July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

[stac14]

Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

gah. the boy's only just gone down now after 2 hours of trying. it's hard work! ah well, am enjoying a second glass of wine.

Lol, I'm trying to imagine my bigshot city career girl friend's face if I turned up to her party with a baby in tow to her posh murder mystery dinner. She'd be mortified! I'm just praying that she doesn't work out about expressing. Gwen's never taken a bottle and I don't want to desert her for the night yet.

I do feel kind of bad, and I will buy her a really lovely present to make up for it, but it might take a while to recover from this one.

well done kk your doing fab. Are you finding it easy?

needles i tried to get out of a night by giving an excuse, by text dont know if you remember. Anyway i should just have been honest that i didnt want to leave rileigh, people do understand and if they dont tough. She'll understand when she has her own kids hun. I have left rileigh twice and think its because shes my 2nd.

Enjoy your wine woodlands i could go a glass too

chulita mwhaha! I have hooked you in it really is a good program though!

Im getting really fucking pissed off with this stupid girl at DP's work.
She text him last night wanting to know the answer to some football ques for a quiz, whatever.
He then turned his phone off (nothing new, he does every night) so when he turned it on this morning it beeped with a text, he was in the bathroom so I checked who it was from, yep, her. I didnt read it, just said to him "you got a text from your girlfriend" he said "from who??" and I just did a sarcastic smile.

FUCK OFF AND TEXT SOMEONE ELSES BOYFRIEND!!!

Sorry really petty and not exactly affair level but I really just DO NOT like her.

Going to baby group today.

i hate it too dh dp has started giving the girl in work a lift in and she texts a lot, he also hadnt told me he was taking her. He doesnt delete texts or anything but it just annoys me. Your right though why text someones bf. Enjoy group x

i hate it too dh dp has started giving the girl in work a lift in and she texts a lot, he also hadnt told me he was taking her. He doesnt delete texts or anything but it just annoys me. Your right though why text someones bf. Enjoy group x

dh I really like the characters so I will actually watch this one. Some of these things I just can't stand the actors!
That would piss me off with that girl too, it doesn't matter what her motives are, it would just annoy me.

tsc I do at least a wash a day and a nappy wash every 3 days, there's no way I could survive without my washing machine. As for taking stinking nappies on the bus, lol! Really hope you get that sorted, some men I think forget that they're not single anymore and they've actually got to think of other people's need before their wants...

kkfairy argh! so I really need to start exercising!

Chulita give yourself a chance. Everything has changed for you lately so concentrate on 1 thing at a time.
Stac thanks! to be honest its not very hard.your allowed to eat so much food so im never really hungry. Its just a lot of cooking involved but im actually enjoying trying all the different recepies! i have dp doing it too so makes it alot easier!
Dh how frustrating! some woman just get a buzz out of texting and befriending other womans men. How would she feel if it was the other way round and you were texting her man?! theres obviously nothing to it but is stil annoying none the less. Ive been in the situation and it really wound me up!
Nothing much to report here. Working from lunchtime on. Ellie will prob be having her nap and then she'l stay with me and learn some hairdressing skills! she loves sitting watching when im working and everybody always goos and gaas over her so that keeps her happy! doubt she'l stay that quiet for too much longer though! Might go to cinema tonight then

Ladies, I see your annoying texting work colleges and raise you two weeks spent in a tent with a Swedish underwear model. I know I say it all the time but, bloody artists.

kk exactly, the thing is she doesnt even have a man! Shes going to Canada in Feb as shes obsessed with travelling so Im just clinging on to that bit of good news! Hopefully she wont come back.

needle what was the reason for that?? I dont think Id cope if I knew DP was doing that.

morning all

tsc that is totally crap re your washing machine and dp. I'm in serious admiration for you for coping with all that and only going quietly mad rather than totally loopytunes!

Like stac, I can barely keep up with the drying and putting away and you've got another person to wash for in your house.

Really hope you don't get ill - it's the last thing you need.

chulita i'm with MLIC on the walking front - deffo a great way of getting off the pounds in a relatively painless way (not quite so painless when I insist on putting A in a sling and then shopping for hours and then carrying her and the shopping home tho!)

needle it's really tough getting your head round leaving your baby the first couple of times. It took months before I felt ok about leaving F but it's miles second time round - I was desperate for a night out this time! As TSC said, people just have to take you as you are when you have children as they have to come first. I feel terribly guilty when I look back at my lack of understanding for my friends when they had babies before me . Not much consolation now but one day your friends will get it!

Uggh re swedish underwear model!! You poor thing!

dh my toddler and I just watched your vid of Dylan. Very sweet and F loved it!

tsc did you say you're on the committee of your local sure start? What does it entail?

I'm thinking of joining the committee of our local one as whilst they do some great classes and have some wonderful people who run it, they do some really frustrating things in the way they administer it.

e.g. last term they said you could only apply for classes by post only (old skool or what?), my printer is in the attic and what with new baby didn't get round to getting DH to print the forms at work then when I called up to see how else I could apply they said I could have done it vie email but by then it was too late and the classes were full. GRRR!

This term they've dropped the only class for F that I could have taken both DCs too (the one I was attempting to book last term) and replaced it with one for toddlers which you can't take siblings too - perfect for parents with more than one child .

I could go on but won't!

Lol, she was the star of their Edinburgh show, and they always camp. She did have s boyfriend and was kind of boring, but I was on tenderhooks for a few weeks.

mlic I've started walking into town which is 40 mins there plus shopping time and then 40 mins back. One of the toddler groups is 30 mins away so I've been doing some walking every day but only for about 2 weeks so it's probably too early to notice much. I do notice my legs are sore in the morning though! Not got a double buggy yet, S in the sling but I've ordered a Nipper 360 double so hopefully that'll be something I can use in Buggyfit :) What double you got?

cakes I hate that about Surestart, I mean what are you supposed to do with your newborn during a toddler group? Or is it meant for single children only

needle I'd have hated that!

Aw crypt glad it was entertaining! I love watching it, makes me smile and remember that he does do lovely things in between the horrible crying.

Oh yes, I forgot to ask - DH and I are looking to buy a house in the near future but neither of us have a clue what it entails. Any ideas? what should we look for? what should we ask? what should we be careful of? I've got a couple we'd like to go and look at but am a bit scared of being 'done'!

chulita it drives me mad - i mean most people have more than one dc in the end.

the most annoying thing is that they've just replied to say the reason that said class was dropped this term was cos of low attendance last-term. that's right, the ruddy class that we couldn't join because it was over-booked

sure start are a great idea and a good use of tax payers dosh imo but i feel that they could do more to ensure they're actually meeting the needs of families not just having random classes for the sake of it.

chulita off the top of my head you need to find out about the following (ask the owners, local friends etc)

• what the neighbours are like (owners legally have to disclose any issues)

• what the neighbourhood is like - eg whether drunkards walking home from local pubs will effect you.

• school catchment areas (obviously)

• state/age of expensive things in the house - eg shower, boiler, if it's on its last legs then make sure you negotiate cost of new one off house price

• make sure you/the agent make the most of your negotiating position if you're first time buyers etc

• ask how long its been on the market, whether they've had any offers, if so how much and why they didn't go thru. All fuel to your negotiations

• if the house price is close to a stamp duty threshold (ie £125k, £250k and £500k) then try to negotiate under the threshold in some way as it could save you thousands (we got 'stung' by not doing this )

chulita off the top of my head you need to find out about the following (ask the owners, local friends etc)

• what the neighbours are like (owners legally have to disclose any issues)

• what the neighbourhood is like - eg whether drunkards walking home from local pubs will effect you.

• school catchment areas (obviously)

• state/age of expensive things in the house - eg shower, boiler, if it's on its last legs then make sure you negotiate cost of new one off house price

• make sure you/the agent make the most of your negotiating position if you're first time buyers etc

• ask how long its been on the market, whether they've had any offers, if so how much and why they didn't go thru. All fuel to your negotiations

• if the house price is close to a stamp duty threshold (ie £125k, £250k and £500k) then try to negotiate under the threshold in some way as it could save you thousands (we got 'stung' by not doing this )

congrats mlic but i agree, its scary!

is it what you'd choose to do regardless of money? i mean, is being a sahm what you really want to do?

could you find ways to bring in a bit of extra cash - part-time work or a small business on ebay etc?