Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

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Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

Hi ladies, having a bad day. Any help here would be much appreciated.

Neeps-hope you managed to get some sleep xx

Have posted NC x

hello all
just stopping by on my way to bed - trying to get a bit of sleep before more feeding is required - have grumpy children, big & small at the mo, think they might be coming down with something...

Neeps - how are things today? hope dh is helping out a bit more and that dd has settled down - i think it does take a bit of time to get into a new family routine, especially when you are recovering from birth. i've now learned to survive on blocks of 2 hours sleep, and find i am best to get up early-ish & shower before the others have to get up (always feels worse to go back to sleep) - also to go to bed for the 9pm feed so i can relax even if i don't sleep

NC - can't believe that dd1's dad is making a hard situation even worse (actually i can from what you've said before). it sounds like a good move, if you can actually do it, for many reasons. Plus my mum lives in Cheltenham, so i'll be able to catch up with you when i visit her

Inzi/dal/floria, everyone else - hello, hope you are ok

here in strawberrylace land the twins are gaining weight nicely - dd is 10lb 4.5 and ds2 is 9lb 6.5. I on the other hand have managed to lose 6.5lb in my first week at slimming world - i am very happy! especially as i have been able to eat quite a bit - with extra allowances for breastfeeding. i have a long way to go, having gained some from all that i lost before getting pregnant, but at least its a step in the right direction.
sorry that i can't stop, am soooo tired, must go to bed. plus dd is sleeping on my knee and it's hard to type around her.

(PS - i am def on for 30 July, so excited about seeing you all xx)

Hi ladies

Neeps-Hows it going?

Strawberry-sorry to hear youy have the grumps, so do we atm. dd1 is upset and worried re her dad, Shannon has chicken pox and I feel shattered.

News from us is that we have decided to move down to Gloucester way! Very scary though.

Hi,

sorry not to have updated, just so tired. Dh was much better the next day so hopefully it was just a blip. I wish he would find better ways of dealing with his bad moods though as he always takes them out on me.

NC that is an awful situation to be in. Any update? Must be so stressful for you all, as if a big move isn't stress enough as it is.

Strawberry how the hell are you managing this with twins. Dareh has watched tv all afternoon on my my bed while I just lie there. Bad mummy alert and all that. Just stuck my head out the front door in the hope that the awful weather might wake me up again. Dh not back until six, I think I will have to get him to stay home tomorrow as I can't manage all day.

Feeding getting better thankfully. Just need to stay awake!

I have missed stuff, will have to catch up when my eyes don't feel like they are going to fall out of my head.

neeps - it took a good few weeks to get to this point - Olly also spent alot of time watching cbeebies... also, for the first 12 days i had the twins in special care, so I got a bit of recovery time without them - it's a bit less exhausting expressing than feeding a newborn, because i could do it every 3-4hours with no crying to stress me out. it's all loads better when the sun is shining - roll on the summer - don't know how you do it with the awful weather up north.

NC - glad you've made your decision, hope you can get everything sorted. if you're thinking of places to live, and want to know what they're like, message me and I'll ask my mum...

uh-oh - screaming baby alert again - 5-7pm is a nightmare because they just won't settle... going to chuck twins in the bath now with Olly, wish they were old enough to sit in there with him and i could let them all play together

love to everyone x

Neeps I'm quite sure Dareh is not suffering for spending a few days laying around watching TV and bonding with you and Jana (I'm very impressed that he will stay watching TV..Alex is like a dog he needs so much excersise to keep him amenable)Be kind to yourself and think of it as recuperating/bonding/adjusting time and dont expect yourself to manage being as focused and organised as you were just a few weeks ago...sleep when and where you possibly can even if it is only 10 mins while Jana sleeps and the octonauts or something keeps Dareh entertained. Fabulous news that the feeding is getting easier.

NC I cant believe the stress you are under at the moment with Shannons chicken pox and the decision to move(even though it is most definately for the best) and the stupid ex making things so very stressful for Leonie and you. i said it on your other thread but I'll repeat it here..if you want a trip out of Hull to get a bit of distance from it all please feel free to pop over here...just give me a bell and I'll have a bottle of something to help you relax and a bite to eat on the table.

Strawberry you seem to be a wonderwoman from most of your posts..I cant imagine how difficult it must be...I hope bathtime wasnt too much of a nightmare today and we all know how quickly they will be sitting/crawling/standing it will all get easier month by month. How are things going on Dhs job front? any news at all? I hope the worry about that is another stress you are relieved of very soon.

Hi to everyone else...off to bed early myself..Alex has a cold, woke us 4 times last night and developed a bit of a temperature tonight...think I'm getting the cold too (I'm almost ashamed to mention my tiredness when so many of you are coping with soooo much more) Night all xx

FT-Thank you once again, you are fab. One of the things I keep mentioning to dd1 is that we will be near to some of you which makes her happy, okay we may be moving father from some of you but she doesn't see it that way

Of course you're allowed to be tired, you've been having a horrible time lately too. I can just imagine Alex needed wearing out, couple years you can be sending him and dog off down the lane to give you 30 mins of peace!

Neeps-Hang on in there, it does get easier, you'll get through it, remeber to take any help offered to you.

Strawberry-ahhhh, the summer, can't wait. Life always seems much better in the sunshine doesn't it. I don't know how you manage with all 3 of yours, really I don't.
Thanks for the offer of asknig your mum, we've been looking at Cheltenham so far if you can get any imfo on that? Schools seem very difficult to get into if they are good, which some of them are excellent.

News from here, have updated other thread. Ex being even more of a Dick if that is even possible, but may have calmed down a little thanks to his gfs input...we'll see.
Shannon is even worse with the spots, in her eyes, mouth, ears, groin. poor baby, she must feel terrible because for the first time I can remember she's wanted mummy to put her to bed rather than daddy, which is unheard of if he's here, she's usually up his bum!

Well, I had to wait till 11 as the police said they'd try and get here for a statement for tonights incident before then, but they're not so I can go to bed. Meant to be at R's work do tomorrow night, hope we make it as I've come of my diet especially

Love to all xx

Hey all,

Just wanted to update you, we had to take Jana to hospital on friday. Still here, she has a virus and an infection. Last night was the worst, really scary but she's on antibiotics now so seems more settled and her temperature is down. She wants to be held all the time so am exhausted. Will be here for the next couple of days at least.

Oh no! neeps - poor you & poor jana, that must be v worrying. i hope she is better very soon - and that you get a chance to rest. i wish i lived closer so i could help you out. keep us posted on how she's doing x

Oh neeps, hope she's over the worst ofnit, must be terribly worrying for you. I'm sure they'll have her better soon. Hope you manage to get some rest. Thinking of you xxx

NC - have posted on your other thread. Poor Shannon with her chicken pox - is it clearing yet (can't remember how long chicken pox lasts )? Hope you enjoyed R's works do.

Thanks so much for the profile - that's fab! No, I haven't posted one yet - in fact my sister's emailed me one today that makes me sound particularly fabulous . I sort of need two though, one from somebody else about me, and one from me about myself - I think I will use yours as the one I've done about myself, as it's much better than anything I've written !

Neeps - sorry to hear about Jana, but glad she's more settled today. Cross fingers she's back home with you soon. Echo Strawberry/Dal - hope you get some time to rest.

LLL - how are you coping with your temporary home? Bet you can't wait to move in to your new pad.

Inzi - go George! Sounds like he's doing brilliantly - I bet you're so proud! Well done with the weightloss (again!). So sorry to hear about you mil - I really hope that whatever time is left is comfortable and peaceful for her.

FT - I hope you're recovered somewhat after what must have been a very emotionally draining time supporting your cousin.

Strawberry - well done to you as well on your weightloss. Sounds like the twins are doing great .

Another 'yes' here for 30th July.

Neeps-So sorry, hope J is okay. Love and kisses your way.

Waves to everyone else, hope to be back tomorrow. Things have kicked off here. Ex attacked R in front of the kids when we went to drop her off earlier even though he promised dd1 he'd calmed down. All evening has been statements and trying to calm dd1 down who is in a terrible state after seeing her dad laying into R :( Luckily Shannon slept through it.

Waiting to see if they release him, cos if they do I'm taking the kids to my mums, don't want to risk anything after today. Will explain fully when I get chance.

Omg nc - what an awful thing to have happen. hope r is ok & dd1 has settled down ok - must have been such a shock for her. sending you some hugs & good wishes - hope you manage to get some sleep with all the worry x

Oh god NC that's terrible! What an absolute moron! How's R? Is he ok?? Poor L having to witness that, must have really shook her up. All this just confirms even more that you have made the right decision IMO and not a moment too soon. ((hugs))

OMG NC and Neeps!!!1

Neeps you must have been so scared...but at least you got her into hospital and I sincerely hope she has turned the corner and is loads better today and you get out of there very soon.

NC How utterly awful for you all (though having lived with him as long as you did I suppose it was no great surprise for you)poor L;how dreadfully distressing for her to witness her father behaving so dispicably and hurting R,I hope you managed to calm her somewhat and how especially terrible for poor R. I do hope he isnt hurt too badly and is recovering (and you had lots of arnica in for him )...I cant agree with Dal more you have definately made the right decision and the move cant come a moment too soon....Thank heavens S. slept through it all (1 traumatised daughter and beaten partner is more than enough to cope with)
The only good thing about it is that if ex tries to stop your move in court he wont have a leg to stand on...I hope they keep him locked up! ((((big hugs))) to you all

Oh god, NC - sorry to hear its all going so badly, it seems to me the sooner you can move away the better. I would say you tried the best to make it work for you all, but imo what your ex did to R is beyond the pale and should not be excused :-/ Hope Shannon is better with the Pox soon, it took Sam two weeks for the scabs to start dropping off.

Neeps - I hope Jana is better soon and that you manage to get some sleep soon.

QoL - We are coping ok with the temporary accommodation, went to see the house yesterday and its a third plastered :D Ben is unsettled though, I feel like I have a newborn in the house again as we are awake at least 4 times a night with him at the moment. He is thrashing about in bed, scratching himself although his eczema is a lot better than when he was a baby, and he also talks and shouts in his sleep. So he sleeps, but we don't. Oh well medised once a week is giving us at least one good night :D

Margo - is it stil ok to camp in your garden again on the 30th and is it ok to bring the puppy? If so, looking forward to it :D

Hello to everyone else :)

LLL of course you can camp and the puppy will be more than welcome (sorry I thought I had answered on FB when you asked ) You made me lol when I read "its a third plastered"...brain just didnt compute and I wondered first who was drunk then realising it was the house wondered why it was being plastered 3 times...got it after about 20 secs, I think Altzheimers is setting in . Glad to hear the new palace is coming along nicely but very sorry that Ben is so unsettled, Alex had a bad night like that on Friday and it is crippling when you are out of the habit of broken nights..I hope he settles again very soon..it will all be very much worth it very soon.

:D roll on the 30th

Hi ladies, just updating whilst I can. Ex got kept in custody last night and is at court this morning. I have to keep ringing the court to see whether he's been let out on bail as the women that's dealing with it said she won't be able to let me know till about 4, and he could have already been round by then. DD1 at school reluctantly and school are aware whats happening. OH is in a bit of a bad place too as he went through it all when he was little and his mum had a violent partner, so this has hit him really hard. He's gone to work but has had to fob people off as noone even knows he's leaving his current position yet, so explaining would be arkward. The only one that is unaffected atm is dd2 and she's just loving the extra 'sit down and be good and you'll get a biscuit' bribes atm

Not sure where we're going to go from here. I After seeing the way he acted yesterday I don't think he'll stop until he get's his own way, even if that means he is up in court for murder. So the move may happen faster than anticipated. It would mean me leaving college and dd1 having to change schools which'll no doubt mess up her SATs but it's a matter of weighing up the lesser evil. The way she has been I'd be suprised if her SATs where up to much anyway, she keeps jumping at every single noise and shadow. :( I hate him so much for doing this, especially for doing it front of her.

Neeps- How is Jana?

LLL-Awww poor Ben,sorry to hear that he is unsettled. Only to be expected I suppose. hope he settles down soon and that you all get some sleep.
Shannon's pox are starting to dry but she has itched a couple and they're infected. Been putting antiseptic on and giving her antibiotics so hopefully will clear soon.

Quick update. Still at hospital, she is much the same. She is working very hard to breath and her lungs are stil crackly. Hoping she turns a corner soon. She keeps getting very distressed and it's horrible, sometimes I can't feed her because it is too hard for her which is really hard for me. She's having a nice sleep now.

Not had time to read everything but hope you are all safe nc - thinking of you x

Neeps; ((((hugs)))) How dreadfully distressing for both of you I am thinking of you and sending get well vibes for poor little Jana and hoping that she turns the corner very very soon.xxx

NC. Can the police not offer you more information and protection? I know an exclusion order wont 'stop' someone determined to break it but it means the police react quicker to a sighting in your vicinity.. might that be a good route to go down?
Does Ex know R.s address? Could you live there until you can move?
You know you are always welcome here if you need to get away for a few days.

Aw Neeps :( Poor little baby. I really feel for you, sending lots of love your way. Try to look after yourself too :)

Update from here, the case has been adjourned till April, and bail conditions are that he may not contact OH or I or enter my street, but no restrictions on dd so he is able to text, ring or even try to see her, also no restrictions put on third parties, so he can incite others to contact us atm. No idea where to go from here, it's either go somewhere with the kids and wreck their routine and unsettle them or stick it ou in fear until/if something happens. Will have a think.

Thank you so much FT, I really appreciate the offer.