Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

[DebiTheScot]

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

aaaaw carrie, so lovely to know he's arrived safe and sound and you escaped induction! Hope you are snuggled up in bed and feeling ok, if a bit shocked!

I love that you were on here just before 11am saying nothing huge was really happening, then he arrived and you were all home by the evening.

See, they tell you that BH is not real labour but one, lots of BH means very ready and honed body when it does start.

Love your story. Bet you couldn't believe it when you were pushing already?

Fantastic news Carrie - congratulations!

Oooooh, enjoying the baby photos.

Who's next then?

I think it'll be Lolly?

Yay carrie Saw your fb photos - am in awe of your ability to cope. Loving the fish&chips on the way home.

I think lolly is next and then, um, is it me?? Eek! God willing I won't have to travel to the hospital and get the birth I dream of.

Heard a very upsetting story this wk - makes me happy to live here. In the US, communmity midwives/hcps aren't that common. A first time single mum was sent home from hospital, all signed off as well. She had no visitors and had a massive pph and sadly died. They found her and her newborn (also didn't make it as no milk) a few weeks later. So very sad and so glad we have community services here.

DS2 shall from henceforth be known as...
Elliot Jonah!
For the benefit of those who don't know our real names, we now have the letters B, C, D, E, F and G in our initials
Had a nice relaxing day although the little man is now screaming his head off and won't feed so DH has kindly taken him away and I'm supposed to be sleeping, better get off MN!
MW came round and confirmed my suspicion that Elliot has tongue tie, so we'll get a hosp appt for that later this week, plus the newborn hearing screening, which is gonna cost us a fortune in hospital car parking as we've got DH's appt at the fracture clinic tomorrow too!

That is a lovely name Carrie
It's all go in your house. Lucy's first trip out was back to the hospital with Robyn, not fun. I hope the tongue tie isn't too bad. I met someone last year whose baby had tongue tie and he was about 5 months before the operated, hope it is quicker if he needs it.

What a beautiful baby boy Carrie and a nice size too

Yep me next eek!! I'm rather scared tho, I think I might if lost my plug today, I'm praying I don't go into labour whilst on holiday I've had a lot of backache, but think it's because I drove for a few hours earlier with out a break.

Blimey, I go away for the weekend and baby arrives!!!!

Love his name carrie Huge congratulations!

Great birth story too!

carrie you have to get a dog / hamster / goldfish and call it an 'A' name now! Hope E's tongue tie is dealt with easily.

lolly eek indeed! Here's hoping the baby doesn't arrive until you're back home, triple birthday maybe .

Well, ladies, I have Been visiting you every night, in the dark, while I breastfeed Inés. I find it a real pain to post from my iPhone, hence the looooong radio silence. But there is so much happening now that I can't keep quiet: many,many congratulations Carrie, what an utterly adorable newborn Elliott! And nice to see you again, Star. And how much better off you're going to be without that spiteful child of an xh, ninja. And fingers and toes crossed for the birth you hope for, MrsA....and so much more from Meglet, becaroo and the house move, notcitrus and the bfp, ILTMIMI who is also busy with a small baby, splish, lolly and the list goes on!

I have also followed with interest all of the potty training posts, as I deal with my own challenges, namely, a long list of pee successes and an even longer one of dramatic poo failures. On a bad day I've been known to wash up to 5 shitty pants - nice. This is an ongoing battle, so any tips are appreciated!

All in all, there have been a million times that i would have wanted to post something and didn't! I promise to make more of an effort now.

My kids are adorable and Hard work, so no surprise there. Inés is 7 months and weaning, and I shall return to work at the end of september. I am gutted to leave my darling children, but I dare say it will feel like a holiday...

pacita Hello darling! So lovely to hear from you! How can Ines be 7 months already????? Had potty issues myself with Toby and I have dealt with it by.....giving up!

Tobys open morning at nursery tomorrow....feel very odd about it...on the one hand I think he needs it but on the other I think he will struggle to adjust...he has only ever been with me or family members....oh dear....will see...

Hi everyone, thank you for your lovely messages :) I've put a photo up on my page, although you can't really see DS2 properly!
He's so different to my other two DCs, mostly in that he won't be put down!! And when he does fall asleep we put him down and he wakes up again within minutes. Desperately hoping this changes when my milk comes in since he's obviously a big hungry boy and wants more than my empty boobs have to offer. It would be nice to have happy awake time from him rather than screaming awake time, but I have to remind myself he's less than 48 hours old and DS1 was nocturnal for many weeks. He is very very cute though, and got a clean bill of health from the GP at his paed check this morning (apart from the tongue tie obv).
The ILs are here and have taken the older two out to the park, so DS2 and I are going to bond with the sofa and wait for the nice tesco man to arrive, happy days!
lolly I'm so excited for you, really hope you have a great, relaxing and childbirth free holiday
pacita lovely to hear from you too, can't believe Ines is 7 months?!!!
bec hope nursery goes really well :)
meglet you're as bad as DH&DD wanting to further complicate my life with more children/animals!

carrie I cant be the only one of us in awe of your "just having had a baby and yet still MNing" attitude!

Thanks for the good wishes...been going through my diary this morning and there is sooo much on for the next few weeks...Toby starting nursery, ds1 back to school, ds1's many appts......feels endless atm...Am I allowed to say I will be glad when its December????

Lovely to see you Pacita. I was also going to say 'how can Ines be 7 months old?', but as I is 4 1/2 months, it makes sense that she is that old!

Ds took a while to get poo's. Bribery worked very well as did telling him that poo's are flushed down the toilet to poo land! Oh and toy bribery did not work, but food bribery did. Two chocolate raisins for each poo in the potty.

None of my boys have liked being put down either. That's where the sling comes in very handy. A happy, sleeping baby and two hands free, voila! Putting them down hoping they will get used to not being held never worked either, it just meant a screaming baby and a very stressed me!

Becaroo, good luck for tomorrow. Ds returns to pre school a week today after 6 weeks off and I feel just as nervous about it than when he started

MN is easy on a laptop in bed
My milk is starting to come in, DS2 had a really good feed and was then screamy again after a short awake time so we've swaddled him and put him in a dark room, I think he might just have been over-stimulated. Hoping for a better night tonight...
DH was signed off from the fracture clinic today although the x-ray showed that the bone is far from healed, apparently it can take a year. At least the metal is holding it together

Bec. I booked a holiday in december for that reason. I have to have a milestone that I am aiming for.

I skipped the potty with both mine. Just straight to the toilet seemed to work okay. And we also didn't faff around with pull-ups or anything it was just 'right - today the nappy is off FOREVER'.

To be fair, after 4 days with dd then nappy went back on and we tried again a few months later, but we did it the same way. I think it just makes things clear. I'm sure you have to clean up the same amount of accidents, it's just that they all happen in a shorter space of time.

star thats what I did with ds1 and it worked really well - although had to put him back in a nappy for naps for a while (he napped til he started reception!)

Ds2 just seems to not know when he wants to go...will sit on the potty quite happily (not so happy to sit on the toilet) but if something happens its a coincidence IYSWIM?

His 1st day at nursery tomorrow and have bought pull ups for them to use....will see what they advise.

Nursery.....how did that happen???/

REAL nursery?

Its a private nursery/pre school that takes dc from age 2 til 5.

(No preschools attached to schools round here)

He will get his allocation of 15 hours in Jan but we have to pay til then.

Am not sure what he will make of it tbh...open morning this morning and he is distinctly underwhelmed at the idea of going!

Hope he likes it!

DD started last September for two mornings a week, which was increased to 3 mornings a week at her request. But she's a precocious verbal girl that I proabably indulge/celebrate due to it being so completely the opposite from ASD.

When she uses all her wiley emotional manipulative skills I think 'wow, how amazing, okay then, have whatever you want'. I thought that preschool would help sort that out but actually it has got worse because being one of the very fiew 2yr old in 3-rising 4s preschool meant that she got mothered and spoilt and a lot more of what she wanted.

She reminds me strongly of that little girl in Outnumbered.

We've moved and she will be starting a different preschool, but hopefully because they are now the same age there will be something a bit more equal about her peers and they won't let her get away with so much. I am worried from that point of view tbh. She is so used to getting her own way, and she needs to learn, but I don't want her to be miserable.

Even my mum says that I parent the two of them so completely differently (well obviously), but she says I have an almost zero-tolerance approach to ds who has SN, and let DD get away with murder

star Completely know what you mean!

All the family (inc dh) think I am "too hard" on ds1 but let Toby get away with loads of things....Not sure if thats true or not....I know that my MIL always purses her lips and rolls her eyes when I tell ds1 off - he was kicking dirt onto the path in his new trainers last week and after giving him 3 chances to listen to me and stop, made him come inside. Cue much eye rolling from MIL.

Thats just what I do...give him 3 chances then discipline. I give him 3 chances as he does have auditory issues and is often in his own little world

This morning I asked him to fetch me a tissue from the dresser and - as usual - asked him 3 times then raised my voice and he looked at me like I was mad He was touching/counting the spots on the cushions on the sofa (they have big green spots on) and couldnt do as I asked til he had finished......why does everyone except me doubt that he has asd????

He is currently watching Top Gear (again!) and prancing up and down the room.

Tobys open morning went quite well...he stayed til the end and played with lots of the toys. Not sure how he will be when I leave tomorrow