's playing peek-a-boo and he's pissing himself laughing...it's going to take a while for them to get used to it I think!

cake re 2 seater with 2 kids - we have another car (mine) which is the sensible Toyota-reliable-estate-type thing which fits us all in (plus the dog and the luggage for holidays), the kids always go in there. Since we bought my car (when A was 4 wks old) we have never once put the dcs in dh's car so it doesn't really matter what car dh has I just think a bald 40 year old will look silly in a 2 seater but hey if it makes him happy

cakes it is complicated my dad was evil and im defo his favourite, he apparently treated me differently to the other two, I was the only one who wasnt beat but I think he tries a lot harder with me as im not needy and I dont pander to him, although found out today he will defo need a huge dose of chemo either way, made me feel a bit shocked tbh.
chulita when we lived across the road to us FIL would knock on earlier than that on a sunday with no warning, pissed me off that he came in and was really loud making childish noises without considering me being in bed, im disconnecting the phone at night from now on!
viksam he eats reallly well eventhough he has that much milk, he doesnt drink a thing at all other than that usually, he still has formula not cows milk so with all the shitting and formula he costs me a fortune!
re sex- it was months ago sorry for tmi but I still find it painful and I get really upset poor dh!

Moooorning! 6 days to go wooooo!

D had bad wind last night, I'm not sure what caused it but he wouldn't go to sleep in his room again. When he gets his new bed he's going to be made to sleep in there no matter what.

I've got 2 friends coming over today, one with an 11 mo and one childless and I need to fit in a trip to Argos to pick up a bin- exciting!

I posted a WhingeMoanRant earlier but MN saved you as it wouldn't post.

In too much of a shit mood to re-moan

Morning all. Change of routine here this week as nursery is closed, so I'm having to fit in two 5-hour days of work from home as and when. I'm going to start work when J goes down for his nap and then hopefully by the time he wakes up DH will be home to take over. Then DH isn't working on Wednesday so I'll get the rest of the work done then.

J is in a tantrumming mood this morning - his toys won't do what he wants them to do. Might stick him in the pushchair and go to the bank (I have a cheque to pay in) and the playground.

how was the night chul?

i can understand that must be a shock re the chemo memph don't be annoyed with yourself for feeling upset/sad/scared etc. however parents behave, it's hard not to feel something towards them in tough times. nature makes us do that.

what's up mlic do a bulleted list?

that sounds tricky woodlands good luck!

so how sorted are you all for xmas? i'm basically not - at all. as i just posted elsewhere, i still have 16 presents to buy. haven't wrapped anything or even bought/decided on wrapping. haven't made/bought cards let alone written them. haven't bought any food, crackers etc. i'm fucked aren't i?

i've got the day off work thurs and leaving F & A in nursery so hoping miracles happen that day.

even more annoying is i have already bought tons - about 20 presents (not including stocking fillers) so it's not like i've not done anything altho it seems like it.

I'm just so fed up. Of being up in the night more than once with both children for what feels like ages, so I'm knackered (ds1 was sick twice through the night and the rest of the night cried, demanded water, demanded medicine etc., etc. Of them whinging and moaning. Of never being able to have so much as a wee without a spectator. Of never being able to keep on top of the housework. Of ds2 endlessly crying and moaning because he wants something and I can't always work out what it is. Half the time I don't think even he knows. Of always having a child/husband/dog under my feet when I'm trying to do anything. Of walking upstairs yet again to find the curtains not drawn, bed not made...Of listening to 'mammy can I have, mammy I need, mammy, mammy, mama, mama' all fucking day long.
Of dh asking 'where's my...' I don't fucking know

I probably only feel so pissed off because I can't remember the last time I had a decent sleep. DH said he will take tomorrow off work and get up with the kids tonight. What's the bets they both sleep through.

Sounds shit mlic - you deserve a good moan.

Really hope a night and day off restores your usual good spirits.

it's just taken an hour of cuddling a screaming A to get her down for her nap which is very unusual. She's teething horribly. I rarely have to deal with moaning and crying with my two and can only imagine how it must send you up the wall. Tis like torture really.

mlisc sounds like one of those days :( really hope u manage to catch up on some sleep. It makes all the difference.

D took forever to go down too, started at 12 with no luck. Gave him lunch then tried again, then he did a poo, changed him and tried again. He finally went down at 1:05.

My friend is coming round in 20 mins so if he's not up by then he will be when she gets here.

mlic rant away, I had to have a rant to dh about having to do everything re christmas and I cant do it with L and him not leaving me alone, so when you have christmas on top of everything else you do and have to deal with you deserve to rant! DH seems to be improving with helping you more though?
cakes this year I only made immediate family cards and did no theme for wrapping apart from L having Cars paper, Ive not gone mad at all like I normally do on gifts, but was pissed off earlier, last Monday we went to M and S and bought cards, wrap and crackers, really nice traditional looking Father Christmas ones and today all cards, paper and crackers are half bloody price!

Im all done re christmas, except for one that came and is wrong for DH I need to wrap all of his and then im all done except for the food. And I realised I normall make hundreds of mince pies and havent even started, I will make 150 this year and when I get asked for more they can swivel I dont even eat the bloody things!

tsc Loved the pic of Clara decorating the tree, when I went docs he said there is a sleep regression around now! If he doesnt sleep xmas eve L wont be getting any presents!

Interesting article here about an 18 month sleep regression (ds2 is 17.5 months so sort of fits)

I bought all the cards ages ago and sent the family's, but since I cut my finger I didn't bother writing the rest.

WRT 'how done for Christmas' - right at this moment in time I don't actually care that the season is upon us. And that says a lot for me cos normally I love it. If I haven't bought for someone now, then they aint getting a present. Presents are probably half wrapped.

Am getting ds1's hair cut tomorrow

mlisc Don't do it! I just came on here to sob, DH tried to cut S's hair while I cooked tea and it looks awful :( We're going to have to buzz cut it to even it out. Not DH's fault, how do you cut a 17 month old's hair on your own? It seriously looks so ugly though :(

Back after the buzz cut and bed.

Yes but ds1's 3 and has been getting it cut since he was 5 months old, because he has always had loads of hair. He'll sit still enough to get a haircut

Sorry you hate ds's haircut though

mlic as in cut short?
chulita oh no :( at least its winter and he can have a hat on when out.

L has really pushed me tonight, ive put a fruitcake in the oven and some cupcakes and L opened the fridge and has smashed all of my eggs on the floor I was so angry I smacked his hand, no matter how many times I told him no and removed him from the kitchen he kept coming back again and again, im still so angry but cant believe I smacked his hand!

I'm not saying it's right memph, but I do it to ds2. It's the only thing that makes him pay attention. He is a complete and utter nightmare. I've been dealing with a poorly ds1 and an aggressive, screamy, pushing, tantruming ds2 all day, apart from half an hour when I nipped to the doctors. He pushes me to my limits most days at the moment Yesterday/today I have felt as bad as I did in the good ol' days

Not short as in short but yes, short for him. I think it's starting to look scruffy and I'm sick of everyone thinking he's a girl when he's my handsome little boy. I'm also (probably niaively) hoping that if I get some of the length taken away and take some of the weight out (he has lots of hair!) he might get some of his curls back.

This is his 3rd cut but it needed to be done, it was getting in his ears and he was scratching himself silly. It'll grow, he'll just look daft for a few weeks. And he won't keep a hat on so no hope on that front!

memphis they certainly know how to push your buttons don't they!? S spent most of yesterday tickling the baubles on the tree and he drove me up the wall.
Chemo is a massive thing regardless of your relationship with someone, hope your family manages to get this all sorted out together.

cake I'm ready for Christmas, all of ours are bought/wrapped and under the tree, my family's are mostly got but I'm not seeing all of them so there's no rush on them. I've not done many cards and it seems this year everyone has thought the same, we've only got 4!

dh fingers crossed the new bed squares his nights away, 17 months is a long time to have such crap sleep.

mlisc I often feel the same re everything, you just can't ever get away from it. I shut both of them out so I could poo in peace and just had S wailing and L saying "mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy" outside the door, I could have screamed!

Last night wasn't too bad, they caved and fell asleep around 9pm I think, we checked on them at 9.30 and they were flat out. I heard S shouting at L to wake up at 4.30 so I went in to settle him and he was quite cold so I got him a jumper and gave him a good cuddle. I never thought he'd resettle but he went to sleep just after 5, L was up at 6.30 needing a wee. A lot better than we thought! Bearing in mind we tried in Sept and they ended up crying their eyes out. It was only the 1st night though and they're still awake now

Fwiw, I know it's not popular on MN but I care not, I smack L. Very rarely, it has to be said, but sometimes it's the only thing that works. I haven't smacked S but have seriously, seriously thought about it. With L it's dangerous stuff that gets a smack, stuff I really need her to know that it's not acceptable.

mlic I am at the end of my tether with him he was eating a block of butter ffs and he has started pulling stuff off of the worktops, he just doesnt listen at all when his dad is around, dh came in and I had just put one cake in the oven and was mixing another and his face looked pissed off, he expects me to only bake when L is in bed, I told him he has to learn, I cant stop my life, dh doesnt get it, I said to him how the hell does he expect me to visit about 10 houses on xmas eve, prep for xmas day and make a trifle, key lime pie and brownies all after L is in bed then put together practically a whole little people village for L grr men, ive had a bath and im still shaking with anger, L hasnt eaten anything at all today, he has been demonic!
sorry for rant, mlic I really hope things look up there before the weekend and things look brighter with hopefully a good nights sleep, and I want to see pics of E with his shorter hair, my dad has had my half brothers hair cut shorter, it looks awful its like he requested a lego man haircut!
DH's grandma has given us all £50 for xmas, L's will be banked as he has enough of everything and we are putting ours towards CP, DH is paying for the rest as my birthday present.

chulita xposted, L has stopped touching the tree now at last! regarding the chemo, I lost Tris when he was 26 to cancer, he had battled lukemia and survived to then be killed by brain tumours, he did everything he could to survive and live his life to the full, but my dad has never been happy with his lot and has been living on self destruct for 40 years, not sure if its xmas as I really miss him at this time of year maybe I will feel differently about my dad when I get my head out of my arse but im pretty sure I wont cry for him whatever happens