July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

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Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Thanks cake, I hadn't even thought about that last point!

mlic the way I see it is that you can always earn money later in life, you'll never get your children little again. If you miss this, you'll never get it back. (not that I'm judging anyone who works! it's just if you're feeling like you do, that's the way I'd look at it!)

Evening ladies

personal question but have any of youhad a coil (iud) fitted? I just got mine in and I am so crampy at the moment, hoping it isnt being rejected. I tried in vain to get the normal pill but they said due tot he migrane I had they cant prescribe it as it could cause a stroke, bugger lol

mlic I have been a sahm mum since a car accident in 2007, I was off due to the crash and at that point we thought it would be a good time to ttc anyway I do get bored but now lo is here I have lots more to do. I also did an open uni course which I plan to continue so I can get my degree in Social care. Anyway you will see if it suits you or not, I do need to go back to work but we have decided I havent to rush

just off to have dinner xx

mlic I think it's often a case of the grass is always greener whatever you choose as you get awful days when you're at home or at work. My fave was working 20 hours a week as I only had to leave F 2 full days and then did a few hours here and there. It was lovely having lots of time with him but also 2 days where I was me again. I plan to go back to it again after this maternity leave. I'm v lucky that it makes enough money to make it worthwhile even with two lots of childcare but it would be a tough decision if the money left was less.

No easy choices in this really.

stac I'm too scared to try one as I think I'm super fertile like my mother (who got pg using the pill then the coil). We use condoms as I feel you're more likely to know when they've failed. I'm not keen on the pill but I really don't want to get pg again so I'm hoping dh will think about a vasectomy.

Weird weird question, and I'm hoping no one calls social services on me, but have any of you ever bumped your babies' heads? I'm considering calling the police and turning myself in right now.

Rant alert...
Im so fucking pissed off this eve. I was working from lunchtime today. So 'd'p could give ellie her lumchtime feed then she'd go for her nap. Anyway i started feeding her before he got home so she got half her feed. He then just sat there for nearly his whole lunch watching sky sports shitty news and lets her sleep then just before he went back to work gave her the rest and then put her im with me. So she didnt have her nap which is fine but he never changed her nappy which i never knew and when i was finished about an hour amd a half later i lifted her and she was all wet where her nappy had leaked cos LAZY DICKHEAD never changed her and she had a poo too. Ffs i feed and change her and mind her so he can work so is it too much to ask that he does the same? i actually cried when i seen it cos its so unfair on her. So it seems now that i cant do anything workwise during the day. And then im working til this eve then have to worry about washing cos he'd never think of puttin on one, cook dinner, clean up, we'r going to the cinema so had to do bottles cos he'd never think to do them all while hr watches football. Im just fed up of being the one to have to think of everything and worry bout everything. Just fed up of him full stop to be honest. Hes helpful when it suits HIM. Probably sounds like a stupid rant but im seriously pissed off

Ok, I feel better now. Dh is really angry with me and keeps saying I've probably given her brain damage even though it was only a little bump. At the risk of sounding like a child, he's being so MEAN at the moment, and making me feel like a completely incompetent child, even though I do basically everything in this and work all evening while he watches tv and reads the paper and expects his dinner at six. He moans that the baby isn't in bed because he wants to smoke, even though he knows I hate it. I am not a feminist, in fact, I'm a total chauvinist but I do resent being criticised incessantly.

KK you have my deepest sympathies, I'd be furious in your position. I don't even try and get dh to do more than hold gwen, it doesn't seem fair to the baby.

yeah tsc i am quite crampy but its not too bad at the moment, thanks

kk i'd kill him, dp takes r on monday night and saturday morning and i expect her to be fed and clean. Have you spoke to your dp? It is hard to be in charge of everything, why not forget a few things he needs like clean socks or dinner explaining he cant expect you to remember everything without proper help

needles r fell off the high chair luckily onto a very soft rug but still felt rotten, your human hun accidents happen. If dh wants to whinge bout the head bump ask him what his smoking is doing to her lungs (sorry bit harsh but i hate guilt trips)

What type of business are you thinking mlic

No wonder your cautious about contraception cakes my mum was the opposite like me but had to do a pregnancy test to check before insertion and i was panicking we dont want anymore either x

I never rang him to tell him what he done but when he came home from work i shoved the pissy shitty vest in his face and asked him how would he like to ne left sitting in that. Cue him getting im a huff about working all day........ah what the hell does he think i do. Plus do everything with the house. To be fair he is normally good but the standard is seriously slipping lately. Its like of he just leaves it to me it'l be done anyway so why not. Not even really speaking to him cos im that pissed off. Id just love to get away sometimes just me and ellie. Sorry to go on. Just having a bad day. And to make things 100 million times worse my period is late. Oh god i really dont know what i'l do if it doesnt come.
And needle ellie was in her bouncer this morn and put her bib over her face and i put my toe out to put it down and got her in the eye instead! Dread the inevitable time when i drop her or let her roll off the bed or something!

i think the older lo gets or the better you cope the less they think they have to do. What contraception are you using kk? Try not to worry as that can delay them coming as can stress hun x

Just condoms stac. Knowing my luck there was a hole in one of them or something. Very hard to not worry...its all i can think about.

best to do a test and put your mind at rest hun, i was bricking it when i had to do a test today. Are you always regular kk? X

mlic DD did the same last night, crying while I was feeding S and DH slept right through it, lucky git!

tsc Mothercare sell these might be worth a go.

stac I went to Zumba last night, it was pretty good, I was sweating buckets by the end, lol! Cycled there as well so double the calories burned (don't tell anyone I only live about a mile away, they all thought I was really athletic, hah!)

I'm going to brave that crappy toddler group again today. I met someone yesterday and she's new so we're going to go together so at least we have someone else to talk to! I have to keep an eye on DD though cos although she's ridiculously sociable, she's not very assertive so she gets pushed around a lot.

kk sometimes men just can't think outside their own bubble. DH says he forgets about the children while he's at work and they don't cross his mind. On the rare occasions that I get an hour away from them I think about them all the time! I'd be so irritated if he'd 'saved' a poo just for me.

needle I haven't done it to Sam yet but with DD I kept forgetting that when she was in my arms her head would be a good few inches beyond my elbow. I must have taken her head out on doorposts 20 times or more Sam's been sat on several times in his 12 weeks, they're a lot sturdier than they look! (thank goodness)

Needle - I can't believe there's a baby who hasn't been clonked round the head at least once!! When F was a week old, dh whacked him round the head with a piece of wood from the crib he was putting together. And I regularly used to misjudge the wall at the top of our stairs...

As for, your dh being grumpy about G not being in bed - good grief! Does he really think its that easy?!

Morning all,

Right, that is the last time I'm smug about getting sleep. Last night they tagged teamed again. 11pm fed A, 12am F wakes up crying with teething pain, 12.30am get to bed, 4am A wakes for cheeky feed (growth spurt?), 7am she wakes again but managed to settle her with a dummy, 7.30am (I know, that's good) hear F on monitor playing with his ruddy interactive gruffalo book - it's a new monitor so I thought it was some kind of alarm going off! Not quite as bad a night as mlic's tho I suppose, poor thing.

mlic what type of business is it you're thinking about? Can imagine you'd be good at running your own business given the way you cope with everything at home - and still iron like a mad thing ;-)

Try and still go out - I always find I get a second wind when I escape for an evening. Can dh take over the night or morning so you can catch up on sleep?

Oh and did you see my post re teething necklace? Have you used it yet?

Urgh. G in bed at 7. Dh passes out at 8.30, I do laundry and clean the kitchen till 12 and start getting ready for bed. 12.30 dh gets up. 1am I go to bed 2am gwen wakes up, dh comes to bed.2.30 gwen goes back t bed, dh gets up again.4am dh comes back to bed. 6am gwen wakes up. 7am gwen wakes up. 8am gwen wakes up.

Now she's sleeping on me, but the second I put her down she wakes up and cries. It's so annoying, this is the one night I really wanted to get a decent night's sleep as I'm going out and my baby turns on me. Now I can't put her down to take s bath and sods law I'll end up being late and knackered.

On the plus side, dh has finally moved my desk upstairs, so I can finally set up my studio this evening.[hgrin]