July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

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Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Hi all, sorry I haven't been on for ages!

I don't iron if I can help it. DH irons his own shirts. Most of my clothes don't seem to need ironed - however lots of my mat clothes did need ironed, so I had to get back into it. Certainly haven't ironed anything since the birth.

I have had a cold this week so haven't been out and about much. I took J for his second jabs yesterday, spreading my germs around at the doctor's surgery... ah well. J was pretty cranky afterwards and we did give him Calpol in the evening - not sure it helped much. I now think he's getting my cold - oh joy.

Oh my gosh, so many of you with men who iron! I have never seen dh do anything so domestic ! I mean, he does all the DIY, driving and breadwinning, but he absolutely does not cook, iron or tidy up.

gwen went to sleep waaay too easily this evening. I'm incredibly sispiciuus. it's not like her to go to sleep at 7pm, she doesn't usually go down until 10. I fear I may be in for a rough night.

well, I'm going to check out a new group tomorrow. its officially a mother and toddler group, but I thought I'd go along anyway in case they don't mind.

everyone's babies seem to be getting so big!

Actually made me cry mlic. I told dh and he went all quiet and is just standing looking at the baby in her cot. Your poor, poor friend.

:( that's awful, frick, there aren't words for that kind of thing.
Regardless of how long it takes for Sam to sleep through/stop screaming all day, at least he's alive and I can cuddle him as much as I like.

thats a shame mlic i really dont know what to say, your friend must be devastated. Every parents worse nightmare x

Good lord, thats horrific. How do u survive that sortof loss? I was just saying to DH that im head over heels in love with Devon, unconditionally in love with him and he has taken over my entire life and it seems that only now im beginning to embrace that, the poor woman, i simply cannot begin to understand.
Hello deelite and woodlands
woodlands I hope ur cold gets better soon.
deelite It is really hard work isnt it. I dont know what i thought either but untill ur doing it u have no idea. I can understand all the wry smiles when i was pregnant now. If hes not sleeping in the day though that is difficult. Sounds like u have been keeping busy though, have u had him weighed recently(im a bit obsessed that Devon is a bit small)

oh mlic i saw what you'd put on facebook and wondered what had happened. how terrible. thoughts and prayers with them.

Oh god mlic thats horrific the poor woman. A girl i went to college with had a baby in august and when he was born they realised there was a problem with the valves in his heart and couldnt operate cos he was so small so they had to let him die. Think he was about 2 weeks. Everytime i see a picture of him i cry as its so unimaginable the pain tparents are going through and it makes us appreciate so much that we have a healthy little babies that we can hold.
Yeah mlic il look into the hungrybaby food thanks! I

its so sad, nothing worse than hearing bout a lo passing, really feel for the parents and family. Thinking of you mlic its horrible especially with someone you know

kk the cons told me today that the 6m mark was for developing countries (who knows) but she did advise weaning rileigh at 4m as it will help her reflux. Rileigh is on aptimal hungry baby so next move for us is weaning.

Welcome back dee its not easy being tired all the time hun

Get well soon woodlands so hard looking after lo when ill

needles let us know how your group goes

memphis did you get the idiot hv?

viks did you sort out the work thing?

spireal you are mega organised lol how was the rest of work today? X

Mlic - so, so sad. Was it her first child?

Tsc - re the ongoing battle to get frankie to take a bottle... Just thought I'd let you know that I went off to my evening course tonight leaving a bottle of expressed milk and a new slower flowing (no 2) teat. Got back and she'd only taken an ounce. I tried myself (which was weird as only 2nd time ever bottle feeding and the last time was a friend's baby only last week!) And she struggled to take another ounce and was getting quite cross. When I gave up and bf her, she was happy again and fed for ages.

So, I'm going to retry the no 3 teat which makes a mess but I think she likes the fact it leaks into her mouth so she doesn't have to work too hard - she's used to having bm sprayed down her throat I guess! Might be worth you trying a larger teat size?

needle - on the ironing DH front - I do 95% of the DIY and a fair whack of the bread-winning (when not on maternity leave) so i guess it balances out!

Lol, cake the really annoying thing is that notwithstanding the income he does generate, work to dh looks more like drinking tea and whiskey and smoking all day. Bloody artists.

Good morning Ladies,
Oh boy could i have stayed in bed today! Much like u all i think. What about if we invented an extra day in the week that just had bed and sleep, no DH no baby no commitments......Hmmm one can but dream........
Off to brum later today, dreading the traffic but hopefully we will miss the rush hour and have a straight run.
Sooo child minder or nursery? what do u think?
Also, we are etill dealing with colic in the evenings, what does anyone think about the aptamil comfort milk, is it worth a try, the HV said not to mess with his formula but that was a while ago, i may ring them today to discuss.
mylife sounds really hard for u at the moment, I hope ds2 takes some more asap.

viks i didnt tell hv when i changed rileigh to hungry baby as i couldnt be bothered with the lecture lmao, i've heard good things about the comfort milk cant do any harm. Have you tried gripe water? Also dr browns bottles for us were great, lessens the wind.

mlic what a shitty night, is ds1 at nursery today so you can nap at least?

Hows everyone else? cakes its the same here is better with a hoover than a drill lol x

sorry you had a bad night mlic.

not sure what's up with j. he has always gone days and days without pooing, but since the weekend it's suddenly changed to at least twice a day, sometimes lots more. i've got through three nappies in half an hour at times... plus it went green for a while, though i think that was due to the calpol we gave him on wednesday because he was grouchy after his jabs. it's this morning changed back to yellow/brown. the poo is also more grainy/curdled than usual, and has made his bum pretty sore.

he's also just generally been grizzly and not quite himself. i have to either entertain him with silly songs, or feed him, or else he grizzles. i think he might be catching my cold, plus he had the jabs the other day, but the grizzliness plus the unusual poo has been going on since before either of those things.

none of it seems serious enough to take him to the doctor, but i want my happy giggly boy back!

thats rotten mlic hope he goes for a nap you all must be shattered. x

Viksam, my LO gets weighed every week as he has dropped from 75th percentile at birth to 9th percentile so he's not been gaining weight well at all and hence the supplementary bottle of formula. To be honest, that's not really working out either. Although he gained a nice bit of weight in the past week since getting the extra formula feed (as opposed to an ounce per week in the previous weeks), he's waking up loads and poo-ing for England. He had two poos last night that leaked out of his nappy and onto his clothes. He was very unhappy at being undressed and re-dressed at 4am and again at 5am. I was none to happy either, I can tell you.

Anyway, I really don't think the formula is suiting him although maybe he'd be pooing more during a growth spurt anyway??? He's on Aptamil so maybe I need to try other brands. Has anyone experience of mixed feeding and found one formula better than others?

mlic - are the docs not keen on giving him soya formula? I've seen it work wonders with friends' lactose/dairy intolerant babies.

I know there have been some scary reports linking soya with male infertility but the research i've seen is far from conclusive in the case of humans (i.e. no cases of adult human infertility when soya formula was given as a baby - the only link was found in a different animal, it also seems to be just the first few months of life that are the questionable period so at 3m+ it would be less of a concern).

That's me Cake in a halloween costume btw!

vik re nursery/childminder - there's pros and cons with both and of course good and bad examples of them too. The best bet is to visit a few and ask lots of questions, check ofsted rating and then go on your gut instinct.

We chose a nursery for ds for the 2 days per week that I usually work and he loves it there. His key worker is super and seems to have genuine affection for him, e.g. kisses and hugs him hello and goodbye, says she misses him if he's been off, and she loves telling us funny stories of things he's said or done that day.

Another factor for us was that DS's best friend goes to the same nursery and its lovely to hear that they've been playing together and cuddling all day

I'm very a bit PFBish about him but they don't make me feel silly for calling them every time he is in to see how he's doing that day.

Hello!

Just got back from the breastfeeding group, I think its becoming more known about now, we had another new mum there (baby boy 3 weeks old and weighs about 10lb!)

Dylan was awful last night, we think he may be a bit under the weather but he seems cheerful enough now
He woke at 2ish, I fell asleep feeding him then put him down at 3:20, he woke at 4:50, came in our bed, fed, slept a bit, shuffled around, grunting, crying. I eventually hauled him upright and he did a massive burp so whoops, bad mummy not winding him properly. Im just so tired all the time...

Oh btw, bit of a revelation on the proposal front, NOT going to happen this week.
I got impatient last night after we had sex and said 'do you still want to get married' we had a big talk about it. He said he does want to marry me but its a big step (even though having a baby is bigger..) he said he needs to be pushed into these things for him to realise its what he wants?!
He said he didnt know he really wanted a baby until Dylan was here, he thinks getting married is the same thing.
Seriously men are crazy and ffs I just want him to propose so I can get married next year, THIS IS ALL I ASK FOR!