Jelly and ice-cream and candle shopping here we come for our amazing ONE year olds!

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Hope this covers it! Not sure what cakes we'd all be making so kept that out

hi. not been too bad since. had an ok day yesterday. back held up. had a shit day in terms of mine and dp relationship though. he decided to tell me that he didnt know if he loves me anymore.........
told him to leave. he went upstairs to pack while i stopped crying, tidied the kitchen and put my ice maiden face on. he came down after 30-40 mins, hugged me from behind, said sorry and that he does love me, hes just exhausted. told him that he needs to be careful with what he says cos im not prepared to put up with his shit anymore and i was ready to let him go then. (we spilt briefly in 2006, for much the same reason and i fought for him then- not doing it again)
so, now im left wondering if he meant it but i didnt react the way he wanted me too, which scared him or whether he is just fed up and tired. (house is still a mess and jobs are still being done.)
i dont think im going to over analyse it. the door is open and if he doesnt want to be here, he can go through it. ive got too much to cope with, without having to worry whether hes going to stay or not. men!!!!

its funny but jacob keeps getting a rash around his mouth. ive noticed its when he ate pineapple, but i gave him kiwi the other day and it was awful and lasted days. are they both acidic? thinking that may be it. hope its not cp jodey
newmum grace reminds me of jacob, in that she seems so resilient and strong etc, compared to a little petite isobel and yet its jacob who is sick, gets rashes, seems to have a weak digestion etc. made me think of it when you said you think she is allergic to washing powder- iyswim!

Oh that's a bit pants sassy and
joday hopefully no sign of cp! Jack has had three or four very random spots recently and all the same in size colour etc but he seems fine now except that he just WILL NOT GO TO SLEEP DURING THE DAY!!! Argggggggghhhhhh
I don't know if it's just a time thing... like he's at the stage to be cutting down on one nap but can't work out when he really wants to have his kip. He gets to a point where he just doesn't know what to do with himself and the car seems the only thing to work. Problem is that DH and I car share so I don't always have that option. The pram will work but takes forever for him to nod off and if it's peeing down....
He sleeps so well at night and actually lunges to get out of my arms and into his cot. no wonder..... he must be so flipping tired
Any tips on this????
Had a really nice weekend even though I cried my eyes out on my girls night out on Saturday and crashed into my neighbours car on Sunday ...... more ing!! Bumper to bumper though so all ok.
The crying was cos we were all talking first birthdays and it hit me that I'd thought Jack would be finished with his treatment by his birthday and actually i'm so fed up having a baby with a helmet covering his lovely smoochy locks The days he was a bit off colour and didn't wear it were so nice.
lumpybumpy hope the party was brilliant and you are nicely recovered! xxx

beadit harlyn is going through the exact same phase re: sleeping. He's all over the place. Today I decided to push him through the morning and try for 1 nap as he too just wants to be active even when he's yawning and rubbing eyes. I've never experienced this refusal to be put down for a nap before. So today, he woke up late at 8am, had milk, breaky at 9, play time, visit to the doctors, dinner early at 11:30 and I put him down at 11:50. He is now fast asleep after just a couple of minutes fighting it. So I'll see how he gets on!

The docs gave given him antibiotics as his skin was broken under his nose from the fall and because he has a snotty nose, it could get infected. But thankfully, no more spots so defo not CP.

sassy so sorry your dp is stressing you out! Just not what you need right now with two young toddlers, baby on the way and hormones playing havoc! You are probably right about him not expecting your reaction. Obviously I don't know you, your do or anything about your relationship but if it helps, I think having babies can make some men feel pushed out. They don't seem to get that instant bond and obviously all our attention is given to our LO's. I know I haven't been the best wife since Harlyn arrived. In fact, I'm so obsessed with H that I sometimes think I wouldn't be that bothered if I was on my own with him. I do love my dh but I can defo say that my feelings, priorities and
outlook have changed regarding my life.

Another issue: MILK!

Harlyn has started to take a few sips of his milk and then leave the rest. This has happened a few times now. This morning, I had to put his milk into a bottle as he just refused his sippy cup. Even in the bottle I had to keep letting him go off exploring before trying again because he really wasn't bothered about it. In the end I put the remaining milk on his cereal. He has completely stopped his afternoon milk and has started leaving a couple of oz of his bedtime bottle. This really isn't like my milk monster of the past. I know he should be having 18 oz per day but I'm lucky if I get 15 into him! Any suggestions????

Argh just lost a post
jodey Jack is much the same and then will take his milk at some really mad time like 40 mins before dinner or something. I don't think I'd worry about ounces so long he has about 12ish and then a good amount in porridge/cereal and dairy products. I think a lot of babies will have already cut out a milk feed by now.
Mum just text to say that Jack slept for 45 mins this morning after downing 7oz and now he's learning to stand on the piano stool alone and play himself..... so he obviously just rebels against his sleep/milk obsessed mummy! [GRRRRRRRRRRRRR]

Sorry to hear that sassy34264, I hope for all your sakes you can both find a way through it. Personally I can't imagine being without dh, we have our problems mainly because we are both tired and stressed but I know life is better with him and I'm looking forward to growing old with him.

Luke will make it to 11ish now but unless he's disturbed is most definitely in the single nap camp. Can't remember when ds1 dropped his morning nap I'll have to check. I would say don't let him get too tired and look out for little signs he tired (Luke rubs his ear). I'm not one for engineering sleeps I find it causes more problems so tend to go with the flow.

With milk my understanding was at 1 they should have a pint a day, not sure how many oz that is!! Don't forget it includes all dairy but not sure the equivalent of a chunk of cheese . Having bf both of mine I haven't been able to worry too much about oz but just been guided by them. Luke is down to 2 feeds now but his morning is longer than it was 20 mins instead of 10. Ds1 switched to cows milk in the morning at 1 but not sure how keen Luke will be about that!

Quick question about dummy's, how manu baby's have them and do you have intended deadlines for getting rid of them? Asking for a friend as I have no experience.

Aww sassy that's really shit but I understand where your coming from with your reaction! I hope you manage to sort through things! Grace is very strong and boisterous which is why I'$ surprised her skin is sensitive, not that her personality reflects her skin type but it just surprised me! Just been and bought some of the sensitive skin softener so I shall be spending my next few days re washing all her clothes and bedding, what fun. Grace is also mucked up with sleep, wanting to drop one I thinl but can't figure out which one. As cinnamon said I'm just going to go with the flow and see what happens. Night times a a bloody nightmare again too and I can't get her to eat anything, I want my straightforward baby back please!

i'd rather have my dp than not cinnamon but i cant sit here waiting for him to decide if he loves me or not. i did that 5 years ago and trust me it doesnt do your self esteem any good.
hes lucky to bloody have me!

On the subject of bumps, I noticed today that Ollys chipped his front tooth!!! No idea when he did that!

Sassy sorry you're having a rough time.

Olly is 1 tomorrow! A whole year old! 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days!!! It really doesn't seem real. I cam remember my labour day as if it were yesterday! I watched corrie then thought I'd have a bath and snooze cos things didn't seem to be progressing! I didn't even get to turn the tap on & was back downstairs wanting to go in!

A year ago I was looking at a whole year off with my wonderful babies & in the blink of an eye here I am looking at work till I retire! What a depressing thought!

sassy I definitely think tiredness and general stress of life is what's affecting you both. DP and I argue about those kind of things, having work done on the house, money, work, who will do the dirty nappy and we only have one baby to deal with. It's no wonder he's fed up, but I'd be seriously annoyed that he's not considering how tired and stressed you must be. I think you need to be having a serious conversation with him before the new baby arrives as it's certainly not going to make anything easier! Remember you can always rant to us as well!

Jodey Orlaith's been trying to drop a nap but every day seems to be different. Some days she's having a nap at 11 so needs her second one at 3, other days she'll have one at 1ish and then no more sleep till bedtime. She is generally sleeping longer at night (although still waking up a few times ).
I'm having the opposite problem with milk where she drinks too much! But I have friends whose LO's (all 10-12 months) are having only 2 bottles/bf's a day, one is only have one bf in the morning now, so I wouldn't worry.

Not sure I could hang around for that either sassy34264, very unfair of him to say he's not sure. Feel unsure and think about what you want, decide and then discuss it! He is lucky to have you! Also the rash thing, one of my minded little boys used to have horrendeous ezcema and it was triggered around his mouth but pineapple, kiwi, strawberries and oranges as they are acidic and can cause intolerances. Ds1 used to have horrible diarrhoea when he ate kiwi as a baby/toddler too.

Oh Sassy it is awful when dp's suddenly spring things like htat on you. Me and Dp had a big heart to heart when I was pregnant with dd2. He didn't want me to carry the pregnancy on and for 10 weeks we argued about things and hardly spoke. Then he just told me the last few weeks had made him realise that he would be mad to walk away and if a baby was what I wanted then he would too. It would of been a bit hard not to I was 18 weeks pregnant. Men tend to either not know what to say and muddle through things or say completely stupid things and then panic about your reaction. Hopefully he will realise what a great family he has and sort his head out before too long

he went back to work yesterday, so nothing i can do about it until fri. not dwelling on it anymore- thanks for the support. x

been told today that cos i have gestational diabetes again, i get to have a scan every 2 weeks. thought- oh thats good- then they said, but we cant fit you in till 14th sept though. bloody nhs!

it was chloes birthday today. she woke up in her new room this morning for the first time and got her pink mobile and a fair bit of cash off everyone. so i think she had a good day.

Happy birthday Olly!!! Hope you all have a lovely day even if he's already had the party bit

Happy birthday olly hope you have a lovely 1st birthday and you mummy isn't a weeping mess all day x

Happy birthday olly hope you have a lovely 1st birthday and you mummy isn't a weeping mess all day x

happy birthday olly. xx

Happy birthday Olly.xx
Happy birthday Chloe.xx

Sassy are you having growth scans? I had 3 with Lucy as they expect baby to grow huge with the diabetes. They still don't know why Lucy was so tiny even with all the scans and blood flow tests. It was nice to keep seeing her but nervewracking as I didn't want to know the sex.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY OLLY

lumpy hope you all have a really lovely day today...

...and now the rush (of birthdays) begins

sassy Happy birthday to Chloe for yesterday too. Sorry to hear about the diabetes and your DP's wobble (for want of a better word). It must feel like one thing after another at the moment. Wish I lived nearer so I could give you this in real life. Does your DP find out about his redundancy tomorrow? I'll keep my fingers crossed for you - I think it's your turn for some good news.

Well, I have some big news too - I'm getting my haircut in about an hour!!! I figured I had to squeeze in at least one before my baby turned one. I had planned on getting it done this time last year, but the pp saw to that, so it's been since May 2010

Are you around patito? How are you feeling? I'm starting to get all churned up about tomorrow. I just can't believe it's come around so fast

Morning all! Thanks for all the birthday wishes. We have yet more new toys! Our house is starting to resemble toys r us!

I am a bit weepy newmum not sure what the main cause is, my tiny baby turning 1 or the fact that I go back to work tomorrow! My wonderful year with my babies is over!

yes debs it's to check the baby isnt getting huge. i had loads with twins and i always went in saying ' we dont want to know the sexes'. i would hardly look at the screen incase i caught a glimsp by accident.

thanks maple no he doesnt find out till 30th sept. i think its army who find out tomorrow. lee is navy.

Birthday boys having a nap so I thought I'd just pop this in as a reminder cos like Mapletrees says the rush is beginning! (Morallybankrupt you need to add yours!)

Sassy34264 13/08/10 - Jacob & Isobel

Debs75 14/08/2010 - Lucy

Bananacurry 31/08/10 - Oliver James

Patito 01/09/10 - Maia Grace

Mapletrees 01/09/10 - Louis

Comixminx 02/09/10 - Aphra

FriggFRIGG 04/09/10 - Arlo Phoenix

Cinnnamongreyhound 13/09/10 - Luke Edward

Newmum001 14/09/10 - Grace

beaditAli 20/09/10 - Jack

Watersprite 21/09/10 - Maria-ann

MammyG 22/09/10 - Phoebe Elizabeth

Mellymooks 22/09/10 - Flynn Jago

Saoirse86 24/09/10 - Orlaith

SeaChelles 26/09/10 - Oliver Daniel Williams

JessemyParkson 28/09/10 - Mary Josephine

JodeyBogeyPicker 1/10/10 - Harlyn James

Dixiebell 04/10/10 -Arlo Peter

i cant believe how bad its actually getting. im devastated. had phone call off mil today. sil has cervical cancer. she is 19 yrs old with a 1yr old. cant believe it or process it properly. that poor girl. this baby isnt going to a happy baby with all the crying im doing at the minute. i cant get through to dp. hes going to be devastated.