Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

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Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

twice even!

cinnamon hows DS1? Hope he´s feeling better.

Im back at Drs tomorrow with Maia as she has a rash on her hands, feet, bum and mouth. Doesn´t seem to itch or bother her anyway but has got worse since Monday. DS1 was down witha fever again yesterday, all floppy on the sofa, but has sprung back into life today and made-up for what he didn´t do yesterday!

Want some none baby related advice please.
My parents split up 3 yrs ago, after some time it came out that for the last few yrs my Dad had been having an affair. At the time I really laid into him (he´s very v. moralalistic when it comes to others!). Time has obviously moved things on since then and he´s still with this woman. Ive since met her and she´s been out her on holiday with my dad, although they didn´t stay at our hse. This xmas i´d arranged to go and stay with my Dad for a few days. Ok Im getting to my dilema now:
They are moving in together, now!
So as Im going to be a guest at her house do I have to buy her a xmas present? we aren´t there over the xmas weekend, but Ill be exchanging gifts with my Dad. I wouldn´t normaly buy her one, but now feel I have to as im going to be staying in her house. What would you do?

Hope that makes sense

Patito, oh aren't family relationships complicated. Both me and dh have divorced parents, with step parents and siblings, half siblings, and random partners aplenty. I think you'd feel awkward staying with her if she got you something and you hadn't. But is also awkward giving someone you don't have a proper relationship with a present. Can you buy something that's appropriate for both yr dad and her, like something for the house, or a bottle of something, or some lovely foodie treats? That way it's not specifically for her but you're not leaving her out.

Arlo is a right little character these days. He's so fussy about his food - cheese on toast or spaghetti Bol are the only bankers, but when he likes it he demands 'more'! Also says 'no more' and shakes or nods his head appropriately. He has so many words now, and do funny when he copies us, gets the right inflection. He can point to most parts of his body, get a tissue for mummy's nose when asked (we've had the cold!), and runs up and down the room like a maniac. He still cries when I leave him at the cm, but barely notices me when I arrive to pick him up .

Am off the pill now, so we'll see what happens, although at our rate of ahem, consummation, it might take some time...!

Just walked to mums and tots and the bloody place is closed because of the strike. Why didn't they say something last week, I'm absolutely fuming!!!

Just walked to mums and tots and the bloody place is closed because of the strike. Why didn't they say something last week, I'm absolutely fuming!!!

I've had a lovely day! I've had a bit of a tummy bug. Woke up at 4am feeling really sick so dh took the boys off to nursery at 8.30 and I rang in sick. Its been heaven. I went back to sleep, got up at 10.30, came downstairs, wrote my christmas cards, had a bit of soup, went back to bed till 3pm, had a shower and am now watching trash on the tele. Its rubbish having a bug but worth it just to have a day in on my own!

Patito How about a plant or a bunch of flowers when you get there as a "thanks for having us" type gift?? It must be really hard. Is there anyone in the family you could ask for advice?? Whats your gut feeling?

Lumpy I am so jealous! Not of the bug obviously (hope you feel better!) But that you have had a whole day to yourself! I haven't had a day like that for so long!

Patito I agree that something for the house would be best. Personally I'd feel very awkward not giving her a gift!

Lumpy I am so jealous! Not of the bug obviously (hope you feel better!) But that you have had a whole day to yourself! I haven't had a day like that for so long!

Patito I agree that something for the house would be best. Personally I'd feel very awkward not giving her a gift!

Ds1 seems to be fine now thank you patito. I think if your Dad has been with her for 3 years and you have spent time with her then I would consider her part of the family and buy her something. Is it out of loyality to your mum that you don't want to get her something or because you are still unhappy at her for her part in your parents split? Probably slightly different but dh's ex still buys him a present from dss despite him continually telling her that I take him shopping so he has a present for his Dad. We buy her a gift from him as she has no one to take him but were she to find someone else we would stop and expect him to buy it. It upsets me that she insists on getting dss a gift for dh but does not buy anything for me (forgivable) or my boys (totally out of order imo).

Yay how, exciting you are trying for a new baby dixiebell!!

Hope you're feeling better soon lumpylumps!

I had a lovely day with Luke today, we went swimming, then some lunch, a bit of shopping and a visit to the park. What a lovely day it was too, just wish ds1's school was striking so he could have come too!

patito It was a similar situation with my dad and his DP. They've been together for 12 years now but I still feel awkward. My sister and I usually buy a house/sharing present for them unless we can particularly think of something for her alone. We still don't know her that well. What we've got in the past is a lovely vase, huge candle holder thing, bottles of wine, food hampers, garden things. I don't think she'd care either way though TBH but I think it's nice to make the effort, just for my dad if nothing else.

Hi lovelies.... I thought I might have missed more on the thread but guess everyone is busy either shopping or.... by the sounds of it getting over bugs or nursing lo's bugs. Hope everyone is feeling better and fingers crossed for a bug free Christmas! I definitely don't want a repeat of last year when Jack plagued our entire families..... all the cousins, aunties, uncles, people-in-law, sister's future pil etc etc you get the idea

Brilliant that you're trying Dixie hopefully we won't be too far behind but I'm waiting til mid/end January to start trying. I do though wonder if we tried and it worked on the same day we did with Jack, if DC2 might have the same b-day. Long shot but still

Patito I think I'd feel more uncomfortable not giving her anything and at least if you have something ready you won't be left regretting it.

Quick update on Jack:
Hardly ever crawls and his walking is more like a jog. Not many stumbles now either which is brill.
Still has 3 bottles a day and it's still follow on milk as he hates cow's milk and toddler formula so stuck with what to do.
Loves berries of any kind and broccoli, beans on toast, cheese, mince pies are a big hit but a treat and he'd happily eat a whole banana tho I'm convinced they bung him up a bit
definitely eats to live and not the other way
loves water being poured straight over his head he always laughs, chucks everything in the bath.
No molars yet and not showing any sign of them bothering him for now
saying and understanding a few things including: book, socks, toes, dog, light, tree, nappy and others but feel like i'm ranting now
He's got the hang of "put it on" "take it off" "put it in" "take it out" "open" and "close"
sleeping well thank god since i'm up til the early hours every night [grrrrrrrrrr]
Misses his friends Ollydobdob and Toby
Copies Mr Tumbles "touch your nose and blink 3 times" which is adorable cos his long blinks are gorgeous
Really tall, really fast, really giggly, really happy to be helmet free but still pooing in the bath way too much

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..... exhausted now!
Sorry for going on............. Happy 1st December ladies

cinnamon Im unsure as what to do as I dont feel I know her at all. Apart from her coming here on holiday with my dad I haven´t met up with her. Nor have my sister or brother. She seems nice enough, i don´t hold her reponsible for split, (nor soley my dad), but it does taint it for me knowing they were having an affair. I hadn´t even considered the gift dilema as i assumed i wouldn´t even be seeing her. but now they´ve decided to move in together it puts a whole new spin on it. Im going to have to go with the shared present thingy I think, I´d feel really mean not getting anything.

Maia is 15 mths today! She´s so cute I could eat her, loves dancing to the theme tune to the flumps and making animal noises. Outruns me around the playground easily.

Are you around newmum001? I am now 90Kg which is 14st 5.5lb. I'm a bit disappointed as I have being weighing weekly and this week has been slow despite still being good, dh thinks it's my period so we'll see. At least it's in the right direction

Luke is still having 2 milk feeds a day beaditAli, although it's bm. My friends little boy who is 15 months is still on follow on milk so I wouldn't worry. of all Jack's words!

I would suggest flowers, candles or smellies patito, I hope that you still have a relaxed Christmas and perhaps can get to know her better.

Hope everyone is well. I have the preschool Christmas bizarre tomorrow and then babysitting in the evening otherwise a nice relaxed weekend ahead. Off to go and wrap some more pressies and write cards

Yeah I'm here, 14st 5lbs, I'm also a bit disappointed I've been weighing myself every few days (I know I shouldn't and went down to 14st 3 at one point but I've also been on and had a take away last night so it's my own fault. Still a loss is a loss! Well done to both of us!! I do this this is helping me stick to it a bit more than I normally would.

Yeah I'm here, 14st 5lbs, I'm also a bit disappointed I've been weighing myself every few days (I know I shouldn't and went down to 14st 3 at one point but I've also been on and had a take away last night so it's my own fault. Still a loss is a loss! Well done to both of us!! I do this this is helping me stick to it a bit more than I normally would.

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beadit!

I lost 2lbs last weigh in which was last week I think. I've had a D&V bug this week so might be down again. But I'm off to a wedding so I might put on a few in food and drink!

Yey beady love it! and love that Jack misses Olly & Toby! They miss him too!

Also jealous of Jack's words, beaditAli! Aphra understands a lot I'm sure but we're only really sure of her producing dadda, mamma words - and she is repeating some the sound effects I make, like mooo and roar.

Patito, I second what everybody else is saying - easiest to buy something to be shared between her and your dad, like something for their house.

So we have a few people trying for the next DC? We are, to an extent - difficult to get time and energy to do the deed! Fingers crossed for this month but not counting on it at all - last time I felt pregnant from a pretty early stage, though I can't remember exactly when. At the moment I don't feel any different from normal so as I say, not counting on it. But good luck to all who are trying! And to those who are trying to lose weight, all the best too.

Well when I say he's "saying" them it's more like: "Jack let's get a nappy"..... then he runs excitedly to the drawer chanting "appy" "appy" and socks is usually more: "ssssssssssssssssssks"
So excited about this thread possibly having more pregnancy talk soon!
I must really have decided to hang on til 2012 cos last night even after about 2 bottles of fizz I was apparently very clear about being careful sitmi
Having a nice lazy morning as my sister had the lil man over night! Bliss

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Olly says a lot too. If you understand what he's saying! its just babble to most people but we know that its words & they're appropriate. as soon as he's dressed in the morning he starts saying "de da da" which is teeth & hair because we sing a song about it! "all gone" "get/sit down" "thankyou" still refuses to say mummy but will copy every word you say! He's also getting a good list of animal noises. They learn and change so fast!

We've had a lovely christmassy family day today. Toby planted a magic christmas tree seed and sprinkled it with magic dust. It grew into a christmas tree overnight. He was so excited when he came down this morning. we then decorated it & made decorations. watched christmas films & played! I love christmas!

I want a christmassy name!

I think even if it's not clear but is the same sound related to the same object or activity then it's a word, pronunciation isn't so important at this age! Luke won't say mummy either lumpylumps but still doesn't say much. 'That' to everything he wants or 'there' if it's a place he wants to go. 'Cat', 'bye bye' and 'Daddy' but he does understand most things and nods and shakes his head if you ask him any question. Love Christmas too, we don't have decorations yet but I am very organised with gifts! Ds1 is Joseph in his school play tomorrow, I'm very very very excited about that!!!

Didn't realise you were joining us soairse86, we are only weighing fortnightly so you haven't missed one. I think MammyG was going to join but haven't heard from her in a while, hope her family are all well and that she is doing more than just hanging by a thread.

Ds1 has been getting upset on a Monday when he goes to school as he's late :(. He has speech therapy until 10.15 so there's nothing I can do about it, he told me today that he couldn't find the trolley to put his lunch box on so I am going to let him have school dinners and see if that helps tomorrow. 2 weeks of school and then I get him home 2 1/2 weeks .

Lucy is chattering more, she can say mama, dada, Jade(dd1) peppa and bye.
She is concentrating more on the walking and is waddling around everywhere. She likes to stop and put in a dance in the middle.

We've got the tree up and Lucy and dd2 will not leave it alone. They love the baubles and play with them constantly. Me and DP spend all our time telling them to put them back

Orlaith's a chatterbox too but it usually takes me a few days to recognise her new words. She says names of everyone she knows well, hiya, bye-bye, teddy, toy, dog, cat, hat, fire, back (when putting things back), yes, no, good girl, that, this, there, thank you, out (when going out), ready, boobies , head, toes, foot, chair, look, bed, breakfast, dinner, water, cup, brush, teeth... I'm sure there are more. I hadn't realised how many there were before listing them! but they're not all necessarily recognisable to other people if they're not tuned into it iykwim.
Last week my SIL said "when do you think it is she'll say her first word? I mean I know she says things but it doesn't really count if she doesn't say it properly does it?" It turned out she thinks that it's not a proper word unless it sounds exactly as it would if we said it. Nice to have a supportive auntie! I doubt she'd be impressed if I said that about her child when she has one.

Debs I love that toddlers make time for a little dance while they're going about their business! That really makes me smile every time I see orlaith doing it. She even started doing that twirling round in cirlces type dancing yesterday, but she had to stop because she kept getting dizzy and bumping into things!

And I'm really excited about getting our tree but I have no idea where will be the safest place for it.

Cinnamon I agree. If a sound is said appropriately, consistantly and sounds like it could be a real word then it is. Pronunciation comes later. I know full grown adults who still haven't said their 1st word if saying it properly is the definition!!!

How did school go?? did the school dinner help?

I'm trying a new routine with olly. I can't deal with the 5am wake ups anymore! I think its because he's hungry so tea has moved to 4pm, I'm going to give him cereal at 6pm then his usual milk at 6.30pm. I hope that in a week he will get out of the 5am habit and gradually move tea back to 5pm so he can eat with us! Wish me luck!!!