Feb 2011 - it's all about the shred

[reastie]

welcome everyone

Hello, well next time I mention going into work, please give me a literal shake, I am soooo tired, seriously the kind of tired where you want to cry and feel hungover!!! Worked last night but its such a difference, getting up in the night, having the kids all day, going to feckin' sports day, rushing around for baths, going to work, coming in late and then getting up in the night again. Mr W is on 5.30am starts, but today is his last day for 2 whole weeks Of course I have agreed to work tomorrow day and night but no more (although thats 6 of my 10 KIT days done)

Sofias' birthday is when we are away so we are having a little bit of a party at lunchtime on Sunday, of course thats turned into a bigger thing than we originally thought, I keep forgetting how big my extended family is

hubbard that's so lovely of Tom, afraid I would have been in happy tears for hours!!

Four4me Olivias' play group is mixed abilities, lots of hugs when you go in to pick her up, all the children were very excited when I had Anna, I now have to add 10 mins onto my pick up time, so everyone gets to hold her and give her kisses. Of course if I come in on my own they don't want to know me, they just ask for baba, anyone would think they'd been hanging about with my Mum

ledkr when Mr W is home we always eat when the kids are in bed about 7.45pmish. D will be fine, she'll be all hugs and kisses when you come back or she might take the huff (that's something Sofia did when she was 6 months old and I went to see my sister )

emski I feel exactly the same re Mr W - is the fact that he's studying mean you know when he will finish? - does he have exams or is it ongoing for a few years. I think its even more difficult when they think of work at home, its one of the things we try and avoid. I don't mind his hours so much, Mr W is also trying to do as much overtime as possible so there are weeks we don't see him, but when he is home the minute I see him start to think about work I pull him up on it. Its the seething resentment that's the worst isn't it? You are at home like a headless chicken and they still have their life!!!

If its any consolation we have had quite difficult times where I have felt we aren't quite connecting but in the end we've found our way back to where we feel happiest.

WIGGLES AND EMSKIduring my big rant i screamed at dh "nothing has changed for you, you still have your job,your pension,your career prospects and I am debating whether or not i can manage to work!! In a job ive done for 12 sodding yrs.I have had some resentment its safe to say
Me and Ela cycled to ballet last night whooping like maniacs,and i had aflash of what life was like before,still at least dh helps out,main reason for worrying about work is Ellas bloody dancing 4 times a week. Delilah will be playing footy i tell ya.

Hey everyone

Thanks for my round of applause ledkr, made me smile :) When DH is snoring away I just think, the girls love me more than him because I am always there and always playing with them.

Given up on the potty training for a while- asked Imy if she wanted to wear big girl knickers and have a sweetie if she weed in the potty, or wear a nappy like a baby- she went for the nappy.

These bloody DHs they are nothing but trouble. emski I can only give your advice to me back to you- talk to him and tell him how you feel.

We have our tea all together at 6.15, often with my mum and dad too as I cook for them as well. Then bath at 7, bed by 7.30.

Glad you had fun at the First Feb Meet Up (TM), let's hope it's the first of many. I do sometimes wonder what it would be like if this thread was our "village" and we all went for coffees and did stuff (not THAT kind of stuff, reastie ) together... Oh well, maybe one day :)
I think you have to do whatever works re. partners and helping out. We have just been 'getting by' so far - doing the bare minimum really, and the occasional take away when it all feels too much. I'm finally feeling a bit on top of things now, so might have to delegate some tasks!!
best go, I think someone needs changing...

well, in light of delia getting excited by baby in h&a with c playmat, I had a similar excitement last night when I saw the harpist we had for our wedding was on the peter andre itv docu teaching him to play piano. I don't know if I was more (in a d style way) or (at admiting I was watching said docu)

byron I think we should all go on hol to greece for our meet up - would be great fun - have you got enough space on your floor

emski no advice other than I tried being moody and ignoring dh but it doesn't seem to work - if anything it drives me more mad as he doesn't seem to notice which makes it all worse. Would recommend having a chat if you can - just pick your momment well.

Right, wiggles - any mention of work at I will remind you you are forbidden

hubbard tom sounds a sweetie and 44me to thomas

four4me I hope your meeting with the woman went well. I met a 4 month old baby with ds at the SANDS event, he looked so much like Zoe, same cute face and fluffy blonde hair.

emski i think you have to tell dh how you are feeling, it will be such a weight off your shoulders.

reastie i am embarrassed for you - Peter Andre . I second the idea of the Greece meet up, bryon i will bring my sleeping bag

debka sorry but i laughed at Imy, little madam knows her own mind!

emski I too am thinking about having serious words with my DH. He has done ONE night feed in 17 weeks, and even then I had to get him up, so was awake myself. I know he has to "work" but 17 weeks of broken sleep really starts to take its toll. I am doing some KIT days next month and I am really interested to see how things pan out when I also have to get up for work. I just feel like telling him that hes not the dad I thought he would be,as he is so willing to let me take all the burden. Not sure if its a bit harsh to say that tho.

Thanx guys. Dh does a lot with the boys, he's bathed Noah and is feeding him now as I had a bath and story with Ben tonight. It's just that when it's me and him there's nothing to say because I know that all he's thinking about it work and studying. He's doing a degree through work and is just coming to the end of the first year and has another year to go. He goes away once a month for a study week and is due to go again in July, but has loads on at work at the moment so is really stressed. He always says that it will get better but has now told me that he can't have and time off work until Sept as he's so bush. I know all our dh's are busy but sometimes I really do feel like a single parent housewife! I really do resent his life carrying on ad normal. I've only managed to go running once since Noah was born because by the tine dh gets home from work it's bath time and by the time the boys are in bed all I want to do is chill and mnet!
Check me out, the big moaner!
Anyhow I've been naughty and gave Noah a quartet of a weetabix with his milk at teatime. He loved it! He even opened his mouth for the spoon! I took photos of the mess he made and will put them on here later.
I think it might have been Deb who recommended the book Life After Birth. It's brilliant, thx so much for the recommendation! They talk about how women can focus all their love and affection on their baby instead of their husband and I really think that's what I'm doing. I'm obsessed with Noah and can't stop staring at him and touching and kissing him! Please tell me you are all as obsessed!

Evening ladies

DH is off playing football and yet I seem to have managed to get the three boys into bed and asleep by 7! I am sitting in front of telly with a wee nipper of amaretto to celebrate the weekend.

emski agreed you have to tell dh how you feel. I am THE worlds worst for talking about 'feelings' but after being told dh was playing footy after work tonight, staying overnight in Brum on Monday and playing a twilight game of golf on weds I had to tell him how shit he was at making time for us as a couple - he always has so many social events, and like ledkr said, its like nothing has changed for them. ANd my DH is great at helping out and is a real hands on dad but I feel chained to the house (esp this week as I have been potty training DS2. Tried last week while DH was off work for the week, thought it would be easier with him here, WRONG. He was so stressed about it and DS kept peeing everywhere. Then he shouted at him for having a poo on the carpet - dont laugh - and I thought Eff this, I will wait til he is back at work, and lo and behold, ds has done brilliantly this week with the training and has only had two accidents) but I digress, I have been indoors ALL week due to potty training and he can just come and go as he pleases.

Oh an dwhile we are all name dropping our kids toys, DS1 much loved and worn teddy was the same one Fiz's little girl had in th hospital before John went mental. I never watch Corrie really but yelled up to DH, 'T's Teddy is on the telly' (Had to quickly run and check Teddy was upstairs and not leading a double life)

Have uploaded some more photos too.

Had loads more to say but have heard DS2 is actually awake upstairs and now ave to go an investigate ('thank god' I hear you mutter [grin}0

em it was me who recommended that book, I am so glad you are enjoying it, it meant a lot to me, I kept reading it and going wow, that's ME, I'm NORMAL!

I am also that obsessed, I love Imy of course I do but I feel much closer to S, like she is 100% mine, whereas Imy is attached to her dad, her granny, the gruffalo .

She was funny tonight, getting her dressed after her bath she was kicking and kicking and giggling her little head off, so cute!

Ooooo had a call from the Paediatric Consultant on the EAT study with her blood test results- apparently something to do with her liver was slightly raised, so she has to have a repeat blood test to check it's gone back to normal. The dr was v reassuring and I'm not worried, but wish she didn't have to have another blood test. I do feel comforted knowing that if there is anything up, she'll go straight to Guys and St Thomas to have the best paediatricians looking after her.

byron I'm up for the meet up in Athens too! Hope you have a big floor!!

Hey all, well grumpy little madam is in bed - no I'm being harsh but really noticed I was getting impatient with her today

Emski yes yes yes to focusing all love and attention on baby, I am also obsessed with dd and can't get over the fact that we made her and how perfect she is. Dp compared to her is annoying haha! Will be looking up that book. My dp has taken on more responsibility at his work so he is also preoccupied with that, and like you I knnow its for the best but... well you know what I mean. Have you spoken to your dh?

choco can I be nosy and ask what travel cot you have please?

wiggles hope you're ok, KIT days sound knackering! Well that and the lack of sleep.

Right I'll be back on later, dp has just got back with a big load of food for tea from take away yum

40weeks sorry I can't remember your LOs name but he is gorgeous and so BIG! My Sabine is a dinky little baby compared to other 4mos.

Thanks deb its Mikey, I of course totally agree DS2 now asleep thank god and I have forgotten what I was supposed to write...

Dont know what time DH will be home. He said 'not late' but I am starving. Would it be rude of me to order my pizza now, ha ha.

Getting hair cut tomorrow, woo! And have a night out tomorrow night. I have bought some new and ridiculously high heels so am practicing walking around the house in them, while also in my PJs!

40Weeks lovely photos - he has gorgeous hair [gazing wistfully at Anna rocking the Kojack look]

Think I wouldn't feel as tired if I didn't have to ferry around a 5 year old with a social life to put Suri Cruise to shame I am also obsessed with the girls, bad news for first timers, you still obsess when they're older and if you have another one, the obsession/wonderment doubles, triples etc

Mr W is off work for 2 weeks, woo hoo, already had yummy takeaway and am going to catch up on TV I've missed this week then sad as it may sound I'm off to bed.

Did I already mention I'm working tomorrow , are we all aware that I'm doing a few KIT days, sorry all - I realise I have banged on about it a bit this week, if anyone else was posting I'd be silently screaming "well you don't have to do them you silly mare" .

Bang away wiggles (double entendre intended ) its hard bloody work without going into bloody work

Have just ordered pizza, its takeaway Friday!

evening

wiggles i hope thats the last of your kit days or i will have to go over there and smack that bottom to stop you going a la mr w

40 love the piccies, esp the one of the 2 boys in that pull along thingy

well i have a telly addict for a dd. it's not even funny any more. she wont go to sleep tonight unless i hold her and she can see the tv. she did fall asleep but as soon as i put her down she screamed so back to square one with baby on arm and dave in the background - am desperado for the loo

jane yes, i am re peter andre thing - i don't know why i watch it as he comes across as completely egotistical

that book sounds interesting - might look it up

ems hope it goes ok with dh - let us know

Hey all I'm back,

40weeks your photos are so lovely, how cute! at you trotting round the house in your new heels, I'm impressed I can't do heels :)
My take away was lovely btw, enjoy your pizza!

deb I am loving the image of S kicking and giggling, how adorable. Poor thing having to have more blood tests, must be horrible for you too though. Hope all is ok with her liver. Am I right in thinking you said S is on 9th centile? So is dd and 3 times this week I've had people (one a random stranger) say "she's 4 months? isn't she small" In a way that makes me feel abit

wiggles good luck tomo, hopefully Mr W being off work will mean more sleep for you? fingers crossed.

ledkr love the idea of you and E cycling and wooping, I know I've said it before but you sound like you have such a fantastic relationship, am really hoping to have something similar with dd (its up to me isn't it )

MizK hope Jamies is nice, let me know if its worth the money!

When are we off to Greece then?! byronic I'm sure your other half won't mind being invaded by a bunch of yapping women

Heres to sleepy babies tonight xx

Hey reastie, I too have a telly addict for a daughter, usually on her rug she'll crane her neck looking at it even when she's facing the wrong way she likes really random stuff too, though she does seem to like the tennis at the mo which is good :)

ponyo alices tv of choice seems to be tennis and cooking shows. oh, and i was catching up on des[erate housewives on laptop earlier when she was feeding and she wouldnt feed as prefered desperate hws - when i shut down the la[tp[ to stop her she cried

She's got good taste :)

evening ladies.
it looks as though freya my be fine now without the harness. last night was fab, dream fed her at 12 and she woke at 6 dh fed her and she went back off till 8am. she's been in bed since 7 without a peep. bathed her with tom again tonight and she laughed like a little donkey at him made me cry it was so sweet will try and upload some photos now

Great news hubbard that must be such a relief. How cute about the bath

The shoes may have got the better of me...am hoping I am not on here tomorrow with a broken ankle!

Morning all
Hubbard, so pleased Freya ok without harness, sounds like she's doing really well!
I also have a tv addict for a baby. If I lay Noah on the floor way from the tv he moves around on a circle until he can see it!
40 have a fab night out tonight, good luck with the high heels!
Am thinking the dreaded four month regression may have hit us early! Went into Noah at 2am as he was crying and attempting to turn him onto his side and he was having none of it. Being desperate for sleep I brought him into bed where he lay awake until 3.30! He finally fell asleep until 8, but wow at 3am this morning I was NOT a happy bunny. Dh and I have said if it carries on we will take it in turns to sleep on the sofa while the other one has Noah. Dh worried me though when at 3am he said shall I take Noah into the living room and sit with him in his bouncy chair! I said what, with the tv on?! I think when Noah has his night time awakens it should be make clear to him that it's still night time not playtime, men!

Morning!

I also have a TV addict baby, it makes me feel better that this in 'normal'.

hubbard yey for Freya, what a little star!

40weeks Good luck with the shoed tonight, remember, beauty is pain! haha

emski what a pain about Noah, and he was doing so well before too! Maybe this is just a blip and he will get back to his routine soon. At least your DH is doing his fair share, more than I can say here!

Harry woke at 3am last night, but as he had been dreamfed at 9.30pm (huge bottle) I just stuck a dummy in his mouth and he then slept til 4.30, fed him then and he slept til 8.30am! I think i am going to have a rule of no food before 4.30/5am and see if that helps the random wakings. Is that cruel? Obv I will feed him if he cries. Also, do you think I will live to regret giving a dummy in the night? I dont give it at bedtime so he gets used to falling asleep without it. What do you think?

Going to take H for his 2nd swimming session today...wish us luck!