October 2005 Babies.....

[nervousmum]

....thought i'd better start a thread as there are currently 4 of us, with several more to follow!

Joey is now 4 days old (where did the time go?!?), and is doing really well. He actually managed to sleep through with just one feed last night, though i must confess i cheated and had him in bed with me (at my MW's recommendation!) as he was so fretful the night before.

Looking forward in the coming days and weeks to welcoming the other members of the Oct 05 antenatal group to this post-natal club, so i won't feel like Billy No-Mates, talking to myself

In 4 hours my exDH will visit from Scotland to see his new baby son for the first time (and his beloved DD) here in Denmark... I am looking forward to him seeing and us sharing our boy, as we (exDH and I) are still caring and talking. But also nervous about this one week stay, which will be so hard and emotional as well as nice and a big help!

Being alone with the two is really hard at times... but it is early days yet (James is only 2 weeks old) and DD could not be nicer and more caring -- I am so proud of and impressed with her.

Sorry about this selfish message. Just needed to air my thoughts...

It's routine for all babies in my area to have their hips checked, but special attention laid on those who were breech. Evie has her hospital appointment on the 29th Nov, where she'll have a scan. But then she'll have another appointment afterwards for an X-ray which I'm not too chuffed about! Never had one myself and not too keen on my baby being less than three months old before she has one!

mawbroon - three midwives in the hospital said "ohh, you can tell she was breech" about the shape of Evie's head. I got a little paranoid at first until I realised they meant that it was round and not slightly pointed from being squeezed out! Thought they were implying she had a load of dents in her head from dushing herself against my ribs all the time!

Moomin - with you on the idea of being sick with a c-section scar. Although I'm feeling pretty well and able to move around with limited problems (just a bad back when on my feet too long, or the odd twinge when in an awkward position), I've now got a chest infection and coughing is doing my head in. Plus my scar is weeping so I'm on cough medicine and antibiotics. Surprised I'm not rattling...

Hope all are well. Must dash, Evie is crying for a feed.

Hi ladies - just to say - I'll be with you soon - Ava is waking every two hours through the night and seems to prefer attachment parenting to actually ever getting put down, so it's taking me awhile

Hi ladies, I have just posted my birth story on the AN thread. A little traumatic but we are getting over it now. Pain from c section ok but always worse at night. Annabel breast feeding rally well and sleeping lots too. Infact she is text book.Completely in love with her and DH is already spoiling her. Will catch up with rest of thread later.

Hi again everyone. I thought I was going to be pregnant forever, but now I feel like I have known new dd all my life . She is perfect and I am all loved up.

agonising nipples - check
afterpains from hell - check
no sleep for the last three nights - check

I must be mum to a newborn.

ps she is ginger

Hester: all babies prefer attachment parenting You'll never sleep again...

Trice: good to hear from you! Good luck with nipples. It's not ginger, it's strawberry blonde... Afterpains were HORRIFIC but went after about 4 days.

Congratulations to all with brand new babies!

Danishmum - Hope the visit from XDH is lovely! Enjoy sharing your new boy (and all nappy changes and night feeds )

Feeling so tired today - my eyes feel like someones sprinkled sand in them! Jess wouldn't take much milk from dp last night, much prefers my nipples! Have bought a new bottle today, will see how she goes with it. Any other suggestions anyone?

I had killer after pains for 10 days, they've only just gone, which is a relief as the hospital pain killers didn't touch them.

Natalie seems to be spending more time awake now, infact now we're worried something is wrong as she won't settle.

Got signed off by mw today, hv starts on monday. She's just above her birth weight now so we must be doing something right.

week old today!!!

afterpains gone!!!
nipples from hell....still here....remind me how long they take to settle?

Panicing about mon, when dp goes back to work.....can i cope with baby and 2o month? any tips gratefully accepted!!!

danishmummy - tried to CAT you, but you are down as not receiving messages!!

Jst to say....thinking of you

Another FANTASTIC night here.... Rebecca went down at 10pm last night, woke at 3am and that was her til 6.45am when Jessica woke her up!

i love rebecca so much today - not used to a newborn that sleeps nearly all night!

That sounds like heaven JARM....Another terrible night here!! DS fed every 3 hours but then fussed all night and wouldnt be put down due to wind (again!!) I went in the spare room though and DH sat with him all night....so I'm up with DD and DS now and he's in bed, catching up. Surely it's got to get better soon!! PLEASE?!? Infacol about as much use as a chocolate teapot I think I might try gripe water as he will be a month old this week.....or someone suggested trying to put them in their car seat as they are more upright....oh I don't know, it's so hard, especially with DD too who wakes up in the night shouting and won't go back to sleep for ages....and then wants to get up at 6!!! I do feel better today though..reckon I had about 6 hours of broken sleep which is good going this week....hope everyone else had a better night than us x

Oh Buttonmoon, not much better here. Had a terrible night, not all down to baby though, had a migraine late last night and when I get them they are usually just visual disturbances and pins and needles but this one turned into the most head splitting headache no amount of painkillers could shift! And I was sick twice too! Feel like poo this morning....just watching Dick and Dom to cheer me up - I love Dom!

JARM - Good nights are surely not allowed on this thread Please at least make something up or keep them to yourself

Why do babies seem harder to cope with at night? Are they actually worse or is it just our tiredness which makes it seem so? I seem to just be wishing for the morning to come! And the mornings are going to be getting so dark soon!

Don't forget the clocks are changing tomorrow. An extra hour of the night to not get any sleep in .

My nipples took about a fortnight to calm down last time but I think it depends on how ferocious your baby is with their latch. Apply the lanisoh after every feed and let as much air get to them as possible (chilly at this time of year).

Hannah fed every two hours like clockwork last night and slept like a baby in between which was quite easy to cope with. ds however had a nightmare then wet the bed then got up at six and fell down the stairs and landed on his head.

Dh has developed man flu and is spending the day in bed demanding cups of tea. I think Hannah is actually the easiest member of the family to look after today.

trice - lol at 'man flu'

rodeo - in natalies case she really is harder to deal with at night. we're trying to make it clear that there are two different times of day but she is so hard to settle between 10/11pm and 5/6am. we've ordered a music box thing from blooming marvellous as she seems to like plinky lullabies so i'm hoping that will help.

was in the spare room last night as dh was on the night shift but i still got woken up by her crying this morning, which is amazing as the spare room is an attic conversion and she was crying in the kitchen down at the bottom of the house!

RTL - am receiving messages now. (Didn't know I was set not to! And have never received one, so is looking forward to yours! Thanks for thinking about me.) Hope your nipples are settling! Sorry to be smug that my nipples are absolutely fine this time around -- only a little cracked at hospital, but no problems whatsoever now.

James is certainly getting his milk as I can both feel and see on his weight-gain: half a kilo in the last week!!! He is being so good at night sleeping 4 hours between feeds!

Having a bit of a bad day with morning-argument (with XDH) so DD and him went out to playground visit. Hope they are not lost -- been away for hours! Hope he brought the address for the flat... is not the most practical of blokes. Hm.

OMG, Triceratops -- what a night! Is your DS okay from the head-fall??? I know what you mean about baby being the easiest to look after... same here! Remember to look after yourself as well, though. Easier said than done...

My MW told me not to air my cracked nips, just slather the Lahnisoh on them. She said that if they dry it's more painful when they latch on as the scabby bits tear off and open up again. Mine are alot better now, thank god, nothing worse than dreading feed time. Lots of sympathy going out to all cracked and sore nipple owners

when do these cockamamy babies get to tell the time and start being knocked out at night?! Warning JARM - Evie started off with this pattern in her 1st 2 weeks - didn't last long!

She sleeps beautifully in the day, absolutely peaceful, doesn't mind being in her carrycot or low chair-thingy at all, and feed between every 3-4.5 hours. At night though, she grumbles and chuffs in her Moses, feeds about every 2-3 hours hand just won't settle. Dh bought some infacol this morning so hope this will help as I'm sure she gets tummy ache - you can feel her trumping away on your hand when you rock her!

Another thing - she hardly ever cries!! Only time we get a real wail out of her if we've left it about 5 mins too late with the feed whe she's very hungry (maybe once a day if that). Rest of time she just squeaks a bit or grumbles. Is this normal? HV coming again Tuesday but just thought I'd ask. 4 years ago seems like ancient history and I don't feel like a 2nd time mum at all - I can't for the life of me remember this stage of dd1; only that it didn't seem too bad at the time and she started sleeping through at about 6-7 weeks. please god, let it be so this time..... and the lord have mercy on those of us suffering sleep deprivation

JRM we don't want to hear it!!! I can't even bring myself to be happy for you!

DD up every 2 hours last night and taking ages to settle - not grumpy just excitable and starts partying as soon as she sees my nipples. I'm so tired I'm amazed I don't roll on her. I'd love NOT to co-sleep but it's just the path of least resistance.

Been a bit tearful still - midwife has only just discharged me. Think I will be okay but definitely very hormonal.

mp -ditto on the tearful business. HV had her 1st visit on Monday. Was fine until she got to the pnd questions: as soon as she asked 'and how are you feeling?' I started telling her how fine I was and the tears just came a-flooding down my face. Felt a right muppet. made her promise not to put 'lunatic' in my notes. Must have cried about 5 times at the national TV awards the other night as well.

I need to make sure I'm pissed when the hv comes again on Tues to gives off happy and relaxed vibes . shouldn't be hard anyway - since making the decision not to bf I've been making up for lost time; even had a shot of bacardi in my hot choc the other afternoon.

It's medicinal.....

Oh I'm breastfeeding and still drinking anyway... beastfeeding makes me the CHEAPEST drunk around. Last night I had one glass of red wine and then I leant on the sofa, missed, and sprawled all over the floor a la Del Boy.

Yes I start crying when anyone asks me How I'm Feeling ... I think it's partly just tiredness. DH said that if men were health visitors they wouldn't ask such girlie questions in the first place...

Moomin - it's so good to hear you describe your daughters sleep pattern, it's just the same as mine. Ditto the tummy ache and trumping. Being a first time mum it's a relief to know that the same thing is happening to others.

Not too sure about the crying thing though, Natalie cries if we've waited just a bit too long for food, and during nappy changes, and she sometimes has a cry for no reason at about 10pm.

Joey always cries when he has his nappy changed - he sounds like he's having limbs removed under torture or something!

Me too on the breastfeeding and drinking, although i only have a little every now and then. My HV (before she abandoned me...!) said it was a sure-fire way of getting baby off to sleep. I've yet to see it in action, mind you!

just posted on the ante-natal thread, think there is only 3 left. poor wee souls!!!

baby is great...will NOT tell you nighttome routineas do not want to tempt her to change!! or get a lynching from you all, but if i mention the number 7, you can work out how long sheslepps.long may it last.

thanks for tips for nips!

dp, ds2 and i have all got chest infevtions, so i don't sleep at night anyway, as cough, cough, coughing! unfortunately, pelvic floor muscles still not up to much, so spend the day/night changing my knickers, which really, really upsets me!!