Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

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Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

I'm just like that newmum, I have no problems saying anything to my family but not to dp's. I do worry sometimes that I bottle things up so much that one day I'll explode and blurt it all out!

Why do children do these things?! There was one time when we were at a daytime thing at the pub we work in and my niece chose then to jump up and put her hand in pretty hot tea infront of loads of people!

I'bve tried to teach grace about tea/coffee being hot, everytime she see's a brew now she says "hot mummy" and touches it anyway! She does however seem to know that the oven and radiators are a no go when they're on! They always pick the worst bloody moments to do everything though!

To be honest if your dp won't say anything to his dad then the best thing to do is try and look at it as a positive. Getting your garden done for free isn't the worst thing in the world (even though I'd be furious at the way it happened) I do worry I'll explode sometimes though cause I'm too much of a wimp to say stuff so I know where you're coming from!

Grace has just walked to the shop with me and held my hand all the way there and back. I know it's no big deal but she's never been a hand holder (far too independent) so it was very lovely!

I'bve tried to teach grace about tea/coffee being hot, everytime she see's a brew now she says "hot mummy" and touches it anyway! She does however seem to know that the oven and radiators are a no go when they're on! They always pick the worst bloody moments to do everything though!

To be honest if your dp won't say anything to his dad then the best thing to do is try and look at it as a positive. Getting your garden done for free isn't the worst thing in the world (even though I'd be furious at the way it happened) I do worry I'll explode sometimes though cause I'm too much of a wimp to say stuff so I know where you're coming from!

Grace has just walked to the shop with me and held my hand all the way there and back. I know it's no big deal but she's never been a hand holder (far too independent) so it was very lovely!

What is it with in-laws?! I've learnt to just nod smile and say yes with mine then let off steam to someone else. They're the kind that would fall out with you forever if you said anything but have also made it quite clear that I/we will do what we want & if they don't like it, tough. Can you not accept graciously, insist on having it your way and make some comment about how it came about? Make a joke of it with a serious undertone??

Mammy sorry things are still rubbish. fingers crossed next year will be better.

Hope things improve once you're back in your own house MammyG, and hope you get a bfn from your pregnancy scare.

Lucky your wear pyjamas saoirse86 , it's rubbish that do won't stand up for you. My brother has nightmare with his girlfriends family as she won't tell them to mind their own business. They haven't bought a house because they want her to keep her independence and not jointly own a house, it's very sad because my brother is lovely!!

Luke holds my hand a lot even though he's independent and it's lovely every time newmum001!

I have tried letting Luke feed himself his first mouthful of dinner and he's still not eating it all but is much less stressful! He was sick again this morning but it was really phlegmy so I think it's just the cold/cough he has.

Our dishwasher has broken so we bought a new one but its not delivered until Friday. Dh put the old one outside as he wasn't sure he'd get time later in the week to take it out and some thieving bastard has taken it. It's not a big deal as curry's were taking it away Friday but I don't like that someone came right up to our house and took something :(

We went to see father Christmas yesterday with my mum, the boys didn't care either way but he hardly spoke to them was just chatting up me and my mum

I don't exactly mind having some work done for free, but I should have elaborated a bit more. These men started off doing work on PIL's house, then one SIL's and then the other SIL's. Stupid FIL is paying them a day rate so they're being incredibly slow. SIL wanted her bannister (which is very short due to the design of hallway and landing) and 2 doors painted. That took them 5 and a half days and £300!! Other SIL had had a quote previously to do work on her garden and it was to take a week. FIL insisted he'd get these guys to do it and he'd pay. It took them 5 weeks! These are just not the kind of people I want doing work here. I really don't like having strangers around, especially if they're going to be here for weeks on end.

lumpy I often try that saying something serious in a jokey way to get it out and they either ignore it or take great offence and whinge about me after I've gone. Not that I care about them being offended or whinging, but they don't change anything, they just act like I'm the one being unreasonable.

That's so annoying about the dishwasher cinnamon, when we had our bathroom done I was constantly going out to stop people taking things out of our side passage. The cheek!

newmum I think Orlaith and Grace are quite similar in lots of ways. Orlaith will never let me hold her hand. Sometimes young children will try and hold her hand (like in the park, or extended family's children) and she always pulls her hand away and stamps her feet. Then I have to explain to these sweet little children how she doesn't like holding hands but she does like to play!

What a huge ranty post, sorry!

Saoirse they sound like they're twins, grace recoils with a look of horror on her face if children try to hold her hand. She also loves to play with other kids but she's really rough (not in a nasty way just a bit giddy) to the point I get quite embarassed! She's so funny though, I wouldn't have her any other way. She's going to be very feisty when she's older which I'm glad about as I was quite a shy child!

Snap newmum! I was always shy too, which a lot of people put down to us being twins - we always had each other so nothing forced us to come out of our shells iyswim. Did you have that with you and your sister being so close? So I'm glad Orlaith's as she is. She's not shy at all, she never worries who she's talking to, she'll happily run up to groups of 14 year old boys on bikes and try to play with them. She's so funny!

Yeah me and jenny were like that, always in the same class at school etc. I never needed anyone else cause I had my ready made best friend and twin rolled into one! Jenny was always so much more outgoing than me when we were young! Funilly enough that changed later in life and I became so much more outgoing than her. As much as I love being a twin I do think it held me back a bit when I was little. I never had to make an effort with people cause jenny was there and she did all the talking for both of us! I don't know where grace gets her confidence from! She wanted to sit on some random womans knee on the train the other day and went in another womans bag to get her phone, I bet they thought I'd trained her to be a theif haha! She has me mortified on a daily basis!

at all the confident babies. Arlo's so much more confident and independent since starting with the childminder - he used to cry if I so much as went to get a babywipe from his bag at a baby group, but now he'll go off and play, stomping round the room, usually likes to push chairs about the place! And just last week, he stopped crying when I leave him at the cm, and he obviously has a whale of a time while he's there.

He's still v.fussy with his food, especially with me - gets hysterical if I try to get him to eat something he doesn't want, and like you lumpy, he'd live on fruit and shreddies if he could! Plus spag bol or cheese on toast...but that's about it. We had our 8-12 month health check this week , and I told the HV, but she didn't have much to advise, other than keep trying! Argh. I don't know whether to go with offer it to him but don't make a big deal if he doesn't want it and give him something else, or don't let him have anything else if he won't eat what he's given..?!?! Is v.annoying as I watch his little cousins (12 and 11 months) when we're all together, and they'll eat anything and everything they're given, but big boy Arlo is refusing to try anything and I end up having to make something up specially.

On xmas pressies, we haven't really got anything big for Arlo, just some paints, brushes, crayons, pens, as he enjoys messing around with all those. I wanted to get an easel with a black and white board, but they're a bit pricey and DH says we can just carry on using the cardboard box which the stairgate came in, which is propped up in the living room for Arlo to draw on. Scrooge.

thanks guys for the info and links on pushchairs. i nearly bid for the one that saoirse was offering to pick up for me (thanks for the offer) but we noticed it didnt have footrests and didnt want their legs just dangling. dp goes through birmingham every fri and sun, so he could have picked it up. i dont really want a 3 in a row cos i can only just get through standard doorways now with the twin pram, but i prefer them to look at than the other kind- which are awful, but mor practical. i need to get out this house though as i am going stare crazy and so are the babies, so if its a bargain, im going to buy anything! ive told dp that i need the car. i cant spend the next few years waiting for him to go anywhere, so i think we will have to buy a regular cheap car for him, for work.

i wasnt shy growing up, but i wouldnt put myself out there. still cant. i just cringe at anything that makes me centre of attention or even just some attention. dp reckons its a confidence thing and i think hes right. its took me years ti dance near the edge of a dancefloor- i always needed to be right in the middle where no one can see me. and i cant even dance without being drunk. i was thrilled to bits when chloe went up on stage at a really young age to be part of the panto we were watching. i would never have done it. i wouldnt even play party games when i was younger! i had no self esteem growing up and i dont know why, cos my parents use to tell me i was beautiful and they said i love you every day (at bedtime). i think its why i ended up with chloes dad and didnt leave him when all the abusive behaviour started. ive worked really hard with chloe to make her confident and have self esteem.
i said to my mum last week newmum that i think they would be better off in different classes. but i need to see how their relationship pans out before i know for sure. may all be academic anyhow , as the local primary only has 1 class per year anyway.

so sorry to hear you are still having a rough time of it mammyg hope the new year as better things planned for you! x

dixie have you tried involving him in the making of the food, ie, washing fruit under the tap or pouring pasta into a pan etc or maybe make the food into shapes, faces, pictures etc. i personally wouldnt make mine something else if they refused to eat it and they'd ate it before- but i would if its something new and they dont like it. but it is hard to see them not eat. hope its just a phrase. x

Saoirse Thats ridiculous! We had our hall stairs & landing done, walls, ceiling, 9 doors and the bannister painted white (it was a horrible dark varnish) 1 lad did it in 2.5 days for £250!!!!

Dixie some days I just ignore it and give him food and if he doesn't eat it he doesn't get anything else. Others it really bothers me! He ate sausage beans & chips at my mums on monday! Would never eat that for me!

I drove round all day today with a big penis on the back of my car! I know I don't wash it but there's no need for that!!!!! Not very professional looking for a community nurse but strangely quite appropriate

I think I might get some crayons etc too Dixie. Orlaith has so many things but no colouring stuff of her own (she just uses my biros, and usually while I'm trying to study! ) so that will make us all happy.

Right I need a good old whinge... the last few days Orlaith has been a nightmare with sleep. She had got to the point where she's spent most nights waking just twice, having 2 good naps during the day, being so easy to get off to sleep and just generally being a lovely child. Now she refuses to do her usual daytime naps and will usually give in at about 3-4pm. Then has maybe 1.5 hours and wakes up still tired and whinging. Come bedtime she's doing the same thing, refusing to go to sleep for ages (on Monday she finally went to sleep at 10.30!) and then wakes loads in the night. She's still be waking up at about 8-8.30 as normal. She's obviously tired as she shows all the normal signs, rubbing her eyes, lying down, resting her head on my leg, but also is so quick tempered and stroppy. Aaaaarrrrrgggghhhh!!!

Ok I think I feel better!

x-posts lumpy. I didn't know how much decorators charge, but that's a huge difference in time and money. Well they were supposed to turn up at 9 this morning, they actually arrived at 9.30. They eventually started doing stuff at 10, had a break 11.20-11.50, lunch from 1-2 but I went out then so I don't know what happened after that. So in the first 5 hours they were supposed to be here there was only 2.5 hours of work done, no wonder it's taking them forever. And that was while I was here, imagine what they would do if I wasn't here!

I hope you've removed your penis now!

Sorry but I had to lol at your penis lumpylumps!

I am being harsher with Luke Dixiebell as his eating seems to be getting worse. I thought he was too young to withhold something else if he doesn't eat but he understands and is way too keen to eat junk. As sassy34264 says I he's eaten it before and I know he likes it I'm stricter than if it's something new in trying him with.

I would stick with the earlier nap time and fight it out to stop her getting over tired and being a nightmare saoirse86. Ds1 was a nightmare with daytime naps and once I got him in a routine he was much happier and slept really well until I stopped him napping as he started school at 3 and 8 months.

I am so tired today and not really sure why, hoping I'm not getting another cold I will just cry!!

Saoirse could you randomly just say something like: "as trades men do you ever worry that you're being filmed by Watchdog or something?" It might give them a conscience.........
I would be so upfront and ask what they've done all day and maybe keep a list of what they say and let them know I'm doing it. Though...... if it wasn't me paying or my own DF i'm not sure I'd care as much???
Jack has one nap a day now and is usually after lunch and for an hour to an hour and a half. He sleeps 11-13 hours straight at night so doesn't need 2 naps but does find it hard to sit and chill when he needs to. I often snuggle up in our bed and read stories and he loves that.
One night last week he went to sleep at 7pm (I knew he hadn't eaten as much during the day as normal) woke and had a yoghurt at 6am then slept again til 10am! I was in heaven!!!!
Food is ok here and I've finally got him taking half and half in his milk bottles so fingers crossed we won't need a new pot of formula!

Got parcels going missing/taking an age to deliver left, right and center! It's driving me insane this week and the last thing I need is to be spending all my time tracking parcels Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Sorted my pushchair out! All it needed was a concealed Primarni belt, some duct tape and a pair of pliers so pleased!

at the pushchair beadit! That reminds me, a few years ago it was our birthday (18th I think) and everything was going wrong and being stressful. There was a massive storm and we were on our way back to our dad's to collect stuff for our party. On the way the car broke down. Some pipe or other had come out and my dad knew if he could tie it up somehow it would be fine. I gave him my hair bobble and hey presto, all sorted! It stayed there for years, much to his mechanic's amusement!

Are the parcels going missing because of bad weather, a postal service who always seem to forget there might be more post in December or just lying customers?! My mum posted a Santa dress for imara to my sister so imara could wear it at her nursery's Christmas party, but that went missing too.

It's a combination of them all I think Saoirse although I've only had to shell out for a replacement once so far as they do eventually show up. I have 5 issues at the moment and am tracking them all on PO website so hopefully they won't disappear. One guy needs it for his wife to wear on her Christmas do tomorrow night but fingers crossed.
I think West Yorkshire post must be the worst! I am getting my supplies delivered from Portsmouth etc by standard 1st class and they arrive next day but if I post by recorded delivery it's taking from 3-5 days Grrrrrr
Also, anything I send within a 5 mile radius takes the longest! How does that make sense????
Everyone keeps commenting on the weather up north!??? I only live 10 miles away from being in North Yorkshire and it hasn't been bad at all! Where is the bad weather? Scotland? Not that I mind as my southern customers seem more understanding about delivery delays!

We're supposed to have snow tonight and tomorrow so I hope it doesn't disrupt my orders I'm waiting for too much. I always leave it till late and I don't know why. I'm just useless, despite the fact I spend an awful lot of time at home with plenty of online shopping time.

I put Orlaith to bed at 1 and she went straight to sleep! Yippeeeee! maybe it's all over and she'll start sleeping a bit better. Well I hope so because I'm already tired and only just about to leave for an 8 hour shift at the pub.

Weather here is just freezing. No snow yet. We can wait till Dec24th for snow as dc3 keeps telling us it isn't christmas until it snows. If we get it too ealy she will want to open her presents.
We're hoping to get our last gifts tomorrow before the kids break up but dc3 was sick and nursery have a 48 hour turn around so she can't go tomorrow. Me and Dp might have to take it in shifts to look after her so we can finish off. Still have to wrap them all as well.

DP was off giving blood this evening so I was alone with Aphra, and as he was running late I started giving her her bath too (which he normally does). Not best pleased when she pooed in the bath though! Poor love, it was a very messy one too, her tummy must not be well. Unpleasant to clean up but I did know it was likely to happen at some point, boo!

Hi all

seem to have not been able to get chance to look in this days. Time comes flying round, we´re back home tomorrow!!! yeah, The Christmas Holidays starting early this time for us. I can´t wait, been thinking about mince pies for a week now.

Hope your all well. Will try and do a catch up once were back home. (Haven´t lived there for over 5 yrs but still call it "home").

So a fortnight has gone by again newmum001, I was 88.1Kg this morning/14st 1 and a bit.

Ds1 has poo'd twice in the bath and Luke hasn't so far comixminx so I guess I'm pretty lucky!

Dh got his parcel beaditAli and was said you were very generous with the extra bit you put it . My experience of royal mail is first class is safe and second is a bit hit and miss.

We've had snow today but it rained before and after so it hasn't settled at all. Been to give blood today and Luke slept through it, bless him and I am off to see New Years Eve tonight with a couple of friends will be lovely. Ds1 has a party at school today so he'll be full of it when I pick him up and then no more school runs

Poor A does seem to have a dodgy tum at the moment so she's not going to have a proper bath today - I will give her a good wash but not the whole thing where she plays with her toys and has a lovely relaxing time. DP is off out tonight, to his work christmas do, so it's me in charge alone again!

Shh... whisper it... BFP this morning! Do I win the TTC prize (apart from sassy of course)? Fingers crossed for the next few weeks - it does mean a teetotal xmas, mind you!

Yay comixminx!!!!! So exciting, congratulations!! Means they h e birthdays close together though doesn't it? I got my bfp on Christmas day with Luke. Really pleased for you x