Sept 08 - Insert witty title 'here'

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Sorry about the crap title ladies, I was lacking inspiration and we were up to our limit on posts!

Am back from hols.

Got a slipped disc.

And it looks like this house sale is falling through too

Sorry.

Will be more cheerful next time x

Oh dear becaroo! Hope things improve soon.

Had scan. Carrying one baby with a head and a heartbeat. :)
Team were lovely and told me to come back any time. Only thing was I'm a week less pregnant than I thought. And warning that people do sometimes find there's no heartbeat at their 12 week scan even if there was one earlier.
This pregnancy already feels like it's lasted forwever and I've got 31 weeks to go!!

bookmarking.

Sorry things are crap at the moment becaroo. Have you seen a GP about your back?

NC Thats fab news!! I had so many scans with toby (8 or 9 in the end) and my first one was at 6 weeks for viability so I can empathise!

meg Yes. It happened last week before we went away and GP was "unhappy" about it and sent me for blood tests. Rang me 2 days later and to cut a long story short she is referring me to a rheumatologist (sp?) as she thinks I have rheumatoid arthritis.

Been a pretty crappy week really.

However, when I see the news reports from Somalia and Norway I count my blessings

bec, sounds like you need and too :)

Hooray NC!

Its really frustrating me now not being able to make an educated guess whether I'm having a boy or a girl...not that it matters in the slightest, but this pg isn't more similar to either of the others (which were so different to each other) so I can't guess...although if I had to choose I'd say boy. I'm still glad we don't actually know coz I love the surprise, but at the same time I really want to know...I guess I'm just impatient to meet the baby now!

Bec my sis has arthirits in her back and she went through years of hell getting it diagnosed so if it is arthritis good on an early diagnosis. She eventually had an injection in the nerve site which blocks pain and she has been almost pain free since. The downside is you have to wait until you are in agny before they inject you.
It's a pity about the house sale as well.

carrie I really liked not knowuing with Lucy, although a scanner gave it away right at the end. I ignored her and was still surprised when I saw her.

NC When I was pregnant with ds I knew from day 1 I was pregnant so that was a really long pregnancy for me. Finding out in week 10 with Lucy felt like such a short time, esp with her being early. Glad things are going fine and just try and relax

And before I forget. Am so jealous of you having a holiday in New Zealand Debi That is one of my top places to visit ever.

debs I was crying in pain one night last week (very unlike stiff upper lip old me) and I remember thinking that I needed an injection!!!

debi is off to NZ???? Blimey....I'm away for a week and look what happens!........

Nz we went to Auckland and queenstown on our honeymoon nearly 4 years ago - it was ace and I want to go back!

Congrats on all the baby scans .

We have building work beginning on Monday so have about 12 weeks of dust and noise but the extra space shall be worth it. Me and the dd's are moving out for most of it to my mum's house. I'm nit sure who is dreading it more .

debi Wow NZ!! You'll have a great time . I expect to see photos of you all on that tower (Sky tower) with the glass floor . It gives me the willies when I see those sort of photos on FB

I've just mowed the back garden and cleared up the edges. Might do the front if the DC's will behave long enough for me to be out of ear-shot for a few minutes.

On the smug front, all the veg for our sunday lunch was grown in the garden. Loads of spuds, plus pea's, broccoli and runner beans. I can't seem to stop the spuds growing and taking over the veg patch, I think even a little one left in the soil will develop into a full blown plant. Next year I might just grow spuds and raspberries (which are also taking over).

Evening all. I am feeling incredibly hormonal and weepy tonight :(

C has been a handful all w'end and I'm worn out - can't work out what's important and what's trivial anymore. She ignores all our threats and won't sit on the naughty step or react to bribes or consequences. Only thing left is to smack, which I won't do (although very tempted sometimes!). I give up. She has beaten me. I have no idea how I chase after a naughty 3 year old when I have a newborn to look after. Just hope she grows out of it before November!

Am v envious of those who manage to get stuff done - how do you do it? C is still very demanding and unless the tv is on, she needs someone to play with her so it's impossible to get stuff done without banging her in front of the box.

Soryy for the mememe post - I'm sad that I don't like my pfb sometimes and feel quite down.

mrsa Ah. Yes. Its one of the (many) things they dont tell you before you have kids isnt it? That you would die for them, would crawl on your knees through broken glass for them, BUT sometimes you want to throw them out of the window

She's nearly 3. Its normal. Doesnt make it any easier I know and I didnt experience it so much as ds1 was 5 when Toby came along and so was easier to reason with (allegedly!)

Dont be so hard on yourself! OK? (Cbeebies is your friend!!)

I am dreading the summer hols now as the house sale has gone down the pan so we have to move into rented accomodation, keep the kids happy whilst I have a sliipped disc

mrsA I found it hard going towards the end of my second pregnancy. DS would run off and I would find it hard to chase him. It got me down too IIRC. Once DD was out I was back to full speed though.

I'm not sure about the whole discipline thing TBH. All I hear is that you must be consistent, but I fail at that when I have 2 kids to chase about. The only thing I am consistent with is that they do get a severe bollocking when they are properly naughty, time out and naughty step don't work with them at all. I just make sure they know they have stepped way out of line and explain why, it does sink in bit by bit. I have only smacked once, and that was on holiday this month when DS was buggering about at 5:30am and wouldn't settle down . DD is being a handful at the moment, I just had to yell at her a million times to come here and help get into her pyjamas, in the end I had to manhandle her into them and she was sent to bed without a story. She thinks it's hilarious .

I get things done by putting cbeebies on at 9am on a saturday morning and turning it off at 7pm on a sunday. The kids run around and play most of the day but watch the programmes they like. I still have to tell them off every few minutes but it takes the pressure off.

And if truth be told my real FB status would be 'My children are driving me up the bloody wall and I would like to hide from them for 24 hours'. But I can't put that as I have XP's family on my friend list.

Todays epic gardening day was more about avoiding the kids than actually caring about the garden .

(they're lovely now they're asleep).

MrsA I sympathise, M is a little Monkey and just wants her own way. Luckily I've discovered the counting thing seems to work - you know I'm going to count to 10 .... don't want to wear it out though!

Hi - sorry it's been a while, I've just hd a bit too much to try and concentrate on

H is still in the house and has been hassling me to get everything done, which I have and it's now MINE however it seems he's not going to be leaving for 3 weeks or more. It seems there wa a rush to get my money, but none to complete on his house .

Add to this that the joint account is overdrawn which he feels is now no longer his responsibility even though that means I've effectively paid for all the childcare myself this month - he won't be paying his mortgage until September but I have to support him next month as well

AND he has the cheek to constantly go on about how tight with money I am.

AND AND we're all on holiday together this week!!

and breathe......

well it's for the kids. We told DD1 3 weeks ago and while she was upset she's been amazing about it. Cocerned for M because 'she's too young to understanding, but too old not to notice the difference'. She's been trying to see the positive side and has been asking questions and telling her friends.

I thought we might sack the holiday but H obviously felt so guilty when we told her that he promised her we'd go on holiday 2 mins later (he promised her a mobile phone next day but that might be for another thread - she's 8 ffs)

Anyway trying to endure the week and then get on with my life, I now can't wait.

I'll try and catch up but it may take some time.

Have some un-mnty hugs MrsA. We all have days like that and it will get better, honest.

Hope your girls are ok ninja and that the holiday will be great for them and ok for you!

Yay on the scan nc

I'm very excited about NZ and it should be an amazing holiday. Ideally we would have waited until ds2 was about 5 to make it more likely that he remembers it but we can't not go when we can have free accommodation with our friends. They've got a campervan too so we're going to go off in that for a week too.

Thanks all for the comments. As always, it helps. And I have to remind myself of my blessings, when compared to some. When she is out and about she is a delight - saying please and thank you. We were at a garden centre today and there was a man showing exotic animals and C stroked a giant rat and the back of a baby red-kneed tarantula (the ones that grow the size of a diner plate). Most of the time I think she's fab and I do feel more guilty than I should about the TV.

Ninja I do feel your pain. If the house is yours, can you charge H rent or is he contributing to the bills? (Congrats on the house btw - you have security for your girls).
And with absolute experience I can tell you that he is jointly responsible for the bank account. The bank would pursue him if you defaulted on it and vice versa, irrespective of who lives where. To remove his name takes quite a bit of paperwork.
If it's overdrawn, you could leave as is and run your own single account and include it in the divorce settlement as a joint debt that you both owe?
(Obviously, please ignore if you have dealt with all of this and I'm poking my nose in)

Importantly, DD1 sounds very brave and sensible and it must break your heart sometimes but both girls will get through it will you as their mum, I have no doubt.

I am 23 weeks today and feeling lots of lovely kicks. Just found out MIL has booked a holiday starting 6 days after my due date. Gee thanks - MIL is the only person C has spent the night with apart from us so I'd better make sure I'm on time otherwise C will be experiencing the realities of a home birth first hand!

if it makes you guys feel better (regarding discipline) Noah goes absolutely lippy with obedience if you start the counting. But even though he does as he's told he spills the biggest tears.

Noah doesn't appreciate that the naughty step isn't extra fun time. He can entertain himself for hours in solitude. (plays with his shadow, makes finger puppets--sings to himself)

so now he has to sit in the highchair and sort socks.

Oh and have a great time in NZ Debs sounds amazing!!

Any tips for getting a runner to come back btw. That's the other biggie we have. C just runs still. We always do the come back/stop or you go in the buggy/back in the trolley seat etc etc but she still doesn't get it. She has mastered holding hands in a car park but anywhere else, she just runs off and laughs.
Generally nowhere for her to go but we could easily lose her or she could find the exit door (eg garden centre today and zoo yesterday). She just doesn't get why she has to stay where we can see her.

Come November she will be 3.2 and too old for a buggy plus we need the pram for the new baby, so will get a buggy board - how the hell do you run after a 3 yr old with a newborn? Do I just leave her in reins till she goes to school??

Sorry - I'm loathe to post this elsewhere as you get the usual MN nutters and their twopenneth.

Thanks you - off to bed to eat cake.

yes, I leave Noah in his leash. Until he can show he is mature enough, he will be stuck in a buggy or the baby leash. I do get loads of 'tutts'

eandz Ha! Let them "tut"!

Toby is a runner too but luckily only in wide open spaces like parks, the beach etc. Perhaps my constant mantra of "hold mummys hand, its dangerous" is paying off????

ninja God, that sounds crap If its a joint account he is as liable as you for the overdraft. Also, he should by rights be paying you rent til he moves out...the house is now yours and he is (an unwanted) lodger.

Glad you dd is taking things in her stride....they are so adaptable at this age. one of ds1's friends parents split up last year and his friend just turned to his parents and said "Does this mean I get an XBox?"

Feel like rubbish

Got so much to do and no energy or will to do any of it......

becaroo
sending you a cup of mn coffee

MrsA - Charlotte and Maebh should meet and swap tips! Yes she's a runner too but getting better. I'm lucky that she goes to a childminder for whom she is amazingly good so she has startegies!

I think threatening and carrying through with strapping into the buggy if she runs can help but .......

Thanks for the advice. I did tentatively ask if H could contribute something towards the bills next month but was told I was the tightest person he knew and how he would tell everyone that I was charging him for food in his house and how he may never speak to me again and then he just laughed at me. I think I'm just going to write it all down along with everything else.

Anyway he'll be gone soon, I've bought beds for the kids rooms so I know they;'re sorted (he's done nothing about getting stuff for his house but I've put some things together) and DD1 is very excited about having a large attic room - almost too excited his new house is next to the library and the park so it is great for the kids, I just hope they still want to come to mine. DD1 is a bit of a Daddy's girl

Debs you'll have a fab time in NZ, I have a coouple of friends there and have been once but would love to go back.

sorry Debi not debs

I'd be interested to know how your DD is now the water nfection has been treated. She could have had recurrent ones that could have caused the 'accidents' I hope the treatment has helped.

Bec how has your DS done at school? DD1 got the end of year class prize [proud mum emotion] she's come on so much this year in many ways (I just hope this doesn't knock her back). Her reading has gone up 4 sublevels!!!! Her writing is stillpoor though. She still gets letters mixed up, can't tell left from right and is rubbish with time (althouh I think she just gets that from her father)

In the last couple of weeks since we told her she's also learned to ride a bike, got the points trophie from Brownies, been in a play in the big theatre in town, got a great report ...... I have to say she is constantly amazing me at the moment. Even out here she's being positive. We're basicallt in the middle of a building site in the bulgarian hills. There are no kids and she just looks for the best

She'll probably be a monkey today and I'll be taking it all back!