Jelly and ice-cream and candle shopping here we come for our amazing ONE year olds!

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Hope this covers it! Not sure what cakes we'd all be making so kept that out

Yes that was my election name! Although I am somewhat regreting my Tory stance with all the cuts.....

had a very emotional day today. the court has made both myself and chloe's dad go on a parents seperation class. bit late seing as we have been seperated for 10 yrs! anyhow, found it hard to answer some seemingly innocuous questions about chloe and my parenting etc and realised my self esteem is somewhere on the floor. it asked me to list 3 things i was good at and it took me ages to think of 1. it also asked me about my support network and who makes me feel good about myself and i realised that no one does. i have one friend who always says nice things about me but it doesnt work cos i just think she doesnt know me very well! im the same when you all say things. i just think i scrape though life and dont really do my best or try my hardest at anything. i think maybe im just down on myself at the minute, but i also know having a mum who is super woman and a dp who thinks i can/should do everything doesmt help me. its hard for me to think things like this or admit im struggling cos i was brought up to think depression is self indulgent and whose got time to have a breakdown. not that im either of those things but suppose it explains why i dont ask for help and just muddle though quietly. should shut up now as feel i am maudling a bit!
got dp's nan's funeral tomorrow and have had to ask mil to watch babies. trying not to freak out. it is just for the funeral itself. im going to come and get them and take them to the wake. so probably 2 hours tops. arghhhhh.

banana no, not the 31st. her birthday is the 30th. 1 week today. got to buy her a mobile phone this week. we've just ordered her new carpet yesterday too, it is being fitted friday, so hopefully she will be in her new room by her birthday and then babies can go in theirs. in time for new baby to be in with us!!!!!!!!! its a production line.

Sassy just the fact you do everything you do (even if you feel you're not doing it as well as you should be) makes you superwoman in my eyes! I honestly don't know how you cope and I know I'd be tearing my hair out if I had even half as much going on as you do! being put on the spot and having to define what makes you a good person or mum would be difficult for anyone but you can't write how much you love your kids or how much you put up with on a daily basis! Try not to put yourself down cause I can promise every single one of us on this thread is totally in awe of you! I don't know many people brave enough to take on a nearly teenager, 1 year old twins and a new baby. And with a dp who works away a lot! Bloody hell I'm exhausted just thinking about it! Chin up cause we think you're amazing!

Sassy just the fact you do everything you do (even if you feel you're not doing it as well as you should be) makes you superwoman in my eyes! I honestly don't know how you cope and I know I'd be tearing my hair out if I had even half as much going on as you do! being put on the spot and having to define what makes you a good person or mum would be difficult for anyone but you can't write how much you love your kids or how much you put up with on a daily basis! Try not to put yourself down cause I can promise every single one of us on this thread is totally in awe of you! I don't know many people brave enough to take on a nearly teenager, 1 year old twins and a new baby. And with a dp who works away a lot! Bloody hell I'm exhausted just thinking about it! Chin up cause we think you're amazing!

Welcome back Morally Clemmie is 3 days younger than Jack 20th Sept and 9lbs 7oz ecs. I had a rough time with general neglect at hospital but neither me or Jack were ever really poorly, tho he did go to neo for his first 3 hours for oxygen.
I was discharged with my cannula still in and no red health book

Loving him now....... he's the sweetest thing ever on 99th for height about 60th for weight and wears a funky crash helmet for his ever improving wonky head.

A little worried today as he's been a bit off colour and unusually fretful recently then this morning I spotted a flat red spot on his head and one on his leg really hoping they don't come to anything cinnamon what was Luke's spot situation like?

chelle welcome back glad Olly is over his coup xx

sassy you're fab! I dare say you just shrug off our compliments but everyone here agrees. We all struggle with 1 or 2 children, you have 3 & 1 on the way. They're all happy & healthy & have a roof over their heads. Its a really hard time for you at the minute but it'll get better. You seem to be a bit like me. No point wallowing cos it doesn't do any good but we're always here for you to have a good winge & moan too!! Hope today goes ok. Thinking of you all.

It's really hard to analyse yourself sassy34264 and when you are tired and stressed, which you have every right to be with your past year, you may not be the best mum you think you should (that's how I feel at times anyway, not enough time or patience with them, too much shouting etc). You are great and should believe that and if your support network is a tiny as your course has shown you then you should be even more proud!! Your children also have VERY different needs so that makes it even harder to be a perfect mum to all. Have you said all this to your dp too?

Do you mean his chicken pox beaditAli? They started out red and flat but very quickly got blisters on them. Ds1 has a viral rash regularly which are just flat red spots that don't itch.

Luke is walking so well now and this morning he bent down in the middle of the room picked something up and stood back up and he can stand himself up without pulling on anything! I am so at how quickly he's doing things!!!!!!!!

Sassy you are doing great with your 3 kids. It is a hard slog with 3, 4 does make it a bit harder but tbh it will slot in somewhere.
You were asked quite personal questions and it stumped you. Nothing wrong with that. If I was asked who makes me feel good about myself aside from the dc's I wouldn't know what to say. And now you realise your support network is limited you can maybe see how well you are doing virtually on your own

Veadit, don't know anything about chicken pox but grace gets a viral rash, had it twice in the last month and they are flatish spots or kind of rash looking. Maybe give it a day or 2 and take him to the drs?

Dp's real dad died on sunday, he hasn't seen him for a few years and they weren't close but a relative called yesterday and told him what's happened! It's such a sad story he was a big drinker and died on his own in a hostel in ireland. Dp is going over there on thursday for the funeral, he wasn't a big fan of his dad but said he'd never forgive himself if he didn't go!

Yeah....... I meant C-pox cinnamon
He's had cold symptoms for about 4 days and has been off his food. Spots aren't rash like they're flat red ones that just seems really random. He's finally just crashed out after waking at 6.30am just don't know how he keeps going......... I've been out with the pram twice too.
Anyway........ fingers crossed it won't come to much.
sassy if you think about it when do we ever get to stop and think about ourselves for more than 10 seconds? No wonder you were stumped when someone asked you about 'you'....... it's always gonna be a tricky one to answer and I ditto everyone else on here and bow down to Mums like you and Debs along of course to all the other wonderful mums on here.... I just can't imagine coping now without the help I get never mind with more than one! tho not working would make me much more chilled.

newmum sorry about your dp's Dad..... not much luck at the mo with relatives hey?!

Oooooooo I could do with a cuddle............. my scrummy sis is in Greece so can't squeeze her....... might go and steal that puppy again!

realised that before Jack's birthday it's a year since we lost poochy..... I remember crying my eyes out spilling my heart out to you all

If you google it and look at images they looked like that beaditAli. They went from flat to blisters in 12-24hrs so you should know if it is pretty soon. Maybe it's time to get a new doggy, maybe for jack's birthday .

Sorry to hear that newmum001, your dp is having a rough time at the moment :(

That's a fab idea cinnamon love the look of Nix, Rooster and Mead on here tho Mead is way too much like our old Mickey I think!

Had a look at pics earlier this morning so will wait and see what happens.....

I spent almost all afternoon yesterday dreaming of names for dc2 that isn't even on the horizon yet!
Anyone else do this?

Rooster looks very petite and reminds me of Nelly before she started going White on her snout! I've always wanted a brindle but they are all gorgeous! No point in me thinking of names, dh hates them all!! I sometimes think about girls names as he said if we had a girl I could choose what I like but I try not to think about it too much as I'm 95% sure there's no changing his mind :(

Aww grace just took 3 steps, she let go of my mums hands and walked 3 whole steps to dp on her own then kept doing it! She looked so grown up I was nearly crying!

Aww grace just took 3 steps, she let go of my mums hands and walked 3 whole steps to dp on her own then kept doing it! She looked so grown up I was nearly crying!

morning everyone. thanks once again for making me feel better. it didnt occur to me that cos i was put on the spot i found it hard to think of stuff, i just thought oh my god, im a crap mum cos i cant think of 3 things that i do good! so im gonna hold onto that idea and make myself feel a little better.
dp's nan's funeral went well. but we set off in the morning at 10am and didnt leave the wake till 6pm! so tired. supposed to be having a lie in now, as dp has took babies downstairs. might have another hour in a minute.
sorry to hear about your dp's dad too newmum but happy to hear about grace's walking. we (well mostly dp) spent hours chasing after babies yesterday at the venue. they were in and out of all the chairs, flying across thw dance floor and veering ever so close to the buffet table! caught jacob with a chicken leg he'd found on the floor- just in time- no bite had happened, yuk.
their cousin was there. james. he is 3 months older but still rather big. i may have told you. found out why yesterday. he was running around with j & i yesterday and she's running after him putting sandwiches, chicken legs, sausage rolls and chocolate cake in his hands! why? he's not saying he's hungry if he's playing is he? i dont understand the need to feed him constantly. she even went and bought him some quavers when he started to whinge a bit whilst sat in the pram. it really is a pet hate of mine, little children who are fat. i feel so sorry for them. even if you dont go into the health issues- which are bad enough, the bullying at school must be horrendous for a kid. i just think, if you want to be a fat adult, thats your choice but kids have no choice and the adult is making them that way. anyway, nothing much i can do. neither she nor james' dad is big, so hopefully he will level out eventually.
beaditali hope jack isnt too ill with whatever it turns out to be. x

Thanks sassy he hasn't had his flashy head gear on for 3 days cos he just melts as soon as it goes back on. He was up twice last night and slept for over 3 hours in the afternoon yesterday but this morning he seems all smiles and pretty much back to his usual self. I've dropped him off at my folk's place and Mum has two little bites on her shoulder from playing in the garden with jack all day on Tuesday so maybe the same beast got them both. Definitely looked more flat spots than bites but hey ho.
Hoping to have lunch with friends at the David Hockney gallery tomorrow but one is pregnant and the other has little baby Noah so will stay away if his skin is anything but Cheryl Cole like in the morning!

I might sound like the meanest mum alive but I don't feel down about Jack's birthday at all. I'm loving watching him grow up and don't feel like i'm clinging onto the baby stage at all I reckon it's all that evil Dewsbury hospitals fault for scarring me for life! Ha ha

I'm loving watching grace grow too beadit and although I do feel it's all going very fast and want it to slow down a bit I'm loving this bit far more than the new born stage! She just fascinates me so much she's such a little character and I think I'm feeling a bit sad about her birthday cause it's a reminder of the day she was born and how much she's changed my life for the better. But I'm mega excited for her party and to see her little face when she opens her presents!

I totally agree sassy34264, ds1 was born 6 weeks before a little girl we know and everytime we see her, really since she could move, she was being fed no matter what she was doing. She is now what I would call fat and I really feel for her, I was a chubby child and picked on because of it and it breaks my heart. I am over weight and I know it but I feed my children much mote sensibly than myself and hope they will grow up knowing how to have a balanced diet and not struggle with their weight.

I am a bit of both beaditAli, it's sad because it's gone and you'll never get it back but also enjoy watching them grow and change and I loved 18months-3 with ds1. Luke has been an easier baby and probably my last so I'm sadder about it but I won't be one of those mums stopping their children progressing to keep them a baby as it's not in their best interests and that's why I do what I do for them.

Just got the photoshoot pics back and I'm really disappointed, not one nice picture of them together :(. If anyone is interested they're here go to babies, view your photos, bumps photo days 20/08/2011 and my password is 1374.

Oh dint tell me about pictures! We had some done at DS's nursery and they were all hideous, truly truly hideous. The on,y good one was one of Clems on her own.....which I bought and felt guilty about as it was many meant for DS, being at his nursery and all

Sorry for the crappy typing I'm bfing Clem who is oh so nicely sticking her fingers in my mouth!

Luke does that too!! Mainly to play with my Tongue ring but it's really annoying to have your mouth played with!

Oh cinnamon you must have been looking at them too long! They are two very scrummy looking boys and some good pics I think Love the one with Luke pulling the birdy and......... you don't look over weight to me

Jack was with Mum and Dad today and had in total....... as in all day....... as in from waking at 7am ish to bed again at 7pm ish............ take a guess?!!.......... 10 minutes kip! They said he was fine but he'd never last so long for me without more sleep. Is Gransnet pioneering baby Redbull or something?

I hate to disagree with you cinnamon, but I think there are some lovely ones. Maybe no classic looking at the camera type ones, but there are loads where they both look really sweet and smiley. In fact, I showed a couple to DP and he said "cuties" and "very cute" . Of the ones with both of them, I esp. like 5293, 5388 and 5450. Could it be that they're not what you were expecting, and that's why you don't like them so much?

Sorry you were feeling so crap yesterday sassy. Glad other people were on here for you. It is so easy to focus on things that aren't going so well, and take the things that you are doing well for granted. x

beatit Hope Jack's ok tomorrow, and you have a nice lunch with your friends.