FEB 2010 First birthdays beckon and toddlerdom approacheth...uh-oh!

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It's humbling to look back at the last year and see how our LO's have gone from helpless newborns to action-packed pre-toddlers.

BRING IT ON!!!

Ooh, I'm the second on the new thread, how exciting. Thanks IC.

Had another dreadful night - DD2 woke because of a fever, then had a meltdown about an hour later and I was up with her for three hours (and then she needed two more resettles). I'm trying to stay strong but failing miserably.

Any advice?

Thanks IC. Marking my place.

Sorry CS, with DD1 I would stay home and cuddle all day and let her sleep on me or do has she wanted, no such things with DD2 is possible.
Has she got something specific? cold? D&V? or did she had something recently?
DD1 was very hard to settle once, crying all the time with fever, turns out she had an ear infection, worth a trip to the doc?
or is it teething?

Thanks IC
Does anyone need a reason to celebrate? This evening 16 years ago I first met dh... (Hands round champagne... or juice)

16 years BG, well done!

mamaloco she does have a cold, but this happened for the first time a week or so ago when we were away. She wasn't very settled at night then (we had two good nights out of seven), then we came back and had two good nights before the last three awful ones. The cold only started a couple of days ago but it really doesn't seem too bad.

As for teething, she still doesn't have any (and nearly eleven months old!), so I guess it could be that. But she lets me feel her gums, which DD1 would never do if there was something going on there.

The problem is compounded by DH being quite unwell with a heavy cold himself, so he can't really help me. Guess I'll just have to grit my teeth and hope that it will pass. Sadly, I think I'm in for a bad couple of months as she starts nursery next week and then I go back to work in Feb, and she's much more of a mummy's girl than DD1 was.

Sorry, braindumping and crying too much to you all. I'm just tired (still getting over the same cold myself) and that glass of champagne has pushed me over the edge.

Maybe it's because I've changed my name, If I go back to watercress, do you reckon she'll start sleeping again?!

BG aw, that's lovely.

I believe CS has the DD2 that won't take drugs.

Sleep odd here as well. DD for the last two nights has woke and fed every 2 hours (is there a growth spurt around here). Could be she's filling up after her cold. One more night and then I'll get DH to attempt to resettle on.

On the plus side she is back (after her cold) to taking herself off to sleep at night. Plus has started doing it at naps and started having a 1hr nap at lunchtime (but has dropped the late afternoon nap) Yesterday she woke after 20mins, I just laid her back down and walked away and she went back off. Sleep works in karma apparently, one bit gets better, one bit gets worse.

I have an exciting day of SIMS today. Have fun all

Congratulations, BG!

16 years, good effort!

Aw, CS, so sorry to hear you're "crying tired" - as bethylou once aptly put it. It's truly crap.

I've just blown a big pile of sleepy dust in your direction (taking advantage of atmospheric currents etc.) and it should be landing on your DD2 about now. It really works!
Unfortunately I'm not sure if it's the instant working variety or the stuff that takes a few weeks or so to really take effect. But it will, I promise.

Interesting nap-change, PA.... With any luck, she might even lengthen that lunchtime nap now she's self-settling better...

We're still rocking and rolling the buggy naps here. At least it means DH can do one.

wahoo a quick break from the science that doesn't work

sorry BG I missed you news. That is a long time and very sweet. :)

CS hope the sleep isn't too bad for too long. I'm banking on getting things good and then UK trip spelling disaster.

IC I have to say DH has got great at resettling her at night. I cheat and just use boob, or take over if she loses it (day naps). At night I just can't do it though as she knows the milk is just there and since I normally sleep topless, just the act of picking her up results in her latching on (and I still forget to something on first). She latches on when I'm taking her back to her cot as well.

Whoo a new thread!

PA my DS now does a nap of 1 hour ish before lunchtime (or should I say it's at nursery I bet you it won't happen this weekend). And he's dropping his 4.30pm one.

On the good news, he went down tonight without a fuss! (accept BG glass of bubbly and celebrate )

CS can it be separation anxiety which causes this? If DS wakes up at night I can't go to his room as seeing me will make him worse, especially when I leave (even if he's asleep, he knows that I am leaving the room ); unfortunately, I still haven't find the GPS device he left inside me when he came out

So who's LO is the 1st to turn 1?

mama no I haven't tried Orabase as I'm worried DS may react to it (he did an allergy to the 1st cream the gp prescribed) plus I am doing a detox from Boots trying not to go every day to get more snacks/cream/concealer!

Well, my DD's birthday is on Jan 26th... I seem to remember from the Ante Natal thread that she wasn't the first to arrive though...

Lovely new thread, thanks IC.

Happy anniversary BG, cheers!

CS I'm really sorry about the bad nights. I go to bits when I don't get enough (6 hours min), it colours everything doesn't it? It makes my mood horrendous.

PA My DH doesn the night resettles too. He is much better at it than me. I expect partly because of the milk but he also seems to have this very calm, soothing technique - he puts one hand on DS's back and goes "hey, hey" in a very slow, deep voice and 9 times out of 10 he goes back to sleep instantly. He won't go back if it the 5am waking, I know at that point the only two options are boob or shouting.

SB I think IC's little girl is first to turn one.

LBH Are you out there? You've been a bit quiet. Hope all is ok.

I did go and get the eye checked out and it is fine. I apologised and the GP was very sweet and understanding. I needed to talk to her about DS's iron anyway. The plan is to finish the bottle of supplement we have and then leave it three months and then test again to see how he does unmedicated.

I am really pleased with how organised I have been today. DS got homecooked lunch and dinner (fishcake for lunch and I did a chicken stew with rice for all of us for supper). I made a rice pudding with vanilla and nutmeg that is cooking right now which I am going to divide into pots and freeze for him.

Uncoincidentally we had pretty good sleeping last night 6.30-5am with a couple of quick resettles and then he slept again from 6am to 7.45 (amazing!) and managed two 45 min naps today.

DH bought me a Kindle. I love it. So far I've bought a book about mindful parenting, Debo Devonshire's autobiography, the new one by William Gibson and got a few out of copyright ones for free. It is so good for reading whilst feeding because you can hold it in one hand while the other is under baby's head.

Hi all. Just to let you know I've found you all here (thanks IC).

Congrats Stangirl Very exciting. I also work in the public sector and am quietly confident that my current post will no longer exist by September. Having been back for two days this week, I'm not that bothered at the prospect at the mo, though we have proved recently that we can't actually manage on one salary.

Sorry to hear that CS is in need of my 'crying tired' title - it's truly crap and we all know how rubbish it feels. Hope it improves for you again soon. Keep thinking that it is a phase (and I'm sure it's you who has reminded us of this at time sin the past, but so easy to forget when in the midst of sleep deprived-fog)

I've still got the sinusitis that I've had since Novemeber 30th and am fed up of it now. Have had good news from GP though that he is now referring us to Birmingham Children's Hospital re DS2's sleep apnoea - fantastic news.

Have to do my pelvis exercies befre bed. Have been reading as usual .

I can spell exercises really-can't type correctly when I'm tired.

good luck for tonight CS

bethylou great news about the referral!

scones Yes I have that all the time especially with DD1, scare that I won't cope with first time out, first bottle after BF, first time in a bus first plane... first time out with 2, ....still going on... And then I wonder why it was so scary in the first place

SB I can't find orabase here, and what the GP gave me yesterday is making it worse and DD2's bum is purple (with the medicine not the rash), I will book a dermatologist appointment today.

CS does she still have a fever? I would get to the GP to check her ears.

BG

I think IC's DD is the first one on the post-natal. DD2 is 28th but I have DD1 6th BD in 11 days . Where did the time go?

at those who can cosleep in the morning. If I take DD2 to bed with me it is like a wrestling match at 5h30. jumping, rolling, cuddling climbing, kissing.... cute but not sleeping! She is trying to do rolly-pollies she is almost there due to her sister teaching

Add a tube of lipstick to her diet

Ahhh mamaloco I kept a glass for you... . I am a bit it's been that long. I was a very naive undergraduate and he was ancient (to me at the time... there's 7 years between us). Asked him yesterday if he ever regretted opening that front door to me (I'd arranged to go for a drink with his house mate) and he obediently said never

Anyway [waves away nostalgia] regarding dd2's development I must admit I am a bit oblivious this time round and suddenly notice, oh, she can do that already... Her cutest thing at the moment is to press her cheek against mine and say 'Aaaah'. A baby cuddle

PS. We've only been married 10 years because first we were friends, then we were 'friends' and then he still played hard to get... . Well, we got there in the end.

BG aw, that's lovely. I met my DP when I we were undergraduates doing the same course. He had a crush on me for 3 years. Eventually we became "friends" - but I was rather too keen on my own independence to commit to anyone so I ran off into the exciting world of 90s clubbing in London. We met again about 12 years later and we've now been together for nearly 7 years. Since we first met - over 23 years. I have pictures of him when he still had hair.

Stangirl Weren't the 80s/90s fab?

Yes, they were. Especially the 90s IMO!! Mind you, I still enjoy the sound of some classic 80s bands... The Smiths, The Cure, Bauhaus, The Cocteau Twins etc etc.
And I raved my socks off during the 90s. At times. Those were the days

Good news on the referral, bethy - hope the blardy sinusitis clears up soon.

Kindles aren't backlit, Scones, so much easier on the eyes (and require extra lighting if you want to read in a dim room...).
Yep, bc, I've already told DH I would like one for my next birthday/baby - whichever comes first! I'll be interested to hear how it is with you.

at the lipstick diet, mamaloco! I hope it wasn't Lipfinity - a friend's toddler daubed herself in that stuff and it was days until the stuff came off...!

Me and DH are still newlyweds compared with some of you - our third anniversary coming up and we married only 18 months after getting together. So far, so good

IMPORTANT NEWS (well not really)

DD waved her little hand today in a left to right fashion. It was very delicate and makes a difference to the flapping she normally does.

I was bit too young to experience the raving days of the 90's :( But I enjoyed a fair amount of the 00's.

DH was convinced the other day that we had been together for 7 years. I had to point out it's been 5 . I tried not to take offence.

When other LOs have been ill, have they sounded rattly for a while? She seems mostly OK, still a bit snotty here and there, but her breathing does sound a bit funny still. I'm assuming this is a normal they take a while to get over things type thing?