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fraktious · 23/06/2011 13:07

So we don't scare the viroids on the antenatal thread with horror stories of no sleep, chomped boobs and endless laundry or make them envious with tales of cuteness....

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vallinnapod · 06/09/2011 20:37

Ouch COAAM!

No real worries about him. The MW came today for our 6 day check and said just to keep an eye on his eye, keep bathing it in cooled boiled water and head to the GP if it gets swollen or the gunk goes green.

I have several bottles of 'witches brew' as DH has called it now thanks Frak! One for each changing station and one for our outdoor bag!

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fraktious · 06/09/2011 20:57

M still has a stork mark at the back of his head :)

Loving witches brew

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vallinnapod · 07/09/2011 07:54

Teddy has a gorgeous teeny tiny one that I reckon looks like a teeny heart between his eyes and then a splash type one on the nape of his neck.

He is exactly one week and one hour old as I type. How did that happen?! Grin

Baby2b · 07/09/2011 16:30

Time goes by so quickly doesn't it? Can't believe mine is 12 days today and already changing so much Smile

Can I ask where you purchase your oils from? I bought some camomile tea, so almost ready to join the coven Grin

vallinnapod · 07/09/2011 20:58

Get brewing Grin I got mine from Boots (3 for 2!). I had some almond oil from when I bought my Clary Sage which was from Holland and Barrett. I did need to add a drop of (organic Wink) baby wash to make it mix. He does have a lovely smelling bottom now Grin

We registered him today which felt really great!

Was also told to send off for child benefit. Anyone know if this is a means tested benefit or a universal one?

Baby2b · 07/09/2011 21:39

No idea about the benefits. We have that question on our to do/find out list.

Just had a thought. Is it twinnings type tea ok to use or should it be loose tea? I had no idea how many health benefits it had.

ConfessionsOfAnAchingMind · 08/09/2011 08:46

Val, child benefit is still universal. It's not a huge amount of money, but every little bit helps (must nag DH to send off DD's form). The govt is talking about either reducing it down to first 2 or three children only and/or means testing it.

DD just would NOT go to sleep and stay asleep last night. Finally put her in bed with us, fast asleep 10 mins later. Put her in her basket 5 mins later and stayed there til I woke her up this morning. Little rat bag Grin

vallinnapod · 08/09/2011 14:17

Thanks ladies.

Will be nice to receive something, especially when my mat pay finishes!

Eskarina · 08/09/2011 16:48

Val it's about £20 a week, paid every 4weeks. Must get Imogen registered so we can start claiming. There are working family tax credits too, but they're dependent on household earnings. Not sure what the limits are, but not v high as we fail to qualify onDH's salary alone.

We're doing a bit better. She still hates being put down at all, but I'm coping with this fact more. We're persisting in trying to get her to sleep in own crib/basket but accept that she's in with us for most of the night. And she just has to scream if I need a wee!

Lots more to say but am feeding and tapping one handed so tis a slow process. Hopefully will catch up more soon.

ConfessionsOfAnAchingMind · 08/09/2011 18:07

We get ours paid weekly. just got the form in for DD's. It's about £10 on top of the initial £20.30. That'll keep her in nappies.

Baby2b · 09/09/2011 12:27

Hello, how is everyone getting on?

Glad to hear things are getting slightly better esk. My ds has been very sleepy yesterday and this morning. Got lots of 3 hour stretches of sleep last night. Can't help feel it wont last and we are being lulled into false sense of security!

Dh had a night (and day) out yesterday to wet the babies head. He has been working really hard the past few months and been a great support so I felt he deserved it. Still made him sleep in the spare room though. One grunting, burping and farting boy is enough Grin

It's a bit of a rubbish day here. Wish the weather was a bit nicer for more walks.

Baby2b · 09/09/2011 13:18

Oh esk, I think it was someone on here that suggested it to me...I gently heated ds Moses basket with a hot water bottle. Think the shock of going from warm bed to cold Moses basket was too much. I now lie on a sheet while feeding him and put it back in with him (didn't want to keep bothering with hot water bottles).

I also left the ensuite light on, so the room is brighter. He now goes down no bother, unless he needs changing (again) or had drifted of before being finished feeding.

The slightest cry and I lift him out though Blush

vallinnapod · 09/09/2011 18:45

Hey - all good here. Busy day as out for lunch and then caught up with a friend over from Oz. When we are out Teddy sleeps loads, loves his pram! It does mean he feeds slightly less, just got home and I was practically porn star! Feel a lot more ' relieved now he had had tea!

Glad your DS is settling better B2B I was wondering about the cold sheet as Teddy's was chilly last night when I put him in which must be a shock after warm cuddles before bed! Don't Blush at picking him up at the slightest cry. I don't think DS has ever got to full on crying as I am like lightening picking him up before then! I too feel a bit like we are being lulled in to a false sense of security. We tend to wake up 2 or 3 times for a feed and change and then snooze again. When it comes to the morning I have to strip him down to his nappy to wake him and feed him!

My DH is out with the boys wetting the baby's head tonight....I made it very clear he is not to touch the baby until the morning Grin As a result of him going to meet the boys I had my first 'solo' bus journey! I don't think I have ever been so nervous! We did survive though. Feel very Grin of myself!

cowboylover · 09/09/2011 20:24

I think DD has forgotten how to sleep! she won't settle on her own at all but then once she's gone to sleep she will sleep right through til the morning so can't moan but an hour of foxtrot (ish) around the bedroom is getting wearing!

Suddenly got motivation to loose weight and im going for it! DD is enjoying the time in the pram so doing us both good Smile

vallinnapod · 10/09/2011 21:54

Hope your DD has a sleep flashback tonight Cowboy

Channelling my inner porn star here...my boobs are just comic, they look like someone has gone for a boob job two sizes too big and the surgeon chose to just stick them on! Just wish DS would feed for more than 10 mins to drain them properly! Confused

vallinnapod · 11/09/2011 10:20

'Bad', well silly, night here. We, as in DH and I, woke at 3:30 and (stupid, stupid, stupid) stupidly decided to change DS to wake him and feed him as I was so engorged on my left side I was going to exploded. So while DH was changing I was kneading away to give DS a fighting chance to latch on. Fail, massive fail. He wouldn't latch. Both of us getting frustrated. Decided to give up and try him on the 'good' side (which was dribbling away...) and he just would not latch that side either although this time he was thrashing a bit and kicking the shit out of my rock boob :( At this point I give up, have DH pacing with DS whilst I try and express the rock (I know, I know....it will make it worse in the long run....) Finally get DS on the 'good' boob but god it was a struggle. Both my boys are now sleeping and I have been up for an hour :(

Sorry, bit full of milk self pity this morning!

vallinnapod · 11/09/2011 10:22

Should have asked, any tips other than feed, feed, feed?

I foolishly thought I had got off pretty lightly when my milk came in as I am day 11 and thought I had escaped engorgement issues....

cowboylover · 11/09/2011 13:10

Sorry Val no advice really besides I used to just take the pressure off my hand expressing as DD was the same. If I woke her it meant she didnt really want it and fussed getting both of us more frustrated.

It will settle and my favourite saying so far has been this to shall pass!

vallinnapod · 11/09/2011 17:31

Thanks! I am trying to keep it in perspective! This time 10 days ago he was hardly eating at all. Very easy to forget how far we have come yet how tiny he still is!

Baby2b · 11/09/2011 21:05

Been having similar problem val. Now ds is sleeping longer my left boob was turning into a rock by the time it's turn came round.

I have found the starter, main and desert theory is helping. Feed ds on one boob for 20-30 mins. Then we he is drifting off I wind him and change his nappy. Then he feeds from other boob, but only for 5-10 mins before falling asleep. I then start on this side next time. You are probably doing this anyway.

ConfessionsOfAWareFanjo · 11/09/2011 22:22

A friend of mine used to wrap her son's arms up to stop him thrashing and grabbing while feeding. Maybe this would help Val? I wished I thought of this for DS, he was awful for night time feeds for the first couple of months and one of my nipples is still scared because he wouldn't wake up properly, so wouldn't/couldn't latch properly. I think we only really overcame this by him sleeping through at 3 months. I pretty much feed the same as B2B does, one and a half boobs a feed.

My 3 and half year old DS gave us the fright of our life tonight. I won't post details as I've posted on FB and don't want to out myself, but he's fucking lucky and I'm going to have a shit night sleep thinking about how lucky he is. Sad

Baby2b · 12/09/2011 01:57

Glad your ds is ok coawf. The worry that starts with your bfp never leaves, does it?!

ConfessionsOfAWareFanjo · 12/09/2011 15:47

Nope it never leaves. The pregancy books never warn you about the guilt and worry that comes with being a mother! Thankfully other than shattered nerves on DHs and my part DS is fine, no hospital or anything. We just need to buy a shower curtain now.

Baby2b · 12/09/2011 16:08

Oh dear, sounds like it was a very close call. Glad he is ok x

vallinnapod · 13/09/2011 09:57

COAWF - any sort of scare with a child is horrible - I hope your nerves aren't too frayed.

We had some left boob success yesterday but DH and DS are currently STILL sleeping. Going to have to wake DS shortly as I think I could squirt milk at 100 paces!

We have an appointment with a cranialscarial therapist today to see if the BF issues could be down to some post birth pain - it's peace of mind for me at any rate - if all seems fine we are hitting up every breast feeding drop in until we have it sussed!

Hope all is well with everyone else x