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Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

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DebiTheScot · 24/08/2011 22:14

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

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CappuccinoCarrie · 07/12/2011 12:51

Oh ninja Have a bucket full of Xmas Biscuit and some mulled Wine. You are doing brilliantly to rise above this and get on with your life. I can't imagine how devastating this must be for you but you are doing the best thing for your girls and you're a real inspiration.

bec sorry I've not commented on your house move yet, very impressed at how quickly you got tinternet sorted (priorities Grin) and I hope the unpacking is continuing to go well!

Haven't heard from NC in a while, if you're lurking then hello! And good to see you too digi :)

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 13:31

I keep checking in every half hour - but I'm guessing that poor MrsA will be very drained emotionally and physically whatever happened.

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 13:52

mulled Wine don't tempt me Grin

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 14:07

OK - more like every 15 mins .....

Meglet · 07/12/2011 14:19

Me too.

Debs75 · 07/12/2011 14:45

Still no news?
I'm trying not to fret but I can't help it. Maybe a festive mince pie will help, if I can sneak one without Robyn seeing.

Ninja it is really hard to rise above it when all you really want to do is confront him so you can point out that he was the lying, cheating, manipulating one and you were completely in the dark. he should of told you as it isn't fair on the dc's to introduce a new woman so soon.

Becaroooodolf · 07/12/2011 15:10

ninja I have said it before and I will say it again, your dignity and refusal to let him goad you during these past few months is an inspiration...and remember - the best revenge is a life well lived x

No news yet?

Pacita · 07/12/2011 15:13

Sneaking in from work to check on mrsa. I hope all's well, and we have a beautiful baby to coo over.

Ninjingey, what a tosser! The more I read, the more I want to slap him. Raise above. You are so much better than that.

Pacita · 07/12/2011 15:22

Rise, even

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 15:24

I've even dreamed about meeting her and confronting them (then woke up at three and couldn't get back to sleep).

You know what, he now suspects but doesn't know that I know and will wonder every time he sees me if this'll be the time he has to explain himself, while I get calmer and calmer about it (though I might not feel like that tomorrow)

I can't take away that the kids have met her and she sounds very nice.

Am desperately trying not to think about methods of revenge I could inflict - prawns in the curtain rails anyone??

Anyway MrsA we're all thinking of you as you can see, at some point you'll come back and it may be hard to post, but just give us a wave to know you're around x

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 15:55

Just seen this onFacebook

Steph & Dave are delighted to finally announce the safe arrival of Matthew John Sprake. He was born yesterday (Tues) at 4.26pm weighing 9lbs 3.5oz and was 13 days overdue! He is amazing and we are all in love! Roll on Christmas!

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 15:57

I see 2 of you saw it before me! That'll serve me right actually doing some work today!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 07/12/2011 16:04

Hurrah, many many congratulations MrsA and welcome Matthew Smile

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 07/12/2011 16:10

Ninja, everything you mention about exdh just shows what a knob he is. His behaviour is a reflection on him, not you. I know it all feels like a massive betrayal and kick in the teeth, but you will eventually see that this split will be the making of you.

Defo make him sweat over the whole girlfriend thing. He's such a bloody coward that he won't say anything. Not because he doesn't want you to know,but just because he is a coward.

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 16:11

Oh yes - said congratulations on Facebook but not here Smile

We'd really love to hear more about it. Great that you sound so positive :)

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 16:15

Thanks ILTMIMI I don't feel sad that I'm not with him, but I am still a bit angry about being made to feel it was all me.

I'm fine most of the time, have the odd cry (but tbh I did when I was with him!)

Meglet · 07/12/2011 16:17

Thank GOD!!!

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Congrats MrsA!!!!!

CappuccinoCarrie · 07/12/2011 16:19

Congrats MrsA!!!

Lollyheart · 07/12/2011 16:19

Bookmarking.

Congratulations mrsA looking forward to the birth story Smile

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DebiTheScot · 07/12/2011 16:38

Huge congratulations MrsA, soooooo happy for you. And so relieved he's here safely! His name is the same as my brother but the other way round!

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Kagey · 07/12/2011 17:10

Congrats MrsA Grin very pleased for you! I can now stop my obsessive lurking on here for news!

ninjinglebells · 07/12/2011 17:24

Can you Kagey - now we'll all just be waiting here to see what happened next!!

Kagey · 07/12/2011 17:50

Ok ninja you are right Smile. I can't just stop.

Quick update on our house - the plastering was a little delayed and now finishes on Friday, which is when the new kitchen arrives. Carpets are being laid on Monday and therefore it's a race against time to be in for Christmas. However if we don't then I'm not going to worry as we'll be on shortly after anyway.

Also, dd1 scratches her legs on her sleep. The doctor prescribed hydromol which is used 5 times a day on her legs and chest and she doesn't scratch during the day, it's just nights that she does it - any tips?? Ta in advance.

digitalgirl · 07/12/2011 17:50

yay - 'safe arrival' is all I wanted to hear!

notcitrus · 07/12/2011 18:14

Congratulations MrsA!
Lovely name, too. :)

Shit, does this mean I'm up next for giving birth here? Better dig out that hypnobirthing CD...
Have renamed dc2 'Thumpy' as she seems determined to kick her way out very soon! Better not be until at least January is all I can say.
Thanks for the thoughts carrie - my SPD is doing remarkably well, but the rest of me not so good - been referred to perinatal psych who of course can't see me for ages but has at least ordered my GP to give me a prescription for the drugs I was on, so hopefully they will kick in soon and I will be able to do stuff more constructive than get into arguments on Mumsnet. xkcd.com/386/

bec glad to hear about the new house going well.
ninja - perhaps this new woman will be a good influence on exH? Or at least deal with some of the crap?!

Buying Christmas tree tomorrow. :)