Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

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Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

Maybe we could make a list of postcodes, maybe on fb where it's more private, and see from there where could be manageable to meet using Dixie's suggested site?
Orlaith's an absolute nightmare anywhere but her own cot so I'd personally be leaning towards a daytime thing! (Especially if newmum's planning on leading us all astray! )

A daytime thing probably suits me more too, though I don't mind strongly either way. I'm in Oxford. So far sounds like further north than Brum is the likely nearest spot?

I can still lead us astray during the daytime too saoirse! [Grin]

I can still lead us astray during the daytime too saoirse! [Grin]

Hi All
wont bore ye with the tedium that has been my life lately but should be back home today!! Dying to put up decorations!!
On the meet up - if ye go to a city I can fly into I would def try and make it. I have hols from 31st March to the 15 April if that suited?
Still no news on preggers or not. Havent a clue what is going on with my poor bod. I use the nuvaring contraception - you put it in for 3 weeks and take it out for one and have your p. With DH sick and all the running around. I forgot to take it out and was a week late. I was prob still covered but have not had a period since then (last period first week nov took it out dec 2nd!) Did test one week in and BFN and did another test last thurs BFN but no period so totally confused. Cant go on feeling cause I have the same period symptoms in early pregnancy too. Im so busy with work and my three that another baby would be overwhelming but I would adjust its the financial side that would be crippling.
Phoebe started copying I lolo u when you say I love you! my heart sings!! And all the crap of the first few weeks melted away when I watched my shy handsome wee man play one of the kings in his first school play!! Very proud Mammy!!!!

I'm in Hull so another Northern one here. Day is best for me and DP needs to be there for the other two.

No more sickness here but still a lack of appetite and a general whingyness so were not totally better.

how far is leeds or manchester for everyone then?? Thinking of airports for Mammy about 1.5 for leeds, 2 hours for manchester for me! I'll probably just bring Olly. Although ds1 is really good I find strange situations/surroundings a lot easier with just 1!!

I've just been to see my friend, she had a baby this morning. A little boy, 7lb 7oz, called him Shingi after his daddy. He's gorgeous. strangely didn't make me too broody! Perhaps it was the way she was hanging onto her catheter bag & moaning about how she'd forgotten how much it hurt

My babies are on their 2nd night away from me! The longest Olly has been away. The house is beautifully tidy but very quiet. They're at my mum & dads for childcare reasons. They love it but i miss them! Don't like seeing their empty beds!

Manchester is 20 minutes from me and leeds is an hour away on the train.

My friends due to be induced next wednesday but it's slightly complicated and she doesn't know if she'll go for the induction but has been warned that if she doesn't she'll possibly need a c section. If I'm honest I'm a bit worried it'll make me broody but I've already decided that I'm waiting till grace is 3 or 4 before trying again though I'm far too exhausted looking after one baby to even consider having another.

On that note grace seems to have hit the terrible two's very early. She's getting quite aggressive biting (although could be her teeth bothering her) and smacking. I'm not really sure how to handle it. I've been sitting her on the floor and firmly telling her not to bite/smack but she just cries her eyes out and climbs all over me till I pick her up. I'm finding it near enough impossible to get her to sit down and have a rest and the nastiness seems to be when she's getting tired. Anyone got any advice?

Lumpy I miss grace when she's not here too but it is also very nice to have a bit of time to yourself. Enjoy it, soon enough they'll be back and your house will be a tip again (like mine is)

I've booked a spa day with my mum and my sister on 27th jan (dp got it for my b-day in sept but only just got round to ringing them) and I can't wait!

Manchester is 20 minutes from me and leeds is an hour away on the train.

My friends due to be induced next wednesday but it's slightly complicated and she doesn't know if she'll go for the induction but has been warned that if she doesn't she'll possibly need a c section. If I'm honest I'm a bit worried it'll make me broody but I've already decided that I'm waiting till grace is 3 or 4 before trying again though I'm far too exhausted looking after one baby to even consider having another.

On that note grace seems to have hit the terrible two's very early. She's getting quite aggressive biting (although could be her teeth bothering her) and smacking. I'm not really sure how to handle it. I've been sitting her on the floor and firmly telling her not to bite/smack but she just cries her eyes out and climbs all over me till I pick her up. I'm finding it near enough impossible to get her to sit down and have a rest and the nastiness seems to be when she's getting tired. Anyone got any advice?

Lumpy I miss grace when she's not here too but it is also very nice to have a bit of time to yourself. Enjoy it, soon enough they'll be back and your house will be a tip again (like mine is)

I've booked a spa day with my mum and my sister on 27th jan (dp got it for my b-day in sept but only just got round to ringing them) and I can't wait!

Leeds is about an hours drive from me, Manchester about 2
Would prefer Leeds as we have been there so many times the car knows it's way there and back.

I've not had any time away from Lucy yet. Looking forward to going to London with mum and dsis for the night. It will be 36 hours without any children. I don't know how Dp is going to do bedtimes and I don't know how my boobs will cope withou being fed off for that long. I will be able to give Lucy an early morning feed on Mon at 7am then nothing until I get back at gone 8pm the next night

im about 30mins from manchester and 1 hr from leeds.

mammyg would you be bringing lo? would you be flying twice in one day or staying over?

i cant help that much newmum as mine bite and smack and dont always take us on. chloe was a little goody two shoes- sorry.

According to my phone Manchester is 4 hours and Leeds is 3 1/2hrs so doesn't really make much difference to me.

Glad you're home now MammyG and hope you can have a relaxing Christmas. A while ago I had 7 weeks between periods, no idea why and I was panicked about being pregnant but I guess it was one of those things. I think stress really messes things up like that!

My advice would be a firm no and saying its hurts mummy when you hit/bite and then leave her sat on the floor newmum001. Children of grace's age are very adult centric and crave your attention so if you don't give it for a few minutes that is hard for them. She's climbing all over you because she wants your attention if you can manage to walk away for a minute he will know that she has done something you don't like and will hopefully soon learn its not ok behaviour. Then go back and say something like no more biting mummy and give we a big cuddle then carry on as normal until the next time. I had a little boy who used to bite, mainly when he got excited I read a lot about it and it usually because their emotional capacity out weighs there ability to express it, so they feel something which they don't really understand and can't make you understand so their release is to bite. He did it for a good 8-9 months and we just constantly had to tell him no, his mum insisted on time out at 18 months which he used to put himself in so it was no punishment and as he got a bit older he knew he was hurting people and would rub I better but still did it! Mostly bit my ds1 whih was horrible to see but I didn't have to explain to other parents! He still does it very occasionally if he's really excited or angry and he's 4 now.

I am broody and I haven't been near a baby!! Well I see my minded children's sisters who are 4 and 5 months but not tiny cute ones! I actually had a little cry wrapping their presents that I would never have pink little clothes for my little girl :(

I have been babysitting quite a bit recently so have missed Luke's bedtime feed Debs75 and have not noticed any difference. He's only having bedtime and first thing in the morning though.

I miss mine terribly when they're not here. Ds1 wants to sleep at my mums all the time! He's been a few times and Luke has been once mainly because dh wanted a lay in . I just hate not saying goodnight to them, they both sleep well so once they're in bed at 7.30-8 I have time to myself and usually can't afford to go out anyway! I am trying hard not to be my mum who was an overpowering/ over possessive mother, only because she cared but she suffocated me and I left home at 18, don't want to do that to my boys.

Not sure Sassy will just see what ye decide but most likely will stay over as have a two hour drive at least on this side to the airport.
Hopefully will bring Phoebe with me. It would be just us I would say as all 5 of us would be a bit much but dont know yet.

Excuse poor geography but where is Liverpool in relation to cities mentioned. I have a cousin there.

Liverpool is about 25 mins drive to Manchester.

According to the aa's route planner it's 2 hours to Manchester and 2 hours 25 minutes to Leeds for me. I feel like I'd prefer Manchester if it's term time as I can then go and see my sister in Liverpool but it's not a big deal. I guess it also depends whether we can find a suitable venue in each city.

We've had no nights away from orlaith yet!

I'll speak on behalf of Beadit she lives near Leeds so either would be ok with her. with the above comments Leeds is the favourite but wouldn't seem to matter either way! Who will make the final decision?!

newmum my only advice is stick to what you decide. I didn't watch supernanny before having children but now watching it I do actually do a lot of what she suggests. The first being don't give in and be consistant. I used the naughty stool from about 18 months and now count to 3 but never get further than 1!!! I don't do the 1 minute for their age because simply being sent there tells ds1 that he's done wrong & I'm cross!

I'm getting a little bit cross. My friend who wouldn't give olly to me a couple of weeks ago text earlier to say she was coming at 7 tonight! No warning, No is that ok. I replied to say that I wouldn't be home till 7.30 so she said she'd come at 8! Its now nearly 8.15, she's not here & i'm knackered! I just want a shower and my bed. She's going to try to talk to me about how i'm apparently struggling & i can't be arsed with it all! Might just turn all the lights off & pretend i'm out!!!

I hope everything's ok lumpy! The problem is with people like that, the more she insists you're not coping the more you'll get wound up and she'll have more belief in her mind that she's right. I hope you've managed to keep your cool tonight, or told her where to go!

I was very calm and collected!!! As you say, I didn't want to fuel her fire. still a bit mad that she didn't apologise!!

I think we should just use a majority vote between manchester and leeds. I vote manchester

How fucking rude of ur friend. I hope you told her where to go!

I think we should just use a majority vote between manchester and leeds. I vote manchester

How fucking rude of ur friend. I hope you told her where to go!

God Lumpy that's a bit rude. I hope you didn't let her get to you. Her heart probably is in the right place but she sounds very overwhelming.

Newmum DD1 bit me twice. Each time I put her on the floor and ignored her for a minute or two. She was distraught but soon learnt not to bite me. Lucy did it a couple of days ago and I yelped so loud she gave me a huge cuddle and cried. She hasn't done it again

Can't help on the periods but will add that I have had 5 in 8 weeks so have now got a scan organised to see if there ius anything untoward. I had Ovarian cysts before having dd2 and I thought that was what was wrong when I was pregnant with Lucy. Hoping it is just my cycle getting back to normal.

I think I'd vote Manchester but I'm not that bothered.

MammyG I forgot to say, I had loads of weird periods after having orlaith. Although to be fair I had weird periods before getting pregnant too so I wasn't that surprised. Before I used to bleed pretty much every day. After having her I've had all sorts of periods, long, short, heavy, light, painful, pain free. I did have a 7 week gap at one point where I did 2 or 3 tests. I think that was partly due to my body getting back to normal and partly stress. Could be stress for you too. Mine are completely (and weirdly for me) regular now.
I'd go to the gp if you can afford it and find the time!

It depends how good a friend she is lumpylumps, looking on the positive side she could just be looking out for you. Perhaps a bit in your face about it but she wouldn't do it if she didn't care.

I don't mind which place when I'm travelling 4 hours, half an hour either way doesn't make much difference. It might be good to have someone close to book a venue. Happy with a majority vote too.

Hope there nothing untoward Debs75, that many periods doesn't sound like fun!!

im closer to manchester, and i know it- so that would get my vote.
if mammyg is to stay at her cousins in liverpool, she would be better with a manchester meet up.

i was thinking that a childrens play centre would be a good idea, as it would be fairly safe to leave them playing while we talk.

i live close enough to manchester to meet during the day and go out at night, so if you wanted to do the bringing your dh/dp thing, lumpy or if you come alone mammyg i can show you manchesters highlights!
and im pretty sure newmum could too. (and anyone else who wanted to)

ive tried everything with jacob to do with his biting/smacking/being naughty. its like he knows he shouldnt but the urge is just too strong! i said to dp, its like someone leaving a triple choc fudge cake in the middle of my dining room table and telling me not to touch it. i would really really want to!
we've decided we need to treat jacob like you treat a dog (bear with me) you keep a dog out of mischief by exercising them so they're too tired to get up to stuff and i think thats what jacob needs. i think jacob would be better off in a nursery with things to do and children to play with, than being at home.