April 2009 Episode 14 "Operation Kill is standing down."

[AuldAlliance]

Voici FWs!

Boff, thinking of you. Sounds like you could do with the 4 neurofen and 2 strong G+Ts.

Bicnod, I feel your pain on many fronts! My toddler too has chosen the first day of maty leave to ditch his afternoon nap. We've persevered for a week but he's having none of it. I miss those naps. I too am very impatient about impending arrival. The last one came at 39 weeks and my first nippy contraction was the beginning of labour. This time I've been having nippy contractions off and on for a week. And nothing! Will be well miffed if this one isn't early too.

Puzzle, how's yer tits?

Bebe, good luck with the travelling plans.

TW at the childminder all day tomorrow, and I have no plans . I wish I could have though.

Actually it's tit. I only fed from one side for the last year or so. So presently I am half Kate Moss half Dolly Parton. I am wearing not one but TWO chicken fillets on the right side and I am still somewhat lopsided. DH and I have started calling them the two Ronnies. Oh the indignity.

Have fun tomorrow. If it were me I would eat a lot of cheesecake and have a Michael Sheen marathon. Lovely, lovely Michael Sheen.

Puzzle :) lol
I mean, I'm very sorry to hear abt your 'imbalance'

Zulu enjoy your day today.

Boff thinking of you.

Auld how are you getting on? And are your boys recovered?

Hello everyone else.

Need to call the midwives because I haven't got anything with my EDD which I need to be able to fly home. If they just would have given me the damn folder like the usually would have done SO many things would have been easier with doctors etc all around... but I do understand why they didn't in the first place... but it has meant much more work for me.... Hopefully they'll be able to sort this out too.
I'm going frustrated nesting crazy without anything to nest...I keep thinking of new projects I could be doing at home...Dh keeps saying thank god we aren't there your you'd be doing way too much

The two Ronnies . Actually, joking aside, that does sound very uncomfortable.

Barker is starting to feel a little more Corbett today. Hallelujah.

Boff - are you out there?

I am back. Have spoken to regional union rep today and have to prepare a case for a formal grievance now. Go back to GP next Friday for review. Spoken to Equality Officer and she was good as well, like a mum.

It's interesting seeing which colleagues are being supportive - you really find out who your friends are when something like this happens.

That sounds encouraging. Are you feeling more positive?

Have you been surprised by some of your colleagues?

Boff those all sound like very productive/positive things :) That is good. :)

I have had some very supportive emails and one person told me about their own experience of this, another very senior prof analysed it all for me in an email and told me it was the sector, not me, and to take some time out. But tbh I just feel ill and tired, weary, tearful and periodically rather violent.

It's early days. Don't expect too much of yourself. I suspect you are rather more used to being stoical but it can be good to completely let go of the reins sometimes.
Ignore me if I am talking shit.

I agree with Puzz, just take things slowly, Boff. Make sure you keep talking abt things going on and try to stay positive.

So I need to scream vent:

Insurance company of the people who rammed into us have given us the run around the whole time. When we finally got a rental car (van) -at this point we weren't sure if the car was drivable, so were without the car until the van came... we were like ok, no problem, and took the car into a garage that could do the work. The garage said we needed to take our car back because they needed confirmation from the insurance company before they could do any work, but the car was drivable. So we had the independent evaluator come out that night and look at the car and were told they would let us know what to do next. No problem.
So we waited a few days...no news. Dh emailed. No reply. Next day he called. We'll call you back. We waited for a call back... at a week after the evaluator he called again. You need to wait for a letter they said. We waited another couple of days. He called. You should have a letter any time now...
In the meantime we find out we need to give the rental car back because the 2 week rental car limit is up (which no one told us about. This isn't too much of a problem as our car is drivable...
Finally a letter came. Next day he took the car back to the garage. Not the right letter called the insurance company again... wait for another letter. Another 3 days and a letter came. Dh called the garage that night, bring the car in and we'll see to it... once again went into the garage with the new letter. Great, you can bring the car back on 11th of July to be fixed...
Now we call the insurance company again and say the car is going in again and we need a car. No you cannot have one. Why? because you used your 2 week limit on a rental already and we're not going to give you anything. We'll be without a car... It doesn't matter. You'll not get anything more from us. You didn't tell us there was a 2 week limit on a rental car. Had we known we wouldn't have taken it so early. It was in the letter we sent out. It was not in any of the letters we got. AND, If we would have got the letters in a timely fashion...It's not our fault that you didn't get letters in a timely fashion. Listen, My wife is pregnant, we need to have a car...We don't care... And we won't be able to do any of the things we need to do...It's not our problem.
:(

And I tried to get my EDD faxed to me and the lady put up a stink abt having to look it up as I should have all my information. I had to explain 3 times that it was NOT my fault that I could not bring all of my notes as they were taken from me each time because I wasn't going to be in the country... They have no MATB1 forms to send me as they're all out. I said even a signed (offically headed note would work) she said she'd either call me back or fax me... still waiting...
In the meantime Moo dumped cocktail sticks all over the floor, and an entire 2 litre bottle of water (don't know where she found either) and was screaming to talk on the phone while I was trying to talk to the lady. I get off the phone and the first thing I do is slip on the water while trying to clean it up splitting my public bone it feels like...then stepped on a cocktail stick that was sticking in the carpet point up...it went in about half an inch...
I cried on the floor for about half an hour with Moo hoovering around saying, what's wrong Mommy? why crying?

Bebe, a gentle word. I have to say I probably experience things like this almost on a weekly basis, give the size of my extended family and dual career household, and so on. However I am usually sparing in how much I post on this thread about such things, because I think there's a danger of one individual rather dominating proceedings and the whole thread becoming frustrating for everyone else. I know Germany has been difficult for you and that it's hard coping in another country whilst pg etc, but I think it might be good for you to find someone in RL to share this with, for your own sake as much as anything else.

Hope you take this in the well-meaning spirit it is intended.

Boff xx

bebe, you do sound as if you are totally at the end of your tether.

You seem so utterly lonely and frustrated, and at that point (which I recognise, as I hit it quite regularly), where each day seems like a series of new challenges and problems to overcome, and you just don't have the energy to do it any more. When you are at the crying on the floor stage, action is needed, IMO. It can't be good for the baby, nor for anyone else.

Do you think you have maybe got to the "least worst scenario stage"? IIRC your house in the UK is rented out, but if not could you return there? Or is there nowhere else in the UK you can go where there are friends to help? You're not at all happy in Gy and from what you've said you never will be. Couldn't you & moo move back to the UK until the birth?

I agree. Is there any way you can come back now rather than later? I wish I had some space to offer you.

OH Boff :( I'm sorry you've had to deal with such things so often in your life. You are a very strong woman and I am forever amazed by you.

Hope everyone is well and enjoying a peaceful, restful weekend.

Name change here. Suffice it to say I am not a SAHM nor have I ever had fertility problems. Nuff said.

Hello all

Well I thought this thread had died out but it's all a hive of activity again!

How is everyone?

Auld are the boys all better? And how is everything going?

Puzz how are your bazoomers? Warm baths helped me with K although I have to say he was very good and mostly weaned himself so milk was almost gone when we cut it off (well I say gone I've always had it here just not at the volume!)

Bic Zulu Where are these babies?!?!?!? COME ON, haven't either of you got a sledgehammer and bathroom you can take it out on? !!! Cannot wait for some more FW little'uns! Although I decided to help DH paint the outside of the house yesterday and have realised that I cannot do that type of thing with these two, so don't think there will be any renovations this time!

Bebe Hope things get easier for you - have you sorted out coming home? I don't know any airline that will let you fly this late in your pregnancy so maybe just get the driving / train route sorted asap. I agree that you should get your bottom back to the UK as soon as humanly possible (rather than waiting the next couple of weeks) and soak in your own bath and sleep in your own bed! Hopefully you can get back home and sorted and feel in a bit more control over everything.

Boff Hope you are ok, have the doctors said anything or given you anything to help with the emotions? Maybe take the time to work out where it is you want to go from here and put the foundations in place!

Bronze How was Kosovo?

I can't work out the name change but I do have baby brain!

Hope I haven't missed anyone off - if I have sorry, hello and hope all is well!

I AM FAT!! So fat it's unbearable! - I am 27 weeks and literally almost as big as I was full term with K - and the babies are being very difficult, one is laying diagonally across the front of my tummy and the other transverse across my back so very very awkward! Don't want them out just yet but I point blank refuse to carry these two until 40 weeks - have my next scan and consultant appointment next week and I think they might hate me when I leave as I am hot and uncomfy and a bit hormonal!

Other than that all good. DH is back from his time away in Turkey, Work is calming down and I finish in London in 3 weeks then off officially for MN in 7 - cannot WAIT! The house is virtually finished (inside at least) and we are just plodding along.

K is lovely, we are not really potty training yet, it's in the room and he wee's in it and goes into the bathroom and says wee wee then flushes the toilet but I'm just going to let him do it when he is really ready - don't think he will be long as he stops when he wees in his nappy and pulls around at it! He is also not speaking yet - well he was and then he stopped - the day he met his new cousin and I had a horrible week at work and wasn't at home at all and really grumpy! We've taken him to the HV who says it's all completely behavioural as his awareness and understanding levels are so high he's just using it as a way of controlling situations he feels uncomfortable in - so we are waiting it out until it comes back again which it is slowly and trying not to draw any attention to new words so he doesn't see that it is something he can do to get a reaction!

But he makes up for it in energy doesn't stop from 6am to 8pm - he stopped his naps a while ago and will only have one if he is going any length in the car. He is a bound of energy climbing trees, running across fields jumping non stop all day - I physically cannot cope with him alone anymore - yesterday he ran out the garden as DH left the gate open, and before I could get my lump off the floor he was out the front, down the street and running round the corner - DH was up a ladder at the time and didn't know who to be most worried for, K and the potential to run on the road, or me trying to do some kind of waddle / sprint after him to catch him!

Anyway, best get on with some work - are we still on for August meet up?

BBX

G'wan, put a piccie of your bellie up, like we got Barbarella to do! You know you want to!

haha! That would go against my rule of now pictures during pregnancy....(!)

Just your belly, just for a bit, pleeeeeease? Barb did hers.

Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease BB.

Boobs calmed right down about 24 hours after I posted. Now shrinking at an alarming rate. DH better work his ass off for a decent bonus because I want brand new ones. I refuse to look like this

hahaha! I will have to get DH to maybe take one tonight unless I can fathom it out on my iPhone in the work toilet! Just the tummy and it will be deleted after a few hours!

Glad the boobs are better - although I am pretty sure you wouldn't look like that! I've been telling DH to save up for a lift too after my sister referred to my growing boobs as 'dog ears' on holiday ! As soon as I am finished feeding these two I am booking myself in!!!