July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

[stac14]

Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Im starting to get really fucking fed up of feeding Dylan to sleep EVERYTIME hes tired. We're leaving him on Sat with DPs dad but I wont enjoy myself, Ill be constantly worried that they cant get him to stop crying if he's tired.

Sometimes holding him and swaying works but its only ever been me that does it so not sure how he'll be with someone he barely knows.

Im having one of those days, Im bored, I feel fat and miserable and I dont have a life anymore.

Afraid your lumbered with him tsc..

Its def one of those days, I went to my sister's, he fell asleep in my arms, she put him in the car seat and he slept, SO WHY DOESNT HE DO THAT AT HOME??!

DH - does he have a sucker? My kids wouldn't go to bed without boob so I gave them soothers. I know a lot of breast feeders are against them, but they have seriously saved my sanity.
They are only allowed them when I want them to sleep. They are so grateful that they consequently happily sleep anywhere, so long as they have it!

He spits it out gracie :( although weirdly enough he's fine to take a bottle. Should be grateful for that I guess.

Am going to try him with a dummy in the middle of the night tonight as I know he can do a 7 hour stretch without feeding.

Hello all, sorry haven't been on for a while. bad luck TSC - hope Frankie settles better soon. Spirael, am impressed you've been back at work already doing KIT days! I took J into work yesterday to show him off and it was very odd being back - it felt like no time at all, though it's already over three months I've been off.

Had the boy weighed today and he was 6.80kg/14lb15. He's slowly climbing between the 75th percentile and the next one up, whatever that is! The HV was saying "well done for sticking with the breastfeeding, it's not easy with such a big boy" which I don't totally understand - surely your body produces as much milk as the baby needs? It's possible to breastfeed twins, after all! We measured him at home just to see where he was length-wise and he came out at 75th centile for length too.

hey ladies, rileigh got her jabs today, she had a cry but is ok. Bit more of a temperature than last time and a bit sleepy.

tsc rileighs at it too, apparantly its a growth spurt, it can feck off cos we need sleep lol

dh rileigh did her first full nights sleep when staying at my aunts, its as if they want to make you a liar lol try the dummy instead see if it helps. Heres hoping eh

great weight woodlands what age is he again?

cakes that sounds a good idea bout role call on fb i'm sure we all struggle with each others rl names lol x

dh they always are better for others, Lyndon always sleeps 10 hours plus at my mums through the night, does he just grizzle for feed etc or really scream? Lyndon grizzles and as soon as i look in cot he stops so i put dummy in and leave him, i wouldnt feed him in the night unless he really cried for it, maybe just comfort hes after?
fil had lyndon for an hour while i went for a spin on the bike, he coped ok but he looks so worried at the thought of him maybe crying!!!

mylife What a shit thing ur going through with W, poor u and poor him. Whats the Doc said again? Ur alowed to be fed up, it sounds like things are tough at the moment, remember its all just a phase, nothing lasts forever and things will change soon. I love my dog but talk about extra complication in life that u just done need right now, he rolled in something evil again yesterday and had to be quaranteened in the garden till in had bathed Dev then i had to shower him for ages till the smell had gone! Filthy they are!
DH its right they are different under different circumstances, last week i was out at friends three evenings when Devon is usually screaming, unless he is in his swing, and guess what he didnt scream hardly at all and they all said they think im Bulls**ing, nice. Also, just for the record, ur not fat ur lovely and u do have a life, its just not the same as it was 3 months ago!!
spireal I went to see my boss today, we had a chat about going back to work. Im due back the first week in April and he is going to see what 'they' say about going back part time, there arnt any part time managers in the company at all at the moment so it will be a first so it will be interesting what they come back with. I will do my KIT days, do u know if ur mat benefit gets stopped for those days or not. I also have two weeks holiday to take before the end of march, i understand that u still get Mat benefit and full holiday pay, does anyone know?

Oh mlic. I really feel for you. Big hugs.

I def wouldn't give up the swaddling yet if I was you!

I'm exactly the same about not going to bed early even tho I'm tired as I want to have an evening with dh. I try and catch up on sleep if I can time naps together or at weekend when DH will take F out for the morning.

Hope you manage to get some rest at the weekend.

Something I've been meaning to tell you with refluxy babies... I stupidly forgot to prop up A's travel cot when I was at my mother's house at the weekend. Cue a return of all the reflux symptoms for the next few days. I think it's back under control now but I was amazed at the difference it made so quickly.

Thanks stac memphis and viks he slept quite well last night- typical!

10-5 (in my bed) then a feed, slept til 7:15, got up.

Right ladies, I think its this site (not this thread tho) thats making me feel so annoyed with myself and him, reading sleep threads and thinking he should be doing all that so I think Im only going to come on here every few days just to keep upto date with you all.
Theres still facebook!

Catch up with you all soon :)

ohhhhhh DH dont go for long, we want to know what happenes with u and DP and also i was just about to make u feel a whole lot better......Devon had to be fed in the night for the first time in about 3 weeks so im joining the good babies gone bad corner!!I tucked him in and put his dummy in twice but he wasnt having any of it so i did a bottle and he downed the whole 6oz so he obviously wanted it. Hes all out of sorts now this morning and feeding is all over the place, which sucks as we had a nice little routine going......oh well, teach me to get lulled into a false sence of security!!!
We have friends coming up tonight for the weekend, she is 7 months pregnant and i am putting a little basket together of things i have found usefull, i love doing stuff like this so im off to tesco and Wilcos in a bit but need to clean and vac etc too all before 2.30 when i have a Physio appointement for my back, hope Devon is good at the hospital!!
tsc Sounds like ur busy, hope u have a nice time out.
Mylife Tell ur husband to do his blumin own!!

dh that sounds like a pretty good night! we had a good night too - he slept from 10.30-4.30 and then from 5am-8am. unfortunately i didn't sleep well - kept expecting him to wake up! then this morning went to buggy bootcamp in the park - it felt good to take exercise, especially in the fresh air. i really need a shower now but ds is asleep on me but when i try to put him down he wakes up.

dh please dont go!!! just dont go on the sleep threads they are full of smug mothers who just want to gloat! stick with us! lyndon was up at 3 and sang and cooed for an hour when i had to leave for work at 6!!!
well had horror of day, person i work with who has worked for mum for 12 years said today how can you leave your baby so much? like i was a terrible person i only work 2 days! and for those hes with my mum and my dh! i cried my eyes out then she creeped to me after! just wanted to come home, but on a high note i got my beautiful diamond ring today so one happy tired bunny now!!!

Dh - nooo, don't leave us! I think most of our babies aren't sleeping thru at all! Mine is back to waking up for an early hours feed.

Mlic - sort that dh of yours out! I live for the weekends (and ds nursery days, as you know!) When I can get dh to do some of the cleaning up, nappies and discipline - tho the latter is usually me telling him off for not doing the discipline right!

Memphis - congrats on the ring!! Hope it puts the silly work person out of your mind.

I think I've been hit by the dreaded mastitis since yesterday. Flu symptoms and today shooting pains in my boob. Bloody hell.

evening ladies dh no leaving us, rileighs back to waking up so we know its not easy.

Ouch cakes sore one, my cuz got it and used cold savoy cabbage leaves to draw out the gunk. Dont know if it works hun

Thats a great idea mlic shows whats been happening. Bet you cant wait to see the cons

woodlands whats buggy bootcamp?

memphis what a stupid cow, how dare she! Are we getting to see a pic of the diamond? Lovely gift hun

Didnt get bounce and rhyme today cos rileigh was a bit grizzly but met becky for lunch was nice to catch up. I am knackered so going to bed as have double zumba in the morning x

Stac - thanks, I'll try the cabbage! I have no dignity left these days anyway!

Mlic - that's really naughty of your dh! Why doesn't he do more? I'm shocked about the lack of nappy changes! I barely changed any of ds's nappies (other than in the day when dh was at work) as the deal was I bf, he did nappies! Bit harder now with two, but he still does his fair share.

I'm not a believer in the person who goes out to work needs a break when they come home. I used to have a demanding, stressful job before ds and it was not as tiring as child care!

I make sure dh gets time looking after them on his own so he knows how hard it is!

its the same here cakes my dp does loads of stuff, i try to keep on top of housework but he helps out with the kids but in other houses its different i suspect mlic is happy with the way things are. No offence mlic but i imagine you like to be in control of the house and kids even if it knackers you lol x

hope that doesnt sound rude to any of you x

Aw bless you all! You make me feel so welcome its very lovely to be part of something like that.

Ok so I wont go, I was having a very shitty day, BUT am still not going on the sleep threads until he's at least 5yo.

He slept 10-3, then a quick feed then slept til 7 last night. Not TOO bad I suppose.

Its DP's birthday today! He loved his presents I got him (I bought a lovely box in Clintons and put in lots of little things like a tiny cake with a candle, a "daddy" keyring and a "daddy" mug that I bought online with loads of pics of Dylan all over it.)

We're going out for a meal at the Harvester later while his dad looks after Dylan, I forgot to take my milk out the freezer last night so Im really hoping it defrosts in time .