October 08 - the 3 year old thread.

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New thread just for you star!

Well, hopefully not just for you, or it could get a bit boring talking to yourself .

At the risk of being boring, csws why don't you suggest the equivalent value being put into d's bank account. I'm sure D will have plenty to open on Xmas morning.

They all had money from them for their birthdays this year ronshar, and they wanted to get them actual presents for Christmas. I have suggested the wigwam and a cowboy/indian outfit. We will just have to find room somehow to put it up in the winter, and he can have it outdoors in summer.

Frankly I've told everyone my DCs want B&Q vouchers
They don't seem to believe me!

W loves his dressing up stuff. Mostly H's witch dresses! & they go real small in a box when tidied up.

I want to press the like button to that Pistchio.

Pepper, how about some next vouchers? Then your family would never know and you get some nice wall paper!

There is plenty for kids at B&Q
The wigwam is nice but I wouldn't want it inside all winter. I keep talking of dress up stuff and I haven't gotten Q any

I don't think ILs realise how much it will cost to send the pedal plane that they want to make overseas. We all get handmade things from my dad and stepmother every year.,. Bedding, apron, curtains, clothes for Q, tablecloth with nice napkins... That kind of thing. I love it because it's all useful and doesn't clutter or cost them a lot of money. And I know she loves making it. Maybe I should ask her to make a doll!! Just thought of that!! But I never want to ask for anything, even of they ask me what we want. I just feel too weird and always say, "that's ok we don't need anything but a nice Skype call with you on Christmas" (which is true!).

J really isn't getting much for Christmas from us as he had loads for his birthday. He has a few small train bits, two books and will probably also have the ELC fireman dress up. GP aren't getting him too much either, our house is fit to burst and even though he will say "I want that" to every kids advert he doesn't really. This is the problem with birthdays near Christmas I suppose.
At my parents, we made it back on the train without any problems. Spent the day with my Nan today which was lovely. She lives in the peaks (nearly 2hr drive from my parents) so J and I rarely get to see her. Having lost two of my gp's last May it just makes me realise how lucky we are to have her still and enjoy every opportunity I get to see her.

No idea how that appeared.
Forgot to say Myjob hope you are feeling better today.

Hello anyone about? Feeling like total parent failure. J had massive tantrum getting out of car and onto the train when we left my parents. We had 5mins to negotiate two flights of stairs and get the pushchair, bags and us on. I ended up carrying him like a sack of potatoes with my rucksack on my bag. He was screaming and hitting me round the head so I was screeching like a fishwife back and ended up smacking his bum My mum was in tears, we didn't get to say goodbye properly and I've cried the whole way back. I feel so angry at myself for losing it. I never smack but after being hit in the face for the tenth time I lost it. Not a justification but an explanation. I'm just so tired of him flipping at every little thing. I know it's probably a 3yr phase but I just feel such a failure. It's not as if I'm with him 24-7 and I still can't do it. On last part of journey now and think I'll just go to bed when I get home and leave Dh to take over.

Thank you Myjob. I'm home and have had a bath so am feeling a little less stressed. Ds is playing with Dh downstairs. I spoke to my Mum which did make me feel better. My youngest brother had terrible tantrums so she has lived through it first hand which helps. I'm not dealing with anymore strops tonight, Dh can have the pleasure.

Oh PP don't think on it another second. He's probably forgotten all about it now and it's difficult to keep your cool when they act like that. A couple of weeks ago I shouted so loud at him in the car and then felt so badly about it that I just cried right there, which didn't help at all.
We all lose it sometimes and as myjob said, leaving family is emotive anyway, so probably seemed 10x worse than would have been any other time iyswim.
When Q gets in a strop and just won't listen it is VERY difficult to be patient and I work during the week as well so I know what you mean - sometimes I feel like I should have more patience for it bc of this but I don't. Age 3 is just difficult!
SO much more difficult than 2.
Ramble ramble

pistachio - has your day improved - did you get some rest at all?
I hope so. Can DH help at all??

Hi myjob!
the house is nearly in order - if you count things like the downstairs loo currently sitting in the dining room
We're almost at the bit where everything is functional - they're tiling the downstairs shower room before the loo gets sealed in place.
Mostly it still looks like a building site with a bit of ill-fitting carpet here and there! But we're happy
DD has a snotty cold an dhad a temp this evening, so we'll see how she is tomorrow, DS1s school is on strike and DS2s is open, so that'll be fun tomorrow....
I hope you feel better soon - you sound quite perky considering!

Reading that takes me right back to when DD was little - that first year was grim, grim, grim and I wasn't even studying like you are.
We just tried to exist from day to day, nothing more, and it slowly gets better. Keep eating as well as possible and rest whenever you can. Accept absolutely any help that is offered.
You're doing a great job! It's just hard to see that clearly through the crap grind of daily life.

Oh yes. First year with 3 so young really hard.

Ekka is clearly finding it so hard that she can't even manage a second to post .