July 2010 - Next thread, cba to think of a title

[Chulita]

I want to witter away to you lot and none of you have come up with the goods so this will have to do...

that is my big bugbear with nursery too woodlands it is hyper-contagious but half the time that they exclude i'm not even sure it really is still conjunctivitis, like your example here. it happened with F loads to begin with until i finally convinced them that it was actually a blocked tear duct (it was).

mlic just thinking about your options:

a childminder instead? mind you, i've a feeling you wouldn't be ok with that option and i get why.

talk the the nursery and subtly threaten to go elsewhere if necessary, has always amazed me how flexible businesses will be if they're motivated to be

move bigboy to full days instead of 5 half days?

also, with your work ethic and brains, i really think you should keeping exploring options for your own business. the upside is you can work your own hours around childcare then of course.

Yeah mylife what came of the surestart thing you were going to do?
OMG i have just looked at D and he has got green crap coming out of his eye!!! Oh no!!! Right im off to boots, what a pisser man! I wonder what the cm will say?

oh no viksam, it really is hyper-contagious if you can catch it over the internet ! Poor D. I think the drops are only available OTC to over 2s so you'll probably need to get him in at the docs.

hello TSC long time no see!

The chemists won't give anything OTC for anyone under 5... Or at least that's what the lady in Boots was claiming one time when I asked for something to ease a very minor, likely fabric-conditioner induced, rash M had.

We used to exclude for conjunctivitis for 24 hours after the drops started and we used to exclude for hand,foot and mouth (it's highly contagious - I remember one day we had about 7 kids go home with it).

mlisc sometimes I consider going back to work for little/no money just to have a bit of a break from the routine! G won't be at school for another 3 years and 8 months and I think I need to do something before then.

Vik I'm going to another parent forum or two this week but the advisory board is when we're away and then don't know when the next ones will be. They aren't anything formal though and nothing would ever come of it jobs-wise

Cake there isn't an option of full days, he has to do mornings or afternoons. The only other option is to send him to the nursery he currently attends instead of the school one and have the 15 hours knocked off the bill, but I don't want his education to suffer as it's not the same as a school nursery. I also want him to start with the friends who he will move through school with. He won't if he stays at the private nursery.

You're right, I wouldn't be happy with a childminder.

Back soon, man here to give me a quote for new windows

viks when DH is on nights, he starts at 5pm and gets home about 8am. Because we're out most mornings he can sleep while we're out but if he's lucky he gets his head down at work. He's off rotation at the moment so he's not often on them.

Meal plan
M-fish, rice and peas
T-chicken casserole, mash
W- leftover casserole, rice
T-beef chili, rice
F-pasta bake
S-pizza
S-cheesy pasta

I've just cooked the children chocolate chip pancakes so gotta feed them and get them in bed then I'll be back!

Meal plan:

M- chicken goujons, new pots and veg
T- pork loins, pots and veg
W- pasta dish of some sort
T- not sure yet
F- pizza

I have booked him in at the docs for 8.30 tomorrow, i bet the cm wont have him, i will text her now and see what she says. Im gona be soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bummed out, i have booked my hair tomorrow at 11 and my eyebrows on wed and i can see my holiday and my my bookings going to shit AGAIN! Fuck!!!!

Meal plan
tonight chicken, jackets and salad
tues same
wed fresh pasta with garlic bread
Thurs as above with a different sauce!
Fri DH is out so something out the freezer
Im trying to be dead frugle after my blow out at the supermarket last week, i spent £40 this morning and that should feed us for a week if i stick to the plan.
Sounds really boring now i have written it out! OH well, going to brum tragicaly early on sat morning so we will have something nice on sat night no doubt. Gona drop D off at his Nannys for the day, then they will drop him round to my mom and dads who will give him tea and put him to bed while i go out to the german xmas market and out for tea with friends, hope it goes according to plan. I feel guilty about it but we can only try it and see what happenes.

Meal plan:

Tonight: dh jacket and cheese with onion gravy yuk and me veg curry and rice
Tues: sausage, potato bake and broccoli/sweetcorn
Wed: 'chicken' chasseur, wedges and peas
Thrus: mushroom risotto & garlic bread
Fri: Quiche or frittata and chips
Sat: I'm supposed to be out so don't give a fuck know what dh wants
Sun: roast, obv

mylife u need to spill about why ur pissed off with dh, if thats the case and im picking up on ur vibes correctly.
Im now in dont give a fuck mode, im so soooooooooooo sick of one thing after another, i try really really hard to be all things to all people and i just cant be arsed any more, im just gona stop planning anything, whats the point, it all goes wrong anyway, might as well just sit on my ass and let it all happen around me.
Night all, heres to what i know will be another shite night! and heres to knowing it will only get worse too! Hrummmmmmmmmmmmmph!

I may not have been very clear in my earlier post. Of course I think its great for fil to spoil dd but I think the boys should be treated equally. Neither boys get from other grandparents. J has my dad who pisses up against a wall and sds grandfather who also doesn't bother. So its not that I want to deny my daughter fab pressies or that fil has to be the one to provide them. I think they should give to them equally, does that make sense?

Our nurserys policy is to be sent home if lo's have conjunctivitis. I think its until the discharge has cleared. woods did you get something for Js eye?

mlisc saw your status earlier and was wondering if you maybe thought about doing a home learning course? I know your busy with lo's but its very flexible. The ICS does loads of courses as does open uni.

Good to see you tsc has the flu jab worsened baby boys chest? I've to decide if I want R to get it and I'm in two minds.

viks I never used a sling but my friend loves hers may be good especially with D running around.

wss that's. Great price. What else have you put on?

dh how was bedtime tonight?

chu how you been keeping? Has the sickness eased?

cakes any more thoughts on cluster days for work?
Dp had yet another major blow out with his mother regarding smoking, not eating, not going and everything else. We think she's depressed she says she isn't. SIL is at her wits end its such a horrible situation. Oh and went to placement today and it was an inservice day so I got sent home :(

Oh no viksam has the cm said no? :( I used a moby wrap sling with B it was great I would definently recommend it.

dh I hope D went down for you better tonight.

woodlands what did you decide to do today in the end?

mlisc how did the window quote go?

mlic the way I see it very few of us would work if we relied on preschool for childcare - it just doesn't seemed designed to function that way at all. All of the working parents I know who have sent their children to preschool have had back-up childcare in the form of family or a childminder. I also don't think preschool is better than private nursery on any real level.

If you're really bothered about 'education' at this age (and personally I think it's a bit of an oxymoron) then afaik, they'll be teaching the same things at both. F's certainly has a preschool room for phonics etc. Also, remember none of it's exactly rocket science at this age - I actually couldn't care less what F learns/doesnt learn at nursery as long as he's happy there - they'll do it all again once they start school. It's even less important when you're talking about part-time - F's learning at reception/year 1 level at home regardless of what they're doing at nursery because this is where he spends more time.

Get what you're saying about him going up to school with the same children and it would be nice but I think it's not essential - plenty of children transition fine from private nurseries to school :)

Just think about what you NEED to do and I'm sure you'll figure out childcare to suit.

stac have vaguely decided to put F in tues all day, wed am and thurs all day from jan and see how that goes. I am still gutted about it tho - I cried when dh mentioned him having three breakfasts at nursery yday < twat >

Sorry - haven't had time to properly catch up but wil try tomo.

Usual senseless waffle as on bb and can't easily check what I've written

I agree with you re presents stac. I've had words with my mother about similar things in the past. I've made it very clear that any big presents like that are to be shared (esp if they're 'sexist' ones iyswim! Eg she got A a doll's house when F loves shit like that and is far better suited age-wise but she kept making a point about getting one for A from literally the day she was born. Likewise, F will inherit a load of model boats - cos woman are known never to understand about boats, only men...

stac my niece has a different dad to her brothers who doesn't give her presents or even want to see her so we all make an extra big fuss of her and take her on special days out when the boys are with their dad.

D was fuck awful last night, he woke up 9 coughing his lungs up. Then about 9:30 for no reason. Then half 10, then half 12 when dh went in but couldn't settle him so he came in our bed cos I was getting so fucked off not having any sleep.
He then slept til half 5 then 7.

But nursery don't offer the same 'education'. I would never in this world expect to walk into pre-school to pick my son up and find him watching tv. Which I do with both my children at nursery. They sometimes put a laptop in ds2's room and put Rory the Racing Car or Bob the Builder on, and in ds1's room there is a great big plasma on the wall! It is used for 'painting' etc but also plain old tv. I've considered saying something but don't want to be 'one of those parents' and kick up a fuss if I need them to be flexible.

But the difference, mlisc, is surely that children are only at preschool for maybe 15 hours a week spread over five days, so that can be more structured? Some children are at daycare (I use the word to distinguish it from school nursery) for maybe 10 hours a day, five days a week - so you wouldn't expect them to be 'learning' for the whole of that time. Children need some downtime as well, even/especially if they are at nursery a lot. I know your two aren't there very much but there will be others there full time.

My nursery offers sessional preschool sessions as well as daycare, all in together - I think this is quite common. They don't have TV and that would irritate me a bit, but then I have no idea how nursery staff do the job they do!

Right, J is at nursery and no sign of them sending him back so far. I really ought to be working!

Yes I suppose that's right woodlands

ah, maybe it depends on the nursery then - i've only got ours to go by which is run by an ex-teacher so might be a bit different to average. it's got a good ofsted rating.

they do watch some TV (or used to, i've not heard it mentioned since she took over) at ours but very little - i've never actually seen them watching it or even seen a TV. I didn't mind (too much ) as it was the only childrens' TV F watched so it was quite nice for him to know who iggle piggle etc are when the others talked about them.

i guess it's whether you think it's overused at yours.

either way, i've never heard/read that children attending private nurseries are in any way behind ones who went to preschool. It's not at all scientific but of the two children that i know who started school very 'ahead', one went to (several different) private nursery and one went to preschool.

tis your call but if you really want to work then i think you do have good options which won't materially affect bigboy.

and what woodlands said

talking of nurseries - what crazinesses are yours all doing this week for children in need? On the two days my two are in it's fancy dress today (a fairy and Thomas) and on thurs it's bring a teddy in for a teddy bears' picnic

So, im sat here having breakfast...........on my own! Took D to the docs this morning and she said she didnt think anything was wrong, maybe just a bit of a cold, he had no eye mucus this morning only a bit of crusty sleep, i felt a bit of a tit taking him but the doc understood. His eyelids are still red and a bit swollen, like he has rubbed them loads but i havent seen him rub them this morning at all. He had a shite night as expected, he was up at 11.15, 12, 1 and dh said he was crying at 3ish but i have to say i dont recall that, i thought he had slept then till 6.10 but maybe not. I did calpol him twice last night but it clearly didnt help.
dh you gota do what ever it takes to get some sleep sometimes imo, dont sweat it man, why do u think he was so disturbed?
mylife i didnt even think about asking about TV at the nursery that they will go to in Sept, i didnt see one and i have to say id be a bit annoyed if they did watch it, they can do that at home, im paying for better than that. I know they need some down time but surley not in front of the TV?? Am i being a bit naive?
D has to wear PJ's on Thursday to go to the cm session at the childrens center, that should be funny. I sent his best ones today in the bag jsut so i didnt forget!