This is what happened today... don't feel you need to read it cause it is toxic energy, but I just needed to get it out.
UG is an asshole. He came down to rag me about the enviro-friendly dish tabs I use for the dishwasher, saying they create too much suds. I rang him after they left to say that it was uncool how he wouldn't let me finish what I was trying to say and then insult me and slam the door of my house in front of my guest. He yelled at me "are you trying to start a fight" I said no, just trying to explain how I felt. I started to continue and he'd hung up on me. I rang again, and he answered only to hang up on me. I went upstairs, he swung the door open and began yelling at the top of his lungs to get lost. I said I wasn't trying to start a fight, merely telling him about the damn soap for the dishwasher I used does not create suds, that's the whole point of it. He yelled some more, and motioned a physical threat, coming at me. Then he started yelling about how they've put up with us for the last two years, blah blah blah, I said if there was a problem you should have cited it before, particularly since I asked on many occasions. He said that the reason Andrea doesn't go swimming anymore is because I bad mouth him to her, which I never have, nor would I be stupid enough to do that. I asked what, and she came out from behind him and said I made cracks about his pasty white thighs in his shorts, which I laughed at because it was, quite frankly, funny. I laughed again said to him, sorry, but it was funny, I certainly didn't mean anything bad by it. I said she had complained about him every time we went swimming, and needling away in the back of my mind was my other side telling me not to go there. She asked and I said she complained about how could UG slam $2000 on a new bed but couldn't take her on vacation, which shut him up because spending money is a huge thing for him, especially women who want it spent on them. She started yelling at me that they've talked about it and I said that was good. She yelled sorry that our work schedule interrupts my pot smoking schedule, which I laughed and said I don't smoke anymore, and she snidely said, oh ya, that's right, you're with child, you're with child, with her head cocked to the side. UG gestured her to go back inside, and I said to UG that I don't know where all this came from but that I've done nothing but stick up for him for anything that she has ever said or asked about. I said trust me, we don't want to be here anymore than they clearly don't want us here. He said to move out then, I said trust me, we are trying, he said to get on with it then.