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FEB 2010 First birthdays beckon and toddlerdom approacheth...uh-oh!

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 06/01/2011 09:21

It's humbling to look back at the last year and see how our LO's have gone from helpless newborns to action-packed pre-toddlers.

BRING IT ON!!!

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BabyGiraffes · 07/01/2011 17:50

PA you are so lucky to be young and already with a PhD and a postdoc appt and a baby and a husband and living abroad and.... Smile. I am not entirely sure what I did with my 20s and find it somewhat embarrassing that I started my first degree 19 years ago... Blush

StoneBaby · 07/01/2011 18:30

Yepee, it's the weekend Blush

I'm not going to comment on the 80's (was far too young) but I enjoyed the 2nd half of the 90's. Meet DS at the start of the 00's.

PA My DS is rattly after a cold, I think it's due the the phleme (sp) (it is in our case anyway Smile )

I hope CS night went better.

LittlebearH · 07/01/2011 20:01

Hello, Happy New Year all.

You have all been so busy!

Sadly I have been struggling again.

DP and I not getting on, DD not sleeping well or eating (spitting stuff out)and my anxiety has returned.

I go back to work on Tuesday next week and DD has had two taster sessions at the childminders. Didn't go too well.

She cried and threw up at the two lunch times and this is having a knock effect on tea time. Crying when put in high chair.

CM managed to get her down for a nap she did 55 mins. I was glad of that though as I didn't think she would sleep at all.

I love DD more than anything but don't think I have enjoyed being a mum due to everything going wrong.
Every stage has thrown a challenge that takes so long to overcome (or not)
DP says I have wasted the year.

On a separate issue I am arranging for DD to be seen by a cranial osteopath. Due to the fact she took 49 hrs to be born and delivered by forceps, there is evidence to suggest this may affect her abilty to stay asleep. Anything worth a go eh?!

Hugs and waves to all.

AbsB · 07/01/2011 20:05

Back in Blighty and trying to catch up on all your posts... and managed to find the new thread - thank you IC... I think some of us are Marchers too? (feeling a bit left out and over sensitive...) Is my DD's birthday the last on this thread, it's March 7th... so she is 10 months today!

Well, the last few nights and evenings have been HELL. DD started crawling while we were in the States and is so hyperactive, she no longer goes down for naps or at night. She has jet lag and crawls around her cot, laughing and jumping manically... has she been drugged? Hmm I have not had a break, or a meal without her screaming or shouting "bab" into the monitor. She seems to be learning new tricks everyday and is so pleased with her new found mobility. She is incredibly cheeky! IC I'm very jealous of your DD understanding "No!". Whenever I say it (and believe me I say it firmly enough to scare myself) she falls about laughing Shock

The last two nights she has finally gone down at midnight... I used to get her down at 6.45 just by putting her down and stroking her back. Those were the days!!!

Okay... enough about me...

CONGRATS Stangirl, that is such good news! I'm impressed you managed to keep it to yourself until after your 12 weeks scan. I wonder who will be next?

Congratulations on your anniversary BG, very sweet and romantic story about how you and your DH got together.

CS sorry you are having such a hard time, believe me I absolutely empathise with you!

Stonebaby... I can't remember who you were originally. Sorry I am crap, need to write it down on a post-it or something! Are you GF? Blush

PA your DD and mine were born two days apart, I'm sure there is some sleep regression thingy they are both suffering from, as my DD's sleep has gone out the window!

BC thank you for the rice pudding tip, what a good idea!

Very interesting about teeth cleaning Mamaloco. DD loves brushing her teeth (long may it last), and yes Scones I started cleaning her teeth when the first tooth came through but couldn't get it into my routine. It was only the scare stories about 18 month olds with fillings that scared me into action so now it's part of our bedtime routine, just after her bath and before evening boob!

Scones my DD was also two weeks late... do you and I share a birthday? Serious baby brain... 20th of February???

Sorry if I've missed anyone out, made any serious faux pas, I am very sleep deprived and feeling generally thick! Wink

PenguinArmy · 07/01/2011 20:18

LBH I'm afraid I completly disagree with your DH. There is no way this is a wasted year. Yes it's been hard, but you have beautiful DD who thinks the world of you. tbh I'm a bit Angry at your DH. It always seem harder after they've settled down, it's shame that progress isn't linear, as that's the myth we've been sold. Just know that her behaviour isn't your fault. Sleep regressions happen. Cling stages are signs you're doing things right and an impending change as big as you going to work is going to unsettle things.

{{hugs}}

Bearcrumble · 07/01/2011 20:19

PA I agree with BG, you seem to have your life so organised at such a comparitively young age. My 20s (and early to mid 30s if I am honest) are a bit of a blur.

I got married when I was 29 and DH was 28. He was signing on in Brighton and doing various DJ/writing things for little or no pay. I had just started in my 'glamourous' telly job and we had no desire for kids then. We thought 'in a few years' and time really ran away with us.

We actually met online. It wasn't a dating site - it was a gossip messageboard (Popbitch - haven't been on it for donkey's years) and we were friends first, we were both seeing other people. Then we both became single and I think we knew we liked one another but held off for a couple of months. Then we had our first kiss on Brighton beach, went and bought a bottle of champagne and went back to his and .

We got together in May 2001 and he proposed in Nov and we were married in July 2002.

We both did about an equal amount of raving and going to indie gigs. I love the Pixies and I used to love My Bloody Valentine, Pop Will Eat Itself, Cud, lots of the shoegaze stuff like Slowdive (funnily enough I donated my preemie clothes to a friend of a friend who, it turned out, was Rachel from Slowdive). I also went to loads of crusty techno squat parties in New Cross.

Anyway...

Bethylou I am very glad to hear that DS2 has a referral to the children's hospital. Sorry to hear your sinusitis is still bad.

Scones Good luck with getting some part time work. Re the Kindle - what IC said, it isn't backlit, the screen actually looks like the page of a book so it doesn't strain your eyes at all. This does mean that you do need some light to read by - so it isn't so great if you are sitting with a baby in the dark but you can adjust the text size to massive if you are in dim light. It is great for BFing when trying to lull DS off to sleep before putting him in his cot. The pages of books rustling would always distract him but this is silent and if I have one arm under his head I can slip the Kindle out of its cover and just hold it in the other hand. In fact fairly often I've been sitting on the sofa in his room for the whole nap hour reading while he snoozes in my lap.

Today we went to free under 5s story time at our local museum, the Horniman. It was lovely. We had The Boy Who Cried Wolf and Stone Soup (with songs, sound effects and props) and three or four songs at the end.

My posts are massive at the moment. Sorry for wittering.

StoneBaby · 07/01/2011 20:19

Abs yes I'm GF. Had to change my name as DH thought I was too identificable (is that a word? Hmm )

Glad you're back. Your issue with sleeping may be linked with jetlag still? I have been extremely lucky that DS has never really crawl in his cot, I wonder if it's because of the sleeping bag? However he moves a lot in his sleep as I often find him with his head at the foot of the bed IYSWIM.

LBH sorry to hear you're having a difficult time again. Does your DD has a soother or similar as it may be useful for the childminder especially if she suffers of the separation anxiety?

bethy good news on the referal, hopefully the appointment will come soon.

What about doing a list of birthday (similar to the EDD one?)

IC DD 26 Jan (sorry if wrong date can't go to the previous page)
SBDS* 4 Feb
Abs DD 7 March

PenguinArmy · 07/01/2011 20:19

and yes I agree anything is worth a go, just make sure it's a reputable one

LittlebearH · 07/01/2011 20:27

Thanks PA and StoneBaby

DD has a dummy or twelve. (she has started coming up to me, taking it out her mouth and tries to slam it into mine to "share")

The clinic is a "centre of excellence" was recommended by a medical friend. So hope it will be fine..blooming expensive. But amazingly DP even said it will be worth it.

My DD 12thFeb.

StoneBaby · 07/01/2011 20:45

IC DD 26 Jan
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
Abs DD 7 March

Feel free to add to the list Smile

BabyGiraffes · 07/01/2011 20:56

IC DD 26 Jan
BG DD2 3 Feb Grin birthday 'highchair tea party' already planned
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
Abs DD 7 March

Bearcrumble · 07/01/2011 20:59

Sorry I was typing when AbsB and LBH were posting - I wasn't ignoring you.

Shit, AbsB it sounds horrendous. I hope the sleep settles down soon. Hopefully it is a combination of jetlag and another developmental leap.

LBH Your DH is being an arsehole. You need support from him, and he's telling you that? Of course you haven't wasted the year. Lots of people have a hard time. Has he not heard of PND? I'd say he was a contributory factor. You're in this together, you're meant to be a team. Perhaps he needs reminding. Do you think it would help if your doctor signed you off for a couple of months or would you prefer to go back to work?

IC DD 26 Jan
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
BC DS 15th Feb
Abs DD 7 March

PenguinArmy · 07/01/2011 21:02

Abs was correct. LBH we've had the enforced share of dummy for a while. Even in her sleeping bag DD can crawl and walk around.

PA 5 Mar

AbsB · 07/01/2011 21:08

LBH sorry cross posted! I'm sorry you're having such a bad time, you are a great mum, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It is damn hard and harder still if you don't have the right support!

BC my DP LOVES the Pixies too... oh and you asked ages ago, he was touring with Gorillaz... so it was pretty full on!

DD is now in her playpen, after a major tantrum. I give up. Might as well let her stay up until the jet lag subsides, I'm not having yet another evening trying to soothe her until midnight... anyway, DP is making curry, it smells delicious... might post later.

Love you ladies Grin

BabyGiraffes · 07/01/2011 21:14

LBH you did not waste anything!! You carried and gave birth to and cared for a beautiful baby girl!!! Your dd is a baby and not rational and does not do things to annoy anyone - if she is unsettled she is teething, ill, etc etc. It will pass and I bet most of the time she is smiley and charming and gorgeous!! Very cross with your dh Angry for saying something like that, even if he feels stressed.

Bear Hey, I got married at 29, too, and felt quite smug to get there before 30 Confused Grin. Ahhhh, like how you met... I'm just trying very hard to remember when I first kissed dh and failing miserably Hmm. I do remember our first 'date' Grin Blush though, another anniversary I like to remind dh of....

Abs agree it sounds like jetlag and will settle down... keeping my fingers crossed. Also, the crawling will lose its novelty soon so her new mobility will not occupy so much of her thoughts at bedtime! Smile I did read somewhere that it's such a mental jump in development for them to learn to crawl that it can affect their sleep for a few days.

PenguinArmy · 07/01/2011 21:25

my 'first date' with DH was a one night stand that obviously went very wrong Grin

BabyGiraffes · 07/01/2011 21:27

PA wow, but what a lovely outcome Grin

Bearcrumble · 07/01/2011 21:46

AbsB Gorillaz! Wow - amazing. I went to the Chinese thing they did at the 02 a couple of years ago - Monkey, Journey to the West. It was very, very good.

Enjoy the curry and hope DD goes down a bit earlier than 12 at least.

PA Grin Brilliant!

BG 29 is a good age to get married. Old enough so that you've had a bit of experience and young enough to still look your best in the photos! Although I do really regret not having a professional photographer for our wedding.

I was going to say something else but I've totally forgotten what it was. Can't have been important. I think I am off to bed.

Goodnight all.

PenguinArmy · 07/01/2011 22:31

tbh fair he did the pub quiz where I worked as a student. I quite fancied him, but he assumed I was a stuck up middle class student and we had never spoken. So when we went out with some work mates at halloween (and hence a very revealing outfit from me) and he was drunk, I pounced.

It was very weird as after that first night, we then did the usual courting bit and being nervous on first dates and took it all quite slow.

I was VERY drunk and gave him a list of all the reasons why he wouldn't like me and he told that it made him like me even more. So i managed to get all my hang ups over and done with straight away and I didn't feel like I was hiding my true self and it allowed me to emotionally open.

Right, I better get some work done this afternoon.

StoneBaby · 08/01/2011 06:34

Morning all

Early rise for us as DS decided to start the day at 5.30am, I tried to ignore him but it didn't work so we're up! Why does he wake up at 7ish weekday and 5.30 at weekends??? Confused

I hope your nights went well

IC DD 26 Jan
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
BC DS 15th Feb
PA DD 5 Mar
Abs DD 7 March

Stangirl · 08/01/2011 06:36

IC DD 26 Jan
SG DD 2 Feb
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
BC DS 15th Feb
Abs DD 7 March

LBHyour DH's comments have made me very "grrr". I've only recently rejoined this thread but I want to lend my support to you too - what he said is unwarranted and very unhelpful. BTW - my DD has also just started spitting out all her food. I have found if i go to entirely finger food/BLW then she doesn't do it. Makes mealtimes a hell of a lot messier but at least she is getting something down (important particularly because she is petite).

BC we like very similar music and I too went to many a dodgy squat party in the 90s. They were great but looking back I can't believe what dangerous circumstances I put myself in.

BG like the sound of the highchair tea party. Could you tell me a bit more about it eg food, number of guests etc? I'm looking for inspiration for DD's birthday and all i've got to so far is get my friends round and get 'em pissed.

Anyone else already planned what they are doing for LO's 1st birthday?

mamaloco · 08/01/2011 06:46

IC DD 26 Jan
ML DD 28 Jan
SG DD 2 Feb
SB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
BC DS 15 Feb
PA DD 5 March
Abs DD 7 March

StoneBaby · 08/01/2011 09:27

I have been up for 4 hours Shock but he's having a nap now, so I can put my feet up for a few minutes Grin

IC DD 26 Jan
ML DD 28 Jan
SG DD 2 Feb
BG DD2 3 Feb

SSB DS 4 Feb
LBH DD 12 Feb
BC DS 15 Feb
PA DD 5 March
Abs DD 7 March

BabyGiraffes · 08/01/2011 09:56

Stangirl with dd1 I had four babies coming to her first birthday (including twins) because my friends conveniently had babies at the same time as me. they all brought highchairs with them... hence the highchair party Grin. That time I made too much food including stuff for the adults and they weren't hungry at 3 in the afternoon (odd, I eat all day....Grin. dd2 is having two baby guests with their toddler siblings, so dd1 does not feel left out and I can send the 3 year olds upstairs to play when they get bored. For food I'll just put out lots of finger food eg rice cakes,sweetcorn rings etc, fruit etc and at the end they do get a bit of cake, too Grin. As for the adults, with dd1 I did open a bottle of bubbly to toast her but if I remember rightly I was the one drinking most of it Grin. Mind you, dh rather enjoyed dd1's 3rd birthday where he and a friend of ours got rather merry (Summer birthday so they were sitting in the garden drinking beer...)

BabyGiraffes · 08/01/2011 11:04

Oh and I am going to be terribly mean and will rewrap a few toys from Christmas for dd2's birthday rather than getting more presents...