Feb 2011- food food glorious food, all over the walls and some in their tummies!

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Ok bit lame but started a nice new thread cos I put the 1000th post on the last one!

Sorry, needto, x-posted there. That's shocking behaviour from your OH. I couldn't take it, tbh. If he won't go to the doctors to get help, then you either have to put up with it, or stop enabling him. Much sympathy from here.

Needto thats very annoying.My dh is a tiny bit like it and so is my sisters dp-they are having first baby soon. My dh falls asleep as soon as he sits down and is dreadfull at getting up etc.He can literally sleep on a wire.Since we have had D tho he realises its not possible and that he has to share sleep with me and he is very good about it,still ps me off when i look up and his eyes are closed tho.
It sounds as if your dh may have something wrong tho,why doesnt he see the Dr he may have low iron or a vit k deficiency.Is he on anti d's cos they can make you very tired too.It could however be a question of self bloody discipline.Id like a little nap now but need to cary on being Mum for another hour so cant.
tad I remember when Ella started school,a few hrs here and there causing much stress for afull time working single mama ledkr.
I wouldnt mind but the week before she was at nursery from 9-5 most days so was hardly going to find 9-3 a hardship,in fact she was quite annoyed when i collected her

Hi every one

Did bubbas all go to sleep ok? Dh is away on biz so bedtime was going ok until Owen shut Thomas' fingers in the door, que screaming from all 3 of them. All peaceful now, M had his first bottle of formula so hoping for more sleep tonight....at least I know he will have filled his boots at bedtime.

reastie how you doing, fat fighters sounds hilarious. Can you give dh one shift a week where you leave Alice with him for x number of hours and just leave the house. Might give you a rest and him some insight?

Hubbard great news about wedding, hurrah!

mizk I CANNOT believe your dh said that! And lives to tell the tale?!? How was shopping day?

needto dh deffo needs some helps, that's more sleep than anyone needs. I can understand why you're so fed up. Hope he snaps out of it.

Mikey is also The Incredible Non Sleeping Baby, why is he not sleeping through when he eats all day!? I am soooo tired.

Me and the cat are on the sofa watching Telly, can't wait to have bed to myself tonight, so much space!

Am also in a permanent state of excitement as have booked a weekend in Morocco with the girls for Feb! Wooooo, cannot wait! Anyone been and got some top tips - ledkr you're bound to know the Mayor or something....

Halloween emoticone will be back soon, makes me nostalgic for when this was an antenatal thread last year

40 oh how exciting, no tips here sorry, just heard the men there are erm persistent.

needto poor you, that doesn't sound right at all. Must be so difficult if you have tried to get him to the docs but he refuses, would agree with the blood test suggestion in the first instance.

hubbard your dress sounds gorgeous, I'm so looking forward to all these weddings. All my RL friends are pretty much married off now (we're heading to mid 30 ville) so lovely to hear the updates from you all. Not long at all for jane sooo exciting.

No name news from niece yet, apparently she is 9lbs 7 though, ouch. Our nephew is massive too, he's 2 but in 4yr olds clothes, he's clever for 2 but looks really simple cos he's so big, it's funny. N is the runt of the family

40 morocco ? No tips afraid, the closest I've got to Morocco is watching the sex and the city 2 movie

hubbard are you OK over there? How are you coping after all the probs with Tom etc? I hope you're not blaming yourself anymore

ems I forgot to say I'm looking forward to christmas big styleeeee this year . Simply cannot wait. I've imagined a lovely big christmas tree for us in our new sitting room but I fear alice will be crawling around by then so we'll end out having to have one high up and out of reach and it won't look so good . I'm still going on the home made decorations btw

needto to your dh. Is he the sort of person who need infinite amounts of sleep or is this a recent development? It's just if this is a recent thing and not all ben related tiredness then it sounds like it could possibly be related to depression. It is completely wrong that he slept after having that convo with you though - definite rant was required there I feel. Have you spoken about it since?

tad I have pretty much finished what the NHS will offer me CBT wise. I have one more catch up one in 3 weeks but that's it. Tbh I'm struggling with doing my homework from that, and my homework from fat fighters, and being tired, and looking after alice, and feeling so down - I feel like I can never get anything done properly and have no idea where to start with anything . Hopefully the holiday will do us good and more time between alice and dh. Mind you, even DH taking alice for a few hours (a la 40s suggestion) never really fully lets dh realise how things take its toll as it's the build up over weeks/months isn't it.

jane how is that new mindee doing?

deb did you see what I did there with the line crossing [proud]

Morning all,another shit night here.She seems to be worse if anything.
Was up till 10 but thats cos i accidentally let her sleep too late.Then woke at 4am had a bottle then woke once more was patted back off and then up at 6! Getting ridiculous now.Dh got up cos it was his turn but im fuming this morning cos when i get up i keep really quiet and he sleeps well past 10.When its my turn he makes no effort to keep them quiet and i was woken at 7 by Ella playing with Dilly in the noisyest manner (i think she does it deliberatly)I told him i wouldnt be keeping quiet when its his turn tomorrow,i might have a little disco

Im guessing the time may be approaching for a spot of sleep training,as we cant go on like this much longer really.
Can i ask those of you still cursed with bad sleepers,are you still feeding during the night?
40 Sounds fabbo. Ive only ever had one girls hol and i loved it.Dont know Morroco or the gentry but my sis has just come back she loved it but it was very hot in August.

Im off to research sleep training methods,cant believe my last baby is giving me such grief,she'd have been an only child if the first.

Oh btw,all those with dh probs,mine was diy ing last night,i took E to dancing,cooked a chilli and wedges,sorted out Dilly,went back out at 7 to pick up Ella,id been awake since 5am so was struggling.At 7.30 dinner was a bit burnt,Ella needed to eat,id bathed D and she was moaning so i called to him to come and help for 5 mins.
Well he then sarcastically asked me "how did you cope when you were with ex,surely he did diy?" Well my ex left me when Ella was 8 months so its a sore point and he knows it.I ended up in tears and i could tell he felt dreadfull. I asked him "what did you do before you met me and were doing diy,did you have to cook for yourself?"
They can be such twats sometimes cant they?

ledkr dh is a twat! But men speak before they think Hope you are ok.

We just had some bad news, df's granny is dieing. She has a burst bowel and they can't operate as the anaesthetic will kill her because she is so weak and frail. I hope she is not in pain.

Morning all,

Sorry to those of you with bad sleepers. R seems to be coming through it (famous last words!) and slept 7:30 - 6 today then we forced her back to sleep in our bed for an hour. Going to have to change that soon though as only 6 weeks til I'm back at work and need to get up about 6am!

Jane Sorty to hear about DF's gran. I hope you get to spend some time with het before she goes.

reastie I bet a hol will do you a world of good. A change from the normal routine will help you all, even Alice!

40 Haven't been to Morrocco so no advice. But suspect you may need to take some Alka-Selzer!

Sending you hugs needto DH sounds like he's being a twunt although agree he should probably see a dr if he has history. Maybe you could suggest he goes for a walk instead of taking a nap?

Baby sensory was fab yesterday despite the fact that R bullied ran rings round the other babies. I remember when we started and she was the teeny one and I was terrified of the babies who crawled around the middle and over to other children. Now she's one of the older ones and it's just so cute. I had actual tears the first time she crawled into the middle of the circle.

No plans today which is throwing me a bit, it's a nice day though so I might try and have a big long walk.

reastie a bit late to the party (as per usual) but my score on the Edinburgh scale is currently 7, and when I was 'diagnosed' with PND (as in GP said here's a prescription), it was 15. So with an 18, and by the others things you have been writing, you really should see a Dr. Just because you felt better after a class, doesn't mean you don't have it. Everybody's emotions go up and down dependent on a variety of factors, but really the diagnosis of any kind of depression is about the departure from your 'norm', not about whether you feel cr@p 100% of the time. That's why the scale talks about 'less than usual' or 'more than usual'. A person with depression doesn't necessarily loaf around on the sofa sobbing all day every day (in fact probably very few do). For me, sometimes the 'highs' made the lows feel worse, as it was all such a let down (i.e. oooh I'm making progress, that went really well, I feel fine, to oh no it isn't it's all cr@p and I was stupid to think it wasn't).

Sorry, that's a bit long.

jane sorry to hear about DH's nan, hope she's not in too much pain.

Ledkr booo to DH not getting it at all. We've had an interesting week as DH has done the nursery pick-ups, and had a day off on Tuesday, and although he has done really well with everything, I think it has been a surprise to him how much time and stress it is, as we are for the first time doing what I would truly call 'shared parenting' (i.e. closer to 50/50). Sometimes we are both totally p'd off but it's all better when we just admit that it's hard for both of us.

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Dilly has cut her first tooth,its in the right place too which can be aworry for cleft babies.I am hoping that explains her vileness the last few nights

jane ruptured bowel gosh! Poor thing,because they know she is terminal they will go heavy with the medication and she will be painfree.
Sorry mate x

ledkr yay for dilly's tooth! Hope she (and you) gets some relief now.
She is dosed up on painkillers and antibiotics, they are giving her a couple of days. I have after school mindees in just now and they are all running wild I just can't cope with them today. I need to be with df.
It is my best friends wedding on Saturday and I'm not sure if we will make it, I will feel terribely guilty and sad if we can't go. Such a shitty day! Got to go and tame the kids.

Jane surely you should still go to the wedding especially if its your bf,see granny lots either side but take some time out as well.
Its horrible seeing your partner upset,i remember my exh gp dies and i worked in a vile job that gave me no time off,he was the only one at the hosp without a partner.
My Nan goes into her new home on Monday,its really nice,has a separate flat type thing but communal areas and nursing staff to hand.I think she will love it.Very confused today tho,asked me what Dilly called me,i think she though it was another relative.
Oh there she goes again moany pants,speak soon x

Thanks ledkr Thats good that you nan will like it, Df granny is very confused too. She doesn't have a clue who we are when we visit, poor wee soul she is so very frail only weighs 5 stone and is very tiny. I hope she doesn't suffer. 2 of the mindees gone now, just have my mates wee boy now he is sitting here watching scooby doo !

I really don't know about the wedding, we can't go if she passes away on Saturday.

Jane poor you and DF, yes I agree with ledkr, they will dose her up really well and she'll be nice and comfy, hope you two are okay, thinking of you both.

lekdr nans home sounds really nice, hope she makes some nice new pals there.

reastie you reminded me that emski asked about advent things and I meant to have a look to see where we got our little buckets from, sorry Ems will try to remember. I too am excited about Christmas, is it sad or okay to dress the babies in those santas little helpers or little christmas pud outfits? I can't wait to buy him a little stocking.

I'm going out tonight, 3rd time in 7 months, how cool am I?

Rock and roll borg i cant wait till my big one in brum especially as i will be skillfully avoiding the pils
Can i get this out of the way now,I hate xmas.I used to love it but when ex left me i had to get thru xmas soon afterwards and now it represents hard work and money to me.Its a shame really cos its our anniversary on xmas eve so it should be a happy time.I am determined to start to enjoy it this year tho.Have started by saying to my kids that if they come for lunch they each have to cook a veg and bring it to warm up,i have so many every year and get no time to sit with the younger kids and look at their presents.My oven is small so its a juggling act etc.I will have at least 12 so its quite alot.
Prob be quite tight this year without my wages too.
Bah humbug

Jane, sorry about df gran, she will not be in any pain, it's still awful to see them like it though isn't it?

Ledkr, yep, dh's are generally crap, my dh tries but always needs to ask me questions. He called me from in laws the other week to ask me when Noah needed his milk feeds and meals. His mum knew more than he did! Just shows how little he does round here! Congrats on Dillys first tooth, hopefully explains her restless nights.

Borg, ive decided to make jam for everyone for Xmas to go with their proper presents. The advent calendar seemed a bit beyond my skills! Our NCT group all dressed our babies up in Xmas outfits for their first xmas' when Ben was a baby! It was great fun! We dressed Ben up as a reindeer for his second Xmas and made it into a card to send out! Poor child!

Reastie, I had a low score on the test but know I used to get really high scores on the tests my CBT therapist asked me to do. I watched the scores get lower each week I saw her. I think you really need to consider anti D's. I hated the idea of going on them but don't think I would have survived without them. Please go to your gp, I'm worried about you.

Choc, I hate days when have nothing planned and tomorrow is one of those days! I think a few walks are in order to get us through the day!

40, am jealous of your trip to Morocco next year! Am itching to book a holiday but dh had asked me to curb my spending, whoops!

Hubbard, congrats on organising your wedding. Hope Tom is better and stops worrying you soon.

Have had two school visits this week in preparation for Ben next year. Where we live all the schools are over subscribed so finding it all a bit stressful, and emotional to think Ben will be starting school next year. I feel like freaking out!

Something to make you all chuckle, Ben looked at dh the other day and asked him what the hole was in his tummy - it was his belly button. Me and dh had to try really hard not to burst out laughing!

Ah Ledkr, we've invited the in laws the last two years and as mil likes to be in charge she has had the joy of cooking the dinner!! Dh helped last year and really enjoyed it. He has only cooked once again since then!

I'm so excited it's ridiculous!

ems Id rather go away tbh,i did once with Ella,we were on the beach xmas day and had chips,she wasnt even 2 so i didnt even mention it her present was a 2 week holiday in the caribean

Am really going to try and like it tho. Its probably linked to my marriage breaking down tbh,i had ex here as i was working xmas eve so needed him and also for the kids to feel normal.It was horrendous,he clearly didnt want to be here and kept texting the ow i presumed,it was the saddest ive ever felt.
I took myself off to some friend for new year and had a great time but was the only single so still sad.By midnight most opf the couples had rowed tho and i felt all smug as i snuggled up in bed with my baby Ella and thanked the lord i wasnt married. Maybe i should have cbt too.
Im going to reduce the spending and re think the work load and try to relax this year.

borg I already have Alice at least 3 christmas outfits . It's perfectly fine in my book to dress them as christmas puddings - do it while you can before they have things like opinions

jane . Can you play it by ear re: the wedding. Your friend will understand Im sure. You could always go to the service and then not the do after?

ledkr yay for the tooth. See - with cc this is what I worry about - how will I know alice is crying for a reason or not

ems for you being worried about me. I'm leaving it until we get back from holiday - see how that goes. Yes ladies, you will be reastie free for a week from saturday bet you can't wait . Oh, and ems I did jam for pressies one year . I've also done home made mincemeat, christmas cakes, and goodness knows what else. This year it's decorations.

Ledkr, my BFF if going to visit his mum and stepdad in Canada for Xmas this year and has said we could go too. The temptation is huge but I dont think dh would go and I would feel a bit guilty about the rellies not seeing the boys!

Am looking forward to starting to make my own jam Reastie, and am tempted to try little Christmas cakes too!

We'll miss you when your away Reastie. I'm worried because I can remember feeling that terrible and it was an awful feeling. I wish I was your friend in rl so I could come round for a cuppa and a cuddle!

Evening all, really feel like I haven't has two seconds for the past few days. Haven't seen Mr W much and my patience is beginning to slightly fray re having to organise everything for this weekend. He asked me in the 20 mins I did see him last night who was watching the dog while we were away It was not a pleasant conversation .

jane so sorry about dfs granny, it very sad to see someone you love get seemingly so old so quickly especially if they lose a lot of weight. Its hard to concentrate on anything when you are waiting on a phonecall don't be too hard on yourself re tv watching mindees or the wedding on Sat xxxx.

Emski

I thought I had lost Sofias school reading book today, she gave it to me last night when I was tucking them in and I went to put my hand on it this morning and no joy. Have to admit was absolutely crapping myself all day, had visions of me inadvertantly putting it in the bin (I'm slightly scared of her teacher and Sofia takes homework very seriously ). Found it tonight on the top shelf of Olivias' wardrobe - obviously I had it in my hand while I was putting some clothes away

Another huge Christmas lover here, not that I make anything food or craft like - my Mum does dinner, we used to alternate between inlaws and mine but inlaws new bungalow isn't big enough for us all

wiggles glad you are a fellow non xmas craft person,its people like reastie and ems who ,ake me partly hate it
I feel pressured to make home made stuffing and brandy butter and xmas cakes,i havent got the time or inclination but still feel inadequate when i pour water on my paxo

Ella has to learn spellings for tomorrow but she hasnt brought the book home and also she had hysterics Tuesday cos of no swimming hat resulting in me nearly breaking my neck getting into town to get her one and she got the day wrong,what was it we were saying about things getting easier

I am defo not doing cc whilst she is teething so dont fret reast i will probably never do it to be honest.

Thanks girls, as always.

I am really not looking forward to Christmas this year. Last year we were so full of hope for the future and so excited about spending this christmas at home as a family with Zoe. I think I will let the day and festivities pass me by this year.

emski at Ben and the belly button.

Evening all,

Well I smell of sick , poor Imy's cold has been on her chest all day and this evening as I was reading her bedtime story she vomited about a gallon of sick all over me, her bed and the floor. Cleaned up, then had to change her bedding 2 more times and pjs 3 more as she kept being sick again and again. Poor little mite, I tried to keep her up with me and read a book until the sickness passed but she kept climbing off the sofa and going back to bed! Think she's asleep now.

Thought S cut a tiny bit of tooth as well today but now I'm not so sure.

I am also super excited about Christmas, any of you been on the Christmas board, there's a great thread about homemade stuff. I've already made raspberry vodka, some chutney my dad's coming tomorrow with 24lbs of crabapples off his tree for me to make crabapple jelly with! Been reading about a MN tradition where the elves come on xmas eve and bring a hamper with New Xmas PJ's, a xmas dvd, some hot chocolate and maybe a bath bomb, genius hey? We are SO doing that this year.

jane so sad about DF's gran, I hope she's comfortable and doesn't linger too long, that always seems so cruel.

reastie I'll miss you too, come back quick! Where are you going again?