Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

Qol- Thanks, crying at the drop of a hat sounds familiar. Thankfully he's not too bad this morning cause he finally had an ok bight last night. Suppose that proves a lot of the grumpiness is tiredness..

Poor Anya with her stomach bug, hope it passes quickly..

MSF Very exciting! Hope you find someone really special, you deserve to!

Neeps- Feeling a bit better today thanks, as I said to Qol, he had a better night, woke when we went to bed at 12 ish then 3.30 then slept till 6.30. Feel better for it and dh is off work today as he's gone deaf in both ears (need syringing, drs at 4pm) so he's helping with the boys

Re when they won't do what they're told.. If we're at home I tend to give a warning and say if he does it again he'll go in time out in the hall. If I have to put him in the hall I tell him why, make him stand there for 3 mins and then repeat why and ask for an apology, all don't calmy as poss and I go down to his level to talk to him. Out and about is more tricky, I tend to say if he doesn't behave/stop doing what he's not supposed to be he'll have to hold my hand/ go in the trolly. Another tactic is bribary, not always recommended but sometimes essential, for instance if we're going to to to grannies then I say 'do you want to go to grannies?' he says yes then I say 'well stop doing that or we're not going', I always ask if he wants the incentive first cause it gets him to answer yes then I can say he won't be able to do that if he doesn't behave. Sometimes I resort to 'if you're good round the supermarket you can have a kinder egg at the end' kind of bribery. Hmm, it's hard at first being out and about with them, Dylan went from being an angel at te supermarket to acting up and being a total rascal once Miles was born, think it's just an attention thing bit you do learn to cope with it as trying as it is!

I would say, these techniques only work with Dylan if I consistently follow through on the threat. If I day he has to hold my hand of he doesn't behave then he has to hold it for a while till he's behaving again, this can cause much screaming! Another thing that helps is to keep talking to them, describing what you're doing, getting him to pass items if you're shipping etc etc. I'm sure you donmost of these things anyway but I just thought I'd share all I do in case any of it is of use

Glad you got a bit of sleep last night, it makes such a difference to my day if I get a bit of rest.

I forgot to say the other day that the bunting is particularly beautiful.

Also update on the architect situation - we have taken someeone new on who has in four days has managed to get the council to say they will approve our application in four weeks time (they have to give time for neighbour notification). He has managed that in four days, the other guy was still faffing about a year on. Sadly we have lost a huge amount of money which is devastating. The new architect has been very kind however and is giving us a reduced rate.

I haven't used time out yet actually, he's never really needed it but perhaps we need to start now. I have usually done choices - like if you want time for a story then you need to get your jammies on now type stuff but he seems to have gone mental lately!

Omg could there be more strange words and spelling mistakes in my post?! Stupid auto-correcting phone!

Grrrrr, computer just lost a big message

Shortened version:
Dal, glad you got some better sleep
Neeps, good that you've got a better architect, hope it all goes through smoothly now.

Took Anya to the Trafford Centre this afternoon as I couldn't face several hours of "you have Suzy Sheep - say 'hello' to the unicorn" etc. Watched a dance workshop, though Anya didn't want to join in, and briefly saw Hello Kitty in Selfridges, which freaked Anya out - "nooooo, Hello Kitty is this big" (hand just above her head). She fell asleep in the car on the way back, stayed asleep for an hour on the sofa, and has just agreed to go straight to bed when I woke her just enough to suggest it. It could be a very quiet evening!

Dal - that is exactly the way I deal with Ben, he has time out and I also do the bribery thing, but not 'if you do this, you can have sweets' I do as you do, that if he doesn't do as he is told, I stop him doing something he likes to do. I perhaps made it sound like he is worse than he is, its just that he is usually so good anything out of the ordinary seems bad, but in the scheme of things it really isn't.

His sleep has been a bit better the last couple of nights, only been woken up once by him, and last night it was Sam that woke us up with a bad dream and Ben slept through :-)

I'm getting excited now, the new house is really coming on and we should hopefully be moved in by the end of the first week of April Then next year perhaps we could have a summer meet at ours? although it might be a bit too far for people to travel Anyway that's a long way off :)

FT - Thanks for your message, I know I also found it really weird. At the time I could only check facebook on my mobile and I thought it was problem on my side so no idea what happened there. I am super excited that college is officially over and so much less stressful now. I have been trying to change the date to earlier but have not been successful so far but am getting very paranoid about normal delivery. Also cant get on any ante-natal classes which makes me even more paranoid.
Your convo with Alex made me laugh but not as much as what you went through as a kid. Imagined you being dipped in flour and fried like a fish. Hope you managed to get your new fridge.

Neeps So happy for you that Jana is home as well. And please dont scare me asking the dreaded question of coping with two else I will have to push this one back in when it finally pops out.
That is scary with Dareh running by a busy road. With A I always allow her to walk on her own and slightly ahead of me is she wishes as long as she stops before the end of the road and wait for me to hold her hand. Luckily we live in a lovely area where its nice and safe to walk its just her pre-school that is on a lightly busy road. I am hoping that she'll stick to it once the baby arrives. Its kind of following Super Nanny's rules. Also if she doesnt listen she ends on the naughty step for 3 mins and following what Dal does. Works amazingly well.

NC If you dont use the car that often then maybe not too bad idea to sell your expensive ornament. Do you know for a fact that you wont need it when you move? are things closer in the new area. 4 kids plus your own, thats way too much too handle.

Strawberry I am so happy that the twins have been discharged. Saw some pics on fb and they do look so adorable now. Oh bless him! You cannot get upset when they attempt to help even if that means its double the work. And yes not only boys that play with their bits, Aaliyah does as well. But noticed more if she only has her knickers on with a skirt and no trousers.

Dal Oh so sorry to hear. Really dont have any advice especially since you are worried that weaning him off will affect his weight. But are you sure that if he has a good enough diet during the day that it will affect him sleeping through at night. I do hope that you get it sorted soon

QOL hope you get some nice replies soon. and Anya's night dreams are getting better. I read somewhere that if it happens a particular time everynight to try and interrupt it. i.e. wake her up before it starts or something like that. Maybe have a little google cos I cant recall where I've seen that

An uppdate here:
So far baby is doing all right. First had throat infection (or tonsilitis as doc said even though mine was removed as an 8 year old) now I keep on getting really bad migraines though and my eyes hurt alot so the only way to stop it from huurting is too shut it for couple of hours. And I itch really badly so bad that DH kinda resorted to sleep on the couch cos I keep on waking him up. (fine for me, cos he has been the worst sleeping partner lately, stealing duvet and being really noisy in his sleep).
Doc gave me codeine for headaches but not helping much and one of the reasons why I am hardly using my laptop now and even only use FB on my phone.

On the plus side I've finished painting A's room a lovely pink with a fairy wallpaper on the one side. And some little fairy theme going in her room. She loves it

And on Sat I painted the nursery a nice lemon fizz colour. Still no idea on theme yet. But getting some nice white furniture tomorrow. Its from Mothercare but 2nd hand (a year old) and only paying £100 for it. That is a cotbed, wardrobe and changer.

Going to buy some more things tomorrow when DH is home for the hospital bag and finally get my neglected house sorted. Need to still wash carpets and now that Ihave the painting itch might paint our bedroom as well.

Tried desperately to change c-section from 23rd to 11th March but apparently cant be done so now will have to wait for baby to come. Cant get on any antenatal courses and therefore getting really paranoid about normal labour. So keep your fingers cross ladies cos I am so gonna need something to get me through this birth

Hi ladies.

Eva-Glad baby is doing well, do you know what sex it is? Can you contact your mw and tell her that you really need some type of antenatel input as you're very anxious? What area are you? There may be a charity type organisation that could help, even if it's one to one, such as a free doula organisation?

Qol-Good luck with your profile, very exciting

Dal-How are things with Miles?

LLL-Wow, great news on the house, loving all the pics and very jealous! Next summer would be fab to have a meet up and give FT a break.

Neeps-I use threats/bribes/just do as you're told methods depending on what mood I'm in. In one way i think I prefer to use the 'do as you're told as I know best' method, but doesn't very often work I would like to use the reward method only when it is appropriate but in real life I do whatever I can to have a quiet life most of the time! How about some type of 'star' reward chart, and if he get's so many stars and not black marks by the end of the week he get's a treat or new toy, magazine or DVD or something?

Muppet-??? Hope you're doing well! LWC seems to be doing really well judging by FB, we miss you :)

News from here-Weekend was okay, was nice to have a proper look round the area, and the area that we're hoping to get is a mixture of little towns and villages that have mostly excellent schools, but apparantly rentals are being snapped up very quickly as people are selling and then holding out for the market to drop to buy new houses so not very helpful for us. I am so stressed it is horrible, I am very snappy with everyone and things where strained between me and both dd1 and R at weekend, mainly my fault. Have been using bach's remedy a lot, think vodka may be more appropriate though! Am going to crack on with college work as much as i can to remove at least one large stress factor, although my head not working is not helping with that much.

How is everyone else anyway? Has any of the LOs been extra hungry lately? S has been 'starving' all week

NC No I dont know the sex as yet. Wish I did find out so that I can sort out my life a little bit better. I have told the midwife and she tried but couldnt get me on the local ones. Even the very expensive NCT ones are fully booked. No idea why I am getting so scared of the whole idea. Glad you had a good and productive weekend. Hope you manage to find something soon.
A normally eats very badly but even she has started eating loads since Wednesday. Thinking that it might be a growth spurt or something

Eva-Have just realised you don't live far from where we where looking at weekend!! Less than an hour away.

Is this website any good for finding someone who could help? x

LLL - Glad Ben's been sleeping better. How exciting about the house - bet you can't wait! A meet-up at yours sounds fab - would love to see it.

Eva - interesting about waking Anya up before she dreams, I hadn't heard that one. She seems to be a bit better now but if she starts again I will definitely try it. A's room and the nursery sound fab - sounds like you might be nesting a bit?! I'm sure labour will be fine but I will keep everything crossed for you.

NC - sorry you're still stressed, though it's not surprising. I hope R is being understanding. It sounds like a lovely area - hope you can get on with the move as soon as poss, you'll feel so much better when things are sorted I'm sure.

I've got a date on MSF ! We're going to meet up for coffee, still to arrange where/when, but we shall see how that goes. I'm a bit nervous, this will be my first date in 10 years! Have the rules changed at all while I wasn't looking ?

NC Where were you in Gloucester. Yes not very far, We in Witney. Maybe I could also meet you guys more often then. That is very far from Hull though isnt it. What a move. Gloucester or Gloucestershire is so more cheaper than oxfordshire.
I know that website, you will probably see my old ad in there when I still lived in Chipping Norton before I registered for a childminder. Will see what they got.

QOL I am sure I read it regarding Night Terrors and Nightmares. Reason I looked into it at the time was because briefly for a short period A used to scream out an hour after falling asleep. I think that is described as Night Terrors cos it always happened at a certain time. It said that for a few nights to discturb the pattern. I think we only did it twice and she has been fine since. Hopefully it works for Anya

Oh PS good luck with the date. Hope it goes well. Dont know about rules so cant advice. Lol maybe have a look at the Lone Parents thread.

Night feeding here but had to say how exciting QOL! We will need all the details!

The latest - we are meeting up on Saturday morning for a coffee . I shall be on here after that to give you all the gory details of course!

QoL - Good luck for Saturday then, hope it goes well and look forward to hearing all about it :)

As regards Ben, he was back to waking us up 5 times last night, oh well one night was fun while it lasted :)

Qol- hope Sat goes well! Can't wait to hear all about it

LLL- you must be shattered, hope this bad dream phase passes soon. ((hugs))

hello ladies
just stopping by to say i am reading your posts, but just not having much time to post - we all have colds at the moment, so everyone is a bit grumpy! i hope all of you struggling with sleep again manage to get some - i expect to not get alot, but i think its way too frustrating not to get any if you havent got littlies...
our friends who emigrated to new york last year are visiting next week, so i may not be around much - i need to clean the house as i am embarrassed by how bad it looks. then we have nice things planned, like our pub quiz night, and all day shopping at bluewater (girls and twins). am hoping we are all better by then
love to everyone (and have fun on sat qol) xxx

Strawberry - hope you are all feeling a little bit better now. Next week sounds lovely - bet you can't wait!

Well I spoke to my date tonight - he's got a really thick Scottish accent and he talks really fast so I couldn't follow half of what he was saying - think I might have made a t**t of myself in the process ! Never mind, will wait and see what tomorrow brings .

Dating news update - had a perfectly pleasant coffee and chat, but I did not fancy him in the slightest - no spark at all. I now have to work out how to let him down gently because on the way back to the cars he asked if he could see me again, which I wasn't expecting at all, caught me on the hop, so I said 'yes' because I didn't know how to say 'no'! He wants to come down to Manchester and take me out for a drink - was even asking when I would be free. I told him we'd text - but now I have to tell him actually I don't really want to.

Ah well, my duck is broken and I am officially dating again! Match Affinity is having a free weekend so I'm off to do some emailing .

Ah Qol, glad your date was pleasant, shame there was no spark.. At least it was a good practice to get you back in the dating game Hope yoi find someone super lovely over the weekend!

Bother..a few days of illness and I get out of the habit of checking in and look what I miss!!!!
If you hadnt already met him QOL I would have said dont worry about the accent it is amazing how quickly your ear tunes in to it..but as it is...I'm thrilled that you are off the non-dating wagon and that you had a nice enough time...easiest way of wiggling out of it is to say that you have met someone else on the site and there is a real 'connection' and wish him the same very soon (yes, I have used that one...guilty as charged)I hope you find one with potential very soon.

LLL I hope you have had more sleep since your last post...hopefully he will settle better when you get out of temporary accommodation and into your new palace place
It seems the age for night-terrors/bad dreams...Muppet was FBing about Hen having a bad one last night...Alex has them quite often...though the latest from him was to refuse to talk to or even look me the other morning...it took ages to prise out of him that he had dreamed that I pulled his hair and was blaming me in RL!!!!

Strawberry have a fab time with your friends. We are doing the same over Easter with our friends from South Africa..I can't wait! Hope you are all better.

We had a bit of a bad week over half term. Alex got croup and had me very worried for a few days and then I got a virus and felt bad myself for another few days...I've only just caught up with all the housework!

Off to walk the dog in the...wait for it..wait for it....SUNSHINE!!!!!! Woohoo!!!!

Hi lovely ladies.

Just a quick update will come and read the thread when I come back. Got midwife appoinment after 12 today and midwife doing a sweep so hopefully encourage baby to come by weekend.

That's exciting Eva!! Hope something happens for you soon.

Sorry to hear about Alex Floria, Croup sounds awful. Hope you are all recovered.

QOL - what did you say in the end? I hate situations like that! I never know what to say. Have you any more dates lined up?

Hope you had a nice time with your friends Strawberry.

I am struggling to get on here at the moment too, hardly a spare second in my day. Jana sleeps in two hour blocks at night so only get about an hour at a time myself and Dareh is full on in the day. They are both lovely although Dareh is a bit of a moan at the moment but I suppose that is to be expected.

I am trying to figure out when to go back to work and it is stressful!! Those of you who did go back how old were your LO's when you did?

FT/neeps - good line about having met somebody else, I shall keep that up my sleeve for the future! In the end I emailed him just saying I'd enjoyed meeting him but didn't feel there was a spark so I'd rather leave it there - he emailed me back saying he agreed and felt the same. Got to have a thick skin I guess to be doing this! I have started chatting by email to somebody else this week, so we'll see how that goes. I'm trying to send out one or two emails a day to prospective dates and I seem to be getting a response once a week or so - from what I've heard that seems about average, given that I'm less attractive with a child in tow.

FT - Hope you and Alex are all better now.

Eva - hope things progress soon for you - been checking on fb for updates. Fingers crossed!

Neeps - I'd be amazed if you found time to come on here at all! I'm sure Dareh is just adjusting to the new family set-up, on top of being a normal attention-demanding 3yo! I changed jobs after having Anya but I started my new job when she was about 9 months old. I worked the equivalent of 3 days a week but actually did 4 days on short hours iyswim. It was stressful - I cried buckets before I went back - but I enjoyed it once I did.

Hello to everyone else and hope you're having a good weekend x