July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

[stac14]

Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Hi every one glad all your LO's are getting better. Dd had her jabs earlier this week. She was a little delight giving the doctor huge smiles until he stuck the needle in then she was inconsolable. Finally got her to take a feed and calm down but it was awful. Not looking forward to the next lot.

tsc - for what it's worth I wouldn't be doing a family holiday with someone you don't get on with. We did it last year with nightmare Sil it was to Florida so should of been great but her selfishness just ruined it for everyone. Wouldn't do it again it's just not worth the stress!

Sorry Memphis that should be to you. I saw a mil mention and assumed tsc

am i a bad mother? I just shouted at ds SO LOUD i actually have a sore throat

he threw his breakfast on floor, rubbed what was left of it in his hair and then grabbed my hair and wouldn't let go as I was picking said breakfast off floor (I shouted louder and louder to get him to let go).

i did the naughty step thing afterwards but i don't think he has a clue what that's about.

I feel terrible for shouting at him so much but what's the alternative (don't want to smack him)?

oh and does this count as sleeping thru?

fed DD at 11pm when I got in last night, she next woke at 6.30am

DS slept with me but did actually sleep rather than scream - so i would have had my first whole night's sleep in months (if not years) but I got a prank call at 3.40am

Oh cakes it's horrible when we feel so angry at our children I've had many a sore throat and DON'T think your a bad mother.

The naughty step is a good idea because it gives you chance to cool down while you put them some where else where you don't have to look at them.

How old is your is your ds?

Cakes I also read in a book once that disipline meant to teach so instead of seeing disipline as a punishment I see it as being able to teach right from wrong. I find this helpful but it's easier said than done dh has never been able to understand this view point. He was smacked as a child and somtimes feels like it would be worth a go.

I couldn't bear to have my dc hit and have told him I would leave with the dc if he ever did.

Perhaps that's an over reaction but I do really feel that strongly about it. I don't judge other parents that do but I just feel it's not for me or my family.

tsc and dythan thank you. you've made me feel better.

ds is nearly 2.

tsc - please don't say i've got spitting to come . i thought it couldn't get much worse than hair pulling.

dythan - that's a good way to look at it. just sometimes so hard to know how to do it calmly (eg he just wouldn't let go of my hair despite me asking him calmly tons of times before shouting my head off!)

I know it's not always possible hence why I too quite often have a sore throat

However tell them things and show your disapproval enough times and it does eventually sink in.
For example ds no longer poo's outside and gets the dog to eat it they do grow out of things In my experiance with your guidence.

Hello everyone,
We're in our next house, DD's being very destructive but then she was in the middle of a vomiting bug when we upped sticks and moved up north away from the only home she'll remember so it's not surprising that she's being a bit more challenging. Everything's an absolute tip and I can't work out how to organise the kitchen...argh!
Sam is still feeding little and often - last night he fed at midnight, then 3, 4, 5, half 6 and 7. He'll get through it, it's just mad at the moment. I had him weighed on Wednesday and he's only gaining about an oz a week which is nothing. Even though he's feeding a lot, it's obviously not very much at a time so of course I'm worrying whether I'm making enough milk etc etc.
Glad your LO's taking more mlic
We've still got to get S his jabs, not looking forward to it at all :( memphis I felt like I'd betrayed DD when I took her but it is better than them getting meningitis and all that. They do get over it quite quickly really.
I've got to go and keep unpacking the kitchen, sorry not to answer people properly, I'm absolutely shattered at the mo!

My daughter hates me.
I'm not joking. The last two days every time u pick her up she cries and cries, for hours until I give her to someone else, doesn't matter who. I don't understand what I've done wrong- I feel like I must have hurt her or something, and I don't know what to do to make her trust me again.

Am I just being completely stupid?

Are you BFing, Needle? I had/have the same issue with Mindy and figured out that whenever I hold her she expects now to be cuddled and fed. If I don't make with the breast sharpish, I guess she feels like I'm holding out on her!

Until I stop BFing, I'm getting DH to do as much of the settling and cuddles as he can (when he's not at work). The rest of the time, I either feed or try to set Mindy down somewhere. If she's sat in her bouncer I can sit and play/chat with her and she's fine, as she doesn't seem to expect/demand a nipple in her mouth!

Not sure if that helps at all? Mindy could just be greedy unique.

needles she doesnt hate you hun, what spireal says sounds right. Try not to worry hun your just her main source of food and she smells it all the time on you. I'm not bfing but after having no milk i have started leaking while shes feeding. You'l be fine luv

cakes your not a bad mum, sometimes lo's can push you to the limit. Ds was acting up this morning and if it wasn't for dd he would have got a mouthful. I currently live with kevin and perry in one child, but we have 2 that age lol

Its such a crappy day, i was meant to go to bounce and rhyme with becky and violet but my sis messed that up, she is a nightmare. What have you been up to? X

Urgh, she screams if I put her down till she's purple. It's so unlike her. She's normally the happiest baby. I just so.t know what the matter is.

Your point about BF is good though, thanks spiraely. She's been out of sorts for a few days now. I think that because she's been such an easy baby, as soon as she makes a peep I jump. Dh says that by the time we get to baby 3 or 4, we'll be almost immune to the screaming.

Oh needle, i bet you're feeling upset. The bf feeding thing sounds likely. Does she always stop crying with anyone but you? I'm sure it's just a phase, as all these awful thing seem to be with babies!

we had a day indoors with my sister, cousin and her two children. F loved it but it was rather chaotic - we were just sitting in a sea of toys and noise

tsc how's frankie?

PLEASE tell me some of your babies dont have a routine for the evenings, sometimes Dylan will fall asleep (on boob) at 8ish, other times like tonight he's wide awake and he prob will be for a while.

He's so sporadic I just have no idea when he's going to sleep rahhhhhhhhhh!