Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

[lumpylumps]

Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

Good luck!

Yes it did work thank you! I wish he'd said the first week that he was upset because he didn't know where to put his lunchbox, grrr. Why don't school think about these things! He's doing so well with speech therapy too, saying so many words I was nearly in tears. Also got a pat on the head as the other little boy hadn't practiced much and you could really see the difference between the two if them.

Grace is talking loads too, says names off everyone, knows her toy's names and is putting words together. She does 3 word sentances now! Also agree that if it sounds like a word and used in context then it is a word!

She's had a cold for just over a week, some days it goes then comes back the next it's driving me mad! I'm pinching lumpy's decorating pine cones idea and I also cried reading about the plant a seed grow a christmas tree idea so will be using that next year!

Grace is talking loads too, says names off everyone, knows her toy's names and is putting words together. She does 3 word sentances now! Also agree that if it sounds like a word and used in context then it is a word!

She's had a cold for just over a week, some days it goes then comes back the next it's driving me mad! I'm pinching lumpy's decorating pine cones idea and I also cried reading about the plant a seed grow a christmas tree idea so will be using that next year!

Its just shows that what seem like really small things have a big effect on little ones. Glad he was happier cinnamon and glad that the SALT is going well too.

Newmum for the last 3 years I've spent the whole of december trying to fight off the tears! From seeing santa to the tree to watching the school nativity!

So, tea at 4pm was a success. He then ate a 2nd tea when we had ours because he felt left out & probably ate the same amount again. shreddies at 6pm went down well & the milk is all gone! He can't be hungry tonight!

Fingers crossed for you lumps!

I'm thinking we're having a similar problem with orlaith at the moment. She seems to have given up food and is now waking loads in the night. I can only presume it's because she's hungry. I try and feed her in the day and she acts like I'm trying to kill her, kicks up a right fuss and has major tantrums. She will eat a little bit herself but it's not much at all. I'm going to look for that cutlery that's at a right angle for children to feed themselves because she never manages to keep anything on her fork or spoon long enough to get it in her mouth!

saoirse, we find with Aphra that she will only really eat proper amounts if she feeds herself, and the only that she can do that and get enough into her is for her to use her hands. So I put dollops of food onto her highchair tray for her to then pick up herself - it also helps with getting the food cooler quicker. I also leave her her spoon and she dips it into the food and mostly it drops off again, but I figure it's a learning process just to have her try it by herself, and I'm not worried about it falling off because she eats enough with her hands.

I see everyone else is counting stuff as words much more generously than I am! I will try not to be grudging about counting up her vocabulary from henceforth . She says daddy, dat, a-da (by which I think she means Aphra), and imitates stuff more ad hoc. If anything her gestures are a bit more definite - nodding and shaking her head (more shaking than nodding), taking my hand to lead me, grabbing my finger and using it on my iPhone !

comix she had been feeding herself and I'd been giving her a lot more food which she can pick up and eat. She'd usually have a fork or spoon with her bowl but mainly use her hand to shovel the food in. But now she just won't eat anyway it's offered. Well, that's apart from after posting that earlier. I tried to feed her again in her high chair, offered her the bowl and spoon, tried to feed her with the spoon, nothing except tight lips and shaking her head. So I took her out in defeat. Then she dragged over her little chair and sat on it next to us and then had some food. so is it being in a high chair?! I don't get it! But I think that if it works with her being in that little chair then we'll just stick with that. It's just a bt more difficult not having anything at that level for her to put her bowl on. We'll have to find a stool or something. Are these children put on this earth to test our ability to read minds and problem solve?!

Saoirse Dd2(3.3) was spinning around the other day and when she stopped she told me 'the house was wobbly' We have to stop her doing 'ring a roses' too fast for Lucy.
Lucys appetite is finally getting better. she is eating more foods which she had initially rejected but she hates mashed potato. She loves chips, new potatoes and jacket spuds but mash she just spits out. I wonder if it was the lack of mashed foods we weaned her on

Saoirse, more often than not if grace is eating food that can't cause much damage (pasta etc) I sit her next to me on the sofa and she seems to eat more. Some nights she sits at the table with us on a big chair instead of her highchair as it causes less fuss. Do you eat the same thing at the same time as her? Grace tends to eat more if I'm eating too. I'm thinking of getting rid of the highchair and getting a booster seat for our table and chairs cause she really doesn't seem to like it. Maybe this is them showing some independance, kind of "I'm not sitting in this chair when everyone else is sitting at the table" I'll be gray before I'm 30 at this rate, every day is a different battle. Recently she's climbing on everything, windowsils, the toilet, the bookshelf! Does anyone else find themselves shouting more and more each day?

Saoirse, more often than not if grace is eating food that can't cause much damage (pasta etc) I sit her next to me on the sofa and she seems to eat more. Some nights she sits at the table with us on a big chair instead of her highchair as it causes less fuss. Do you eat the same thing at the same time as her? Grace tends to eat more if I'm eating too. I'm thinking of getting rid of the highchair and getting a booster seat for our table and chairs cause she really doesn't seem to like it. Maybe this is them showing some independance, kind of "I'm not sitting in this chair when everyone else is sitting at the table" I'll be gray before I'm 30 at this rate, every day is a different battle. Recently she's climbing on everything, windowsils, the toilet, the bookshelf! Does anyone else find themselves shouting more and more each day?

We have a wooden highchair like you get in pubs. Ollys never used the tray because its the perfet height for the table. He will ONLY eat using a spoon or fork. He's rubbish with finger foods.

He was awake at 4.50am!!! I left him crying and winging till 5.30 then went to get some milk. He'd pooed! I changed his nappy & he went back to sleep till 7.15!!! Will try again tonight. Hopefully without the early morning poo!

That's so cute Debs!

newmum orlaith and DP have the same but I'm veggie and allergic to gluten so mine's usually a bit different. This morning I just gave her toast and a nectarine in her high chair and she was a lot better. lumpy I had said to DP a while ago that I thought we should get one of those wooden highchairs without a tray because she seems happier in them when we're out or at a friend's house, but he thought I was just trying to spend his money!

I'm also wondering if she's had a sore throat, or having night terrors or something because the last 3 nights there has been at least once she's woken up screaming and inconsolable and I've had to rub her back to get her back to sleep. Maybe she'll be better tonight. [hopeful]

lumpy it must have been all that food he'd eaten making him poo! But I hope it works again minus the poo tonight.

Christmas play was very emotional and they were all so good, just wish I could have taken a few photos! Silly school :(

Luke is a bit funny with food, can't put my finger on it really. He will eat anything junky- biscuits, crisps, chocolate, cake and does eat a wide range of food but is funny about it. I am still feeding him most of the time so he often has lunch and breakfast on the sofa as he's much happier not in his highchair too. He is happiest with a meat, potato and veg dinner not a fan of pasta etc but he does eat just less. He often won't try whatever is put in front of him and I have to chase him with a spoon until he cries and then I pop it in and he will eat the rest no problems. He is the only member of our family other than me who likes mash Deb75, I think it's a texture issue with mine- dh is rubbish with textures in food and is more fussy than any of the three boys!!!! He's happy to feed himself finger foods, and is starting to try with the spoon but luckily is happy to be fed! The only thing I can think that he refuses every time is ham, everything else is just varyingly hit and miss.

Fingers crossed with everything minus poo to go to plan tonight lumpylumps!

I agree with you newmum001, it's something new every day but it's all part of the fun of being a mum. Luke has started going to the cupboard with cereal, opening the boxes and wandering around eating handfuls of cereal!! This is in the same cupboard as the squash that he lines up the bottles on the kitchen floor. He's not too bad with climbing at the moment but I'm sure it'll come. He drives me mad in the kitchen and I do tell him sturnly to get out, he has started to go now as he knows when I am at the end of my tether!!!!

What a day!!! I've come to the conclusion that olly is just a pain!!! We went to a friends for a bit of a christmas party for us the children. I took olly some pasta cos he's rubbish with party food. it was left over from his dinner yesterday and he wolfed it down then. Would he eat it today?? would he heck.

He wouldn't eat anything. just kept banging his fork on his plate so i took it all away. cue horrendous paddy. nothing would stop him so i decided to leave rather than have us ruin the party for the others and to be honest I could not calm him down so didn't really know what else to do! I told ds1 to have a cake then we would leave. He was fine with that and I just wanted to go without making a fuss.

My friend whose house it was took him. She thinks she knows him but she hardly ever sees him. She was trying to calm him down. It would work for a minute then he'd start again And seeing as though I'd already decided to leave I wasn't going to keep changing my mind. Ds1 got his shoes & coat on & I went to get olly off her & she wouldn't give me him. I gave her a "please just give me him, i don't want to make a scene" look but she still wouldn't. Said he was fine & i wasn't going home!!! I lost it & threw his coat down. Swore & went out to put ds1 in the car!

She followed me out minus olly and asked me what was wrong! I was fuming! What the hell did she think was wrong?? He's my child & if i feel the best option is to leave then thats entirely up to me! She ended up making a huge deal of us leaving & made me look like i was over reacting! By the time I went back in for Olly he was screaming again! As I left she gave me a hug & told me to look after myself in a really patronising tone as if I'm not coping. I admit I do have nightmare days when being somewhere like that is hard work. Thats the whole reason I wanted to leave. She made me so so so mad I was almost in tears!

Sorry for the essay. Rant over!!!!!

Lumpy that's awful! I do hate it when people make you feel like you don't know what's best! Dp's mum always makes me feel like this, accuses me in a round about way of pandering to grace hence why she's a little out of control but she's just very very strong willed and sometimes as you have said the best thing to do is remove her (and myself) from a situation! I'm quite angery on your behalf as I know exactly where you're coming from!

Cinnamon I'm glad the play was lovely, I already know I'm going to be an emotional wreck when grace has her christmas play!

Oh no lumpy how annoying on top of the frustration of Olly not playing ball. Don't blame you one bit for being so mad!

It's gone so cold just in the past day or two. Aphra woke up last night at about 3 and wouldn't go back to sleep - DP is getting up in the night with a bottle for her nowadays (hurray!) but she wasn't going back to sleep for him and I'm sure it was just because she was cold and needed warming up before she would drop off. She got to sleep in the end but tonight will be even colder, if anything - the thermometer in her room is showing blue for just under 16 degrees, brr! There are friends of mine who say they've only just put the heating on now, and we don't have it very high (about 18 degrees normally) but I certainly couldn't have it any lower and might need to put it up a bit further.

cinnamon that's lovely about the play, not so lovely about stupid rules on photos! And I read the bit after saying how fussy your dh is, as you meaning he had started feeding myself!

lumpy that would wind me up no end! I absolutely hate that people make out like you're doing the wrong thing. I personally sometimes find myself thinking that I would've dealt with a situation differently to how a friend has, but it's their child and their decision. TBH I think I probably would have done the same thing you did in that situation, so from the sound of it you probably weren't overreacting at all. And even if you were, sometimes it's stressful and you need space and a change of scenery just as much as the child does. I would have thought that someone with children themselves would understand that! !

comix I usually set our heating to 18 too, especially as it's usually 15 degrees in the house when we get up so god knows what it is at 3am! Time for me to get some more padded sleep suits I think! I occasionally try those sleeping bags but orlaith seems to turn over in bed but just in one direction so ends up all tangled up and wakes up asking for help!

I can see why you were angry lumpylumps but perhaps she didn't understand your look and was trying to reassure you that you didn't need to leave because olly was having a paddy? I don't have friends who would do that but my mum does think she knows best at times. I don't know about you but I am always more stressed when the kids are kicking off and things seem bigger than they normally would. Not saying your feelings are not justified just trying to see it from another point of view. Your child your decision no matter what.

I got up the other night to ds1 comixminx and thought it was freezing, was glad then I wasn't getting up several times a night to feed Luke like last year!! Our heating is usually 20-21C and is off 11pm-5.30am so it's warm when dh gets up. Luke is in his 2.5TOG sleeping bag and a sleepsuit now and seems fine, we've had a frost the last three nights.

Grrrr.... Bloody men!!!!!!!! Dh came home today and was fine then he didn't eat his dinner. Turned out he was checking his emails and found one about an asbestos audit. A while ago he had a clear out and threw away a sink which he later found on a list of items with asbestos in them but it wasn't marked. He's now stressing that the audit will come before his year with a final warning and he will be in trouble about a poxy sink! I've told him to lie and say he doesn't know about it as it could have been thrown out by the previous person in his job but he's so stressed and is now looking for other jobs. I can already see flash backs to earlier in the year :(

Oh no cinnamon, I remember his troubles last time! To be honest I would lie about the sink too. If there's no way anyone would know then he's got nothing to lose!

Lumpy I've been there and it is hard isn't it? With ds I found it was people not making allowances for his autism that really peed me off. As a small child he had loads of routines, fears, habits and even if I told people about them they didn't do anything to help. A lot of friends thought I should make him conform. When he kicked off at a pool party, which the host had last minute decided not to use the pools, I had to take him home he was so distraught. Host then said 'I didn't think he would get upset' She also kept trying to get me to stay but it would of been torture for ds and when they are really upset you don't want to be in the party mood. I walked home in tears

Getting really cold here, our back corridor is freezing so we hardly use the downstairs toilet now. It is cold in our room as well as the rad cover blocks most of the heat but we can't get it off. Lucy is sleeping well so it can't be too bad

Any child would be upset at a pool party where they couldn't go on the pool Debs75! That sounds horrible too. Did you watch the programme on ITV last night?

What a night! I was next door babysitting until 11.30, got home and made a warm blackcurrant drink and before I could drink it ds1 was awake crying becasuse he was coughing so much. He was then up I don't know how many times because of his cough, sore mouth, sore ear, needing a wee and just couldn't sleep. He finally went back to sleep at 5.20 when dh decided to talk to me about all he had been awake worrying about! I was very rude and said I had been up most of the night and I had the chance to get 1 1/2hrs sleep and I intended to get them, not that I didn't want to be supportive but we could talk about it later. ds1 was so poorly when he woke up and then cried when I told him he couldn't go to school! I only have one minded little girl weds during school hours and her mum decided to keep her home so we have played, watched some tv and I've done some jobs. He's much better with ibuprofen, the calpol I gave him in the night didn't seem to do much but I am going to try and get him to nap this afternoon when Luke does. Luke is better but still really snotty so hopefully ds1 will be ok to go to school tomorrow as he doesn't want to miss anything!

Poor DS1 cinnamon! I hope they both feel better soon. And I hope you and DH get to talk later and he's not too put out by you not wanting to talk this morning.

Porr ds1 Cinnamon and poor you having no sleep. I didn't watch the 'My child's not perfect' but I have sky+ it to watch after I have finished my peer supporter work. I had my oral test today and as long as the written work is Ok I will be helping run an antenatal support group and offering breastfeeding support in January. Getting a bit excited about it now, just have to focus on the writing

Ah yes that was it Debs75, I thought it was very well done and the mums were very honest. Sounds exciting and I know what you mean about the writing hard to get motivated after a busy day with kids and everything else. Need to do mine by the end of march and I can then be an approved childminder :)

Has anybody else noticed that Newmum's last 2 post were only there once and not duplicated?!!?? I always like that they come up twice! Where have the duplicates gone?
cinnamon hope you're getting some sleep now and that the boys are doing better. I think I'm with others about the sink thing...... a tricky one though but if it's not traceable back to him directly then he can fib can't he??

Lumps I think I'd have snapped at her so badly! Sounds rude as much as anything else! And the patronising hugs afterward would have tipped me over I think.
I would have done the same as you and left too. She sounds a bit like someone I know and if you have a chat about it later and try to make her see sense, she'll be the one that gets upset and flip it all around Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Hope Olly is alright now. Maybe just wanted to be in his own space with familiar faces

I know I still need to post jewellery and Saoirse I know you need it for the 18th so I swear they're going soon!
Work is insanely busy. I've been up til 2-3am for as long as I can remember and I still have a back log none of my suppliers are sending things out as fast they would any other time of year and Mum has only had Jack once in the last week.
There are always some idiots who ffff everything up by saying things haven't arrived so send another and do it by yesterday! Blame everything on me and not Royal Mail.............. who by the way.... come December...... I detest!
Is today rant day? Maybe we could make Wednesdays rant days

Bought a second hand Mamas and Papas Ziko Frankie on Saturday from Ebay and it's pants!! Footrest is broken as is one of the straps....... so disappointed and all because DH is so tight about buying a pushchair! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Jack's rant of the day today: chicken tikka again and again and again! no idea what he's trying to say but it's not that as he's never had it and anyway........ would have no idea what it was anyway!! Funny as anything though!!!!!!!!

Jack woke up really grumpy this afternoon and had a bit of a nose bleed..... seemingly came from nowhere??? Any ideas?

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