July 2010:Our actions get dafter, all for the reward of giggles and laughter!

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new thread! thanks once again to spireal for the name!

tsc i think dh will go to the week they invite him only problem is he had mild narcolopsy so i have warned the support worker that he may drop off, they play a 10 min video and i cant see him staying awake for it! wow how did you all fit in the bed? when L wake up at 6 i prop him up in bed for half anhour and as dh has been going work late its 3 of us and i struggle to fit in too!!

That sounds great memphis. At last your getting some decent support.

My dh fell asleep on the sofa during the HV's first visit for F. No narcolepsy. V embarrassing

just given A this old toy of F's and she's teething on it like a goodun.

She hasn't dropped it once so might be worth a try if you're still struggling to find a good teether.

amazon link for it

cakes he could have blamed it on sleep deprivation? when my dh was young he joined the army and when they were sitting beeing briefed and he fell asleep, got shouted at so had to stand to attention for rest of brief, fell on floor asleep in front of all the other new recruits, that was about all of hisarmy career!! weirdly he wakes before me when baby cried though
he has just caught me unaware and scratched my bloody eyeball it was about an hour ago and i still cant open my eye and its streaming!!!

Question for those of you whose babies are waking up several times some nights -

DO you feed them every time/ Or just pick them up to cuddle them? Or just leave them? The nights G is up twice are fine - I feed her. But some nights (like last night) she was waking virtually every hour - at least 6 times I counted. She doesn't seem to be in any pain, nappy fine, I think she wakes and just wants to be fed back to sleep. I know she's too young really for controlled crying or anything like that but she cannot NEED to feed every 1 - 1 and a half hours. It's ridiculous and I am beyond knackered.

Of course she did it last night when we have a really busy day today, plyagroup Christmas party, kindy Christmas party, then I'm going out with some friends for a curry tonight, been really looking forward to it, have a lift there and back so can have a few beers, but now I'm going to be TIRED and not enjoy it as much cos she was up at 9, 11, 1, 3 and 4!

God sorry for the rant, I have not had more than three hours sleep in a row since July and it is really starting to get to me.

That rant sounds awful, like I don't like her or something, or think a night out is more important. It's not that, I love her to bits. I'm just so tired and my poor dd1 gets a mum with a short temper because of it.

I feed S back to sleep, even if it is only 40 mins after I last fed him unless I don't properly wake up and he cries himself back to sleep which he has done several times. A couple of nights ago I woke up with one leg out of bed where I'd nearly got up and just fallen back asleep again. And don't worry, we don't for a moment think you don't love her, we all get frustrated/angry at our LO's but we still love 'em to bits!

I know how you feel whatshesaid Dylan is like that most nights.
He shares my bed so I feed him to sleep every time, its just easier.

wss call that a rant? you obviously haven't been hanging round these parts long enough. You practically have to call your baby a crack whore to raise eyebrows here I'm afraid

and never apologise for ranting anyway

i'm a class a softie so always go to A. She's quite a simple creature tho so with her it's either a feed or her dummy she wants and then she's straight back down. Occasionally its wind so i pick her up and sit with her til she's sorted.

really hope you manage to have a good night out.

memphis given i was bf round the clock and therefore doing all the wakeup, dh could try to say it was sleep deprivation...

just got v emotional seeing a pic of my old work colleague and her new baby dd. has been a long journey for them so its wonderful to see her looking so content with her biggest xmas present ever - a baby at last.

OK, glad to hear it's not just me going through this (not that I'm glad you are being woken up lots of course!). I do normally feed her each time but at 4 am this morning (after having fed her about 6 times in the previous 9 hours) I did try just holding her to see if I could get her back to sleep withough feeding. Didn't work!

I know she's so little still, I just worry she won't be able to settle herself without a feed - well obviously she will eventually, she wont' be doing this when she's 16 (I hope).

anyway enough me me me, hope all are well, have to tgo to playgroup party now

HELLO!!!!

I don't feed him every time cos he has a dummy I will only feed him once through the night (twice if you count an 11pm feed) and the other times I settle him with his dummy.

Cake ds1 has that toy, I might give it to ds2 when we get home, see what he makes of it. And he also has those keys kk but I looked for them the other day and couldn't find them. Lord only knows what he;s done with them but they're in the house somewhere!

memphis that group sounds brilliant. Very supportive, just what you need. I'm a bit actually!

Sorry you've had to move the wedding dh. Just think though, it's a week less to wait!

For a 'my children' update, ds2 is in his own room here and whilst he was still up 3 times last night, I slept better in between wakes as I didn't hear all the grunts in the middle iyswim. ds1 selpt 7.30pm to 7am which is amazing as he's in a strange place in a double bed surrounded by pillows so he doesn't fall out! Ha! Let's see if he repeats it tonight. Ds2 has barely drank a thing today. Got a bit of spinach and something somethingorother into him tonight. His teeth are definitely bothering him. ds1's cheeks are also postbox red and on fire but his necklace (or something) is keeping him in a relatively good mood. I think the only reason for the odd strop today has been cos we've been so busy he's knackered!

Oh and chulita I thought that when I name changed. Hopefully that's the only time I'll ever be referred to as a milf

Hi all

Seems like everyone is having night time trouble at the moment. I'm with you all. When I got up this morning after another very disturbed night, I felt so dizzy, I almost fell down. Couldn't shake the dizziness till lunch time. Bleurgh.

According to The Wonder Weeks (does anybody know this book?) babies have a massive growth spurt between 15 and 19 weeks in which they are very difficult, cry a lot and sleep little and are very moody. M is 19 weeks tomorrow so naturallly I am hoping that from tomorrow she will be in a better mood

We went out to a Christmas market today and she hated being outside so much that she screamed for an hour afterwards. And she was not cold. No idea what was wrong but I vowed never to go out again. Ever. Not worth it

Cake So if I joined FB and joined your group, only people from your group could see stuff? Sorry, I'm really not good at this kind of thing and usually just keep away. Would be nice though to get to know you all a bit better.

Had some horrible news here. The husband of a friend of mine who has a baby M's age, told her that he doesn't see a future for their relationship (after 10 years, and after having had their first baby 4 months ago). I'm really shocked and sad about this and seeing her cry put my troubles firmly back into perspective.

On a positive note, we got our Xmas tree today, on a negative note, I don't like it, it's too small.

Right, I'm rambling and it's a ginormous post. Better be off.

Good night all. Haha

Oh trudyla your poor friend! Gosh...

Yes, the fb group is totally private, it doesn't even appear in a search and doesn't show on your page (only appears to other members of the group) If you want the link let us know cos you won't be able to find it otherwise :)

Hi all,
Just a quick post to keep in touch,
trudyla thats horrible re ur friend, its my worst nightmare, poor woman.
mylife do u use the necklace on DS2, do u think it really works as i may get one tomorrow.
So i didnt dream feed last night and he woke at 2.40 and i fed him only 5oz, he would have taken more but im going to limit it, dont know if im right or not but i know it will effect his morning bottle. He had 11.5oz before he went down tonight so we'll see what happens tonight. If he is only going to wake once in the night i can cope with that, just wish he would go back down again straight after but he stays awake for a while which is a pain. Does anyone use aromatherepy with their lo's? im thinking of loking into it.
Right im off to bed.......at 10pm.......without feeding, i miss saying night to my boba though!!

Hi Ladies, just checking in. Gwen had a good week but now seems to have gone back to her old ways, She's lying next to me wiiiide awake.

Lots of love to you all xxx

I second the amber necklace effect - F hasn't had a single screaming in agony in middle of night episode since wearing one and A is obviously teething but so far has been coping fine since I put one on her (well aware that these words may come back to haunt me)

Was that an accusatory tone tsc - hah! I read it like you think I'm cheating :-) yeah, I've mentioned it before but she doesn't (at the mo, touch wood etc) always need it and doesn't always wake in night for it so it doesn't get much of a mention or credit, life-saver that it is. Didn't give it to her til 4 weeks or summat tho, it was to reduce the reflux. F had one from about day 3! Have just recently realised that I reduced his dummy use at 3 months and took it away altogether at 6m - planned to do the same with A but that now seems scarily soon!!

Your hols look/sound like bliss mlic (sticking to old-skool)

OK I shall practise my ranting to make it more ranty

MIght try a dummy, she usually just spits it out though.

I was totally spoiled with dd1, she only woke once a night from about 6 wks onwards.

It's all just the luck of the draw, I reckon.

Trudyla that's awful for your friend. Does put things in perspective - being woken up a few times a night really doesn't seem that bad now.

trudyla yy, set up a v basic fb profile with false/little info then pm me on here with a link to it and I'll send you an invite, which you'll need to accept. There's probably a more efficient way but would mean giving out details on here.

Password is 'no fucking sleep' ;-)

Looking forward to 'meeting' you //said in best non-stalker voice//

Note: mlic is our fb headgirl, I'm just deputising whilst she's off this week //aiming for prefect badge//

Ignore this

Oh cool!!

cake have pmed you re fb group...if it's ok for me to join too

Oh sorry wss! Of course. It did crossed my mind earlier to ask you but you beat me to it. I wasn't sure if you already were on it (being an oldie - I think)

Anyway, ditto anyone else who wants to join but hasn't yet.

S'all right, wasn't having a go, I don't think I was around when it was set up

Off for curry mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm