FEB 2011 - Peekaboo!! Sitting, Eating and sometimes Sleeping

[wigglesrock]

, Welcome all - will post stats later, so any lurkers decloak

jane I think I've had similar weirdness, I think they are like whiteheads and will just settle down, could be a touch of the hormones if AF is on the way.

expat ouch, hope your wounds settle down. I am really clumsy at the moment too and have had a few near misses with Nate in my arms. Your photos are lovely, Leo is gorgeous. You would easily fit in my skinny jeans looking at your photo!

44me we've had lovely weather today. Nate first rolled about 2 months ago and only bothers about once every 2 weeks for some reason, and always looks extremely surprised. The NCT group noticed that babies either seem to be the standers/stompers, or rollers/ones that like tummy time. I walked at 10 months and am thick, whereas my brother was really late at everything and has a PHD in physics the clever clogs, so early promise counts for nothing! The babies on here seem really advanced compared to Nate bless him!

wiggles Anna has a similar pattern to Nate on a goodish night. He is doing 11/3/530 at the moment (if I don't count the evening resettling that sometimes happens) and I can convince him to stay in bed a bit longer if I bring him into bed and shove a boob in his gob

american love the piccies - esp that fab inflatable car thing - do they make them in adult size?

wiggles I'm not suprised no one wants to work with liam gallagher about - when I worked at the bbc Noel Gallagher was a guest one week he had a massive attitude

jane I can't help I'm afraid, I have the white stuff leaking out all the time

half birthdays already in the past couple of weeks I see - we're going to have to have a massive online party next feb to mark a year arn't we

ledkr can we have a bag update please?

I enjoyed my lycra clad beverly callard excercise dvd this morning until alice woke up after 15 mins in thanks

Gpa update - he died this afternoon . My mum and granny were there when it happened and mum said it was very peaceful and he wasn't in pain at all. Apparently it was like he was waiting for granny to be there when he died [sob] I feel really upset on and off. I'm trying not to think about it which I know prob isn't the best way to deal with it.

I have an AIBU question here I'd really appreciate your opinion on - invited PIL over this week end coming but they are busy having other dgchildren over for the week end. PIL haven't seen alice in I think 5 or 6 weeks now - a mixture of they've been on holiday/busy/we have been out a couple of times (like when we went to the sea) when they were free. I feel quite guilty that potentially another week will go by and they won't have seen her as it is quite a long time, but, the only time they can do this week is friday evening. Now, even if they come straight from work that's still when we are bathing/getting alice ready for bed. Granted she rarely actually goes to bed when she should, but she does doze on and off often in the evening and you never know if she's going to sleep for most some of the evening or not. When she is awake we try not to overexcite her and do quiet things like reading books or just little smiley cuddles. I'm not really comfortable with them coming over to see alice in the evening as I don't want her excited in the evening but I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable. I'm perfectly happy to be proved wrong on this and would really like some imput. We did take her to my mums party a few weeks ago in the evening btw until 9pm BUT she was in her pram the whole time so no one actually jigged her about and dh took her for lots of quiet walks in the garden during the party

Oh - and good news to add to the bad gpa update - dh and I are buying/sort of partly inheriting a couple of acres of land down the road . We are going to plant trees in it and have a little woodland/fruit trees with a meadow and in the long term want to get a little wooden summer house and maybe some outdoor play equipment for alice when she's older . I shall post a piccie at some point of soon to be our field

reastie I'm so sorry about your Grandpa, at least your Mum and granny were with him [big hug]

Can't help re in-laws - the joys of retired grandparents (well three quarters of them ) Can you call over and see them, could you even be bothered with it this week? Will you not have a lot on with your grandpas funeral etc?

at your summer retreat

tbh no it (PIL) doesn't feel top priority at the min to me. I'm having a wobbly moment at the min and getting bad tummy ache (which is often how my body reacts to things), but i know they/dh will want to press ahead with it and I just want some thoughts as to whether to just let an evening visit happen or whether I should hold on to my gut instinct of no. I'm quite suprised they mentioned coming over in the evening as surely they would know a baby would be asleep/bedtime routine taking place

Just popping in to say sorry about your GPa reastie. good to know he was with loved ones though. Not sure re: PIL but I would I am pretty flexible with R's routine for social pccassions so would probably do the same for the PIL. I think as a one off it'll be fine - they might even wear her out!

All ok here, although still half mad with PIL and DM not wanting to unable to make a decision between them. I have snapped a few times today!

So sorry about your gpa reastie, glad he was with family and peaceful at the end. Think I'd maybe let the PILs come for an hour with the proviso that if she is really unsettled they'll either have to leave or put her to bed themselves.

S is still waking for a feeding during the night and is feeding around 10 times a day, despite having 3 meals a day too! I feel your pain 40weeks, but have also not managed to get into skinny jeans yet ( Borg!) as am always hungry too!

Has dh put your shopping away yet ledkr? Hope you have a lovely time at Longleat. Hope you sneak into your sis's gig wiggles!

Ouch, expat, that sounds painful! Hope your wounds get better soon. Lovely photos. of only a 7 hour flight! Have you heard of the poster CheerfulYank? She's from north of Minneapolis.

You don't sound thick Borg! My dh has a PhD in Physics too and I also always feel thick next to him too.

Nice weather here too. A bit cooler today so not having to be slathered in sun cream. Still the snow will be here in about 8 weeks so have to make the most of it! Glad you had a lovely time in London 44me and hope your wedding/break continues to be great in the Lakes choco.

Sending some sleepy vibes to everyone. Hope the bedtime routines have gone well and you have had nice evenings.

reastie - so sorry about your grandad. As others have said, his family was with him and it was peaceful. L is floating in an inflatable fire engine my cousin had lying around. She blew out the top inflating it which is why it's droopy. I would also let the PILs see A during an evening, as long as they agree to keep her calm.

tadjennyp - I wish it was ONLY a 7 hour flight but there's a layover and connecting flight as well, ends up about 20 hours door-to-door. I've not heard of CheerfulYank but I don't venture off this thread very often. What's the climate like where you live? DH wants moderate summers but I want to be able to grow tomatoes & watermelons outdoors.

Borg - thanks for the compliment but all my rotund bits are below the water line.

American - Connecting flights are a nightmare and the internal ones don't give you food, or entertainment, or anything! Know that feeling well. Don't do it alone unless someone's life depends on it, total nightmare of a day and takes longer to get over it too. We have a high desert climate here so the snow comes in October and we can have it as late as June. The summer months are pretty hot - it's been in the 80s F for the last 6 weeks or so but will be in the 70s by September. Dh has a garden but our tomatoes and watermelons are still tiny, so not sure if they'll make it by the time of the first frost! Sorry about that essay everyone!

reastie so sorry about your gps..like everyone has said,at least he was surrounded by loved ones. Forgot to say a while back,but love ur pics of alice...I think she is ur double! Re; PIL...maybe have them cone over in the hope it tires Alice out...then you'll have done your bit for a wee while?

American fab pics too! We've got an inflatable swim trainer seat thingy...you've just reminded me that I need to take it with us on our hols to France in a couple of weeks.

choc hope the wee break/wedding celebrations are going well. I'm with you on the PIL indecisiveness...my MIL is the exact same & it drives me up the wall & becomes very draining!

thanks guys. I actually had a really bad night - I knew what was going to happen re: gdad so I'm not sure why it hit me so bad - I had a near panic attack :( I'm shattered today and feeling really lonely - all I want to do it lie in bed and watch rubbish films but having to be 'normal' with alice feels hard. I think I should have made it clear earlier the piece of land we are buying/partly inheriting is nothing to do with gdad

thanks for comments re: pil - it's good to know you would have them over in the evening. Maybe I should have mentioned that the only time in the past they've been over in the evening was for a different reason to seeing alice, but I bought her down as I was getting her to bed so they could say hello to her. They knew she was going straight to bed but excited her so much she then wouldn't go to sleep for ages and screamed and screamed after they left from over tiredness - I don't want a repeat and I don't feel strong enough to be firm to them (and dh is useless). Also, we never know when she will sleep in evenings - so she could be awake most of the evening or she could be really tired and just want to sleep on and off, so they might turn up and just be waiting for her to wake up and when she wakes up she will feed and then she might just want to go straight back to sleep [control freak] . Maybe that changes things, maybe IABU.

tad tiny tomatoes are good - you can just call them cherry tomatoes

borg you're definately not a thicko (from what I can tell anyway ). I have the same thing with my bright spark sister who is studying now at cambridge uni (the one who just won a scholarship and academic award this year - even her lecturer who apparently is quite famous in his specialist field read one of my sisters essays and asked her if he could pinch one of her points/ideas as it was so good and he'd never thought of it before )

hubbard thinking of you

Sorry for another epic post mostly about me

Sorry reastie should say gpa...me & predictive texting are a nightmare!

reastie I am so, so sorry to hear about your Grandad's passing. Im glad he was peacefull and with loved ones. Take care of yourself, when Zoe died i found it best to just go with the grief, don't hold it in, it won't do you or Alice any good. Im here to talk any time

I don't know what i would do re: the pils. You do what you feel is best for Alice and yourself.

ledkr Did DH put the shopping away?

borg i think you may be right about the hormones, AF is due tomorrow.

expat lovely photos.

Just read about your granddad reastie and I'm so sorry. Even though you knew it was going to happen nothing can prepare you for how you'll feel and I agree with Jane in that you shouldn't keep it bottled up. Wrt you ILs coming, do they know about your granddad? I would hope they would be sympathetic and wait to see how you are on friday before making plans. It's a shame they can't come and take A out for an hour on sat/sun to let you rest. My parents have been round in the eve when b has been in bed. Thinking of you x

reastie sorry to hear about your Gdad, but glad that he was peaceful and with Granny. Don't think it's remotely odd that you feel the way you do, even when you know it's going to happen, that is still nothing to how it feels when it actually happens. I do think sometimes in these situations you get used to the limbo state of 'waiting' and then almost push away the idea of what comes after. Give yourself a break, take some time to come to terms with it, it's a big thing, even when someone is ill/old etc.

Re PILs visit, as you know I am a bit of a routine nazi (and fortunately C has responded well to it), and I would go 'off-piste' for a special occasion, but I wouldn't actually class a PIL visit because they're too busy to come at any other time, a special occasion. I would be fine with C not having her 'bedtime' if it was someone's birthday/wedding/long day of travel etc. but not really in these circs. I may be being unreasonable (it's not unheard of lol!) but that's how I would see it. People on the whole ought to know/appreciate that babies and young children are/are supposed to be in bed in the evening.

So I would be saying 'actually Alice will be going to bed and it would be a shame not to see her, so how about next weekend/other suitable time'.

Off to catch up on other things, can't keep up with everyone!

We've had a nice start to the week. Lovely weekend, went to M&D's for Sunday dinner and it's the first time we've wheeled C home late without doing a dreamfeed when we got back, but it was fine, she didn't move a muscle in movement from cot to pram and into cot at home.

Yesterday was C's first intro session at nursery and all went fine. I think they will be less precious than me about what she eats, but really now she's 6 months, that's probably a good thing, as she needs to start having a bit more variety now. She also had a drink of water in a tippee cup and did really well with it, so that was a bit of a milestone. She's the only one that young and there are 3 staff to 7 babies so I think she will get plenty of attention. They were all commenting on how content and smiley she was, which was reassuring for me as I spent a long time (mainly cos of reflux) thinking I just had a screamy miserable baby. She actually didn't cry all day yesterday.

Swimming this morning, aunty visiting this afternoon, pn group on Thursday, second nursery session Friday, and that will be the week that was, I'm back to work Monday .

Back soon....hope you all have a nice day.

Dx

Oh and by the way, the Baby Jogger continues to be amazing.

Just a quick message to Reastie before I nap with Noah. Sorry about your grandpa. It will get easier. It's been 6 weeks since grampy died but I still think about him most days, just don't cry so much now.
Re pil, I would not have had them over in the evening, we never did with Ben and wont be doing so with Noah as I think evenings are too important to mess up. Best go, N is screaming

reastie big hugs. You are in my thoughts. I'm pretty flexible re people visiting at bedtime. But the kids still go to bed at the same time. Just leave the visitors to entertain themselves while I run them up to bed. I was more militant about it all with dc1 though so I do understand your concerns. Why don't you see how you feel on Friday before you make any decisions, I'm sure your pil will understand.

Delia so glad nursery is going well. All the best for going back to work.

Hope ledkr hasn't packed/locked her dh in the cupboard with the bags that were waiting

Hey everyone,

First of all reastie so sorry to hear about gpa, even when you know it's coming it's still hard. Please try and be gentle to yourself. I agree with ems and delia- no way would I have a PiL visit in the evening. It's their problem if they've not seen A for a while. Evenings are precious and you especially don't need the extra worry and stress. YADNBU. I get all arsey if I have to even speak to someone on the phone in the evening!! [miserable old cow]

delia glad to hear you sounding so happy about C's nursery. I bet you'll feel like a new woman when you're back at work

Well we had our daytrip yesterday, twas nice but it was a public holiday in France which scuppered the Wander Round Dunkerque plan rather (ended up being a Sit In Traffic Whilst DH Swears then Mad Rush to Catch Ferry afternoon instead!). Morning was nice though, Imy and Bean and I played on the beach whilst DH Inspected his Installation. He took a piece of rebar from a bunker and was all hush hush about it in case anyone saw him, like the kite surfers, dog walkers and families would give a toss about a sad old English tosser bloke lifting a bit of rubbish off a beach!!

Is the shopping still on the table ledkr???

BTW just got another email from MNHQ (get me), our Toy will be here this week hopefully- it's this BTW.

deb still at your toy, it looks fab and much bigger than i thought at first glance. at your dh being all smuggler like on way back from France, could you wind him up a bit about it and say customs have been on the phone?

delia I misread your post and thought you went to MacD's for Sunday lunch Glad everything went well with C's first session at nursery, on the 2 occasions I've gone into work I've been practically floating on air at the novelty of being able to go to the loo/ finish a conversation/ not having to have wetwipes next to me at all times. Hope all goes well for you on Monday

ledkr do you remember the thread about towel elephants? Just wondered what you could do with bags of shopping..... . here is the thread.

jane I have no idea what the white 'fluff' could be, have you been to the docs about it? I just had lovely black hairs around my nipples last year Love the idea of the converses, I too am a flatties girl, cannot walk in heels for the life of me so will be ballet pumps for me. I'm just realising how much there is to organise

Thank you for all your compliments on the dress, still awaiting its arrival... Been searching for venues and everywhere is so expensive

Ben has 2 teeth (bottom front) and it looks like the dribbling has subsided a bit for the time being but he can now bite and leave quite a mark.

reastie so sorry you had such a bad night, thinking of you xx

debka also laughing at your dh smuggling!

delia glad nursery went well

Who wants a bit of a funny story? ..... sent Mr W to do the shopping this morning, I am unpacking it and come across (no pun intended) a box of condoms. Eyebrows raised I ask him if he is planning a big night. It transpires he was looking for something in our "condom drawer" and realised our condoms which we have been using are actually 2 years out of date We obviously hadn't been using them for a good while before we conceived A and hadn't thought to check the date when we started using them again!! Its only funny because I am just coming to the end of my period, otherwise I'd be panicking a bit, or would I be - aagggh - thought I had decided this already

wiggles (especially the comment 'are you planning a big night?")

needto and wiggles thank you for making me with tales of your towel elephants (which i might just have to try now ) and out of date condoms. Just as well Mr W is MI5 material and checked the date

deb that's the type of thing I would try and do re: the smuggling and dh would be all [rolling eyes] . Am of your free toy. Do you keep the camera too?

delia enjoy the week and hope the transition back to work goes really smoothly. Glad the buggy is a good 'un

I think ledkr might have done something drastic to her dh and is now in a police cell - she's not been on since her rant about the bags has she? . Maybe she's out getting drunk trying to ignore them

oh yes and on the good news front my I've discovered my fabulous old step aerobics instructor is starting a 'zumba gold' class next month I might try if we can plan evening feeds so I can go away for a couple of hours. I must admit I'm feeling a bit as I searched on you tube what zumba gold is and there was a video of some old biddies doing zumba with the instructors making useful comments like 'this one is good if you've had a hip replacement' . Feel I might be a bit out of place, but hey ho (it's aimed at oldies mainly but also out of shape-ies)

reastie you have now just tested my pelvic floor to its limit , sorry but the zumba gold is priceless!! Must get on with stuff and stop mining for a while, haven't even showered yet!