Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

[DebiTheScot]

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

Congrats to lolly and congrats star!!

ninja you are a fab mum guiding your children through a very tough time. Please don't think badly of yourself.

Happy birthday to all little 3 year olds! I have been impressed with cake efforts, e had a sainsburys one as I can't even make fairy cakes . Luckily MIL is a great baker .

Congratulations Star

And Mrsa Hope this IM is good for you and helps you get the birth you want. How long now?

ninja you would think so, wouldnt you, but its sadly not the case Looking into specialist dyslexia tutors atm....
You are NOT a bad mum, you are amazing and of course you are mising them!!

mrsa Glad its sorted!

Think I have caught Toby's lurgy...bluerghhh.

aaaw, congrats star

ninja dare I ask what the situation is with your XH at the moment? Does he have the kids today?

Kids are with me today However, I managed to make DD1 cry as I cut a couple of inches off her hair (which is nearly long enough for her to sit on!!) - hasn't been cut for nearly 3 years and so really needed to be done but I am the worst mum in the world

I am genuinely bad, I feel really embarassed to admit that she has a couple of rotten teeth and one of them fell out a few weeks ago, I only just got round to calling the dentist yesterday. Our dentist doesn't believe in fillings for kids so I suppose they will end up falling out but I feel awful that I let this happen.

I'm also worried that she's getting a bit podgy (obviously haven't told her that) but I know what it's like to be a fat teenager and so I really want to avoid her having to go through that.

I've started sticker charts for them both today with a variety of categories (frui and veg, teeth, ...) I've told her it's mainly for Maebh but I'd like her to show her a good example. ExH always thought I was being paranoid bout any of these concerns and so feeds them fried foods and lollies so I guess I'll have to try and make up for that.

Meg the kids are getting into some kind of routine, they seem fine going there. In fact I'm sometimes quite that M does seem so OK about it. Obviously I wouldn't want her to be unhappy, but she's always been a mummies girl.

He seems to have backed off a bit and I'm trying to set a date to go to mediation and get everything put in writing.

He's still off work (not sure why but he's got himself a sick note I guess) and is still disorganised, not sure how he'll cope when he's back. He forgot to take DD1 to Brownies last night nd M has turned up without knickers at the childminiders a couple of times!

He was also meant to be having the kids Sunday Morning (in fact made a big deal about it being HIS time) and then he phoned up at the last minute to say that his house was a mess after the electrician had been. DD1 was really upset and I felt so for her. Only thought about it afterwards but he could have cleared up the night before, instead of which he was drinking at the pub (I know this as I had to drop him off to collect his car on Sunday)

sigh.

At least the kids are ok and happy ninja but god, what a knob that man is

Oh, and I am sure he has backed off!!!! Now he has to look after the dd's on his own and organise himself and not have you to do it all he will realise just how much you have always done!!!!

Taking ds1 to paed appt tonight...taking dyslexia dx with us, will be interesting to see what he says....

Ninja,

Sounds like you're doing fabulously under quite challenging circumstances.

What would have happened if you 'didn't' drop him off to pick up his car though?

I bet he went to doctors all miserable about his marriage break up. What a lazy manipulative arsehole.

what star said, especially the last sentence.

As much as it's crap having a mental XP and nothing to do with him at least he's not here to muck the dc's about. DD has recently started crying "I want my Daddy" when I tell her off for something, so I tell her her daddy would tell her off too despite the fact he paid bugger all attention to her or was screaming the house down when he was here.

I think the school run is going to end up killing me. We're non-bloody-stop these days, I work p/t to fit round school hours but now I have no time to myself at all. My (almost) dairy and wheat free diet is going ok, bit of a PITA trying to decide what to eat each day but my stomach feels better for it.

star what wonderful news! That's six pregnancy announcements I've heard this week, there must be something in the water!

meg the school run is the death of me too, I feel your pain.

ninja and meg you're doing awesome jobs of bringing up your wonderful DCs despite the best efforts of their dads to undermine you, hats off to you both (and splish if you're lurking!!)

DS2 was one month old today . It feels like he's been in our lives forever, but also like he's still brand new. I'm hoping he'll reduce from his current 3-feeds-a-night habit coz I'm asleep on my feet. Going to express a bottle for DH to do later and go to bed, night all. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Congratulations starlight! And much admiration for those of you raising your threenagers without or with knobs for dads...

I'm somewhat better in the sense that I can stand up etc for a couple hours a day as long as I lie down for most of the rest of it, and as long as I rest enough, I feel OK mentally. Though must remember not to argue with wrong people on the internet...
MrNC has been a total star recently, cooking each night. And luckily A has gone back to thinking nursery is the best thing ever! Preschool is clearly fuelling his imagination, and he's slowly adjusting to being more tired from it.

Today's project is to get rid of lots of old furniture we don't need, as we're running out of space already and a guy we just bought a chest from has offered us a whole matching set at an unrefusable price. Time for photos and Gumtree/Ebay...

NC sorry you're still feeling so rough :( How's the ebay selling going?
I am alone in thinking this heat wave is over-rated? Can't believe I have to walk in it for 45mins later pushing a double buggy

Bookmarking!

marking my place.

Enjoyed the sumshine today.

Congratulations Star!!!

Bookmarking - how are you eandz?

Things seem to be getting easier with exh, work's busy (always is at this time of year)

I enjoyed the sunshime but it just seemed to makw the kids grumpy!

Hi Carrie - I feel OK as long as I do sod all! On Saturday we decided to go to Corams Fields - first time I'd gone to central London for a month. Took it really slowly, then I spent the afternoon in the cafe while MrNC and friend and her parents played with A. All well and good until MrNC decided at 6 it would be good to have dinner before going home (bearing in mind A has fallen asleep coming home from preschool 3 times last week), and said "Pizza, A?"

We went to the Carluccio's round the corner where it transpired that branch didn't do pizza and a very fractious A wanted the cakes he'd seen on the way in...
I just wanted bed so hid in the loo until the food arrived - which helped. But made big mistake of trying to take the step-free route to the Victoria Line - which was miles! So at our station I read a paper while MrNC and friend took A home, dumped him in bed, and then MrNC drove back to get me and I went to bed.

Sunday I lay in bed but finally managed to list stuff on Ebay! (free listings) Hoping the futon sofabed goes...

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We watching an awful lot of stuff we put on ebay this weekend too NC!
Glad things are looking up ninja
mrsa hope things are going ok...not long to go now. Still can't believe your first mw let you down but really hope the relationship is going well with the new one.
Soooooooooo tired from being up twice a night with DS2. And the school run is still preventing me having the routine I want. Yawn.

NC you and DH have a lot to cope with, especially as you're feeling so awful. Hope it gets better.

carrie I was wondering how you are coping. You sound like you're doing ok. If I remember, DS2 had tongue tie? I ask as I'm trying to get all the info I can to ensure successful bf. One of the new mums on minute has resorted to ff cos of tongue tie. I think you didn't. Any tips for coping/ identifying tongue tie?

I'm doing ok. 34 weeks now, eek! I'm No2 is going well. Baby is head down, pressing on pelvic rim and is not back to back. BP is fine, urine clear, all seems good to go. I don't finish work for another 4 weeks but after tomorrow I am working from home.

Terrible news from my Nov ante natal thread. One mum had a DD at 24 wks (4th baby) and finally brought her home last week. We've just found out she died suddenly yesterday for no reason. Just awful. Makes me count blessings and pray.

Bloody phone. That should be on the the new mums on MN not minute and I'm should be IM.

bookmarking.

Glad to hear you're at home from now on MrsA

mrsA I didn't even notice your typos, clearly my brain knew what you meant and filled in the blanks! I think we are doing ok thanks...! DH and I are being very self controlled at not snapping at each other even though we're both shattered, so it really feels like we're in it together. We're getting into a good routine with the school run, and I've nearly got DS2 onto the routine I want with relatively little effort. He's still prone to falling asleep whenever he thinks I'm not looking but he's gradually able to stay awake for a bit longer, sometimes longer than an hour, and he's napping pretty well provided DS1 doesn't shout something downstairs while standing outside the baby's room .

Last night DS2 only woke once between 11 and 7, so I had my first 4 hour block of sleep since he's been born, it was glorious! Can't believe he'll be 6 weeks this weekend and not a newborn any more. I'm going to have to get the 3-6m clothes out of the loft soon though

Re: tongue tie, it was just really really obvious! Even a male friend who has no children noticed it! From the moment DS2 first cried and opened his mouth you could see the piece of skin attached all the way to the tip of his tongue. When we were in hospital waiting for our appt with the consultant the nurses were cooing over DS2 and when he cried they said "there's no doubt why you're here!". I seem to be lucky in that it didn't seem to affect feeding much, but given that he was only 8 days old when it was snipped we hadn't really got feeding fully established anyway so who knows how it would have turned out.

I'm enjoying spending more time with DS1 now that DD is at school. We went to a stately home today (the one near your old house fanny ) and we had great fun in the playground. He set up a 'cafe' and served me wood chips - "chocolate money to make your milk grow"

DD came home from school today with a pencil she'd been given in assembly. Under cross examination it transpired she's writer of the week [preen]

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Bookmarking too - have to do a couple more hours work before bed

Had a good weekend with parents though

Hello everyone.
Hope you're all well
As some of you know jacob arrived 4 days late on the 22nd sept weighing 6lb 8oz.
Unfortunately dh missed his birth, my waters broke at 9pm on the 21st, I called dh home from work as Fraser came quickly after my waters broke, I didn't get any contractions until 2 am but the midwife wanted me to stay because my last birth was quick, contractions were only coming every half hour and not that painful, at 6.30 am dh said he would go home so my mum could go to work and he would take
my other dcs to school then come back up. Well at 7am I was moved
to a bed on the ward to try and get some sleep as the contractions
were not regular, all of a sudden at 7.30 contractions were coming
every min and strong so I called dh to come back but he was to late
as Jacob came at 8.08, I just managed to get in a delivery room, I
got to cut his cord which was nice.

Jacob is doing really well, a few issues with breast feeding so I've been expressing into a bottle, I went to see a bf lady today she thinks he has a slight tongue tie so is referring me to the hospital to see if
he needs it snipped. Hopefully that will help with feeding.

Fraser broke his wrist last week, he fell off the trampoline whilst getting off it but other wise he is ok .

I will catch up later as you can imagine live with 4 dcs is busy.