Feb 2011 - it's all about the shred

[reastie]

welcome everyone

Hi tad im glad you are having a better day. My DF is away for work as well, he is in Basingstoke until thursday night.

I too hate the outlaws turning up at the door whenever takes his fancy! I imagine if Zoe was here fil would be in a camp bed outside the front door! He is such a contrast to mil, she is such a lovely woman i love her to bits. My own parents have only been in my house twice and they only live down the road!

emski my pils behaviour defo made me depressed and sooooo angry it consumed me.When i had a chat with dh and told him how i had felt he was very understanding and a little and angry too. I have felt better ever since,it was jsut that the one person you can always speak to you suddenly cant cos its their mum. I actually feel abit sad about the whole thing now but when i try to make things right they just act like twats, i am going to try for this year and if they are still ridiculous will hand over to dh and he can visit with Dilly whilst me and Ella have some fun. Mybe the only option im afraid and then in a few years i guese Dilly may even not want to leave us and thats her choice.Am making awill soon tho cos dont ever want them to end up with her,i bring my dc's up as free spirited socially functioning people not emotionless zombies who conform and only care about their nucleus and nobody else. Ooooo that was deep

Wher is Debka

Wasn't Debka going to a show, or has she already been?

Glad you're feeling a little better tadjenny, routine pah what routine, A is conked out on her blanket as we speak Hope you get on ok for the rest of the week.

Had lovely time today, went for lunch with bf, had a bitch concerned discussion about a few of our mutual aquaintances well mainly our bils so feel no guilt there. She got me some lovely presents so am feeling all pampered and appreciated!!

reastie agree with everyone else, you need to be confident with whoever you leave A with, I left Sofia with mil for 2 mornings a week before I had Olivia and it worked out very well but I was sure about what she was doing, well to be fair I just let her get on with it but I did trust her implicitly with Sofia, she did lots of stuff that I wouldn't personally do, but she also taught Sofia so many things that I just wouldn't have had the inclination time to do eg hours spent doing jigsaws, puzzles, word finders, playing with buttons, old sewing stuff etc. The fact that my pil took her to the bookies every day also had a plus point, she's a whizz at maths now

I have been wondering about debka too. deb if you are reading this hi, hope you are ok?

wiggles i am a big racing fan as you all know and i am very sucessfull when betting,all learnt from many trips to the bookies with grampy
Um isnt bf mumsnet speak for boyfriend

ledkr I know its boyfriend but every time I type best friend it makes me feel about 10 How's Dilly - asleep? Although A gets up at around 5ish, she will asleep again at about 7-8am for an hour or so, its ok if Mr W is here but a real pain in the arse if we have to do school run.

jane have done my shred [crossing fingers behind back]

chocoroo Did you have buggy fit or some such madness today?

MizK Meant to ask how do you pronounce Cassia, it was mentioned on a thread yesterday with pronounciation I wouldn't have used but it was lovely, I mentioned it to Mr W and he pronounced it differently again from the way I would say it, if that makes sense How were the jabs?

Emski as another who has MIL problems, thanks for sharing your experience, it's quite interesting to see how things have worked out for you and really useful to have that insight.

LOL that feels weird, that's kind of how I would reply to 'other' mners who are not Feb mums, it feels all formal, but still, thanks!

reastie that's the problem I have that I think DH thinks I just don't like her and like my Mum more (well obviously I do, but you know what I mean), when really it's not about that, in fact I think it is almost all about trust as you say. I will have to really feel like I trust her before I can relax into the going back to work thing, and so far I feel she has f**ked up on the trust front a few times. I also suspect she says things to shut me up, not realising I need info, not 'right answers', e.g. if I ask her if C finished all her bottles she always just replies with 'yes she had everything', when I know she rarely finishes everything. This is going to get more important with solids as well, as otherwise I will never know what she has/hasn't had, what she has reacted to and what she likes/dislikes.

(The holiday thing is not about trust tho, it's about wanting DH and C and me to have a holiday on our own).

Ledkr yikes re possible teeth! Hope you have a quiet enough night.

And sharing the pain of fellow house selling/buying people, we are in the process of a possible house swop (yes really, with no estate agent or anything) but have to knuckle down to final figures tomorrow so it could all collapse yet.

Dx

Eek, sorry to hear all the PIL dramas - makes me feel lucky that MIL is very nice - although FIL makes up for it in c**tiness! I won't go into too much detail but his best performance so far has been visiting me when C was three days old and sighing a)he was exhausted from being at work - obviously I was fine having just given birth and he didnt feel the need to ask how I was doing and b) that it would be a huge mistake for DP to get married at his age as it would end in divorce. We are engaged - nice. I gave him a Very Hard Stare but refrained from actually slapping him! He's such a tool that I actually don't feel hurt by it, it just gives me material to laugh about with my friends!
wiggles we say it like Cassie - ah but lots of people say Casha - to each their own but I like our way! Of course lots of people mishear so she has been called Katya by a few people :)
delia good luck with house swap....
Right off for a shower and hopefully an early night as Cassia has been putrid today and no doubt will have me up all night - the 4 month sleep regression def exists I tellsya...

OOOO hello :)

It's nice to be missed :)

I was over watching Desperate Housewives with my mum! (can't a girl do anything round here??!!)

Can't keep up with you lot ATM, been busy with RL, my sister and my aunt came by today OH YES NEARLY FORGOT I had my hair cut woohoo!! It's a lot shorter, DH just grunted when he saw it (twunt) but I think it's great.

led your day sounds grim enjoy your hot bath and fingers crossed D has a mega lie in tomorrow.

wiggles am v v disappointed that it was best friend not boy friend!

Many sympathies to all those with IL problems... may they be diluted with many other gcs.

MizK you say it how I would, it was Casha on the thread and not really sure how Mr W was saying it, sort of Cass sea a

debka Yay for the hair cut, post a picture, please, I'm obsessed with other peoples hair because I am so crap at doing my own. I'm a tad disappointed it was lunch with best friend and not boyfriend too Not only is it my 37th birthday tomorrow but its also 20 years since Mr W and I decided to make the jump to boyfriend and girlfriend instead of just friends who snogged It was all very Dawsons Creek!!

Evening!

Boo to all the mad PIL's. They definitely seem like the number one issue for us....I'll consider myself lucky with mine.

ledkr I really hope D does not give R any sleeping tips. She's not a daytime napper really but the idea of a whole day fills me with fear!

deb Happy haircut! I love getting my hair cut...think I might have one booked zoom but I can't remember...better check!

Delia House swap sounds intriguing. Fortunately we've only been in ours a year so no plans to move. We've got that much crap vitally important stuff I can't even think about how we'd move it.

tad Hope you have a better day today. I imagine it can be so lonely for you.

wiggles Yep. It was Buggy Fit today. I can say without doubt I had no need to Shred as well. It was good fun but bloody hard work. R laughed at me the whole time as I lunged my way around the park. She loved it when we did jogging too. I celebrated with a cupcake and samosa at the local farmer's Market....

just wrote a long msg but got lost when mn went mental on me just now . Won't write it all again but did comment to everyone and of course it was very entertaining and witty .... and now it's lost forever. apologies.

quickie idea for those stumped for fathers day pressie ideas - just got a baby/tots book called 'why I love my Daddy' for dh for fathers day for alice to give him (will supplement with choccies or some such too). Book is here www.amazon.co.uk/Why-I-Love-My-Daddy/dp/0007206003/ref=sr_1_10?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1307479886&sr=1-10 there might be a nicer one on a similar vein available out there though.

I'm telling you all the shred is dangerous, when doing the one on your back with the tins of beans weights i only went and bloody dropped the tin on my face, burst my nose and lip I hope i don't have a fat lip tomorrow

Ohh delia good luck with the house swap.

wiggles i hope you enjoyed your last day of being 36

Happy new haircut debka!

Jane oops, no good will come of shredding. I use bottles of water and am always afraid of dropping them through sheer exhaustion, I also catch like a girl Get some ice on it and try and think of a tres exciting explanation incase you have a fat lip, dropping beans on my face while doing the Shred is a bit funny scundering

Hello
About to doze off on sofa but for what it's worth reastie I have pretty odd Pils who annoy me with their weird/rudeness BUT if mil does end up looking after A, reassure yourself with the fact the a) she loves her almost as much as you do and b) she did a good enough job with dh for you to marry him. These are my mantras when pils drive me spare. I pray to god that dh doesnt turn into fil in his dotage as the fil, quite frankly, disgusts me. But it did give me comfort when mil looked after ds1 while I was at work, knowing that even though she didn't do things 'my way' she did have his best interests at heart - more so than his nursery did! - she saved us a packet too. Although on a trip to the park one day ds1 did come back minus half his front tooth. Que trip to Kings where had had to go under GA and have the whole thing removed and has forever more a gap at the top where once his perfect pearly white resided. I was devastated. Still am. Pluses and minuses, s'all I'm sayin

Oh no Jane poor you

Poor you, Jane. The shred sounds vicious.

Delia, no worries re in law advice. Always happy to share!
Jane, ouch, bet that bloody hurt. I shall add it to my list of reasons not to shred!
Choc, glad you enjoyed buggy fit. Unfortunately they don't have any instructors in my area but what a great way to keep fit!
Well, Noah slept through again last night (third night in a row). I did have to help him onto his side twice as he was flailing around on his back like a beetle! Long may it last! He's laid in bed with me now watching me mnet abd probably wondering when I'm going to feed him the bottle that's on the bedside cabinet!

emski i "at I did have to help him onto his side twice as he was flailing around on his back like a bettle!" Sounds tres cute!

No fat lip here, thank god

Have a good day all!

wiggles HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope you have a fabby day x

Yes Happy Birthday you old goat!!!! What are you doing? Ive got some nice choc chip cookies and fresh coffee if you want to jump on the ferry
rant alert sorry but 4.50 !!!! That surely is taking the piss. She has been waking at 6 or 7 but the last few days has been 5 but what with the no nap day yesterday i could really do without 4.50. I am ashamed to admit i had a tiny meltdown around 6.30 when all attempts to get her back down(fed,changed)had failed and stormed downstairs waking Ella and making dh late for work (he was just leaving) "i cant do this anymore,im moving out,i never wanted a baby etc etc. I feel a tool tbh, and im an early riser so not bothered about 6 or 7 but 4.50 is a joke.
I think im extra irritated cos i went to bed at 10 but dh cant do it and gets stuck watch itv and came up at 12.15 disturbing me,it kind of feels like he feels her early wakings arent areason for him to come up early which is irrational as he never shirks from night feeds or getting up early even if working. I cant function when up that early,cant shred and just sit around feeling lethargic and eating crap.
Thank God i can come on here. Having my hair done today for paris which will be nice. Dh hs alate shift tomorrow so he can get up with her as he clearly doesnt need as much sleep.

Happy Birthday wiggles! Hope you have a fab day :)

jane I use tins of custard for the shred hope you're face is ok.

ledkr what on earth is going on with D's lack of sleep, really feel for you. Enjoy getting your hair done - how long til Paris now?! Bet you can't wait.

back later dd is shrieking - oh yeah jabs today have I mentioned I'm dreading it