July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

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Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Hey dh.

Your bf group sounds good. i wish i'd gone to one with ds, i didn't really need any support as such but it would have been nice just to know some more bfeeders to share tips and info with. also just moral support thru the tough times.

just a thought, you don't have an over-supply/over-active letdown do you? it's just your sleep issues with dylan are exactly what we went thru with ds cos i didn't know that my oversupply was giving him so much pain/wind.

sorry to hear the delay on the proposal front.

i know how you feel as we got married 11 months after having ds and i really just wanted to feel like a 'proper family'. of course it doesn't really make a difference anyway!

maybe you'll need to propose yourself to make him realise he does want to get married?

just back from breastfeeding group - there was a bbc camera crew there interviewing people about proposed changes to maternity leave laws. it should be on bbc breakfast on sunday morning if anyone's watching!

crypt I think I do have a fast let-down, he often has to gulp quickly to get it all down without spluttering, also the fuller my boob the faster the let down so going to be worse at night I suppose.
Thats what I said to DP last night that I want to be a 'proper' family, of course I no it makes no difference but I just want to be able to say my husband- sounds more grown up than boyfriend!

mlic LOL yeah I should have threatened to propose. Trouble is I feel like I just have to wait now cos we've had that talk I feel I cant bring it up again without sounding pushy.
He said he doesnt want to do it just cos Ive asked him to, he wants to do it all on his own steam, in his own time
I joked that I dont want to wait 10 years and he said no it wont be that long, then I said or even 1 year and he said it PROBABLY wont be that long...

I should just be patient I know it'll all happen in good time, I just feel like everyone elses partner wants/wanted to get married and mine is stuck in limbo.

mlic btw LOL at the raisin up the nose and even more LOL at sneezing it out!!

woodlands I usually watch that so will try and look out for it. Will you be on it??

well, they interviewed a few of us and for some reason i decided to play devil's advocate and argue agains what other peoople were saying, so i reckon they might use me! or else i'll be there in the background in the piece to camera bit jiggling J and chatting to my friend...

hope the proposal comes soon for you. i proposed to my dh on 29 feb 2004. i kind of regretted it as he then proposed properly 6 months later really romantically, so i wished i'd waited for that!

haha well Ill certainly look out for you!
Aw well you got 2 proposals, which is more than most people get!

I just hope he's not deliberately leaving it too late to get married next year cos thats pretty mean. If it hasnt happened before xmas Im having words.

Found out today that DH has been promoted which is nice. Crappy thing is that no one told him, he only found out by mistake and when he asked his boss he was just told that he may as well start wearing his extra stripe. Usually it gets announced officially by someone, he's a bit put out that he found out by mistake and no one seems to care - it's a big thing!

dh I kind of pushed DH into proposing, we knew we wanted to, went ring shopping and he proposed as soon as we had the ring - I told him there was no point in hanging around, we went down the park and he asked. He's not remotely romantic so I'd never have got anything really special!

mlic DD's always shoving stuff up her nose, her record is 7 peas up one nostril...

woodlands I'd pay good money to have a happy boy. Sam is nearly always crying if he's awake, really gets me down sometimes...

ev ening ladies, hope your all ok? had a manic few days, ive been working like mad, my dad had yesterday and he came home with a guinea pig (looking after it for a week) and a bag of lovely clothes from next, then mum had him today and he came home with.....more clothes, i swear he will only wear things a couple of times before he grows out of them!
whay does everyone think about door bouncers? ive always been so against them but L just wants to be on his feet all the time!
mlic your poor school friend, cant imagine how shes going to cope.
dh he will propose at some point, just put it to the back of your mind, then it will be lovely otherwise you may end up waiting and every event that happens you will be thinking is it now? or now or now? I dread the day mark asks me, i hope its enough that i wear an eternity ring and call him my husband!
on the milk from i was told that soy can stunt growth in under 1s, i have been on hipp and doc said aptimel is just as kind to tummy without having to go for the comfort as that can turn their poo green so i may try that if L doesnt improve!
stac nothing from hv, i have an app with doc friday and then hv in a couple of weeks then im changing doc and not seeing hv again

chulita congrats on dh's promotion!

mlic and chulita ds hasn't graduated to things up his nose - other than his fingers. now dreading it!

memphis door bouncers are fine if you use them for a max of 15 mins or so and watch them. ds only used his a few times til he started going mental and banging his head on the door frame!

dh have a look into block feeding and slowing your letdown. From about 3 weeks, dd had all the same issues as ds had (crying in pain from wind and reflux, generally hard to settle) until i tried block-feeding and now she's miles better and a great sleeper, waking only for feeds.

See: www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/fast-letdown.html

memphis do you not want to get married then? I want to live up to my MN name! Only joking, but I do want to be his wife, more than anything.

Door bouncers- Ive got one, Dylan likes it but he's only in there for about 10 mins. We were given 2 so we havent had to buy one, not sure I would tbh but he does seem to like it.

crypt thanks for the link Ill have a look at that tomoro (bedtime now!) I have heard of block feeding, I might look more into that and see how that goes. Someone else who tried it raved about it and said how much better their baby slept.

Evening Ladies.

Oh my Gosh, what a week. I am sooo glad this one is over.

MLIC I hope you're you're feeling better, it sounds like you've been having such a rough time at the moment. Let DH look afteryou this weekend :) lmao about the raisin. I remember getting a pea stuck up my nose when I was small, I thought I was going to die.

DH I gave DH a bit of elbowing to make wih the ring after we got engaged, (mostly because we were going to meet the vicar and I was knocked up and feeling insecure) and afterwards I felt really bad that I hadn't let him propose in the way he wanted. I know your situation is a little different, but you might regret it if you end up feeling like you pushed him. Please tell me to mind my own business if I've spoken out of turn.

Chulita Congrats to your DH!

Memphis Lucky you for all the clothes! I bought two big packs of sleepsuits in the Sale from John Lewis today, and I swear by the time they've been through the wash she'll have outgrown them!
Out of interest, does anyone prewash all their DCs clothes, or do you let them wear them straight from the shop?

I went along to that mother and toddler group today, and apart form the woman organising it, there was only one other mum there!

Am now siting watching The Only Way is Essex- it's filmed in my hometown- I even saw my brother in one scene. Has anyone seen it?

Needle i was watching that when i was in england last weekend! My cousins live in essex and they were cringing watching it!! Its so funny though and i cant watch it here! thats a pita about the group!
Dh the last 2 days ive really been thinking about dp proposing and really want it to happen! its frustrating! dont want to ask him though cos i want it to be his idea and because he really wants to marry me not because only me wants it. Just wish he'd want it soon! but then next week il be back to saying im happy to wait!
Tsc how you getting on with the mil? Hope shes not driving you too crazy.....
Put ellie up to the cot by herself for the first time this eve! Normally keep her with us til we go to bed but put het straight up after her bottle and she was asleep in 5 mins. Prob means she'l be up mega early though!
Made some apple crumble this eve and it was yummy! made it with candarel so its more slimming world friendly!

Mlic - poor thing. I think you just beat me in the lack of sleep stakes. We're currently waging war on ds's bed-hopping antics now he's got the teeth thru, that meant we we up with him twice as well as the usual wakeup/s for dd. Thankfully dh usually deals with the ds wake-ups so I get some sleep between dd feeds.

We're doing a party for ds today so I'm hoping to get dd back down for an hour so I can get a bit more sleep to get me thru today!

Needle - what a shame that group was a wash-out! are there any nursery rhyme/music classes near you? I found those to be the busiest classes usually. Oh and another thing - does your local nct arrange walks and coffee afternoons? You don't need to be a member to go to them, afair.

Morning!! Hows the mummy crew today?

Chulita Congrats to your dh on the promotion!! What a fantastic achievement :) I'm sorry they didn't announce it as they normally would or should - maybe you could treat him to celebratory dinner or something to acknowledge how proud you are of him?

woodlands thats exciting about the bbc crew being at your bf group!! Will try to remember to watch it!!

mlic Glad you enjoyed your night out love, sorry you were up so much tho :(.

needle my bf group is usually deserted too - theres 3 women who run it, and sometimes theres only me there with them!

spirael WOW!! For the big sleep Mindy had, bless her :) I thought Corey was a good sleeper but Mindy wins that award :) Corey has decided he quite likes night-time playtimes anyway...

I think yesterday must have been the day for dh promotions as my dh also found out he's got the managers job he's wanted for years!!! Incredibly proud of him and can't seem to stop telling everyone .

I also bought another pram yesterday , it's getting a little out of hand now as I have 3, 2 of which are the same pram in different colours!! I have 2 m+p herbies one in 'hot n bothered' and (new one) also in 'dollymixture' I also have a m+p pliko pramette in famiglia [which is now for sale!!!]

Right, I know that was short and sweet from me but you wouldn't believe how long it's taken me just to type that! One handed typing isn't one of my strong points :).

Hope you all have a lovely weekend :)

xxxx

needle no your not speaking out of turn at all, I agree with you! I would much prefer it to be off his own back but I just dont think it would happen if I didnt give him a bit of...encouragement!

kk someone to share my agony of waiting! Does your DP know you would like to get married?

Dylan woke at 3 last night after going down at 8ish so wasnt too bad but he decided to be awake for an hour as when I tried to put him back into his bed he woke up and wouldnt settle on his own, this happened twice. Then he was awake at 6:45, then 8ish. DP took him in the other room and I slept til 10:15!

I am feeling really rotten at the mo, got a cold and a fuzzy head and Ive got to do the food shopping.
Think we're going to have a dvd afternoon though.

There is an NCT sale in my town tomoro which Im looking forward to, am hoping to get a bumbo, they're so expensive to buy new!

needle i wash all Lyndons clothes first but he has sensitive skin so its a must, i dont like the idea of it being made in a factory thrown into a pile on floor then on him so wash i wash it, just because its new doesnt mean its clean.
dh no i would only marry to have the same surname and i can do that for £25 by deed poll instead, im a wife in every other sence of the word, ring, house, cleaneretc just no paper, i dont believe in god so dont need his backing by doing it in a church and dh wont marry me abroad just us 2 so unless it was like that it wont happen although he wants us to marry, just with his family in tow!
oh and bumbos are brilliant, i got one with my advantage card points i saved they are brilliant, nice knowing hes sitting nice too rather than with his spine all curled up!
bought a door bouncer they were on offer, and he loves it!
my e bay bargains arrived today, a lovely changing bag i saw in boots for £50 i bid on and got for £5 and a no added sugar top which friends bought for £18 each i got still boxed for £5 too! wish we had NCT sales around here!

mlic if anyone'd seen us removing the 7 peas we'd have had her taken away - DH scooped some out with a lollipop stick, sucked 2 out while I was holding her down and then she sneezed 2 out herself. I couldn't believe how many she'd got up there!

needle I wash clothes beforehand cos I've heard they use a fabric stiffener in the shops.

He knows i want it to happen at some stage dh but dont think he planning on it anytime soon. I jusy cant imagine him thinking 'right im gonna do this' cos thats just not him! he says he has something in his head though so just have to wait! I want it to be a total suprise though and he knows that but hes brutal bad at keeping things to himself!

gosh! all this talk of bumbos and door bouncers has made me feel like i'm neglecting dd! when are you using them from? can't remember when we did with ds.

it's so different second time round as she still seems like a helpless newborn compared to my rampaging toddler!

we have a door bouncer my uncle and his partner passed onto us. j likes it now but didn't a week or two ago.

it was our nct sale this morning. i also wanted a bumbo but the only one, with play tray, was going for £25 so i thought that was a bit much. i got a few bits and bobs - a swimming inflatable thing and armbands, a snow suit, a laundry bag etc, but not much. last time i was 36 weeks pregnant so bought all the neutral newborn clothes i could find - but now i am shopping for 6-9 month stuff, of which there wasn't much and it was mainly for girls. there was tons of lovely 0-3 and 3-6 minth boys stuff but i'm ok for that!