September 2010: windy bums, weaning starts to loom!

[comixminx]

A starter for 10 on our Sept 2010 babies as their first Christmas comes nearer! Can't believe we're there already; I was barely pregnant last Xmas!

oh, forgot to say as well, that i have had an itchy head now for a while. At one point i thought maybe i had caught head lice off DD, but i've checked (a lot) with metal comb, and no evidence. Noticed it's originting from one area in particular, got DP to look and there is a mole there. gulp. going docs today. Thinking lots of morbid 'what ifs' Sorry to be gloomy. Just wanted to talk about it.

Crikey! beadit very scary! I'll go with christmas again, hope you're all feeling better soon.

Sassy I agree with the wind thing. Olly will oftens scream for his milk & by the time I get sorted he's filled himself up with wind so I have to wind him before he'll take it. & cinnamons right, as heartbreaking as it is, leaving him to cry won't hurt. He could be getting used to crying & being picked up! Not sure what age the associations start! Sorry about the house to! Just what you need. and finally, the mole. I'm sure it'll be fine & even if it is suspicious, it can easily be removed & that'd be that! Hope things start going right for you soon!

I've changed Ollys routine this last week. I've stopped the dream feed. He was feeding 6, 10,7am but getting up at 5-5.30am! Cutting out the dream feed means he now goes 6-4/5am but then goes back to sleep till 7ish! Its great. I don't have to stay up & he settles backdown & gives me a bit of a lie in! I never thought I'd class 7am as a lie in!!!

Crikey, after the good news of the engagements, rather less good news from others!

Ali, sounds very nasty and scary - hope you recover equilibrium and that none of it comes back again - how horrid for younall! Enjoy a belated Christmas when you can...

Sassy, Aphra can also turn herself some of the way round but not as far as Jacob - as you say, a good problem to have! Mum got us a newborn to toddler rocking chair that you can strap a baby into so that would be a way of keeping him still, though it seems a bit mean. Crying at night - sometimes I've sunk to breast feeding her while she's in her bed, meaning I'm leaning over her with my boob awkwardly positioned! I expect I'm making a rod for my own back but if she's pretty much asleep but wakes up on being moved into bed then it can work well. Good luck with the mole too - even if it is problematic it's best to get it seen to sooner rather than later but fingers crossed it will be nothing! Let us know and good luck again.

Cinnamon, it might be that she was ready for an earlier bedtime, who knows - it's so hard to tell, especially as it seemed to us that she'd already slept reasonably well earlier in the day. Have been careful to make sure she has a good long nap this morning today, as well as naps in the sling this afternoon. It was annoying when my mum was diagnosing at a distance though! My DP's parents are here at the mo so now we have a different set of comments to "enjoy" though MIL (or MOL as they're my outlaws reallly) is more diffident about commenting than my mum!

We do need to rejig her routine in the new year though, so that she goes to bed earlier and doesn't nap most of the morning, because part way through the year I'll be going back to work... But not yet!

Aphra 17 weeks tomorrow

Beadit i bet you were terrified!! I'm glad you're all feeling better now though

Sassy, I can't believe your babies are nearly 6 months old, prompted me to check when Grace will be and we've got 11 weeks to go, considering how quick the last 15 weeks have gone im sure it'll fly by! Grace can spin herself round if she's on her back and she's started pushing her bum up with her legs but no rolling over yet. She's been pulling herself to try and sit up since the day she was born and is now screaming in frustration everytime she does it! Think i might have my hands full with her when she gets mobile!

Got her weighed today and she's 15lb 6!

Good news bananastew!!

That's a disaster sassy34264! It must be totally soul destroying! Fingers crossed the mole is fine, better to get it checked out though.

I know what you mean comixminx, my mum is full of helpful comments! Her big thing with Luke is that I carry him around all the time in that thing (sling), which apparently accounts for everything that is ever wrong with him. Basically if it's not how she did it it's a problem. But I keep trying to remind myself it's only because she cares and she wants to help. Thankfully mil is far away and we don't visit often. The first piece of advice she gave me when I had ds1 was that once they start walking they only ever walk away so don't get too attached .

Going to get Luke weighed tomorrow so I'll let you know how he compares newmum001

Beadit So scary - was terrified when in hospital with Phoebe. Hope you are feeling better soon.
Sassy I had a mole scare a while back. Sent on to a specialist etc only to find out that it wasnt really a mole and whatever they called it it cant become cancerous! So hopefully same thing for you.

Am shattered! so tired after xmas but brother and his family around til the 6th. I really need to get Phoebe into a daytime routine before she gets out of sorts entirely. At the moment she is only taking very short naps. but she has a cold and is still quite bunged up which is making feeding a marathon affair. Also a routine means normality and getting up at a proper time an I dont seem to be up to either at the moment. Im just so tired - vicious circle eh?

Thanks everyone. Been to the docs, and yes mammyg it looks like a mole to me (DP took a picture) and to him, but it's not. She thinks it to do with my scalp......why i am itching. She has given me 2 different types of shampoo. So relieved....phew.

We are all coming down with colds and aliments here. Don't know whose nose is more red -mine or DP. We could give rudolph a run for his money. Jacob has a sniffle too. Poor baby. He has cried just now for about 1 minute and both he and Isobel are asleep in their cots. Not getting too excited as i have been here a hundred times before, and they just wake up in 10-30mins or so. See, in the time it took me to write that, he is crying again.

I'm in the vicious cycle to mammyg. Waking up when they are waking up (anything between 9.30 and 10.30) just to get some sleep, but it just means they fall asleep later. Will have to face it though when school starts. Anyway, best go. x

Beadit so sorry to hear about your crimbo. Harlyn had flu just b4 crimbo and was referred to A&E by GP due to his temperature being so high and he also had a rash and was lifeless and not feeding well. We were there for 12 hours through the night. Poor thing had to have an intravenous in his hand. Its horrible seeing them so lethargic and not feeding. Anyway he's all better now and guzzling for England.

Sassy can't believe its only 6 weeks till they are 6 months . I'm also relieved that its not just Harlyn who won't be put down to sleep easily at night. We have the same problem of tears, wind and sick (reflux) cycle. He's also started to wake in the night for an extra feed since he's been ill. Not sure why as he drinks so much in the day.

12 weeks + 6.

Grrr.... slightly inappropriate whinge probably! One of my minded children was supposed to be off today and tomorrow as his Dad should have been home from work (he works away 8 weeks at a time in Africa) but I got a text message at 8.45 last night asking if it was ok for me to have him. I replied saying that I had plans when my other minded child leaves at 2.30 so he could come until then. She made me feel really bad about it but I feel that she really gave me no notice at all and even if she didn't know until the last minute that her dh wasn't going to make it home she didn't have to send her ds to me she could have just kept him home, or let me know earlier in the week that there was a possibility that she might want him to come to me but she wouldn't be able to let me know for sure and I may not have made plans. I hope I don't sound unreasonable but I often have changes at short notice from this lady (who is otherwise lovely).

I took Luke to the clinic and he is 15lb 10oz/7.1Kg. I was going to ask to have him measured but as they were late opening due to Children's centre staff being late and I had to get back for 10 for the unexpected minded child I forgot!

Anyone else have their babies waking a wildly different times at night? Luke has slept from 8.30 until 7.30 a few times and often goes from 7.30-3 and then until 7. But some nights he's up at 12 and 3 and 6 or 11 and 2 and 5. I always leave him a bit to give him the chance to settle himself and he always goes back to sleep straight after he's fed. What I can't understand is that if he's waking due to hunger how can his need to food vary so hugely from night to night when he is asleep. DS1 always woke up once between 1 and 4 and then at 6 and slept through from 14 weeks but he was huge (17lb 14 at 14 weeks)!

15w+3 and 15lb 10

Not inappropriate at all cinnamon. It's ok for her to ask, but she should be prepared for you to have made plans that can't (and shouldn't) be changed at such short notice. I had a child minder for DD for years, and would never have give her a hard time if i chsnged my plans at short notice. I wouldn't take her on.

Isobel is 20 weeks tomorrow and she is(was) 15lbs 3oz. So Luke is bigger at 5 weeks behind! Jacob was measured at the time and he is 61cms. They didn't measure Isobel, cos it was only Jacob's appointment really. I just cheekily asked if they would weigh Isobel too. Jacob was 16lbs 8oz.

DP is at the house again today. But i have told him we need to go shopping tomorrow, before the VAT gets put on everything. We need, washing machine, dishwasher (so excited about this, cos i've never had one.....how sad!) Bed and mattress for us, mattress for dd, mircowave, toaster, kettle, 3 piece suite???? (we have got one, but we want to get a new one, so we wil see if we can find one that we can't resist in the sale) We have already bought the cooker, 2 fire places and the most gorgeous chandelier i have ever seen. We have no curtains either. EEK. I think we best be up and out early.

Tomorrow night is party time......with 5 guests! ha. It has become a tradition (this will be the 3rd year) for us to buy party food and lay it all out on the dining room table, then take it into the living room to eat and watch a film! DD loves it.......i think DP secretly does to. This year, we will have 2 new guests, although no extra food is needed. ha. What has everyone got planned? x

Hi all,

Feeling really down at the minute.... Am really poorly with stinking cold/virus thing and just feel that I can't cope at the minute. Everything is upsetting me and am feeling like the shittest mum in the world. DP back in work today so having to manage with Olly on my own for first time since I've been poorly. Just want to go to sleep....

On a brighter note am about to start typing up a wedding guest list so we can see what we are working with.

Cinammon - Olly can be all over the shop at night. He goes to bed now any time between 7pm and 8pm and on a couple of occasions has slept right through until 6am and 7am. However most other nights he will wake anywhere between 3am and 5am and will only go back to sleep for max 2 hours if he does this - not fun at 3am! Just don't know what I'm doing wrong??! Its more frustrating because I KNOW he can do 11 hours straight! Also - rubbish about the short notice for you re child.

Beadit - havent managed to catch you yet - hope J-dizzle is feeling better.... :(

Sassy - hope everything is ok with moley thingy. Sure shampoo's will clear it up.

Sorry to anyone/anything I've missed - just doing my best to keep sane and awake at the minute....

Oh - thinking of putting Olly in to cot after new year? Any tips?

Hugs to all.

Olly - 13+4

Sassy - we do that too - party food for 2! We're having a quiet night with a dvd, hopefully I will be feeling better and can make it to midnight!

chelle We don't even try to make it till midnight! One year we all went to bed together and when DD fell asleep with us, DP carried her to her own bed. Next thing i remember is being woken at midnight by the fireworks, looking across at DP sound asleep and drifting back off! Rock n roll

Will probably be up this year though curtesy of Jacob!

Sorry you are feeling so rubbish chelle. I wouldn't bother feeling like a crap mum at all. He won't remember, and it won't harm him-if your not entertaining him. If your ill, your ill.

Wow, I've just caught up - what a mixed bag of news. Congratulations chelle and newmum, so exciting for you both, and how horrid and scary for you beadit. sassy I'm glad the mole thing turned out ok.

It's been a pretty busy couple of weeks for us too, though not nearly as dramatic. For some reason it seemed like a good idea to have both sets of grandparents and my sister to stay at our tiny cosy little house for Louis' first Christmas. Thankfully, it all went surprisingly ok with no major dramas (quite an achievement with my family), and everyone seemed to get on. It's the first Christmas I can remember when I've watched literally no TV though.

I don't know if he was picking up on the excitment, or if it was a growth spurt, or the dreaded 4-month sleep regression I've read about, but Louis also picked last week to go from doing 4-5 hour stretches at night back to feeding every 1.5-2 hours. Arrgh. He did seem hungry at each wake up, even though I was trying to feed him lots during the day, and he's back up to every 3 hours now so I'm thinking maybe a growth spurt.

chelle don't feel bad for being ill - it's not like you can help it. As for the cot thing, we put Louis' moses basket into the cot for a couple of nights so he could get used to the view, but to be honest, I don't think he really cares where he sleeps so long as he's warm and comfortable, so just give him a try, you never know, he might not notice the difference .

Aww Chelle not a bad mum at all just a sick mom! Amazing how we can feel guilt at the drop of a hat! When I feel like that I always imagine what I would say to a friend if she were me and it usually starts with 'go easy on yourself!' Plus you have had a very exciting xmas - its all just taking a physical toll now and forcing you to take it easy and maybe rope in someone else to pick up the slack for a while?

Sassy EXCITING!!! we have just gotten planning for our new house and have to sell this one so will take years but Im already planning in my head. Hope your DP feels better after the pipes fiasco and maybe a bit of shopping etc will make him feel like its all coming together. A new home - like I said - Exciting!

Bringing Phoebe to the doc in the morn. Probably will be a big waste of money but she is still bunged up and very slow to feed now as she gets choked up. My ears are sore too and Im afraid she may have it although she doesnt seem to be in pain. She is really not drinking as much as she was. Anyone elses get fussy on feeds at this stage?

14 weeks, 13lbs

Hi all, not really had time to catch up on everything so please don't think im ignoring anyone if anything exciting has happened.

We're trying Grace in her travel cot tonight and im really really nervous about it. I've just got a feeling we're in for a really shit night. We've put the moses basket in there for tonight till she gets used to it but i'm terrified of the baby monitor being to far away to pick up her crying (it's fine, dp stood near the travel cot before and whispered while i hovered around the other end downstairs and i could hear him fine) god knows why i'm so worked up but i feel a bit of a wreck! I dread to think what i'll be like when we put her in her own cot in her own room.

Always forget Grace 15+2

As everyone else said chelle1986 you are allowed to be ill!!! Don't feel guilty you're not rubbish at all, rest as much as you can and give Olly as much time as you can manage.

We used to have the party food Christmas eve when I lived at home sassy34264! we have planned to feed the boys on their own ( we always eat all together) and we've bought dinner from M&S with vouchers that we've got. We always watch jools holland and stay up until midnight but that's about it.

Yay about house and good luck at dr mammyG.

Just had the bounty email with the top names for 2010. Oliver has overtaken Jack to take number one spot! James is no. 10 (my ds1), Jacob is no.11, Alex isn't in top 20 anymore. Luke isn't in the top 20 either. Amazing how some names follow trends, around here Noah has all of a sudden become popular and its at no. 15. Olivia is top of the girls, Grace is no. 10 and Lucy no. 13.

Not feeling great today, hoping the bug that's going around isn't coming to get me! We are off to mil tomorrow and sil on Sunday, so need to be well. Luke was up at 12.30, 5 and 6.30 last night which doesn't help either. DH suggested that the cats being up and about in the night could be disturbing him so we are going to shut his door tonight and see if that helps.

Happy New Year to you all and lots of wishes for happiness and healthiness for 2011.

Cinnamon - prime example of what I was saying yesterday re sleeping at night = Wednesday night he went to bed at 7:30 and slept through til 4am then went back down til 6:30am.

Last night = went down at 7:30, woke at 2am - would not go back to sleep - was wide awake. Eventually went back down at 3:45am and then woke at 4:30am for no reason then woke at 6:20am.....baffled.

Does Olly have a dummy chelle1986? I only ask as I don't want to get into the habit of feeding Luke to sleep at night and end up having to feed him in the night forever! He does suck his fingers when he's settling himself now but not very effectively. He does seem hungry when I go to him, latches on very strongly and sucks very rapidly and feeds for a while too. I don't want him to have a dummy but also don't want to be unfair to him by not giving him a means to settle.

Anyone breastfeeding intersted in this bra? I bought it but I really can't get on with non-underwired bras and would rather someone got some use out of it. It's a 36F/G if anyone is interested.

Chelle ditto what everyone says about you not being a bad mum!

Cinammon Olly varies his sleep pattern. He's always in bed by 6.30 but then will usually wake between 4 & 5 the go down till 7 but a couple of nights ago he woke at 2, then lastnight it was 4 & he was up at 5.45! I think its just what babies do! They like to keep you on your toes.

Well we were going to a friends for tea with 5 other families tonight then coming home with 1 family & seeing the new year in with them staying over but our bloomin boilers packed up so I'm not sure if they'll want to stop now! An engineers supposed to be coming out between now & 6pm but its a very old, unusual boiler so if new parts are needed it'll be tuesday at the earliest! We managed to use the last of the hot water topped up with water from the kettle for us all to bath earlier & have arranged with a friend that we can stay there till its fixed! Its just all the hassle!

Oh well, Happy New Year!!!!!

Olly 4 months today!!!!!

I haven't caught up properly either.

cinnamon I've been finding that Orlaith tends to wake up twice in the night and wants to just suck on her bottle. I've desperately tried to convince her to just suck on her dummy but she hates it. She sucks franticly then starts screaming until I give her a bottle. Then she doesn't drink it. I end up sitting up for about 45 mins each time till she'll go back to sleep, it used to take 10 mins each time she woke up. Has anyone got any tips on how to get her to take the dummy? Or are there different types of dummy I should try?

Well tonight SIL's having Orlaith for the first part of the night while DP and I go to the pub. I'm not convinced we'll make it till midnight before we're too tired and have to come home!

I found out today that PIL's and SIL are really annoyed that I don't want Orlaith staying overnight anywhere yet. It might seem selfish to them but firstly I don't want her to be away from me for that long yet, secondly I don't think they'll look after her properly especially as none of them are very mobile, and thirdly she won't even settle downstairs so I don't think she'll settle well elsewhere either. I reckon she'd end up awake and crying for most of the night and have to sleep loads when she got home then before we know it the days and nights will be mixed up for her.
Please tell me I'm not being unreasonable!!!

Happy New Year to everyone, I hope you all have a good night whatever you're doing, and banana I hope you get your boiler sorted without having to wait ages for parts. Nightmare!

Orlaith 14 weeks today (MIL tried to argue with me today that Orlaith is only 13 weeks, she's not! Grrr!)

saoirse yanbu at all. She is your baby and if you feel you/she is not ready for an overnight stay thrn they should accept that.

Lucy has juxt woken from a mammoth 4 hour nap. she would of gone longer but my boobs were rock hard and leaking and starting to hurt.

Tonight me, dp and dd1 are watching inception and finishing off the nice fattening christmas food. We try and make it to midnight but often fail. The last 4 new years I have been pregnant, breastfeeding, breastfeeding and pregnant and beastfeeding so again no midnight tipple for me

saoirse yanbu at all. She is your baby and if you feel you/she is not ready for an overnight stay thrn they should accept that.

Lucy has juxt woken from a mammoth 4 hour nap. she would of gone longer but my boobs were rock hard and leaking and starting to hurt.

Tonight me, dp and dd1 are watching inception and finishing off the nice fattening christmas food. We try and make it to midnight but often fail. The last 4 new years I have been pregnant, breastfeeding, breastfeeding and pregnant and beastfeeding so again no midnight tipple for me