Hello. Think i was first to deliver off the September EDD thread so waving to see if anyone else out there yet to join me :)
Had my 2nd DD on 26aug by C-sec. We now home but struggling with BF and baby lost 10% body weight in 3days. Started to top up with formula in syringe to try give cracked. Bleeding nipples a rest, but milk is starting to drip out now leaking everywhere! Hoping for a better night tonight after 3nights of hourly feeds and snatching 2-3hrs of sleep.
Anyone else struggling too?
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ssmile · 29/08/2011 19:36
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feralgirl ·
17/09/2011 22:09
Thanks for the birth story 100years, it sounds like you had a really positive experience - very similar to how things went with DS for me a few years ago.
Jimmi, sorry to hear about the colic; DS was a bugger for it and howled all evening for months. It is such a trial and, as Ssmile said, just exhausting and horrible to know that they're uncomfortable.
DS (2.9) has also been having a bit of a rough time of it the last couple of weeks I think. He's started nursery as well as getting a new sister and his potty training has regressed to the point where you'd think we'd never started. His behaviour's a bit wayward too, more likely to have tantrums.
DH has mainly been responsible for him while I've got DD and he's not brilliant at dealing with DS when he's in a grump which is making it worse. DH is a bit quick to lose his rag with DS and doesn't really realise just how angry he sounds when DS is playing up. I hate listening to it; as a teacher I'm really used to not losing my rag with people when they don't do what I want them to. Thing is, I know it's going to be really hard when DH goes back to work on Thursday and I keep getting myself really worked up about it. 
100years ·
18/09/2011 18:19
LO is very placid in the day, sleeps well after about 11 or midnight but in the evening for a few hours she turns into a feed me monster, almost cluster feeding and I think she is a bit windy too. She does settled for a time. But seems to feed loads more in the eve than at any other time and doesn't settle half as well. She had daddy time last night for an hour so I could have a snooze to last me till she slept properly at 11:30 but then had a 90 min sleep, a 3hr 30 sleep and another couple of 90 min sleeps. Odd. She was always awake in the evening in my tum, might just be the way she is. Might be a wind problem. We're working on how to ease it for her when she's like it.
Mw thinks her gums are full of teeth. They do look like there is the outline of teeth there but she's not looking like it's a problem at the moment !
Gone onto real nappies now! Wow. Good luck us. First one full of poo and then more poo during the changing! All over it. Fun fun fun 
My episiotomy wound feels loads better, will get the verdict tomorrow from the mw, no longer think that OH will never go near that area again! Lol. So that's got to be an improvement. Also fever has gone and boob soreness went after a good massage :)
Hope your all doing ok now. On phone so it's tricky.
Totally un mn hugs for ssmile for the fed up day and feral for DH going back to work and jimmi for possible colic. And anyone else I've missed.
I must admit I'm wondering about colic and will ask mw. But will see how this evening is too.
feralgirl ·
18/09/2011 20:34
Jimmi, I think the advice re introducing bottles (or dummies) is to wait until 6 weeks but I doubt it'll hurt so long as you're still BFing most of the feeds and I have read things written by people who mix feed who said that nipple confusion was never a problem for them. The night feeds are the most important while you're still establishing BFing as that's when your body produces the most prolactin so I expect you'll be fine.
100years, I never realised with DS that the insane feeding frenzy in the evenings was normal and it used to really wind me up that I never got to eat a hot meal! He used to get colicky as well but having a bath tended to help him a bit. DD does do evening cluster feeds but she's nowhere near as bad as DS was. I guess it's the pay off for having them sleep slightly longer periods at night (although DS didn't do that much either!)
I'm having a crappy weepy day today; I attempted to get DS ready for bed while also looking after DD and it all went a bit pear-shaped and then DH didn't really 'get it' when I tried to explain to him how stressful it is listening to your baby cry while also dealing with your toddler
feralgirl ·
18/09/2011 20:38
And to hear about your horrid day ssmile but - and I'm really sorry - I did 
when I read about you cooking roast chicken and then realising you didn't have a chicken!
Minkyjj ·
19/09/2011 01:59
Hello ladies. Haven't been on for a while and couldn't connect to the new thread set up for the ladies still to deliver. Congrats to all the new babies and mummies I have missed in the last few days. We are doing well. LO feeding well and milk came in 2.5 days after csection. The wind issue is now kicking in with him and midwife is suggesting infacol although I don't think it's working (dd&ds1 both had reflux and colic so just waiting for that to hit).
On the dummy debate - both my dcs had a dummy early on. Both were bf and all I can say is that it really helped with the colic phase and also babies that needed to comfort suck. I got rid of dummies at 6 months - few nights of crying/no sleep but by then we were more able to handle it and that way never had later problem of dummy addiction. I also gave dcs a bottle after a couple of weeks so that I had the option and it was fine and didn't upset the bf. the midwives on the ward were very supportive when I went in this time as is home midwife - think they realise that when youre onto number 3 you have tried many things and go with what works for you. To all first time mummies my only advice really is that nobody has all the answers, you know your baby and your situation better than anyone and if there was a real right or wrong then the advice midwives and health visitors give would not change year by year. In the nine years since dd was born the advice has changed so much that if I tried to raise dc3 the way I did with dc1 I would be considered a bad parent !
On the tmi front - I am day 5 post csection and the pain involved in going for a poo is excruciating feeling like my internal stitches are about to burst. Hope the other Csectioners (sounds like a prison term) are fairing better on that front ! Prunes and lactulose for me tomorrow me thinks 
100years ·
19/09/2011 15:02
Un MN Hugs for bumpy, hope you manage to get LO settled and sorted.
Jimmi, yeah I know what you mean about poking before a feed, get them all fed and comfy then have to change them and disturb the niceness of a full baby! No it's not wrong that you are looking forward to DTD, I am too. Yeah loo roll is always a subject of 'how much are you using' and since birth I've obviously used far more than I usually do, but it's getting less now. I personally have no bother getting my breasts out, I used to, but even though they are bloody massive I'm fine with it - so far, it's only been family here and MWs, but have a friend over tomorrow and will feed in the front room then.
feral, I spoke to the MW about the feeding frenzy today, she said was it between 7 and midnight, which it is, it's all to do with the milk being slightly nicer and better at that time and they love it so much, it's very common. I've taken to having my food by me at that point, and having it cut up by OH if it's something that requires cutting and just eating one handed.
Minky, thanks for the info re dummies, I am not sure if we will need one, but it's nice to know from someone that it didn't affect BF.
MW checked my episiotomy cut and it is still gaping, but she says it's only skin and not muscle and so is quite happy with ti, but won't discharge us yet, will come and observe it next monday and see how it is then before discharging us. But it feels soooo much better now.
LO has gone from 6lb9 to 7lb2 on day 10 :) So I am really happy with that, good weight gain and feeding very well! Slept well through the night, she was asleep for 3 1/2 hrs at one point last night.
Been out for a trip today, went to the shops 
I actually managed to drive too, which was nice.
summerpixie ·
21/09/2011 03:08
Hi, welcome and congrats to all the new mummies and babies.
Past week has been tiring with expressing milk and insomnia after waking at 3am to feed DD and pump. So having had a bit of a despair cry today due to lack of milk supply I ordered an ameda pump from amazon paying more for next day del. Went off and had a nap after that whilst DH took DS swimming. DD woke up from nap only to latch on and have a good 45min feed! I will keep the pump anyway as I'll be going back to work in may and want to build up a freezer store for my mum to have when she takes over care of my DD.
DH returns to work in the morning and I have my first school run. I'm slightly worried about it as DS spends an hour eating breakfast! And I'll have to feed DD before we leave too and the school is quite a distance away. As DH has to leave at 530 am he is sleeping in DS bed whilst I am in bed with the 2 kids which is nice as I have more room . I fell asleep feeding DD earlier and she fed for an hour but my boobs still hurt a bit so I am expressing at the moment and catching up on here.
I hope your DD1 has been a bit easier ssmile. Is she FT at reception yet? DS went ft from day one and has been really cranky before and after school but I think that is partially him playing up to DH who has been demonstrating preferential treatment towards his little princess!
Hope you sort out your parents visit from
Oz bumpy. My parents are planning their trip to HK and have told me they intend to go in October. There I was thinking I would have my emotional crutch/homehelp until November!
Hope those underweight babies get big soon. My DD managed to put on 100g in 3days after I introduced one 3oz formula feed a day so there is light at the end of what seems a long tunnel.
Anyway I'd better finish this pumping and get some sleep in before the school manic.
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feralgirl ·
21/09/2011 13:59
ssmile, I am at yours and your DH's definitions of a 'good night'; to me, I am getting amazing sleep as DD is going from 11pm - 3am (big 1 hour feed) - 7am but I'm sure that if DH had to be awake for an hour in the middle of the night being pooed and puked on then he'd be evil in the morning. However, I know that I am incredibly lucky to be getting this much sleep when DD is only 2 weeks old. Hell, if she sleeps this well when she's a year old then I'll be happy!
DH is dealing with DS at night atm though and will continue to do so when he goes back to work. He only works PT so I don't feel too guilty!
100years, that's really interesting about milk tasting better in the evening. I wonder whether it's because that's when all your milk producing hormones are working their hardest?
lolajane, fingers xed for weight gain, sounds as though your moving in the right direction though.
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