Feb 2011- food food glorious food, all over the walls and some in their tummies!

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Ok bit lame but started a nice new thread cos I put the 1000th post on the last one!

hi hubbard i was wondering sbout you last night.Glad all seems good with you and congrats on the engagement.
Are Toms nose bleeds from his injurys?Is he healing well?
Lots of us are having sleep probs at the moment with our bundles of joy,I find myself wiashing the baby stage away which is a shame but i need my sleep so much.

Well girls a better night i guess as no wakings but still up at 5.10 fell back to sleep on the bottle so i tried to snuggle her back down with me which lasted all of 10 mins so up at 6.Dh didnt come in until late and seemed to assume that he had the divine right to sleep on but tonight i am taking the entire night and morning off as he has had his leisure time so will i

hubbard thats great news! The 2 years will zoom past!

ledkr Im glad you had a better night.

reastie Sorry you are not feeling great. I would go to the docs and let them make an assessment for you. sending you some hugs x

Hi Hubbard I'm with you on the lack of sleep - and we still have no teeth here. Not sure what's going on, but i'm back in the foggy newborn-sleepless feeling. He's moany all day too - nightmare, isn't it? I'm not sure what else to try re. teething, my mum has sent out an amber necklace in desperation, so i'll report back (it looks super cute anyway :) )

ledkr thanks for the 'this too shall pass' and i'm looking forward to later stages now... got a while to go yet tho!

reastie I got a 12 on that questionnaire, and I feel fine most of the time. If you think you need to, ask for help - no-one will mind! I asked a friend to come round and watch K while I had a bath etc and it did wonders. We are so much more 'separate' that previous generations (not living in caves and so on!) so this stage is hard. Call in favours!

Tooth count - 0

Byron-I wonder whats wrong with them all?Its not a particularly regressive age i dont think.No teeth here either,i dont think my others had them till late either.Dilly is moany much of the day really,gets alot worse around 4/5 onwards and untill bedtime its just a passing time exercise.A later bedtime stil meant an early wake up so im just going to get her down early every night and me and dh take it in turns to get up early so it does feel more bearable.
I am so glad she is my last baby tho. Add to the moaning the clingyness i am now having and its all much worse,she literally crawls after me crying arrrrrgh.

hubbard great news re: wedding. Are you going to be wearing the dress you already have? So that's jane needto AND hubbard now getting married - I'll have to buy 3 hats

thanks for pnd score feedback, any more appreciated if you do the questionnaire. I have to admit I don't think I've felt this down (in a depression way) for years (I had depression a long time ago). I cried myself to sleep last night and had that 'i wish i didn't exist' feeling which i haven't had for a long long time . I'm wondering if it's pmt like ledkr had though so I'll see how it progresses in the next few weeks and if it improves when I get dreaded AF. I think DH is trying but we are both tired and he can't understand emotional things (honestly it sometimes feels like he's emotionally autistic or something)

ledkr glada last night was bit better

reastie I agree with ledkr,motherhood is a massive shock and adjustment to your way of life. My coping method has been to just try and accept it, not fight it but resign myself to that's how it is now and try and make the most of it. Worded like that it doesn't sound positive at all but I am truly happy and content, despite DH's famed crapness. I do have my off days but they are few and far between.

Gosh I sound fatuous and annoying, I am relentlessly cheerful aren't I. It does of course help that I can put my children to bed at 7pm and not see them again till 7.30am, thus getting an evening and a good night's sleep, which makes all the difference.

ledkr's right- have a good laugh too, it will brighten everything up a bit. I got the giggles at S pulling her poo face at dinner last night, we all laughed for ages and felt better afterwards.

hubbard good to hear from you, sounds like it's hard work in your house ATM with the non sleeping. Hope all goes well with Tom, must be a worry for you. But CONGRATULATIONS on getting married at last, have you set a date?

ledkr glad you got a better(ish) night, have you anything planned for your morning off or will you just catch up on the zzzzzzs?

Had a weird night here, Imy kept wakig crying and confused, went in to her 4 times before midnight (then put my earplugs in ). I calpolled her in the end cos her nose was running down her face (yuk). Hope she's ok this morning.

REASTIE THIS IS FOR YOU!! If you want to cross out sentences like this you can just put the 2 dashes at either end of the sentence like this and it crosses the whole lot out! Will save you some typing.

X post with everyone!

reastie I got a 4 in the test. I feel a bit embarrassed saying that...

byron so sorry you're also tired out with a misery guts of a baby.

deb how did you know i did them word by word i wonder if this will work

wow, it's a revelation - it would have taken me ages to do that old reastie style

Deb-are you sure your not high?

I alwaqys think wiggles is unshakeable and so matter of fact if she's been up all night so there must be something in what you say.
The trying to be responsible for everyone rings a bell too.I take on everyones problems,
Yesterday i had ex sil ring for advice re deliquent teen girl.Ds2 cant pay rent so i had to lend them money even tho im skint myself,ds2 is ill and im helping him with all that. Nan is going into a home so tomorrow we are packing and moving her stuff.All unavoidable but means i get little time just for me. That is why i now take some time for myself to drink or mn or see friends etc.I am no longer trying to have ashowhome cos its a waste of time and dh can damn well see to his only child thru the night cos I DONT WANT TO

reastie listen to mama ledkr

Not high just annoyingly relentlessly cheerful , just imagine what I'd be like after a few! (asleep)

reastie it's cos the individual words were crossed out

debka don't think I didn't note that you have also lived in slovenia, and your sleuth-like abilities caught reastie out.

hubbard congratulations to you and DH, how lovely. Hope Tom okay, I used to get millions of nosebleeds when little and nowt was wrong, I think kids often do but I picked my nose

reastie and others, can't add to the superior advice of the others on here, but no harm in getting to the GP (find a nice sympathetic one and double book her last appointment so you get extra time). I haven't done the test as in a weird debka mood but probably due to lack of sleep high.

I suppose one advantage of Nate having never slept is that I am so used to it it doesn't bother me. Thought last night was good - up at 10, 2, 5 and then 7. In bed with me from 5. See! My standards are just really low so I am always quite happy with him!

tad happy birthday to Ed!

We have a new niece, no names or weights yet, waiting to hear....

Morning ladies. Just a quick one as DD1 has inset day so we are off for shopping and lunch soon...
reastie I did that quiz thing and got a score of 5, and like everyone I feel fed up sometimes so if you are scoring 18 things must be very difficult. Not very good with advice BUT from the sounds of things you seem to feel pressure to be a perfect mum and housewife, which is asking an awful lot of yourself. Your DH won't die if he has to eat beans on toast or a takeaway for dinner now and again so maybe ease off on cooking and cleaning a bit? I think the docs would be able to help, its what they're there for. Sorry if advice is crap but I really feel quite worried for you and you arent alone you have the Feb ladies in your corner :)
hubbard yay for getting married, exciting! you and jane can both put lots of pretty wedding pics up whoop! Hope Tom is OK soon x
We are having horrid nights at the min like so many others. DP really was lucky to escape with his life the other day at 6am - after I had been up since 4 with Cass and finally snapped and said GET UP WITH HER!!! - he then said 'I think the reason she doesnt sleep through is your moodiness'. Nearly killed him. Sometimes I genuinely feel I can't take any more of this no sleep nonsense, it sucks. Kind of helps that lots of us are going through it so I don't feel completely desperate.
Right, got to go, wave to everyone and hope good days are had by all....

MizK "your moodiness" , I'd have feckin' lamped him, have a lovely day today.

WeAreBorg I'm with you - low standards = happy surprises Lovely news about your niece, let us know about names, I've become obssessed with baby names recently, I think its because I'm not going to be picking any more.

hubbard congratulations, really pleased the christening went so well, have you got photos?

We had an ok night last night just a few wakings (set the bar nice and low), but we had a horrific morning Anna has literally squealed from 8.30 this morning until about 30 mins ago, I couldn't comfort her at all, she settled down when we came in from getting O from school and has been great since, eating her lunch etc, but this morning was very difficult. Today is S gymnastics day so I have to cart them all to the gym and hang about for an hour, usually its O who gives me the behaviour sweats but A is giving her a run for her money today.

Thanks all, you are so supportive. I had my fat fighters this morning. Nearly didn't go as I felt like crying the whole time. Nearly cried through the whole talk (btw I didn't lose any weight at the weight in ) but did the exercise bit and LOVED it - felt so much better after. So now I have no idea if I have pnd or what - surely if I was depressed I wouldn't feel chirpy like that after a gym class? Still feel the tears are behind my eyes (that doesn't really make sense does it) though. I'm debating joining the local leisure centre gym but not sure when I'll be able to go. I did the quiz again today though ti see if I scored lower if I was in a better mood as I might perceive things more positively - turns out it's still a big fat 18 .

FWIW with night wakings I find as a bfer it's harder to settle alice without feeding her. She can smell the milk and goes crazy for a feed whether she needs it or not. So if I'm up in the night with her I always end out feeding her when she doesn't really need it but DH can settle her without. We are prob of each other!

wiggles at anna and moaner (I much prefer anna the banana )

mizk maybe you should dump C with dh and see how he manages to settle her at night without any moodiness

oh, I fogot to give you my fat fighters fill in . The gym class was great - no one else had ever set foot in a gym before and given alot of them were a bit elderly they got really confused by everything. We had an old biddie doing weights while still wearing her coat and a rather well endowed lady exercising braless which was not a sight I wish to repeat . Oh, and I got called the star pupil by the gym instructor [smug]

Haha reastie, fat fighters does sound v funny (you teachers pet, you). fwiw exercise releases endorphins which make you happy/ier so thats prob why you feel good after the gym class - my mate is a complete gym bunny but more b'cos she feels crappy if she doesn't go than wanting to be super fit, I think you should def join the local gym and make time to go - its 2 hours max really if you include shower and getting there and back? By make time to go I mean make time for your dh to have A, he should get a better understanding of how hard it can be looking after a little one. For me, motherhood is the hardest 'job' I've ever had I scored 12 btw.

hubbard hope T is ok, congrats on the marriage (to come!) and glad the christening went well.

MizK I cannot believe what your dh said - your moodiness oh my god Agree with reastie, let hm settle her as he is clearly so mood free... hope you have a nice day shopping.

choco and emski I was in torchwood touchwood on Sat with mother ponyo! So true about annoying solihull types, John Lewis cafe is a good place for slagging people off people watching

Well am pleased to report dd slept much better last night, a few wakings with some crying but managed to settle her ok, she was awake at 6 but managed to leave her til gone 6.30 Its amazing what a difference a better nights sleep makes, I feel for those on a few nights of bad sleep.

Oh and dp was throwing up this morning, not good, but at least we've all had it now and he's clearly on the mend as I'm doing veggie sausages, hash browns (both from freezer) and tinned spaghetti for lunch (this is the kind of food you should be doing reastie ) and he wants some :)

Hello everyone else, have read but got to go and check the oven...

ponyo I am planning baked potato with cheese/beans for dinner. If DH is lucky he'll get a quorn sausage too . I'm so glad A was a bit better.

I forgot another great bit from fat fighters - we were talking about what excercise we had done in the week and one lady said she had walked around sainsburys

at reasties fat fighters report. It's amazing what people class as exercise isn't it. I agree with ponyo, exercise endorphins are brilliant and I think some trials have found them to be as effective as antideps for some people. Chortling at the biddy exercising in her coat, bless. I used to go to the gym when pregnant, and it was usually at the same time the elderly gents from the GPs exercise on prescription class went. They were always really concerned about me, even though they always looked about to have a heart attack.

Mizk serves you right for being so moody. Hmph.

Will get round to doing the quiz shortly, N has sidled over to my feet and is pawing at me like a puppy. Cute. Sort of.

I got 8 in the test.

Oh yes, forgot to say, N is saying dadada, and some words that DH has confirmed as being Klingon.

at Nate being fluent in klingon! I love your descriptions of Nate borg.

reastie your fat fighters sounds hilarious, although you have given me some horrible visions of old braless ladies jumping around!

ponyo Glad A is better.

reastie i scored 19 on that test, the same as i did nearly 2 yrs ago just after dad died, i just seem to have dark moments and good moments. Generally i'm still pretty numb.
The date we've set is the 28th sept 2013. Yep i'll still be wearing the same dress i bought 2 years ago. It's a gorgeous antique gold strapless dress with lace overlay. It will need to be altered as it's a little big but thats not a big problem. Our colour scheme is going to be gold, chocolate, green, orange, red, hot pink and yellow. Very warm and colourful.
at fat fighters report reastie.
Mizk i would of told dh exactly where to get off. The cheek.
Freya has got a right cold this morning. Not a happy bunny. Has dozed the majority of time on me so i haven't done anything. Starting to feel snotty myself. Maybe time for a lemsip

REASTIE sounds hilarious. I was going to say stop doing dh all this bloody good food,i cook from scratch mostly but never too proud to have fishcakes or pizza,and Ella loves it when i do fish fingers and chips.

wiggs I get the behaviour sweats too,had to say to dh "get her off me" earlier as she was whinging and i was having one of my big sweats.
I seem to have spent my life hanging around dancing changing rooms with a babies on my hip.With ds3 i was single mum so couldnt afford the petrol back and forth so me and baby Ella had to sit in the carpark in my car and eat biscuits.

mizk reastie probably recalls the time during my pregnancy when dh mentioned that i had been "moody lately" bastard.

Went food shopping with Dilly in the trolley,she managed to consume one of those pink n whites,the wafers with marshmallow in,she was in such a mess,she has defo been less moany today but if she spots me or dh she squeals and trys to drag herself towards us but cant go quickly enough and ends up crying with frustration,poor baby.

Hello all,

Have skim read last posts and reastie really feel for you, if you're feeling tearful most of the time I think it's time to see the doc, there's no shame at all, if you had a physical thing you'd get antibiotics or something and ads are antibiotics for the mood Love your description of fat fighters, sounds so funny!

Congratulations to Hubbard brilliant news, love the sound of your dress, any pics?

Permission to rant please?

I'm so so fed up with OH, I love him but I cant stand him at the moment. He's so incredibly lazy and I've given up being angry as it's too tiring to keep up. I really don't know what else to do, this afternoon we had a chat about the amount he sleeps (he's had 2 naps today as had the day off to take B to hospital for scan which was fine). He agreed he sleeps too much and that he would get up at 7 each morning from now on with no naps (at the moment he gets up at 8:30 and leaves for work at 8:45), then he decided to have a lie down about twenty minutes after! I woke him to ask him to feed B but he just kept saying give me 10mins.... so I fed B. Sorry, this is all so boring to read, just needed to vent. He has a history of depression and think it might be related but he won't see a doctor. I'm so fed up. Oh and I took the test thing and scored 20 but know it's due to anxiety rather than depression. Will be upping my meds soon I think.

Hello all, thanks for all the birthday wishes for Edward - he had a lovely time at the pizza play centre and got some lovely presents. Americans are so generous!

Sorry you are feeling so down reastie - doctors often like you to get exercise to help with your mood, as well as talking therapies. Have you finished the CBT yet? Samuel is a right milk fiend at the moment too, and every time he wakes up, I have to settle him. Part of my PND last time was to do with constant feeding. I scored 4 btw, which is such a contrast to how I felt with Edward. I needed the help, and I am not ashamed to say it really did the trick.

Hubbard, congratulations on the wedding. Hope Tom's nose bleeds get better. Anna gets them too, nearly missed a flight home from Philadelphia once because it went on for over 20 mins! Hope Freya gets better too.

I can't believe your husband said that MizK. Next time she wakes up, tell him you can't possibly settle her as you are in such a mood.

I hope all babies sleep better today and go down nicely after their baths. Off to pick Anna up after her two hours of school.