July 2010: Weaning's in full swing, the kitchen floor's covered in ming

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And voila: our 6th postnatal thread... which neatly works out roughly one a month [maths genius emoticon]

great sartorial advice from kk there tsc. i'm sure you'll look miles better than the shambolic picture you're painting

and good luck!

Thats a bummer! well look at it as a giid thing. Id you get the job and have to turn it down at least you know you still have it in you! you should go to bed now ans get all the sleep you can

And i should really take more care when typing on my phone!

sorry i missed everything. Dont want to echo whats been said but mlic and tsc i really admire what your doing and how your coping even if it doesn't feel that you are.

memphis i think we are all like that, you should defo go to the meet up. It seems we all know each other pretty well considering what we tell each other. Wish we could support you more.

Just had a thought another way we could give extra support to each other would be fb chat its a bit more private and i think it can be with more that 2 people.

Fab news on weight loss and car sale kk. Have you thought about arnold clark etc? I can send links when on pc if you want.

Had to go to mil's tonight as its her birthday. We got her an electric cig to stop her smoking. I doubt it will work bloody woman! Off to bed talk soon

morning peeps, dh woke L at 5 with his banging about!!!!
kk i love your car, its the car i would sell L to be able to have! i second arnold clark website
last week at group my stomach rumled for last hour then i devoured half a plate of jaffa cakes they had out so today i need to have breakfast, digestive biscuits and toated teacakes!!!
tsc good luck today

Morning, Dylan woke at 1:45 and I thought great another night from hell coming up but after getting him back to sleep he slept til half 6 then on and off til 8 so not overly bad.

Im going for a walk with a friend later then meeting more friends for a cuppa tea after. (this is because we are too lazy tired to do the strenuous walk the surestart centre do)

No teeth for Dylan yet, keep trying to check but doubtful that the HV was right :(

dh at 12 weeks old my hv said L was an early teether and he would have teeth with weeks 4 months later no teeth, to be fair at 3 months his gums were swollen and bumpy and white like teeth were going to pop out but the still havent

Morning all,

Can't quite believe it but F slept in his own bed again - 3rd night in a row. A has gone back to a 3am, 5-6am wakeup, miles better than the 2 hourly wake-ups of the past 2 weeks but i'm hopeful the good old days of missing the 3am feed are on the cards again.

chulita i'm with you on the long days without dh around. my dh is going thru a busy patch and has barely been home before 7pm in the last 2 weeks and tonight he's in Glasgow overnight

memphis is it your group today?

mlic how're you feeling today with the new tooth in your household!

Thanks women will have a look at that website later! memphis i love it too! it was my pre baby baby! think i may actually cry when it goes :(
good luck today tsc
not much doing here today. Have a few heads to do and will try and get out for a walk as its lovely out

hooray for first tooth mlic!

J went to sleep last night at 7.15, then woke at 10.15 but DH managed to settle him back to sleep, wonder of wonders! He then didn't wake till 1.15 so it was 6 hours of sleep (not that I got that, of course). Just shows he can do it.

He then woke again at 3ish and I tried to resettle him without feeding but it didn't work - but he wasn't really interested in feeding and bit me bloody hard. I yelled in pain, he cried, DH woke up... ah well.

God yeah G & T is a scary place. My friend's dd is on her school's G & T register and her parents define their very lives around it. Makes me wonder what'll happen to them if she decides she's not so keen on being 'the bright one' and starts thinking more about horses, boys, music or whatever.

just saw this on a thread over there and thought pagwatch had some v wise words:

pagwatch Thu 06-Jan-11 13:27:03
Op i have an extremely bright child and a child with special needs. I also have an average child

average is very underrated. Average is where quite a lot of the happy and relaxed goes on.

having interesting challnging children is great and all that and I wouldn't swop any of them. But i wouldn't swop any of them. My average dc is kind, thoughtful, imaginative, caring, intuitive - all good yet under rated things. My average child is also very happy in a way that child with thoughts too big for his bloomin head and child with sn can't aspire to.

Don't waste a second wishing your child different. it is truly 'be careful what you wish for' territory.

sorry - that is a bit lectury. i don't mean to be so but the endless assessment of our children at all ends of the ability spectrum is a bit frustrating.

cakes yes group was today,ive come out feeling awful, it was about our lives before today weather that me childhood or teenage or what ever, a couple just wouldnt talk, so awful how bad their childhoods must have been. i feel shitty i talked about my illness and losing my soulmate a few years back it has just made me feel yuck, i said about not feeling like i fit in etc too and they other girls were lovely saying about my soh, but i find it scary am i just trying to be funny to hide the shit i feel? i dont even know anymore?!
was reading you post about average children, i hope Lis just happy with what he has in life, i dont aspire to him being gifted i went school with a gifted girl but her parents were teachers at our school and never let her forget she wasnt has clever as her sister, we collected GCSE results and she was bawling as she only got 10 a's and 1 A she wanted all a's!
kk ive got a 10 year old fiesta i dont want to part with ive even said i would sell my bike and keep it a second car, i love it so much i will cry when dh makes me get a newer car, the woman i bought it off cried as i drove from her drive!!!

I showed his gums to my friend and she said yeah he'll get a tooth soon aswell :)

mlic reassuring that w has another tooth coming maybe a few will come through in a few days of each other also good to be reassured about E regressing with the toilet training not being uncommon! i lost Tris a few years ago he had brain tumours, spoke a lot about him today, they dont think i have allowed myself to grieve or him :(

memphis talking about this stuff will make you feel like crap but getting it out will also help you to think everything through. You may find that after a while you've processed it a bit better and feel you can move on. I'm so sorry you hear about your soulmate, have you tried writing him a letter? Sounds a bit 'out there' but I did it once and just told them everything I'd say to them if they were right next to me, even got angry at them for not being here anymore. I burned it afterwards just so I couldn't read it again but I did find it helped.

mlic of the tooth, S has red, dribble covered cheeks but no teeth.

cake I'm glad I'm not alone on the long hours front, his job's really getting him down which doesn't help...

sounds a bit bad i also find my dh is also my soulmate, totally understands me (most of the time)

mlic- hope the teeth coming through means he'll be a bit happier. A friend of mine has a boy who moaned all day every day from birth, he cut his bottom 2 teeth recently and she said he's a bit better now, it only took him 6 months!

Is this a good dress for a summer wedding? I quite like it but can't decide on the purple/teal/black&white floral. I'm looking for something that'll hide my horrific stomach but still be flattering.

I like the teal colour in it. And it would be quite flattering and some nice accesories will dress it up a bit more!
memphis so sorry to hear that that must be so hard for you :( really hope this talking will eventually make you feel better

tsc i almost fancy you given that description

sounds like you feel you did v well. do you think you'd like the work? would they really hang on til sept?

nursery here too. F loves his, does such interesting things - walks, craft, seasonal stuff, music, reading etc and his key workers have both been wonderful and genuinely affectionate with him.

an acquaintance's dd went to four different childminders and was really unhappy at every one and joined F's nursery a couple of months ago and settled straight away.

there are good childminders out there but i'd personally only use them via recommendation and for children old enough to tell you if they're unhappy about something there.

memphis sounds like you've had some tough times. as the others have said, sticking with this group, difficult tho it is, will finally give you the chance to maybe deal with the grief from losing him.

chulita it's a lovely shape - i'd just worry about lumps and bumps thru the material, unless you have some iron underwear?