October 08 - the 3 year old thread.

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New thread just for you star!

Well, hopefully not just for you, or it could get a bit boring talking to yourself .

Hello Hello Hello.
Cant wait but have to say a massive YIPPEE to CF.

I have been a very bad girl and I have neglected all my mn friends. Sorry. life has just got in the way.
DD1 finished school at beginning of Dec. Nightmare teenager hanging around so bored all the time! Christmas was ridiculously busy. DH & I had a big marriage re-affirming talk and so now we are a very happy family once again.
It is exhausting though.

I feel for you Myjob & PP. I was the same but then had number three and have spent the last 3 1/2 years regretting it! It was the big unspoken issue for DH & I. I love Ds to the very bottom of my soul but our family would be in a happier place had I not forced the issue!

Myjob, if it helps a friend at school is having her third. Her second is same age as DD1 Her eldest has just finished high school and I know she was going through a massive empty nest problem. So there is light at the end of your tunnel.

I start work next Monday. AAARRRGGG. How will I manage three children and work. I am too idle and unorganised. But my brain has melted out of my ears and I am going insane stuck at home with W so off to work I go. Back at the hospital to start with and hopefully doing my midwife training soon.

Hello and welcome to Gossip.

Myjob your perspective may change as you get older. you just never know.

I've missed you! ... Seems like an odd thing to say on an Internet forum but I have!

Oh no pepper I hope you manage to stay healthy. How awful.

Keep the lovely memories of the day before to keep you going!

Q had a hideous meltdown when I left him at preschool this morning... All over a . Yes, really.
are not breakfast food.
Why oh why oh why he thinks crying and sobbing will get him what he wants is beyond me... but, he was overtired from not much sleep, which was the real cause of it all but still...

If he comes to my school next year (which he will, just waiting for final confirmation!) then they don't help the kids wipe themselves after toileting... I have no clue how I will teach him to do this. Yuck. They do it for him at preschool and cm now... Anyone had any luck with this yet? I know I've asked before but it's a silly growing concern

I use wet wipes now for him. Thanks. I'll start letting him have a go at it. Does N do it herself?

I totally agree about the older they get... Etc. I keep getting excited about how much less we need to carry around with us for him. And when I held my friend's lovely newborn I loved it but when I handed her over I thought, thank goodness Q is past this stage. I don't have to wake and feed him every few hours. Bliss. And I ADORE each new stage. I am in love with the idea of no childcare costs from July!

yes I always have to keep that in mind.,. Everyone else does it, so it's not impossible. SO true!

We still let Q have the buggy if we are going to be somewhere really busy with loads of walking (like London)

When childcare stops I have to start paying back more on a loan... So I won't actually see the increased income but at least I'll know it's paying something off

He does either usually take his scooter or push one of his babies in the doll buggy when we go out, though... He gets loads of comments on pushing around a baby doll. But he loves it. Stops to cuddle the baby, change it...etc.

We still use the buggy, especially for the school dawdle run.
DD has such little legs! I weighedher to see if she could move up a car seat and she's a grand 27lb now. That's still quite small right?

I have no clue what Q weighs. But he's heavy!

Lovely to see you ronshar :).
Afraid that I prob agree with you that if I could have seen what life would be like with 3 then I poss wouldn't have gone there. But I always remain optimistic that things will get easier.

Unfortunately we are struggling financially at the moment too, which doesn't help, as I can't just throw money at the problem, as is my usual way . Currently searching for a new (used) car which is cheaper to run, so that we can change the merc. Might then have to change the landrover next year too if things don't pick up.

I hadn't even given any thought to bum wiping yet. I expect that dd will encourage him to learn at some point .

Sounds small to me pepper. It's def less than ds2 (18 months) weighs!

Csws sorry to hear things are tough atm. Will dh's work pick up anytime soon? Any possibility?
I bought my car (used) for £1000. It's lasted 3 years and reliable! Just a as guzzler (mondeo, Wreg) and ugly and I'd love something smaller used but can't afford it. But my point is don't discount the cheap ones - if looked after they are great!

Oh RONSHAR how did I miss midwifery bit? When will you finish training?! In the distant future if I ever decide to have a baby again, then I'd actually consider having it without c section if you were my midwife when are you finished? It will have to wait at least 2 years. if you'll have me, that is...

Yes dh is still out of work. There's rumours of a role starting next month, but it's international travel and not good rates (not bad, but not what we are used to, and not quite enough for our outgoings), but def better than nothing!
Star - we haven't discounted ANY car that will fit all seats across, but there are very very few that fall into that category! Anyway, we put down a deposit on a Citroen C4 Grand Picasso today. We still need to work out a part exchange deal with them (it's not exactly 'part' ex, as the merc is worth more than the one we are buying, so we should get some cash back), but we can't begin to do that until we have it back from being fixed from dh crashing it last week, and they are waiting for a part, so likely to be at least another week. But we must sort it by the end of this month to get the price we have agreed on the one we are buying. Handily the price of it dropped on their system whilst we were there (dealer discovered this after our test drive when looking up some other info dh had asked about)!

Sounds a fab deal! :)

What does your dh do, csws?

He's an IT consultant star.

That sounds like something there would be a lot of jobs for... :( every job seems to be suffering now. I hope something goes through for him soon!

It's a very broad heading though star, and there are MASSES of specific detailed bits that one might or might not be suitable for. There have been a couple of jobs that he could do standing on his head that he has applied for, but still not even heard anything back, so I think that the jobs are all sought after at the moment.

Oh csws I hope things pick up soon- it just makes the basic day to day stuff seem extra stressful... The international travel sounds tough, but doesn't it pay more because of that? Are rates negotiable or is it a take it or leave it scenario?

Funnily enough we've had this hanging over us since ds2 was born. Can't go into too many details but it's all v tricky and we're in a what next scenario - may even move to Canada. Mind you dh is still working at the moment, till spring time anyway, but he is super stressed and job hunting like mad

Hello Ronshar - glad to hear from you!!! Sounds like things are improving for you, hooray to the work and midwifery course. You may well find its easier to cope with the dc when you are doing something for you??

Bugger, all dc awake, got to get up for school run...

csws that sounds dreadful. I remember dh job hunting several times in the past and it seemed he just needed to get lucky as so many applicants. He's not happy at current school but at least happy he has a job as are so few and far between now.

Ekka - Canada would be a lovely place to live (and much cheaper, as I'm sure you know). I grew up just over the border In Northeast US
What does you dh do?

Dh is in finance - there are a fair few roles but lots of people chasing them, so it's just a case of keeping applying and following up contacts. V v stressful for him. Still, in the worst case I'll go back ft and he can stay home with the kids. Would mean we'd have to move dd's school and money would be tight but we could manage (though selfishly I'd find it v tough not being there to hear about school/do bedtime etc)

Canada would be great in many ways - he is looking at roles there but it may be the case we have to move then look for work which I find a bit scary. Plus I know I would get v homesick at first (not a good reason not to go, I know!)

Pepper ds1 is only 28lbs and v skinny and dd (4.7) is 33lbs so seems ok to me! Mind you ds2 is 17lbs 10 at only 5 months- I think he is going to catch them up soon!!! He is so big and roly poly it's funny, I can't get over his immense chubby thighs - I have to give them a squeeze each time I change his nappy