September 2010: windy bums, weaning starts to loom!

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A starter for 10 on our Sept 2010 babies as their first Christmas comes nearer! Can't believe we're there already; I was barely pregnant last Xmas!

aahhh yes - bellabelly - thats who was missing! Sorry - dixie. I've still got one of the debbies unaccounted for then? One is Debs75 - but who is the other one?

oh rightcinnamon i see. sorry. Although who would want to be us with the sleepless nights and pooey bums ey....?!

chelle it's debs75
Ha, you woke up yet? x

Morning all

yes Im on fb. chelle Have just sent you a request (hopefully its you!). Im Ruth.

Have DS here at the side of me and is definatley better as he´s shouting at the top of his voice "look mummy Mr Happy" (the smiley icons).

cinnamon I go way over your Nans saying. Also have to admit to morning, afternoon and night time tea & biscuit, used to be only afternoon bikkie with tea when working but since becoming full time mum its got a bit out of control (grin).

Off for now as DS has discovered Bananas in pyjamas on you tube and is pestering to hear the song.

oh god sassy...am having a moment again aren't i! You wouldn't think I had 8 hours kip! The more I get the more stupid I become!!

sorry patito i havent got it - let me knwo your surname and i will rty and find you - you must have got the wrong michelle? profile pic is a 10 week old baby, looking cheeky with his tongue out? sorry if i confused you.xx

chelle i can't do spicy anymore either. I love indian food too so it's annoying!

beadit I'm concerned jack's going to get mixed up between his tuminican republic and his buminican republic, that could cause some issues!

Well Ive just requested to be friends with some stranger . Just checked fb she´s accepted but is asking who I am .

I think Ive found you chelle, I didn´t see at bottom that I could check for more people, and have just found a very cute cheeky boy sticking his tongue out so hopefully found you this time.

All done patito and have added you to the group.x

saoirse - is Aswalia going to join us on here too? x

God I've just been reading some of the threads on the breast and bottle feeding topic - it really does get nasty between BF mums and FF mums doesn't it!! Am shocked!!! Some people are really really really nasty!

MammyG thanks for that I will be trying it and hopefully it will do the trick :)

cinnamongrayhound she is not rolling over completely yet, she just moves around a lot.

Maria-Ann had her last feed at 10pm and went to sleep at 11.30 she then woke up at 3.30am. I brought her down stairs at 4.15am and my O/H took over she fell asleep till 9.00am and I got up at 11am. i'm feeling much more less tired today, really hopeing she goes 4 to 5 hrs tonight also I put a vest on under her babygrow so she stayed much warmer.

Went out today and bought a baby carrier. Maria-Ann seems to really like it, she is asleep in it now I've also managed to put all the clothes away with her strapped to me. I'm really hopeing she will continue to settle in it when my O/H gets home and then he can help out as at the moment she will only settle with me as I'm much more comfy think it's the boobs joked about getting him some custom made ones

chelle1986 i know what u mean about the whole bf and ff, two opposing camps that refuse to accept the points of view of others (most of the time) I (controversially) do a bit of both, mostly breast, but when i need to claim my sanity Samson will have a bottle of formula off his dad, I really dont see the need for the arguments tho, surely we're all doing our best and what works for someone might not work for another, certainly no need to get swords out!! I find it easier to bottle feed when we're out tho, due to an embarrassing incident at the docs surgery ~ of all places!! but on the other hand i found a fantastic way o scare off jehovahs witnessess, cos the other way i unwittingly opened the door to them with a boob hanging out - didn't realise til they ran off saying 'you're obviously busy' hahaha

chelle oh yes there are alot of very strong opinions on here esp. when it comes to BF vs FF!!
It is an incredibly emotive subject for alot of people.

Just been to visit my work with Kaesha and Flynn today was nice to see everyone but things are pretty dire there and think there are going to be lots of cuts/job losses etc over the coming months so everyone is pretty depressed, made me glad I'm not involved at the moment, it seems like another world right now. I kind of hope I end up not going back and finally start my own business but will have to see how financially stable we are when the time comes to make the decision whether to hand my notice in or not.

11wks+2

x-posts imnotper !!

imnotperfect
The voice of reason! It's good to hear!
I've not really caught up yet with the latest posts but will at some point over the weekend... when it usually slows down on here!
I've never felt so shattered! Need to put a stop to jewellerying v soon!
Hope everyone has a Gorgeous Friday and weekend! xxx

Chelle Ollys has size 3 teats. Has done since he was about a week old. 1s were absolutely pointless & 2s were a struggle too! He'd fall asleep with the effort! He's been absolutely fine on the 3s. Once he got used to the flow!

Feeling a bit upset with the whole friend thing again! Just found out they've managed to get TT tickets & not even included me. Even though they knew I wanted to go & when they were 1st on sale we all tried for each other. I'm holding off on getting really upset just yet cos I'm in Menorca in the middle of all the dates & am not sure what date they're going. If its not when we're away, it'll be another in a long line of "we thoughts" This might be the straw that breaks the camels back cos I'm sick of them making me feel like this! I sound like a 12 year old!!!

There it is! "oh no! Thought you were still away"

You don't sound like 12 year old, it's really sad bananastew! They don't sound much like friends to me .

It really surprises me how strongly people feel about how other people feed their babies. I feel quite strongly that I wanted to bf my babies and that there is not enough support for those that want to and have difficulties but otherwise each to their own as far as I'm concerned.

I have finally got new moon from lovefilm today so once ds1 is in bed I'm going to snuggle up with dh, Ben and Jerry and watch it by the light of the Christmas tree

They can't have children. Now I know thats really really sad & I hate it. We had a talk when I was pregnant & I found out & told her that I would completely understand if they wanted us to stay away & She said definately not. I think that now Ollys here they find it too hard but its really not my fault & i'd rather they just say. Not keep treatring me like this. Its not baby hormones or lack of sleep that are making me feel like this, I'm just fed up of feeling crap! I couldn't properly celebrate my 30th cos I was pregnant & have suggested that we all go away next year for a makeover/photoshoot thing & then a night out & nobodys interested. I just feel really lonely at the minute!

Oh bless you bananastew! That's awful. Could you have a word with them and tell them how you feel? If they were true friends they would listen and try to understand how you are feeling. If not, then you are better off without them. We are all here for you to let off steam. x x x

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Thanks jodey I just feel like whatever I say will sound like I'm rubbing in the fact I have children & they don't. If I say I've had a really rough few months, heavily pregnant, new baby + toddler will get the reaction "at least you've got that" If I make a fuss about the tickets i'd get "I'd rather have a baby than see take that" and I would, I wouldn't swap with them for the world but that doesn't give them the right to treat me like this!

Chelle yep they are fairly militant people out there. When I had DS1 I had an awful time breastfeeding and found it impossible to get impartial advice. I just remember this feeling of being undermined and made feel like a loser and I had only started out on motherhood! Im half and half at the moment and will probably be all bottles soon. This is my third. Every woman, baby and situation is different so its up to us to make our own minds up on what we can or cannot do. There are enough enlightened women out there (like this group) that know support and a gentle nudge will do a world more good than enforcing your view over others.
banana Gurl you could be writing my story!! Have just decided to busy myself with things to go to and do with the kids and try and make new friends. So far so good!
Melly Im dreading going back to work! I have been so less stressed since I went on leave and with the disaster in this country work had gotten so demoralising. Esp as the civil service are taking such a bashing. It was just downright depressing I feel so much better since I have been off. And tellingly have not had any gallbladder/tummy attacks! I wish I could take more time or finish but no joy.
Am so tired today - trying to get my brothers house ready for xmas too. You would swear I had a superwoman outfit hidden in the closed sometimes!! If only!

mammy I know it's horrible thinking about work, I hated it first time round, it felt like it was hanging over me the whole time. This time round I'm in a slightly different position as I hopefully will have a bit more choice in whether I go back or not, or perhaps look into starting my own business, or have maybe another year with the LO's before I then look for a different job/start business all kind of depends on whether DP's job is looking secure in July next year which is when I will either have to confirm I'm returning to work or quitting.

Can't believe my gorgeous girl is going to be 3 on Monday, we are celebrating all over the wknd with family and friends and to try and spread out the presents!! The time has gone so fast, I tucked her up in bed tonight and felt such a rush of love, of longing for the time already passed, she is truly an amazing person to know and I feel so honoured that I am her Mummy.

Am full of sentimentality tonight, but I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful family, I am so thankful.

Aww melly!!

Another question for you all! Do you think its inappropriate for me to take Olly to my Aunties funeral? They're both supposed to be going to my mil but she can't feed him! If I worked it so he was only there over 1 feed it would be an awful rush & may make us late which we can't do.

I know this sound odd because he's bottle fed but everyone struggles to feed him. Including dh sometimes. There's only me, dh & my mum who have ever managed to get a whole bottle down him and we'll all be there.

My mum says I can't take him. not as in aren't allowed, as in not the place for a baby but if he was bf it'd be a given so why not?? The actual funeral is at a time when he'll be asleep. I can have him in the sling & no one will know he's there. He's only 15 weeks old. surely its not unreasonable for me not to want to leave him?

I don't see it as a problem bananastew. I took Luke asleep in my sling to the cinema with ds1, I know it's not the same but I did get some interesting looks!!! I personally would ask the person who is organising the funeral. Perhaps you should also be prepared that of he does wake up then you or dh will hace to leave with him. When my uncle died (my mums twin) my aunt asked that my cousins and I bought our children. In the end dh stayed in the car with ds1 during the service and then we all went back to my aunts house.

banana, I second cinnamon. I would just try to sit at the end of a row so that you can make a swift exit if you need to. I'm sure it'll be a hard enough day for you without you having to worry about whether Olly is screaming for food with your mil. And maybe it's just me, but I always think babies/children are a sign of hope for the future, and that is just what you need at such a sad time.