Dec 2007 - Little People, Large Strops

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Will this do everyone?

Helloooo Clara!

Well update here is that I've been bleeding since thurs eve (not sex induced this time) and today am very contraction-y and it's got pretty heavy so I think it's a miscarriage. I guess the scan etc will confirm it on Mon. Easier in some ways this way but also a bit scarier as I'm not 100% sure it's all normal and evil google makes me worry about ectopic pregnancy etc. Also have the dc here so have had to keep going for them and bf can't be here which makes it harder cos I'm going through it on my own. But hey, it's not my birthday!

Course sounds like a lot of work Clara, good luck with the rest of it.

Clairey big hugs. That doesn't sound nice at all. Can the friend that knows provide any support? It's your birthday on Wed isn't it? Hope you're well into recovery by then.

Skidd I would be hopping mad if that happened to me. It is such a minefield isn't it. Here's hoping the next appointment is more satisfactory.

Clara lovely to see you! Do you already have couples signing up for your October class?

DD1 and I at Sydney airport waiting for our fight home. Had 2 days here which was her 10th birthday present for next Wed. Was really lovely in the end. We packed a lot in and the weather was fab too.

Perhaps unwisely I've told her I'm thinging about taking her and DD2 to UK June 2013 since her Dad shows no signs of organising for that to happen and I know she desperately wants to.

Oh gosh clairey, what a rollercoaster... how are you now?

Helloooo to clara and buzzy [waves]

more tomorrow..

Good luck clairey, let us know hoe you get on

Hello all, scan confirmed miscarriage, still have some tissue to pass but the dr thinks it should all happen naturally. \Any pain, smelliness, fever etc I need to go to a&e and need to do a pg test in 3 weeks to check all back to normal but otherwise all ok. I feel relieved but totally wrung out.

Not surprised! Hope you are okay FO, take it easy, rest up, paracetamol if you are cramping. {{{hugs}}}}

gosh clairey, of course you're exhausted. Be kind to yourself and get as much ret as you can x

Happy birthday for yesterday Clairey. Hope you had a good one despite everything.

Happy birthday clairey (was it yesterday?)

Hope you are feeling OK and you can almost certainly look forward to a better one next year

Happy birthday to DD1 as well buzzy . FWIW I don't think it's unwise to say you'll take her to the UK to see her dad, in fact I think it is pretty big of you

clara - glad the retreat was such a success. So you will actually be running a class in October for women about to give birth? That's amazing (and a bit scary I'm sure) - I reckon you'll be brilliant.

Eye hospital yesterday with DS1 for his squint and his vision seems to have deteriorated rapidly. Best case scenario is he will need glasses, worst case scenario is there's a problem with his retina/brain - desperately hoping for glasses. DD has also been having these wierd visual distortions so now she has to go to the eye hospital as well - I seem to spend my whole bl**dy life at that place atm

Skidd - keeping my fingers crossed for your DS1.

Buzzy - your DD1 is beautiful :D I hope she had a lovely birthday.

Freaky, how are you feeling, my lovely? I hope your birthday was okay and that you are least got to relax and put your feet up.

skid hope it's not too serious for either of them.

My birthday was good, spent the morning with the dc then bf took me out for lunch (3 courses and wine) then went to his house and lay down! Then had a couple of friends round for wine in the evening.

Last night i met his friends for the first time! I was shitting myself! Was his two best mates and their wives (both with the same name as me!!) They were really friendly and non scary and we played poker so they didnt have much chance to interrogate me. Was my first time playing and I was pretty crap at it but it was fun. Was a pretty big deal for him to introduce me as they're a tight group so things seem to be moving forward.

Hope dd1 enjoyed her bday buzzy

How are you feeling now Clairey? Sounds like fun with BF's friends.

I had a frankly horrific weekend with the ex-inlaws listening ex MIL pouring out her grief about how her son (exH) is behaving and making a kind of deathbed plea that DD1 go to her old school when she is 13 (which is when kids start high school here). Which is a boarding school, quite posh. I promised that we'd apply and take it from there. DD1 is aware that this is what Nana wants so I suspect will feel obliged to go there even if she really doesn't want to when it comes down to it.

She (exMIL) tells me that "no-one can give me any timeframes" so I've promised that we'll go up and visit in 4-6 weeks time (she turns 70 on 5 May). It's a 4 hour trip each way and I have to stay in a B&B as they can't cope with having us stay. I keep telling myself I'm doing it for DD1. Meantime exH has deigned to ring his Mum once since he was told the news (after not talking to her for over a year due to some sort of falling out) and no sign of him coming out to visit. But hopefully he'll see the light.

Sorry vent over!

Oh how horrible for you buzzy you should be very proud of yourself for rising above all the cr*p and being a lovely mother and (ex)daughter in law. Hopefully your ex will come around but I guess that is his business and there's nothing you can do about it. How was DD1 during/after the visit?

Re: deathbed promise, maybe this is terrible but I don't think DD1 has to go to that school, and it is not so terrible to give the impression that she will for the sake of your MIL now. Sounds like you have hit the perfect compromise by saying you'll apply and take it from there. Horrible situation for all of you and I think you are dealing with it brilliantly.

Just back from a week with my ILs. We had a surprisingly lovely time - 6.5 years in and I think we have worked out how to make it work (they have DC or we have them but we don't all hang out together). FIL seems to have pretty much stopped criticising our parenting as well which helps..

How are you clairey? Glad meeting his friends went so well - it all sounds extremely promising

Hi Skidd, was beginning to wonder where everyone was! Well done you for finding a way through the minefield of in-laws relationships.

DD1 was quite quiet most of the visit. She doesn't want to talk about it. Which is understandable and I don't feel I should force her to. One of her best friends' grandmother died last Saturday (actually happened on day of said friend's birthday and birthday party very unfortunately) which kind of put it in perspective for DD1. We ended up having friend to sleepover here as I felt so sorry for her and her Mum (also a single parent).

Anyway on a much more positive note DD1 is away all this week at a horse-riding camp (on her own!) and when I talked to her tonight she was positively buzzing about it. I did feel very strange about sending her off to this place when I had never even met the people who run it but it does have glowing reviews and she loves her horses so I thought it was worth the risk. Huge relief to hear her on the phone tonight though. DD2 is quite enjoying having me to herself too bless her.

Oh buzzy nothing like a bit of death bed guilt tripping is there Bit unfair of her IMO. Hope she is enjoying her horseriding camp.

Glad the visit with the ILs went well skid. I do remember some venting on here about a previous visit so I'm pleased you've found a way to make it work.

BF and I went to watch deal or no deal being filmed today! I was a bit when he said he'd got us tickets but it was actually good fun, better than watching it on tv. We had really good seats for both episodes so if you want to catch a glimpse of us then watch on the 26th and 27th August (had no idea it was filmed so far in advance!).

Dsis is in the uk at the moment and is coming to stay for the weekend BF said he will meet her (I think his interest increased when I told him she looked a lot like me but was fit and toned and had big boobs ). Looking forward to seeing her, it's been 10 months although with skype it doesn't feel quite so long.

Hi quick visit from me as Martha is trying to get me to colour in the clock she has just drawn....
Glad you are feeling better Clairey and it sounds like it's going really well with the new bf - poker playing with his best friends sounds like a very positive step!
Buzzy - agree with Skid, your dd doesn't have to go to that school if you and she don't want her to. It all sounds very stressful though.
Skid - sorry to hear about all your worries with your ds's sight - fingers crossed it's glasses and nothing else.
Anyone heard about their school place yet? We should hear tomorrow - obviously I am not worried for dd2 being a sibling and we live very close to the school but am nervous for her pre-school friends as this is apparently a very big birth year (they say it's because of the floods in 2007!)

Buzzy - how stressful for you. You are coping amazingly well though. Doesn't this all just confirm for you what an utter twat your ex is?? I agree with what you have done over the boarding school.
Skid - yey to surviving visit with PILs!

FO - I am really glad things are going well with the BF. He does sound like a lovely man

Have just come back from a few days at a very wet Primrose Valley near Filey on the N Yorks coast. Stayed in a caravan park. Caravan was fab, really lovely, brand new, and nice and warm. Plenty to do and we visited the Deep in Hull, which DS, my mum and I think DD really enjoyed. DH was off in Scotland on a photography trip so didn't join us. Am slightly jealous but it was the sort of trip you couldn't do with smalls in tow! Seen a few of his pics and they are amazing and it has made us even more keen to move to Scotland one day!

Hello everyone. Did you all get the school you wanted? (sorry buzzy know it doesn't apply to you!) DS got into dd's school but so so glad she was already there as out of 60 places 47 went to siblings so hardly anyone applying for their first child got a place

Exciting news here... I HAVE A JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Working in a preschool (not ds's), starting in a couple of weeks. Working 8.15 to 12.30 Mon-Fri. The mornings are going to be tricky to begin with but I'm hoping xh can cover most of them as he's currently not working and I can just pull in favours from friends on the days he can't do it. Then once ds is properly at school there's a breakfast club they can both go to.

Had good weekend with dsis, lots of champagne drinking DC loved having her here and its only 8 months til they move back to the UK. Things still going well with my bf, dsis met him and gave her approval

Glad you enjoyed your break bt.

CONGRATS Clairey great news! Talking of ECE I have recently been investigating the Reggio Emilia ECE learning philosophy and I really like it. Have you come across it?

You're right school doesn't apply for DD2 until next January but I know what you mean about getting into schools. Luckily DD2 also gets automatic entry to DD1's school due to the sibling thing so that's one less thing to worry about.

After a pretty crummy summer here we're having a decent autumn which is very welcome. It's ANZAC Day here today (can't remember what you call it in UK - VE Day?). Anyway its a bank holiday and the shops/cafes etc can't open until 1pm so hanging out at home with DD1 - DD2 with her father. But since its sunny might go out for a walk with the dog soon.

DD1's horse-riding camp was a success as far as I can tell although she came home talking with a funny accent! It's something she does when she's feeling a bit lacking in confidence, like she has to impress people to make them like her. Which I guess is not surprising given she knew no-one there. Pretty much back to normal now though. I've arranged for her to fly up to Hastings for Nana's 70th birthday on 5 May as I thought there was a risk exH might see sense and fly in for a surprise visit...

very quick hello from me

congrats on job clairey - sounds perfect

bt - glad you had a nice hol

buzzy -you are such a nice mum - hope DD1's dad does make a surprise appearance

yes we got the school we wanted but we only live about a minute away. Lots of friends' children haven;t got in even with an older sibling - all very stressful for them

Have been having a stressful time myself with some (low-level) bulling of DS1 - hopefully it is sorted now though if not I will go and kick the little shits into touch myself

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Clairey - agree a complete over-reaction. Mostly likely because it was completely out of character for DD to cry like that. But there's also the possibility they add 1+1 and come up with 5. I've had that happen to me...
I'd take them at face value, thank them for the offer of support, explain it's completely un-necessary etc.
And I concur with others that shouting about something in the morning is completely normal in this house approx once a week! [Generally because I've sent DD1 upstairs to get her shoes/socks/jersey, and she has failed to reappear after 5 minutes, 3 calling-outs, and 1 trip upstairs by me to get her only to find her playing with Lego...]

DD2 has suddenly become very scared by DVDs that she used to watch all the time like Harry Potter 1. I guess it's normal for them to realise that the world is a scary place - are others having this ATM? DD1 never had this "realisation" - just continued to watch the HPs 1 through 7B without blinking an eye!

I'm glad it's not just me who has that morning thing. It's not really bad behaviour as dd1 (the good one!) is much worse than dd2, They just get distracted and don't understand why there's such a rush! I'm sure shouting goes on in pretty much every household with school aged children every day!

Congrats on the job Clairey - when do you start? Are you going to do some training with it? There's lots of work in childcare - just not brilliantly paid.

Skid - how's your DS1? Is the bullying still going on? By the way, sorry I've lost track of this thread a bit, but did you ever get him properly assessed and if so is he gettng any help? WHat about when he starts school?

We got our first choice of school but no suprises there, it's about two minutes walk from the house and her sister is already there! Most people round here got their first choice this time as they have just added 15 extra places at our school and one of the other local schools took 30 extra last year which I think they are continuing. Am really excited now to know dd2 will be going up with quite a few of her friends - and I will know plenty of the mums!

I CAN'T BELIEVE OUR BABIES ARE STARTING SCHOOL!!! HELP! Sorry, it's amazing really, I have known you guys for nearly 5 years!!! And what lot we have all been through in that time.

Right, back to revision - have my exam on Saturday.

Oh yes one other thing. I am looking for a good sample of people's experiences of childbirth, labour and contractions to use in my antentaal classes when I start teaching in October. If anyone was willing could you send me two-three (or less) sentences on one or all of the following: "For me, chidbirth was..." "for me, labour was..." "the moment my baby came out I felt..." and "to me a contractoin felt like..." (realise contractions feel different depending on what point in labour so you can chose whichever you want). I will of course use these totally anonymously - I would like to say your (1st) name and names of your children but happy to change these if you want - let me know.

If you were happy to do this you can send it via FB probably easiest (I think your are all on FB?) or MN private message?

Cheers!

Evening. Hope you've all had a good bank holiday

Am just having a giggle to myself as the post above the add message box is me saying how there is no spark and I can't imagine having rampant sex with my now bf How things change!

He has met both my parents and my dc this weekend Didn't plan either but yesterday he was working and I went to keep him company (was driving around collecting documents from clients etc) and we ended up where my parents live and I'd been whinging saying I wanted a cup of tea so he agreed we could go and have one there. Then today he was working again and I was cooking a roast which he said he was jealous of so I said why didn't he come and eat with us on his way home and he did. DC really liked him. Think he was very brave to meet them all! (we now have matching cover pics on facebook too )