July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

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Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

vik my lyndon is 12 weeks and he has 6oz through day then at 5pm i up it to 7oz, then another 7oz at 7 to fill him up and hes on the hungry baby formula so dont worry about the over feeding.
mlic hope they kick in soon, cant imagine how awful it must be to be ill aqbd still be mummy i struggled with the 1 day i felt ill.
dh dont cook to much steak, you dont want to be full up for a marathon sex session is everyones sex lives back to normal?? i still worry at thought of it? sorry if tmi!
asda baby event starts again today for anyone whos interested! i really dont need anything but im still going, probably to feed my baby wipe addiction think i have enough to last until hes 18! lots of weaning things are supposed to be £1 and they have the juice cups for use from 4 months instead of £4 they are £2

oooohhh! sorry DH missed that bit about possible news this weekend! good luck!

memphis no our sex life is not back to normal in fact it doesn't exist! i'm still not feeling 100% up for it and DH is freaked out at thought of baby in the room- also added to the fact that we are both shattered all the time- just doesn't happen and tbh can't see either of us instigating it anytime soon! we still having lots if hugs and snuggle up together at night but no more! is this normal?
Thanks for info on asda- will prob have a visit to get more wipes too!!!

becky dh was freaked out when lo was in my belly but not while hes in the room, it freaks me out though, im just worried about it all after such a horrible labour, i just keep thinking about the 30+ stitches i had to have!!!

Augh... I think we've hit the infamous 3 month growth spurt here. Mindy's been feeding near constantly for the last four days!

We had a particularly epic time on Sunday where she fed on me constantly between 3-6pm (after feeding every hour before that), then guzzled 5 fl oz of formula in about 5 minutes while I ran to the bathroom, then went straight back on me until 10pm, then guzzled another 5 fl oz of formula before finally zonking out!

She's also so busy feeding that she's resisting naps too, which means that by dinner time she's grumpy. She didn't sleep at all during the day yesterday, though we're still getting 10pm-7am during the night so I can't complain that much.

I'm trying to be tough today though, I've fed her both sides this morning, then set her down in the cot for a nap with her mobile going. She was protesting (grumpy cries rather than hungry) but seems to have gone quiet now... [crosses fingers]

Is anyone else experiencing the same thing, or is it just Mindy that's decided to become a bottomless pit? She was feeding in about 10-15 minutes a week or two ago, but now she's back to taking 30-45 minutes per time... [sigh]

Incidentally, there's no action here either, memphis, so you're not the only one. :) DH and I were considering resuming relations over the weekend, but with little miss greedy chops we've not had a chance! Hopefully she'll calm down before next weekend...

A bit of those of you who can get your LOs to settle at around 7pm in the evening. I haven't had an evening where I've not been cluster feeding between 6pm-10pm yet! Reeeaaally hoping she grows out of it soon...

• aside from the date I had with DH, where my parents handled the cluster feeding instead with 6 fl oz of expressed and another 5 fl oz of formula... Over a mighty 2 hours.

spirael the 12wk growth spurt is incredible. Thankfully this end Samson's not a hugely long feeder so if he ups his feeds to 15 mins instead of 5 it'll still be 3x what he does at the mo. It will settle down again though and ime (of 1 other child ) the 12wk is the most intense.

memphis no action here either. DH had a little chat with me last night about it. I'm usually extraordinarily horny but pregnancy/babies take it out of me. We had a go last night but for some reason I'm really tight so it's painful and hard to get into the mood. I just don't want it, don't think about it and dread him bringing it up. As he says though, he still needs it and doesn't want to beg for it. I also feel really fat and unsexy with big saggy udders and a pot belly so that makes wooing my husband even more off the cards. Sorry for the mammoth post, it's just that I know DH wants/needs it and I really, really don't want it and I need to somehow find the energy to do it :(

dh fingers crossed for next week :) how exciting!

A good friend of mine had a baby yesterday and he died after taking one breath. I'm so sad for her. She'd been told that he wouldn't survive the birth due to his head not being fully formed or something but I can't imagine carrying a little person inside you and feeling them kick/wriggle knowing that when you actually get to meet them they're going to die. I really want to send her something but I have no idea what, maybe just chocolate (they live in the US so no Cadbury's) and a card...any ideas?

mlic Id be surprised if he proposed on his birthday as Ive always said I didnt want it to be on a special day, but who knows!

memphis good thinking lol! We've been having sec since 3 weeks after the birth, but if Im honest it didnt feel right til about week 5 or 6. Its completely fine now though, just paranoid about getting preg again.

spirael Im with you on the marathon cluster feeding, its the same for us every night. Even when he has a bottle of expressed milk he still wants the boob for a good hour, hence why Im worried about leaving him with other people.

So Im thinking the proposal will be next week sometime, well Im hoping it is. Ill look a right berk if he doesnt do it now.

Oh chulita thats awful. Heard so many sad stories like that lately. Choc sounds good. Not a lot else you xan get for the poor woman. Its heartbreaking. And wrt to the sex hopefully pyou get your mojo back soon but try not to think about it cos the more you do the less chance you have of actually wanting it abd enjoying it. But it will come back.
Ours is pretty much back to normal. Maybe not as often as we would have before though.
Memphis alton towers sounds brill! Definately have to go sometime!
Well my trip to england is on friday! I know the break will do me good and all that but dont know how im going to survive the weekend without a cuddle from my little woman :-( looking forward to the fun of it though!!

chulita thats so sad, its something I feared all the way through. I cant imagine how she must be feeling :(

mlic I like the way you think lol.

Normal relations not quite resumed here either.

I'm up for it but just can not think about it in same room as DD and it feels a bit teenage to go for it on the sofa

We did embarked on our maiden voyage when we were on holiday (lots of spare bedrooms!) a few weeks ago and very nice it was too.

Since then there doesn't seem to be the time or energy (more on DH's behalf than mine as I seem to deal with lack of sleep better) but I kindly treated DH to a pleasuring on Sunday night and now constantly trade against it - e.g. can you make me some more tea please, I did give you a BJ on saturday

Gracie - under the arms? As in the arms aren't swaddled? Wouldn't that defeat the purpose?

MLIC i'm not worrying about weaning off swaddling any time soon. I've read up a lot on it and it seems many babies are swaddled all the way up to a year, often ending up with just their arms being swaddled and their legs loose but covered. It seems many progress to a Peke moe which is why I bought one. Eventually they'll grow out of the need for it so I'm just enjoying the benefits of it now and hoping it makes for easier night-time teething (ds has slept terribly thru each of his).

I'll keep DD in a ruddy strait jacket til she's 18 if it means more sleep!

chulita so awful about your poor friend's DS. I'm sure the fact you've acknowledged what's happened (card and choc sounds good) will mean a lot to her.

oooh, please let me know how you get on with it mlic

ds needed bloody exorcising each time he's teethed.

Lol cakes!! Sounds familiar for some reason......!!!

mlic my friend sells them amber necklaces on her baby website and i didnt want to ask her what the point was for fear of looking stupid, now reading that i may get one from her!!
chulita your poor friend it makes you realise how lucky we all our to have healthy babies!
cakes i did that sort or bargaining while pregnant! go and get me a mcflurry and i will put a smile on your face haha
ive tried cutting out all the rubbish i ate and walk everyday, also do my dvd im back to my pre pg weight but docs want me to lose another stone due to problems with my blood disorder, in 6 weeks ive lost a pound, got until the 8th nov to be weighed in at docs, how can i lose weight?? any ideas other that chopping my arse cheeks and boobs off?

cakes I wouldnt worry, Ive got myself caught up in the sexual fantasies thread!

Tsc - it does sound tough and I can see why you're feeling upset. Will you hate me if I say that your dp probably think he's actually being really helpful and supportive? and in a way he is.

It's similar to the way things have been here except dh wouldn't cook dinner or take felix for an hour very often either.

Men do often do the practical things to try to help but forget the emotional stuff - or even just asking how they can help rather than assuming or doing the bits that suit them.

Perhaps wait til you're feeling calmer, take a deep breath and thank him for the stuff he is doing and then tell him what you'd like him to do to get things back on track with you two/as a family.

Or just kick him in the balls and neck a bottle of wine ;-)

Tsc - it does sound tough and I can see why you're feeling upset. Will you hate me if I say that your dp probably think he's actually being really helpful and supportive? and in a way he is.

It's similar to the way things have been here except dh wouldn't cook dinner or take felix for an hour very often either.

Men do often do the practical things to try to help but forget the emotional stuff - or even just asking how they can help rather than assuming or doing the bits that suit them.

Perhaps wait til you're feeling calmer, take a deep breath and thank him for the stuff he is doing and then tell him what you'd like him to do to get things back on track with you two/as a family.

Or just kick him in the balls and neck a bottle of wine ;-)

hey ladies,

becky she's fine now, sorry i couldnt make today but will defo see you friday. Are you much better?

tsc dp will come in and want to do housework, bath blah blah when i would rather he takes dd so i can float about so i know why your p'd off. Hopefully you's have sorted it now. I just plonk r on him so he has no choice lol.

mlic you poor luv its so hard being ill when you have kids, heres hoping the antibiotics kick in

memphis whats your friends website so i can have a nose for rileigh, scotts friend does baby stuff online too but still trying to find out what its called lol. Relations are normal here when i'm not bleeding (sorry tmi) i'v bled on and off since dd was born, think thats why cakes story rang a bell haha

Lmao cakes it seems normal to talk about anything on here. Sounds like my house

spireal i feel as if rileighs been like that for ages with her feeding although she's bottle fed but wants bottle after bottle, maybe it will calm down soon eh?

viks rileighs on 6oz btls of hungry baby milk and i am about to up her to 7oz, devon will take what he wants, your not overfeeding hun

chulita i am so sorry to hear about your friend and think your doing the right thing so she knows your thinking of her. Its such a hard time, i feel for you all x