July 2010 - Next thread, cba to think of a title

[Chulita]

I want to witter away to you lot and none of you have come up with the goods so this will have to do...

Ahhhhhhhhh wss how do u feel about selling all your stuff? Sad or relieved, i should imagine a bit of both!
I have had a nice but tiring weekend with Mom and Dad here, they are lovely and generally look after themselves but are so anxious to do/say the roght thing that if can get weirdly strange at times. Also its always a bit of a stress to have people in your house, we are all back to normal now though.
Is it just me or does everyone stress about things, for examly i have one of those snak pots with a non spill lid that you can put bits of food in and D loves to just snak out of it all the time, i put rasins or apple crisps or cherios in there and he loves just dipping in and out at his leisure, is this wrong?? I think im really stressed for some reason i feel on edge all the time, i really need to relax and chill out i think.
Whats everyone else been up to today?

What are you stressing about vik, that he has snacks too much? Both mine have lots of snacks, I think they need to eat fairly regularly and it can be a long time between meals. I have a lunchbox type thing with compartments that mine help themselves to - not a problem unless it's interfering with them being hungry for a meal.

Re selling the baby stuff I'm about 0.1% sad and 99.9% relieved , a bit different from a year ago when I was a bit broody, my broodiness definitely diminishes as they get older.

viks my two snack all the time too, nothing as healthy as you give D though, mine are more malted milk biscuits and mini cheddars. They do seem to eat a little and often far more than a big meal.

wss I'm so with you on the broodiness diminishing as they get older, I keep looking at S and thinking 'frick, in another 19 months we'll be at this stage again". I can so see why people stop at two but I'm very glad we're cracking on. Having both decided that 3 was going to be enough, we've now both decided that as long as all goes well with this one we'd like to try for another girl...

trudy sitting counts! I spent most of the time sitting with S, even at night because getting up and down was so tricky for the first bit. I can't stress enough how important I reckon it is to take it very, very easy for the first couple of weeks. Seriously, it's only a few weeks and it'll save you months of pain/discomfort Try and get M to climb up while you're sitting down rather than picking her up.

I don't know if I'm odd but I get really embarrassed being pregnant. I was at the park with our two this morning and people were bump-gawping as they do and I almost felt like I needed to apologise for being pregnant. I've always felt like this, even with L when I didn't have two running around. I seriously just don't feel comfortable and get very embarrassed...is this normal? or am I just a complete fruitcake?

dh I have to agree with mlisc that I think you're confusing him. Tbh though, like vik neither of my two have ever wanted to settle in our bed so it wasn't an option. They did for the first month, maybe 6 weeks and once they became more aware of themselves and us they'd be too excited in our bed and wouldn't settle. Co-sleeping just wasn't an option due to their temperaments.

Hehe wss i can totally understand the relieved bit, im absolutly sure i will feel the same!!
The snack thing is simply an example of what worries me about wether im bringing him up correctly or wether im doing the right thing all the time whats wrong with him, why is he whinging etc etc. I think i think too much about everything and i just need to let some things slide. I wont have time to worry when the new baby comes in sure. I think its just tiredness that makes me feel stressed, D had a crappy night last night.
Wheres everyone else today??

X posted chu sorry, I do know what you mean about being pregnant, I feel very self conscious and im sick of getting a major reaction when they ask me when baby is due, like cooking a bloody turkey is going to be more important than delivering a baby safely! I agree its shite timing but not a lot i can do about it now is there! I cant believe u havent had ur third yet and are talking about ur FOURTH!! Wow, thats hard core man! Im defo done after this one, definatly.
Just asked my brother and sister to put together for the duplo caravan, its ace, its more for me than D!

I don't get stressed when I'm tired, just stroppy. S up at 04.50 this morning and DH was at work in the morning so I didn't get a lie-in (again) seriously, I've not had a lie-in for over a month, I simply can't shift DH of a morning even if I've been up every time in the night I'm pre-warning him tonight that he's up tomorrow with the DC (he's on nights so will be home in the day).
We might not have a fourth, depends a LOT on how this one goes. I can't stand being pg, not one little bit but in the long run it is only a year or so of crapness and we'd both love another girl (not that you can plan these things)
Glad I'm not the only one re being pg!

Short and brief cos I'm in a bad mood. Won't go into detail

Cake my two have lego duplo and mega blocks. The lego gets totally overlooked but they both play with the mega blocks pretty much every day

Vik ignore them. WTF do they know anyway. I guarantee you will stress less (talking from personal experience) when your next lo arrives.

Sorry you feel self consicous chul. You really shouldn't though.

Vik I was the same - the first couple of things I sold made me really emotional and then after that it was really nice to just Get Rid of stuff/declutter. My broodiness has also definitely diminished the older ds2 gets and I realise I'm slowly getting my life back! ish

DS1 has gone to bed with no tea tonight as he refused his meal and I'm fucking sick of pandering to him. I warned him it was that or nothing. He chose nothing. More fool him.

Well after a rubbish 35 min nap he's gone to bed with no fuss and only took 15 mins.

I'm not going to get too excited yet, he'll prob be awake in 10 mins. I'm def going to keep him in his room all night though. He's had calpol so I know he shouldn't be in pain. Fingers crossed.

Wss sorry, not vik wrt selling, obv

mylife i hope ur not in a bad mood for long!! anything u wana share?
dh I really hope you have a better night, good luck on keeping him in his room.
I got my fingers crossed for a better night too!!
xx

Hope your ok mlisc

viks R snacks a lot too I don't worry as I'm glad she's eating.

chu I agree you shouldn't feel self concious. Although I know what you mean.

wss we thought about a 3rd but keep going back and forth, if we do then I'm stuffed as need to buy from scratch I sold it all.

I saw a mega blocks set for £15 is that good valUe?

FIL has bought R a pink chad valley house for the back garden we asked him to wait till her birthday but he wouldn't. He plans in making it a proper house with kitchen things and seats. He's made plans for her area and everything lol. It is sweet but he's kinf of forgetting the boys feelings. Should I say something? Or am I being precious about the boys?

My Baby Bjorn carrier just sold for 36 quid, I don't think I bought it for that much

mlisc are you feeling better this morning?

Well D stayed in his room from 7:40pm til 7:11am, he woke up.....about 5 times in between but I made sure he went back in his bed everytime. It wasn't as bad as the night before but still quite tiring.

stac do u think the boys understand that he wants to do something nice because she's little, will he be buying them anything? Dont know about the mega blocks but i know D likes duplo, he mostly likes the trains and the people and the cupboards etc but does play with the blocks too.

dh that sounds knackering but its good that you held your resolve, well done! He will soon start to understand that hes going to stay in his own bed, does he cry when he wakes up, how long do u leave him?

D woke again as usual at just after 3 and was awake for just over an hour, i WISH i knew why and what was stopping him from going back to sleep, he's not crying he's talking and moaning a bit, i went in once to give him a dummy and tell him night night but it didnt help much, i really dont get it. He was awake for the day at 6.20,i didnt get him up till 6.50 though. He been doing this for ages now so i can see no reason why he wont be doing it when the baby comes, its gona be a nightmare!
DH has just told me he's got 6 weeks off work from the 17th of Dec..........thats ages.......and ages!!! Is it just me or is it all just a tiny bit easier when your on your own, D seems better behaves when its just me and him, he's plaing as good as gold now but i bet if dh was here he'd be bothering one of us and its usually me!

wss thats a good price then.
Did anyone use a sling with their lo's for around the house, im thinking of getting one but was hoping i could borrow one before i brought one to try it out, i have just remembered that the baby bjorn carrier can't be used till baby is 9lbs, thats why it seemed like ages till we could put D into it, bummer cos i was hoping to use it straight away and keep the icandy for a bit longer.
trudy hows things going? Hope all is well.
mylife are u in a better mood now, what happened yesterday?
chu what was ur night like? How does that work with dh on nights? I take it he has to sleep in the day at some point.

vik sometimes he cries and sometimes he comes into our room. If he cries I wait a few mins but generally if he's got to the crying stage he doesnt go back to sleep on his own.

viksam I would recommend getting a stretchy wrap sling like the Kari-Me, the Moby or the Closer carrier. They're better for your back and the baby's back than the Baby Bjorn and they're great for newborns. I only used it round the house if I needed to make some food or something and couldn't put J down, but I could see myself using it a lot more with no 2.

So J has conjunctivitis and the nursery sent him straight home again (he can't be there with any discharge coming from the eyes). I'm a bit cross as I see no discharge at all today, and I'm having to take annual leave. I dusted off the breast pump last night and bathed his eyes in breastmilk a few times and it seems to have made a miraculous difference.

But now I don't know what to do today. I guess I'd better steer clear of places with babies. I dunno. I'd like to go to parent and toddler group later, and it would also be nice to meet up with friends - but they won't want their DC to catch conjunctivitis. I don't reckon it's contagious any more. oh what to do!

That's strange about your nursery with conjunctivitis, Woodlands! M caught it soon after starting at her nursery, but they were fine with her staying as long as she was being treated. So a quick dash to the doctors at lunchtime with DH to get some eyedrops and she only missed about an hour of time in total and DH and I didn't have to miss any work.

(Getting the eyedrops into a wiggly then 10 month old who made out she was being murdered every time was a different matter entirely...)

There was also a case of Hand, Foot and Mouth at nursery lately, which M seems to have avoided, but they didn't put an exclusion on the children affected. I think the only exclusion I've noticed they follow is Chicken Pox, which is until the spots have scabbed over.

Maybe my nursery is just exceptionally relaxed!

Haha! Even weekends are too long for me vik hence my bad mood yesterday

I'm still pissed off tbh but don't want to get into it because you'll all tell me I should talk to dh about it and I can't/won't.

I also hit a dawning realisation on Saturday night that there is zero point in me looking for a job, because even though he will be there on a morning, nursery still charge a full day because they do the pick up and they're there more than the 4 hours they stipulate as a half day :( I won't be able to walk back into a job after 18 months of unemployment where I can earn £1110/£1200 per month to cover childcare. So I'm looking at another shitty fucking 18 months of this before I'll be able to work :(

Well done for persevering dh, good on you :)

Stac I think it would be unfair for him to not be able to spoil his grandaughter (sp?) I appreciate what you're saying about the boys but won't your sds be bought presents by his grandparents that your ds and dd won't get? It's no different in my opinion.

Classic case of me knowing what I mean but not writing it out...
E will be at pre-school nursery on a morning but private nursery charge full day rates.

Woodlands my nursery is like Spirael's. Is it worth questioning the policy?

Oh and spirael, E caught hand, foot and mouth disease from nursery. He wasn't excluded either.

It's hard isn't it mlisc trying to find a balance between work and child are to make it worthwhile going back to work. I've been thinking what I'm going to do after I've had my next dc.
I've been toying with the idea of training to be a medical secretary like my mum. I can do a course which is evenings only and it takes a year to complete. I may change my mind in the future but a job like that is something I think I'd be good at.

D went down for his nap 10 mins ago, didn't take too long and he didnt fuss. Just hoping it'll last more than half an hour as its been for the past few days.

Childcare*

Sounds depressing mlisc. Things will get easier as they get older though. Try not to wish the time away too much - when you're stuck at a desk in years to come you'll probably look back at these days with rose-tinted spectacles!

Yes, the nursery policy does seem harsh, especially as I think the discharge they saw was probably just a tiny amount of crusty stuff left over from yesterday that I couldn't get him to stay still enough to clean off. I honestly haven't seen any fresh stuff all day. I can understand being strict about excluding for D&V as that is so nasty, but this? really? It seems that J is prone to getting it at the tail end of a cold - you wouldn't expect them to exclude a snotty child, and this is basically the same stuff just coming from a different orifice!