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October 2005 Babies.....

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nervousmum · 30/09/2005 15:58

....thought i'd better start a thread as there are currently 4 of us, with several more to follow!

Joey is now 4 days old (where did the time go?!?), and is doing really well. He actually managed to sleep through with just one feed last night, though i must confess i cheated and had him in bed with me (at my MW's recommendation!) as he was so fretful the night before.

Looking forward in the coming days and weeks to welcoming the other members of the Oct 05 antenatal group to this post-natal club, so i won't feel like Billy No-Mates, talking to myself

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nervousmum · 19/10/2005 14:18

Yes, i'm a first time mum too

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ButtonMoon · 19/10/2005 15:56

Nervousmum-seem to be having similar trouble with my DS...nightmre isn't it? DS screamed on and off for several hours last night, obviously with wind, and couldn't settle himat all. He fed every hour os so and I thought he'd do the projectile vomitting again I was getting really frustrated as Dh had gone out. I might try the swaddling tonight if we have the same or a nice warm bath which he seems to like and that could ease his windy pain. will be thinking of you...........

jai38 · 19/10/2005 16:55

HI

We have had the same wind problems with Issac - we seem to have reduced it bit by when breast feeding letting him hangdown a bit, I sit with one knee bent on the floor and lean him against that rather than cradle him. And seems obvious but we just were not winding him for long enough!!!

Just had our first trip out and registered the birth - v stressful trying to find somewhere to change him and get back before feeding time as I was on my own - he lasted my breasts did not should have worn the pads!!!

Elf1981 · 19/10/2005 17:54

jai38 - I did not last with my boobs when I registered Evelyn & my top was soaked, despite wearing pads!! I honestly dont know how people still breastfeed / express when they go back to work!

I'm a first time mummy too. Evelyn will be two weeks old tomorrow, can't believe it, it seems so quick but also like a lifetime.

Been "relased" by the midwife today, now under care of health visitor who I wont see til the 26th, so I'm quite happy with that. DH goes back to work tomorrow for a week and a day, then he's off work for two weeks before going back full time. That will be my challange. I'm going to take it easy tomorrow and Friday, might do a bit of ironing while Evelyn is on a mammoth four hour sleep in the day.

Oooh, door bell just gone, more visitors. Anybody else considered locking their front doors?!!

laurenholly · 19/10/2005 22:00

my dd2 is 10months old and she still wakes up during the night and everynight dd1 wasnt like that but i suppose all babies are different

mishmash2 · 20/10/2005 09:14

Morning ladies! Hope you are all ok and survived the night. My DH was away last night on business so that meant I had to do all teh feeds... (usually he does the 10.30pm one so I can go to bed at 9pm)... and William decided to wake up all night long and had noone to help me... errrhhh! I wouldn't normally mind but DH is off for a boy's w'end this w'end so have another 2 nights alone - let's hope William behaves!

I'm a first time Mum but W is now coming up to 8 weeks old... I can't believe it! But as he was 6 weeks prem I will be more with you lot on the first smile etc as he'll develop from his 'due' age (2 weeks today). So, another 4 weeks until a smile.. v annoying!

Do hope you sort out the wind situation - luckily W is v good at that - have you tried rocking him from side to side and patting his back when he is leanign backwards as well as forwards to try and move the air bubble out?

Piggiesmum · 20/10/2005 10:52

Hi Ladies, I finally feel up to joining you. Congratulations to everyone over here already.

Anyway heres our birth story:
As posted on the Antenatal thread, on Monday 12th September, the 34 week scan showed I had grade 4 placenta previa and the consultant wanted to admit me right there and then! I tried to persuade him to let me go in a week later instead but he wasn't happy, saying it was a serious condition and if we'd ever seen how badly a woman can bleed we wouldn't wait to go in. I thought he was being a bit OTT but we eventually compromised on me going in the next day instead and we spent the rest of the day and most of Tuesday running between mothercare and babies r us like lunatics buying all the stuff we needed but a few hours earlier thought we still has 6 weeks to get!

I spent the next few days in hospital feeling a complete fraud and feeling guilty for taking up a hospital bed. However on Monday 19th I had a small bleed (although to me it looked worse - you know what bloods like, a tiny amount loks like gallons!!) and had all the midwives saying, Now you know why you are here, I bet you aren't feeling guilty anymore. The consultant came to see me and we set the c-section date for the 10th, but also said if i had another small bleed they would do it straight away rather than wait till i had a major one.

So on Monday 3rd I started my final week countdown "Hurrah this is my last Monday" etc etc. and began to think I would probably make it to the 10th without further problems.
On Tuesday 4th afternoon my parents were visiting, they had arrived late and were being a bit naughty staying past visiting hours. Thank goodness they did. I had just put my shoes on to walk down to the car-park with them and say goodbye when i felt a bit of a gush and was just thinking uh-oh when i felt another bigger one and legged it to the loo. I was fortunate enough to have a private room with its own loo. My mum said later she'd never seen me move so fast. There was blood everywhere - I could feel it running out, I shouted to mum to get a midwife quick and then everything started happening. I now understood why the consultant had been so concerned and that he hadn't been OTT at all. And looking back if it had happened a couple of minutes later I could've been wandering round the hospital corridors/carpark!!

They got me back in bed, checked baby's heartbeat was ok and wheeled me down to thearte to start setting up the epidural/spinal etc. I was lying in theatre paniking already with what felt like hundreds of people around me doing their thing, even though I was fully consious I felt like I was in a daze and only half aware of what was going on. Then i heard the surgeon or someone say. "We haven't got time we're going straight to a General" (anesthetic). (I later found out this was because ds was showing signs of distress.) Cue even more internal panic from me, sucking on the oxygen mask like an oxygen junkie in need of a fix. I was scared witless now as over the last few weeks I'd had bouts of fear about bleeding to death under a GA in the op and leaving dh and new baby behind alone. The anethetist said "You'll be asleep in a couple of seconds" and the next thing I knew I was waking up and there was hubby sitting next to me holding the little fella!. Unfortunately he didn't get to hospital before the birth but at least my parents were there! From the bleed to him being born was only aprox 15-20 minutes. I also lost 3 pints (aprox 1500mls) of blood during the op (so my bleeding fears hadn't been completely unfounded) and only just managed to avoid having a transfusion.

But he is worth all of it, and I'd do it all again if I knew for sure we'd both come out of it as well as we have. i know i'm biased but he is the cutest thing ever and seems so content.

Sorry it's a bit long, thats the condensed version!

Anyway, hope you are all managing to get enough sleep etc. Everyone keeps saying get some sleep when he sleeps but when he is asleep all i want to do is look a him

Pigiesmum

novadandypowder · 20/10/2005 11:06

i know what you mean piggiesmum, i can't leave natalie alone either. i just want to suck in every detail, but i must make more use of dh before he goes back to work.

was worried last night as she suddenly wanted to be fed every hour and half - she was making all the signs, lip smacking, hand chewing, tongue poking, finger sucking, so we thought we'd better feed her. is it normal for their feeding patterns to be so erratic? should we feed on demand or try to hang out a bit more? she's on bottles so thought her patterns would be a bit more regular.

taking her out for the first time today, it's quite nerve racking

BigBumpBonnie · 20/10/2005 14:18

Had a good night with ruby last night. She wakes every 3 hours for a feed, but blissfully went straight back to sleep after each one. I have worked out she likes to be wrapped tightly before being placed in her moses basket, she doesn't like having her hands free. Another tip for anyone bottle feeding, my dd1 had terrible colic for ages and did nothing but scream. We tried infacol, different teats and even colief drops (which cost a tenner for a tiny bottle) but nothing worked. Eventually a HV put me on to a formula called Omneo Comfort and it was fantastic. It's slightly dearer than other milks but it is much easier for babies to digest and she was better almost immediately. We had a dodgy night with Ruby the night before last so I didn't hesitate this time and now she's on Omneo as well and is really settled. I know this is useless advice for those of you breast feeding and I hope your babies settle down soon.

Anyway, I had my first taste of getting myself, dd1 and dd2 ready on my own this morning. Dh still here until monday but thought I'd have a go at coping by myself. Was going fine until Ruby woke up screaming for a feed whilst dd1 decided to wreck her bedroom. I had to race downstairs to warm a bottle up in knickers and bra as had just got out the shower while dd1 was having a tantrum.

I will need to get a bit more organised in future but it's hard work. The hardest thing I'm finding is keeping an eye on both of them all the time. DD1 keeps wanting to put blankets on Ruby and it's really sweet but she doesn't seem to realise ruby needs to breathe!!

Oh well, it can only get easier, can't it???

nervousmum · 20/10/2005 15:48

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morningpaper · 20/10/2005 21:52

BBB I am also finding it hard to leave the house before 11! I got both of them ready for church on Sunday morning and I ended up shouting and I felt really crap about it. It's going to be REALLY hard. I feel like I'm a mum to dd1 but without the use of my arms - dd2 is always feeding when dd1 needs me! She is still being really good but when DH goes back to work I am going to really struggle. I've no idea how I will do things like get dinner ready.

Nervousmum: Glad that you avoided cooking your baby! Good luck tonight. xx

Baby is now 8 days old. I'm still feeling so bruised and achy from the birth. I was fine by now the last time. I feel internally and externally bruised and battered! My anal tear is killing me.

SusiS · 21/10/2005 06:44

morning girls! hope you all had some good sleep
i can't complain! went to bed at 8.30 () last night along with caitlin and she woke briefly at 3.30; but finger in and 2 min later she was back to sleep again! then she woke at 5.30 for a feed!
once i've finished that ds was ready to be picked up! oh well, i had enough sleep anyways - for once!!!

bbb sounds just like me. luckily my dp is still at home till next week. but i keep telling myself i have to get organised!! but how?
how old is your dd? my boy is 17 months and he just sounds like your lo! he wants to play with caitlin all the time and gets frustrated when she doesn't join in - so we got the travel cot downstairs and put caitlin in there whenever she is asleep.

and it's so true: ds always wants to be with me whenever i feed dd! how do you distract him for that time??

now after 2 weeks i feel fine again - finally!!! back finally has stopped being a pain; girly bits are almost back to normal and my feet actually fit in normal shoes again

we have been signed off by the mw last week and have seen the hv already. done the heelprick test and the hearing test - all fine
today we are off to register her birth!

Elf1981 · 21/10/2005 08:34

For those who have older children, have you tried feeding the baby on the sofa and reading a book to the eldest? My friend does this, her eldest holds the book so she can read it.

Had a bit of a tiring day yesterday. It was the first day DH was at work since the birth, and Evelyn seemed very upset! She wanted to be held all the time and cried awfully when put down. Was dreading last night, thought she'd be up all night, but she was fed at 11:30, then 4:30 and 5:30 and slept through til 8:00. Not too bad then!

Going to dash for brekkie before she stirs. Hopefully I'll get a bath in too. Yesterday it took us til about 11 to get ready, I'm determind to be ready by 10:00 today!

BigBumpBonnie · 21/10/2005 10:55

susi, what a fantastic idea about the travel cot downstairs, i hadn't thought of that and at least i could nip into the kitchen knowing ruby will still be in one piece when i get back!

So sorry you still feel so sore after the birth mp, it's so hard to cope even when you feel physically fit but almost impossible when feeling like that. I've also been quite short tempered with dd1 and then feel guilty. i feel guilty i'm not holding ruby enough and guilty i'm not spending enough time with dd1 (she's 2 btw).

scared of coping on my own come monday. hoping for a lottery win on saturday so dh doesn't have to go back to work

mishmash2 · 21/10/2005 12:09

I'm so jealous of you lot all having babies who are doing long stretches of sleep. William is 8 weeks on Sunday (now weighs 8lbs! ) but wakes at 10.30pm, 2.30am, 6am..... errrh!! I can't wait for him to sleep through the night although seem to be surviving on less sleep for 8 weeks! Luckily he is good at going straight down after his feed which is one blessing. I have my 8 week check up on Monday and he has his injections - I'm sure we'll have a few screams at that!

Hope you all have a good day.
x

nervousmum · 21/10/2005 13:04

Well, i coped with last night on my own with Joey fine. I think he realised Daddy wasn't there though, as he seemed extra-clingy with me and didn't like being put down (or am i just mad, seeing as he's only 3 and a half weeks old)

Manky weather outside - somehow i don't think i'll be doing my daily walk round the village with Joey in the pram today unless i want to drown him (makes a change from trying to boil him yesterday!!!)

Just caught up with the antenatal thread - huge congratulations to Hester, and i suspect there will be a few more babies by the end of the weekend too. Its all very exciting!

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ButtonMoon · 21/10/2005 16:40

no such luck with good sleeping here either! DS woke at 12, 2, 4 and then didnt go back to sleep til 6 Think he had wind tho as he was sick after the 2 and 4 oclock feeds. Absolutely shattered......so difficult with having dd too. I too am really worried about how i'll cope on mon when dh goes back to work. I've told him to prepare to come back to chaos,all still in pjs, house a bomb site, screaming children, crying wife and no tea!! he laughed but i'm sure it won't be far from the truth!! i'm just holding on to the fact that it can only improve and that i should enjoy these precious first few weeks while he is so gorgeous a cute!! Have friends coming to stay this weekend so i am hopinhg for some relaxing lies in with dd taken care of for a couple of hours. OUCH!!! tthe little monkey has just pulled off my nipple (not literally) while clamping down between his gums! anyone elses do that at the end of a feeed just as they fill nappy? Hey won't be long before my nickname is asbestos nipples!!! quite happy with feeding tho as he has gained 8 oz in 4 days! above birth weight again now must be doing something right...just hope he ca munch his way thru my thunder thighs!!! here's to a better night tonight x

morningpaper · 21/10/2005 19:45

Button moon: lol at munching through your thighs!

Mine is up much the same - every 1-3 hours at night with a 2-hour session somewhere in the middle. Loads of dirty nappies at night too!!! Argh!

Mind you she is asleep most of the day - can't get her to wake up at all. Seems a shame that she's missing out on so much!

My bits are still killing me. Had a really annoying midwife visit today - I explained how much pain I'm in and she said "But how are you feeling in yourself?" Well what do you fecking think woman?? I'm in fecking pain all day and I can hardly walk, do you think I'm whistling a happy fecking tune all day?

On the plus side, I had some blood taken and my iron level is nice and high - been eating lots of apricots! So at least one part of me isn't falling apart.

Good luck tonight ladies. xxx

Elf1981 · 22/10/2005 08:42

Evelyn slept last night from 11:30 til 3:00 (usual) but I woke up at 5:00 in a panic as she hadnt woken at 4 as usual, had to check she was still okay. She slept til gone six, had a feed and is now still asleep. We had an amazing few hours last night between 7 and11:30 when she was wide awake, just wish it was earlier in the day!!

Just checked the ante-natal thread, seems like only three people left to pop!

nervousmum · 22/10/2005 11:06

good god! I just took the most revolting nappy off my son - greeny yellow and runny with lumpy bits in it (TMI!). He, of course, just sat there grinning, happy as a pig in s**t! Aren't babies gross

Have a good weekend, NM x

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marinda · 22/10/2005 21:53

Can anyone help with this. I has a look at my bits today in the mirror (Yes I know it sounds revolting/pervese etc... but I needed to know why I am in such pain) The tear sems to have healed (although the skin is hard surrounding it) but my inside bits (where baby came from) seem to be rather enlarged and covering the opening much more than they did before. Too embarrased to ask/show midwife and can't remember what it was like with first baby. Does anyone know if this is normal or have something similar. Sorry to ask such embarrasing Question - but I am worried sick and don't know who I can ask!!! Any advice greatfullt received.

Moomin · 23/10/2005 11:06

how long since you gave birth marinda? I'd say that was pretty normal, going by friends of mine who had vag births. I don't think it all 'pings' back into place super-quick, esp as its your 2nd birth. I would mention it to the midwife - they will have seen it all, believe me and it would be pretty hard to embarrass them. I'm sure you'll be fine, but a friend of mine did have a slight prolapse after her bag birth 6m ago - she's fine now though, as she's had physio - but you shouldn't just leave it; ask about it.

Moomin · 23/10/2005 11:07

'bag' birth??!!! I meant VAG birth!

marinda · 23/10/2005 12:35

2 weeks since gave birth

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 23/10/2005 12:40

You girls are making me sooooooooooooooo twitchy! I want this baby out so much, but god, id forgotten half of whats to come! I only did this last year ffs!!!

Oh well.... here's hoping my sweep works today.

Really hope you are all getting on well with your bubbas xxxx