April 2009 Episode 15 Bebe & BB have babies n stuff

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Hello
I went to Devon with DH on Saturday for my birthday. I can't believe I actually left my children overnight and the world didn't end. I had been panicking about doing it for 6 months. The drive down there was pretty miserable and I wanted to come home the whole time but once we got there and started on the wine I didn't look back. It was bloody brilliant. DH looked about 10 years younger the next day. We never ever go out and I cannot describe how liberating it was to not have to think about anyone or anything after almost 5 years of 24/7 responsibility. We got to our hotel and drank wine to the sound of waves. Bloody fantastic. After being paralysed with fear for so long about leaving them I cannot wait for the next time. Who wants my kids?

Puzzle - I have been fantasising about a night off for the past few weeks, but I know it's a loooooong way off and that the reality would be scary (Oscar has never been left overnight with anyone else except for when James was born and that was in his own bed and DH was home by midnight!) Good to know that when it finally happens it will be as fabulous as I've been hoping...

Zulu - thank you for your reassurance - I'm going to hold off for as long as possible - would like to hold off until 6 months but realistically will probably start in a few weeks as he's actually grabbing food off our plates now...

J actually had a not unreasonable night last night - slept from 8pm til 10.30pm, fed and back to sleep in cot by 11.15pm, woke at 3am to feed, back down in bouncy chair to sleep by 4.30am and up at 7.30am. Sadly I have a stinking cold and couldn't sleep as my nose wouldn't stop running

That sounds like a better night Bicnod - hopefully a sign of things to come!

Puzzle that sounds fantastic. I was forced to get used to being away from DS overnight from fairly early on because of 15 hour nightshifts so don't think too much of it now. I haven't been away from the wee one yet though. The thought of a full night's sleep without listening out is bliss.

Oh hell. My wee baby has gone from the 25th to the second centile and the HV commented on her blue hands today. My instinct is that she's just a wee baby with cold hands, but I can't stop thinking about the worst case scenarios. Stupid medical knowledge. Anyone have any reassuring stories?

Zulu - What are your fears? Maybe it would be helpful to throw it open to a wider MN audience?

Oh Zulu :( as Puzzle says, what are your worries? What did the HV say exactly? Is she concerned enough to suggest seeing GP? It is frikkin freezing at the moment - did she have blue hands before it got cold? Might it be worth seeing GP just to set your mind at rest?

I gave J a baby rice cake to chew on while O was having his dinner as he kept trying to grab O's food and he chomped his way through half of it so I mixed up some baby porridge, dipped the spoon in and handed it to him and he shoved it straight in his mouth. He ate the whole lot that way - I dipped the spoon, handed it to him and he ate from it. I can't believe it. And he was calm and settled from teatime to bathtime which is unheard of. (DH is doing bathtime right now) Hmmm. I didn't want to start weaning yet (he's only 5 months) but I think he's probably ready... if he still had the tongue thrust thing and wasn't grabbing the spoon and shoving it in his mouth I might think again but he was literally wolfing it down. Argh. I can't help but worry about doing it too early - will I be damaging him?

Puzzle, I think I'd be too scared to start an actual MN thread! I've made an appt with the GP purely to put my mind at rest. I'm feeling a bit better about it today - she's a totally normal, alert, developing baby. My secret fear is a heart problem but it's so unlikely.

Bicnod, don't worry! All babies don't suddenly become ready for solids overnight at 6 months - it's a guide and all babies develop differently. I reckon the clues point to your baby being one of the earlier ones! All the signs are good - I reckon you should go for it (IMHO). Can't believe he essentially fed himself though!

Zulu - glad you've made a GP appointment, hopefully they will be able to set your mind at rest.

I know, I can't believe he fed himself either, what a little legend!

Right, DH and I both have the lurgy so off to bed.

Zulu - Good idea. Keep us posted xx

Bicnod - Ellen was 5mths 2 weeks I think, i'm sure you have nothing to worry about.

Zulu I hope GP can set your mind at rest. Sending you lots of happy thoughts.

Mine are far from happy though. See here

Oh well. The GP tried to make me feel better but it didn't really work. Getting an appointment to see a paediatrician because she has a murmur (probably benign). That'll be 3 weeks of minor background worrying then...

Bicnod, how is J doing? Is he eating a 3-course meal yet? And has the sleeping improved?

WFH, do you have bunkbeds?

Puzzle have you planned your next trip away?

Merry Christmas everyone

Oh Zulu, that's scary :( sending huge hugs. Hopefully the next 3 weeks will pass quickly and the paediatrician will finally be able to set your mind at rest.

J is still waking up two or three times a night, very unsettled generally and often awake for an hour or so after waking. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawn. He's still only having baby porridge at teatime as he's still getting used to moving the food around his mouth so want to take it nice and slowly. Still refusing a bottle (from me and from DH) and still uber clingy and fractious during the day. But still completely gorgeous as well so I suppose I'll keep him

I've got a chest infection :( on antibiotics and feeling a bit sorry for myself. Fingers crossed will be well for Chrimbo. The sleep deprivation makes colds etc so much more difficult to kick.

WFH - yes please, bunkbed update!

I haven't even started wrapping the boys pressies yet. ARRRRRGGGGHHHH!!

Off to bed - Christmassy love to all the lurkers - surely you're all out there somewhere??!!

Oh Zulu, i'm sorry to hear it didn't help. I know it is no comfort when it's your own child but i'm sure I recall you saying to someone else once that murmurs are not that uncommon and almost always benign?

BicNoddyHolder - That has got to win the Christmas namechange, surely.

Hello there ladies

Back from a weekend at the ILs. SIL has a 5 month old teeny tiny dd who won't take a bottle. SIL is desperate to stop bfing though (not sure why?) so at every feed they torture the child with try the bottle... sometimes for an hour or so... she just cries and pushes the teat out with her tongue. I think it's so wrong and they should just leave her alone and let her have the boob especially given how small and thin she is... or is that because I am a militant breastfeeder?

Oh, Zulu. Sorry to hear that you're worried but remember lots of babies drop to lower centiles, and have cold/blue hands - I think if it was serious you'd know by now. Fingers crossed you can relax and not think about it too much and then a scan will show it's all fine. FWIW my niece, who has had two major heart operations and looked like she might not survive the first few weeks, has just celebrated her first birthday. She's happy and healthy - at least for the moment.

Thanks girls. You know how it is- your rational mind knows it's all fine but there's still the fear.

Schulte, poor baby. Seems a shame. I kind of know how she feels: I tried DS with some gaviscon today to see if it'll help keep her milk down. She gave me a wounded look and spat it in my face .

Puzzle - haha, don't think I'm anywhere near well known enough to get a look in - but quite love it anyway

Schulte - we're trying J every day or two with the bottle but as soon as he starts fussing we give up, I can't be doing with forcing him to do it, if he takes it he takes it, if he doesn't it's no big deal really. It would be nice to have someone else able to feed him occasionally but he's started solids now so in a couple of months he'll be dropping feeds anyway How are F and H? We miss you!

DD1 is fine, although she has picked up an awful lot of cold viruses since starting school. H on the other hand drives me up the wall at every mealtime with her fussy eating. Things that she used to eat quite happily - apples, blueberries, oranges, grapes, banana, chicken, sweetcorn - are suddenly totally disgusting so basically her diet consists of cereal, toast, cheese, yoghurt, fish fingers, raisins, peas and the occasional smoothie at the moment. I worry about her vitamin intake and I just don't know how to get her to eat normally.

So I have missed some big news it seems - you are moving away?

O is picky at the moment as well Schulte - it's really really really REALLY annoying when you give them something they've always wolfed down and suddenly they don't like it isn't it? Drives me nuts

Yep - we're in the process of moving to Winchester - need more space and can't afford to buy in London so we're heading out. But only an hour on the train from Waterloo or an hour drive up the M3 so you won't get rid of me

Hey ladies

Zulu how is dd? And ds? Why were you worried about him? Ayse-Rose still has the murmur its being checked every 6 weeks so we are still no further forward. It doesn't seem to bother her all that much x

bic my niece was weaned from 4 months I thought it was far too young but my sisters hv was encouraging it. I think all kids are different. How are you feeling?

Hope everyone is ok x we are getting there - girls have started sleeping a bit better and we are down to 1-2 wakes a night rather than the 5-6 so I'm feeling more human x

Ds still struggling with his speech bless him but he's starting s&l therapy next term so hopefully that will help but in all other ways he's truly brilliant so enjoying spending time with him very much x

Hope everyone is ok x

Good morning

We missed you yesterday. I hope we can get together in 2012.
Ayse and Ede are just as gorgeous as their big brother. They very nearly tested my resolve to stop at two.

BB - I went to that solstice party after all and it was great.

Medical folk among you:
Ellen had a blood test yesterday morning.
Today I got a call from the doctors receptionist who asked me to come in on Jan 4th to discuss. She said the doctor had marked the file "routine appointment" and it was non-urgent.
I don't know what to think. Should I be worried or not. Why would I need an appointment if everything's fine?

Just posted on fb but just incase - I'd phone and ask dr to call you and discuss I don't think it would be anything serious otherwise you'd be in much sooner. It may be just when results are in but sure dr could call and just explain what appointment is for x

Merry Christmas everyone.

It has taken DH all day to build the Playmobil pirate ship...

Happy New Year everyone! Hope 2012 turns out to be whatever you all want it to be. I know I haven't posted much but I want to thank you all for keeping me sane this last year making me laugh and sometimes cry be it here or on fb you are all amazing xXx

I second that. Happy New Year xx