July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

[stac14]

Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Hi Ladies.

God, Chulita, that's so awful. I can't imagine anything worse than losing a baby that way.

Memphis We were only together for three months before I got pregnant, so there wasn't really a "normal" to go back to, but we have had sex. Not a great deal, admittedly, but that's mostly a combination of being absolutely knackered and working insane hours, when we do though, it is better than it was before the baby. I'm probably not pulling my weight on the wifely duties front, mind.

MLIC, let us know how you get on with the teething necklace, I'd like to know if they work.

Very tough weekend at this end.
Someone got mugged outside the club on Friday night, which meant that we didn't get to bed until 7.30 am, and were meant to be going up to Leicester at 9am the next day. We ended up not leaving until 8pm, THEN, dh got completely ratarsed with a mate on Saturday night and poured himslef into bed at 5am, so we didn't get any of the stuff we were meant to do on Sunday done either.
The row with my dad's girlfriend (still codenamed Trollface) reached absolutely epic proportions, and by Saturday pretty much the entire family was involved, so much so that Dad came over this evening, under the ruse of coming to see the baby, to try and sort it out.
I had to take Gwen to get her first jabs today. Why did no one warn me how horrible that is?! After she screamed in horror at the first injection i almost punched the woman in the face when she came at her with the second needle. She's been so unhappy this evening, all weepy and droopy. It kills me that we have to do this to them- it's hard to believe it can be good for them when it makes them feel so grotty.

My head is killing me, my house is a still a grubby 1980s porn palace and I've just had to charity shop 3 bin bags full of beautiful clothes which are never going to fit me again. Life has been better.

needle Life sounds like a challenge for u at the moment. U must be exhausted after such a manic weekend, make sure u have a rest and catch up on some sleep, things might not look so bad if ur not shattered.

Stac hes on aptamil and the box says 5 bottles of 6oz right up untill 4 months,I think i will do what Memphis suggests and up his 6pm amd 10pm bottles. He didnt wake up properly for the 10pm one last night(it was more like 10.40) so only had 4oz.

TSC sounds like things are looking up then, good that DP sounds like he has taken things on board, thats good. LOL at Beth, nice name, maybe u can use it for ur next one!!

Wrt relations, i thought they had sewed me up to much(tmi!!!) but the doc said that scar tissue doesnt streach like normal skin so it will feel tighter. We have resumed normal relations but its still uncomfortable. I have had two periods since bleeding stopped only 17 days apart, think my body is making up for the last 9 months. My DH suggested we DONT use protection and IF i fall pregnant again naturally he says he will be happy, and so will i.......i think, although reading some posts from u guys with other kids and seeing my friend yesterday with a 2.5 year old it sounds like the hardest work ever and that scares the crap out of me as im finding this hard work!!!

well went docs to see hv and she wasnt there!!! in the book next to my name it says need to re arrange, which she didnt do, i only wanted him weighed and to cry my eyes out about the way i feel so i demanded someone weigh him, so a nurse did it and he weighs 13 pound 12.5oz!!
stac my friends website is fillyourpants.com, sorry cant do a link havent got a clue how too!
needle i wanted to punch nurse after 1st jab too!!! im from leicester, was it just a flying visit for the day?
tsc poor frankie having a scratch, think thats why our nurse pin the down so they cant kick, but its still awful to watch, know what you mean about adult company somedays i just talk utter shit to dh just to speak to someone!!!
got dentist today oh joy of joys....at least its free!!

Those of you with toddlers fighting their naps... F has just come out the other side of that phase and is going down easily for 1.5 hours+. PHEW! So keep saying 'this too will pass' and it will.

Annoyingly, A hasn't slept thru for the past three nights - she's woken up between 4-6ish (which i don't class as the morning!) Last night DH woke up to hear me say to her 'This is so unreasonable!'

Had a great night out with friends last night. Laughed so much and barely talked about DCs so I actually felt like I was just Cake again for first time in ages (albeit a slighter larger, baggier version.)

Is it just me who is struggling to remember who is who in RL? If not, perhaps we could all just do another quick intro with names, and dcs and ages on FB? Forget it if it is just me being a dope!

viksam that would be a very brave gap if you fell pg straight away! My gap is just under 2 years and it's pretty full on at the mo but i've been sold a dreamtold it gets easier. Mind you, someone told me yday that either 1 or 3 years is good from the teething and gcse/a-level POV so i don't think there's any ideal time really.

needle Good grief, you're going thru it all right now. Hope it gets easier soon! Forget the wifely duties. For the first few months, it's all about surviving the early days of babydom.

Get in line tsc

mlic thats brilliant! he seems to be getting better with his feeds at last!!
i hate ironing, only iron L's clothes and the odd thing of mine, nothing of dh's unless he asks and i still wouldnt let anyone do my ironing!!!
dentist was cancelled again today and drove 12 miles to go there before i found out!!! little bit pissed off!! went and booked a tattoo to add to my collection as i couldnt have any while pg! so i get that done next wednesday!! struggling to think of places i can easily hide them now though!!

Ladies, I may have done something very silly

My sister egged me on to apply for come dine with me ages ago and I'd sort of forgotten about it, but the producer just called and I'll find out next week if I'm going to be on it.

What was I thinking? They'll tear me apart!!

Mlic - that is great news re feeding. Hopefully he'll keep chugging along now

viks there's 20 months between DD and Sam and it is hard work but I reckon it'll pay off in the long run, I'm working on DH to try again in about June next year...need to lose a stone and a half first though! My sister's got 4 under 5 and her house is a manic chaos but she loves it!

gracie how cool! I'm addicted to that programme :)

memphis I love that website, I've bought tons a few things from there.

mlic how lovely of your DS :) DD's just started coming over randomly and giving us cuddles for no reason, it's soooo sweet! Give me the aunt's mobile number and I'll text her and say you'd love the ironing done, so very kind of her to offer and thankyou very much of having someone else to do ironing. And great news on the feeding!

big news in the chulita household...we managed sex last night [sigh] now how long can I hold dh off til he wants it again...

OMG gracie haha we can watch u on TV, how funny!!

mylife Good boy W!! Thats brilliant feeding, long may it continue! I wouldnt like anyone doing my ironing....however i would let someone clean the bathroom, vac,clean windows,dust...etc etc maybe she could do something else? Such a lovely thing you said re pride, i was very proud of Devon when we were in brum, its a very specific sort of pride and its a great feeling. My Mom even told me what a great job i was doing and she NEVER says things like that!!

cake I get very confused about rl regardless of mumsnet!! but yeah im not completly sure who is who. Im crap with names though, even at group i instantly forget what peoples names are! really bad!

Devon is quiet and asleep!!!!!!!He had a total screaming fit when i took him out of the bath at 6 and continued to cry for Hmmm about an hour!! DH fed him at 7.15 and bounced him in the bouncer, now he is in the wonder swing, the evenings are exhausting and Im really concerned about sleep associations re the swing. God its such a mine field!!

viksam it's not for everyone but I always reckoned if it got them to sleep I didn't care what it was. DD was fed to sleep for months just cos it was easier than fighting her, she had 3 feeds a night til 10 months for the same reason. When I did finally break her of the habit it was a tough 2 weeks but it was only 2 weeks at an age when I was sure it wasn't going to hurt her to cry a bit. Up to you but if I were you I wouldn't worry if he's sleeping!

mlic congrats! You must be so relieved. I'm so impressed by all you ladies keeping track of what dcs are eating. I just keep pouring it in and hoping she's had enough. Short of weighing myself before and after a feed, it's hard to know!

gracie oh my gosh! That would be so cool- have you thought about what you'll cook?

cake we got married when I was 4 months pregnant- I'm not insanely religious, but I wasn't comfortable having the baby and not being married. To be fair, it was on the cards from day 1- on our second date he told me I would have his kids within the year. I broke up with the guy I'd been with since I was 18 to be with him. The whole thing is kind of bonkers to be honest.

morning ladies, i'm not liking this growth spurt. Can i join you ladies who's babies don't sleep? . She went down at 10ish then woke at 4am wanting fed, gave in at 4.30 when she took 5oz and she has woke again at 7am and just took another 3oz. How long does this last? Do i try to feed more before bed? I can't remember this with ds but then he was on solids by then.

mlic thats brill bout w feeding so well, long may it last

gracie thats fantastic, go for it hun you may win

Thanks for the website memphis i'l have a look.
Well I was at the docs yesterday regarding continuously spotting while on the mini pill, he has advised getting the mirena coil but when i was looking for info it says to be used in caution if history of diabetes and ovarian cysts. I had asked if it would cause problems due to pcos and he said no. Twat lol. Anyway i'm going to a female doc for advice. Oh yeah and the mini pill is causing me to gain weight regardless of 3 zumba classes a week. Sorry didnt mean to go on, anyone have any experience of this? X

Welcome back to sleep deprivation stac! Its not nice is it. Dylan still waking at 1am and again at 5ish and being unsettled til I get up around 8.

gracie that'll be so good if you are on it, I love CDWM!

Ive got NOTHING to do today, I can tell Im going to be very bored. I need to go to tesco (how exciting) but Im a bit worried cos Dylan does not like sitting down very much and get upset in his car seat.

Good morning ladies,
I have to wait for the big oaf of a plumber again today to hopefully stop the heating coming on every time the hot water comes on!! I cant stand having vile people in my house but its got to be done. My boss emailed me yeaterday to ask if i wanted to do any keep in touch days, i do but i have no one to leave Devon with and its really made me think that i need to get my ass into gear and find some child care, i wish i knew someone in the area, id rather find a child minder whilst he is so small, whats everyone else done?
stac that sucks about night waking, Devon only took 3oz at 10.30 but went through the night weirdly.
I did an experiment yesterday though, at his 11ish feed he cried when he had finished the 6oz bottle so i did another one, just out of curiosity and he had a further 2.5oz!!so he had 8.5oz in one go! He hadn't poo'd either so i was scared to touch him after in case there was a poo/milk explosion!! But all was well untill horrendous crying after his bath later on!!

gracie thats brilliant i love that program but have to sky plus it as dh has an annoying habit of singing come dine with me to the tune of come fly with me and thats all i have in my head for whole program!!
stac i was going gym 4 times a week and halved my calorie intake when i had the implant and i still put on 2 stone in 6 months, needless to say it had to go, then got put on the pill which i shouldnt have as i had IBS and boom preggers within weeks!! so im back on the old faithful injection!!
chulita that website is brilliant, feel guilty though them being friends nad not going with eco nappies!!
dh ive got nothing to do today either apart from nip to asda!
dressed Lyndon in his 1st 3-6 month outfit today, he looks so grown up i cried!!

Morning all. :) Lovely weather here today - blue skies and sunshine! I hope it's good for everyone else too.

I guess I've gotten away pretty easily with the 12 week growth spurt... Mindy's just coming out of the other side now (I hope!), back to giving me an hour or two break between feeds again. She even napped for two hours yesterday afternoon! Even throughout the growth spurt though she still slept a good 8 hours through at night.

I'm going to pay for this in the toddler years, aren't I? Either that or she's lulling me into a false sense of security, so I give her a sibling. Then that sibling will be a demon child!

Anyway... I've been doing Keep In Touch days, viksam. :) I'm doing two more, next week! What we've done here with childcare for that is that my DH takes the days off work as holiday. Means he gets to spend a day being a SAHD while on his normal salary, and I can top up my maternity pay by working, so we actually end up better off - slightly.

It's good because my DH gets an idea of what my day is like and how time consuming it is to care for a small child. i.e. he commented last time that he now understands what I mean when I say that I need to get everything done in the morning as in the afternoon Mindy demands more attention. Also about how it's possible to go a bit stir crazy while pinned to the sofa.

I slowly built up an expressed milk supply in the freezer before my first day, and now he uses that during the day and I replace it by expressing during the day at work. They have a nice private New Mum room set up which I can use.

Is anyone else doing the Keep In Touch days, or is it just me that's crazy enough?

Memphis - I love your DH for singing that!

They're filming on the week of November 15th, as it's so close to thanksgiving I thought we'd do a thanksgiving meal so I can double up on prep and freeze it ready for when family descend