LBH, glad you're back, I was worrying about you. With some justification, it seems.
What a crappy thing for your DP to say. 
The first year is almost always the toughest and if your baby is one of the more challenging varieties (if I can put it that way!) then it's no wonder you and your relationship feel the strain. Sounds like your DP needs to be more understanding, after all, he had no problem playing his part when it came to creating your LO, so it's totally NOT ON to then damn the first year of her life so casually.
I'm loving the stories of how you and your OH's met!
My DH was putting on a gig of the real ear-bleeding variety in a (much-loved) toilet dive and I went to review it for the radio. I got addicted to our local music scene and kept on going to gigs and DH was almost always at them.
I had to extricate myself from my XP - we had been together for 11 years, but had run out of steam. We parted amicably, then both married other people less than two years after the split.
DH was 25, I was 36 when we met, so starting a family had to happen pretty quickly. We both quit our jobs and spent several months roaming around Europe in our camper van, before getting TEFL qualifications and moving to Spain.
And here we are!
Gorillaz, Abs, that's bloody impressive! Especially given the scale and technical complexity of their shows.
A mate who's a soundman says festivals are very hard work and usually pay s**t, but I don't think he ever did the really big, well-organised ones...
I think your DS just has a warped sense of humour about getting-up times SB 
Last night was a new PB for DD. Went down with very little grimbling (thanks for the word, "grimble", BC, it's perfect!) then only woke once after about 8 hours and after a short feed, resettled quickly and didn't wake again until 07.00 
Ironically, DH had a major insomnia attack. He reckoned he was overstimulated by reading Toddler Taming.
Good job he didn't insist on hours of being resettled with my breasts 