Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

Oh my lord, not been on here properly since New Year - how did it get towards the end of Jan so quickly?!

NC - are you up in Aberdeen this weekend? Hope you're having a good time. Sorry Rich's job doesn't sound very promising. at dd1's dad taking drugs in a suitcase - can't believe he risked that with children in tow!

Neeps - how are you doing? Any early news? I'm sure Dareh will love his playgroup and you'll get some much-needed time to concentrate on the new arrival.

Strawberry - how's the diet going? Sorry you're under stress about work - really hope that dh gets something soon so you don't have to worry.

Dal - your new car sounds great - glad you're enjoying it! Glad things are settling down and you're getting Miles into a better routine. and (and ) about a possible number 3! I honestly wouldn't worry about the weight thing - although I know it's hard not to - your instincts were always right with Dylan, they will be right again now. Like you say, that's how you make 'em.

FT - so sorry about all your sad news, especially as your aunt was so closely linked with your dad. Hopefully both your aunt and your friend passed quickly and without suffering. At least you have the memory of a wonderful family meal with your aunt over Christmas. Sorry I missed reading this before the funeral yesterday, hope everything went ok.

BB4 - glad the new job's going well - it sounds like you're settling in nicely. Cake decorating class sounds fab - I would love to do that! - such a nice thing to do with dd1 as well. Have you managed to rescue any of the new bedding? I imagine lip gloss is quite difficult to get out.

Inzi - hello!! Good news you can post again. So glad that everything's worked out ok with dh's new job. George sounds very easy going - fingers crossed that continues! How's you mil? Glad that it didn't look as bad as first thought but it must be stressful for you and dh.

Crochet - hello to you too and lovely to have you back on the thread!

Anya did have a lovely holiday, and I was surprised I coped as well as I did. I'd given myself plenty to do to keep me occupied. When she got back she was really clingy for a week or so, hated me going to work or taking her to nursery, but she's soon got back to normal.

The email thing on my other thread hasn't been mentioned since, and I have seen him as he's in the new choir I joined - presumeably he always writes that kind of stuff in emails ! Thanks for the comments though.

Ooooh! Just thought - I have a challenge for you ! Have I mentioned I've joined a few dating websites? I joined match.com before Christmas - not found anybody promising though, I'm sure they're all lying about their age and most of them seem to be childless men who want to remain that way. I've now widened my search to Times Encounters (oddballs), Plenty of Fish (nobody over 5'8" ) and MySingleFriend. The last one looks the most promising but I'm having a bit of an issue trying to get a friend to write a profile about me - several have said they would do it but then they ask me what to put! I have no idea - it's bad enough trying to write my own profile let alone theirs as well - but it appears I have no creative/witty friends. Apart from you lot of course . Any chance you could collectively write something that would make lots of lovely men want to date me? Or at least give me a couple of ideas that would start my useless friends off?

Hope I've not missed anyone or any important bit of news. I'll try not to leave it so long next time!

Hi QOL. No news yet. Dareh is sick so maybe just as well. Just about to take him to see the Dr.

Glad the email thing didn't continue, that was a bit of a shocker!

Back later, need to get the boy ready.

Hello all!

neeps ... the pains are horrible - they do go fairly soon though after the event! A couple of things to do that I found helpful (the crutches and wheelchair are, thankfully, a distant memory) ... trying walking backwards if you can (around the house, obv, doing it when out gets you all sorts of funny looks ), and go up the stairs sideways one foot at a time. Also, if you have a TENS machine, try putting it on to help the pain.

QoL - I've been away too long - whatever the email thing was, it sounds yuck - glad it's over now!

FT - I'm thinking of you, lovely!

ummmm ... can't remember what else!

M is at the nursery unit of R's school now: she goes for 2 1/2 hours per day - the CM takes her. She wears the same uniform as R, and they do their PE sessions in the school hall, and they are part of the school. Foundation phase means that all school nursery units work on the no-structure structure - although there's usually a story-time, and a snack time where they are sat down together and practice manners. There's also the added thing for M now that she's starting to discover that speaking Welsh is not just a random thing that her daddy does - she was amazed to discover the other day that I speak Welsh too!

*Neeps" Good luck with the baby. Cant believe your time is here. Hope Dareh gets better soon. Will check FB for any updates.

Dal Don't worry about the weight thing. Its your second and if he looks healthy and glowing then it should be good enough. that you guys are thinking of a possible number 3. I always said I only wanted 2 but can see myself with 3. DH has been trying to get conversations flow in that direction wanting to confirm if I am happy with 2 and I keep on changing the conversation away from it. Whether this one is a boy or girl I actually do want a third. Will see how I cope with 2.

FT Hope the funeral went well and sorry to hear about the sad news.

Inzi Glad to hear that your DH has a job again. Very stressful these things. As much as I wanted DH to change his before baby I need to be happy that he has a job and earns good enough to pay our monthly bills whilst I am being a "lazy" student and having more babies.

QOL glad to hear Anya had a great time. Soon she will get used to it and it wont be too hard on both of you. Its not nice but sometimes we have to go through things to make our lives better. Oh and good luck on the dating front. I am not very creative myself so not good at things like that. Hopefully this lovely bunch will help you out

CrochetDiva Welcome back. M's nursery sounds cool and as much as we think that it is too "old" for them they seem to enjoy it. DH was born and raised in Wales as well can speak a few words but cos his parents aren't Welsh they never spoke it at home. I remember my first reaction to the language or more the spelling when DH took me to Wales when we were dating. Firstly didnt believe it was a language but more wise now.

Ok so havent had time for posting but have tried to read at night (or more 4am in the morning when I cant sleep) from my phone to keep uptodate but my phone is rubbish at posting so it will take me forever and therefore I dont. When I am on my laptop I dont want to go on MN cos I will get distracted and not do my college work.

I am now 32 weeks ( I think so anyway) DH keeps the updates this time and so uncomfortable. My tummy is huge and just so in the way of doing normal things now. DD is enjoying watching my tummy getting huge and cant wait for baby Zara or Baby Zak (or whatever other name we are still deciding on) to come. I love the fact that she understands that we do not know the sex of the baby and one day she has a baby brother and the next its a baby sister.

So we definitely have a girls name again which is Zara. Where boys are concern we just cant come to an agreement. Because of my religion I want a Muslim or Arabic name but at the same time not too Arabic where friends and especially family this side cant see the beauty in it or pronounce it. So one of out choices are (was the same if DD was a girl) Zakariya which is the Arabic version and spelling. Also I always loved the name. I know one of you has a boy called Zach cant think who now. Anyway cos Rich is the only boy in his whole family to take the name further as his dad's brother never had kids and the sisters are not the same surname, the family are quite keen on a boy but all want me to call the boy John, which is Rich's middle name. His mum herself never liked the name and ended up making them all happy by giving it as the second name. Both his dad and grandad is called John. I never liked the name, DH doesnt like it but his Italian grandmother who is a lovely lovely lady and loves me too bits as well is so keen and telling everyone except me that she would like that name. The two other names we came up with is Adam (DH doenst) or Zain (I dont) Zain is an Arabic name but also the different spelling Zane or Zain also apparently means John in Welsh. I just dont like the name and feels like it is way to unfinished.

So I have one more week or 10 days left until my first semester ends and I have decided that I will return next year and take the time of with baby. Just woke up at 6:30pm since before noon to catch up on sleep. Looking very forward to it and just bough DD a brand new bed so looking forward to finally giving her room a new look. Finally bought a few things for new baby and a buggy was delivered end of last week. Got it for £309 in the Jan sales but original price is £659, so quite pleased with myself with my bargain hunting.

Sorry about the long post havent been on here for a while and now it seems like a very me me post.
PS: Veyr excited about the meetup in July, cant wait

neeps - hope Dareh is ok soon.

Crochet - sounds like M's enjoying nursery - at discovering Welsh.

Eva - love the name Zara - I like Zakariya too, though I can see how dh and his family prefer the 'John' link. It was LES who had Zach, so no worries about confusion there now! Hard to believe you're 32 weeks already - not long to go now. Very impressed at your buggy bargain too.

Just popping in to say I am reading all..

Neeps- how are you and Dareh?

Just getting Dylan ready for nursery, will be back later to post properly.

Xx

Blimey, I am out of touch again

I am reading though, just not finding time to type.

Have moved out of the house now :(, spent the last week moving and cleaning. The new owners move in tomorrow, I am quite sad, sick of cleaning and can't stop eating :o I'll be the size of a house again if I don't stop myself soon.

We are in a holiday let for the next 10 weeks, which is nice enough, its just not home though.

Hello to you all and good luck to the imminent arrival of new piggies. I am keeping up to date on facebook even if not here :)

xx

Ooh neeps had had het baby!

Welcome to the world baby neeps such a beautiful name. Congratulations to all the neeps family and to Dareh on becoming a big brother!

Quick update before I head to bed.

Went into labour at about 6am with contractions. They were all over the place so midwife said it might stop and to stay home but after another hour of this I just felt I needed to be at hospital.

Just as well I went as 11 minutes after arriving their she was born! It was such a different experience to Dareh, still sore but so much easier. Didn't have any pain relief at all - no time!

She's been up most of the night the last two nights so very tired. Having problems feeding again which is upsetting. Nipples very sore but I won't give up. Just hope the pain doesn't last two long.

Hope everyone is well!

With a y. Dh was worried people wouldn't know but am hoping it will be ok. I think if I can get through the next few nights without cracks then it will be ok. Fingers crossed.

Great to hear from you neeps. Congratulations again! Hope you get some sleep soon.

Hope the feeding gets easier too, you using lansinoh? If so keep slapping it on. I known it doesn't stop the damage but helps it heal.. Have you got a specialist that can check your larch and give you any tips? We have a lactation consultant here but not sure what you have there.. Anyway, I hope the pain eases one way or another, it's hard but foes get better, I swore a lot in the early days! Take care xx

Congratulation neeps, she is a beauty. Sorry to hear you are so sore, I had it with both of mine, suffered through it with Sam, but only 24 hours with Ben. Nipple shields were my lifesaver with Sam I must say.

Hope you get some sleep soon too xx

Congratulations Neeps!! She really is beautiful, not made me broody one little bit
I hope the feeding gets better for you, I can't even remember all that now, most of that time period is quite hazy really! Can't believe how fast she came. Just remember we're here if you need support with anything, even if it's just knowing you can talk to us :)

Inzi-Wow at George saying Mamamamama, awwww, how time flies. Well done you with the diet, I'm doing okay on it but not as well as you :) Yep definitely the 30th afaik, need to look for places to stay myself actually. Hope Margo is ok, she's not been on for a while, probably busy I know, but just so you know we're thinking of you

Hi to everyone else too. Am feeling restless and unhappy with myself this week, am craving something, not sure what, a job I think. Back to college next week so may help me feel better, not sure if I'm starting to develop a resistance to my medication and that is why I'm feeling so down, also been getting night sweats which is weird, oh and have realised that it isn't technically a prolapse that I thought I'd had ages ago (got it checked and they didn't find anything, so I just assumed I'd got it wrong) but I think it is something called rectocele which means another trip to docs and possibly surgery :( Sorry if TMI.

Also had a big bust up with DD1s dad last night, basically cos he's a thick pig and doesn't have a clue what parenting entails-won't go into it or my blood pressure will rise, but the heated phone call and my brother being a Dick yesterday made me burst into tears last night, which was a bit of a shock to Rich and DD I think. That reaction is what is making me think the tablets are not working as they should any more. Hate feeling like this, Have been to park with the girls today and played a few games, am really trying not to let this feeling get me down.

Oh, I somehow missed loads

QoL-Yes I was in Aberdeen last weekend, it was great having time to ourswelves and meeting up with his friends. I love it in Aberdeen, everyone is so friendly and honest, I love the honesty part. If it wasn't s expensive and cold then I would move there in a shot :)

Anyway, get you with the dating sites :) You already posted a profile? I have found an example of one that I have adjusted and I think it suits you, obviously you'll have to amend it to what you want to get in:

"I'm always looking forward to the future and finding the good and fun parts of it. I'm extremely confident but I know my shortcomings. I know to admit when I'm wrong. I don't have enough fingers for all the pies I want to get my fingers into. I'm privileged to have a lot of diverse friends from all walks of life. I get passionately involved in my big interests in my life. I prefer sun to snow. I prefer character to cute. I don't dwell on the past and I live for the future. I'm affectionate, have my romantic but original moments, appreciate fun and funny, talk and write too much..... I've been a musician, writer, bad dancer, good lover, millionaire, pauper, singer, mother, daughter, inventor, therapist, but mostly tried hard to be a good friend and mother and I give 110% to all relationships that I am involved in. I will be a lot of other things before I am done, but I would most like a partner to share everything, to love, to inspire and be inspired by"

Got bits from here if you want to take a look.

LLL-It must be so exciting about getting your new house, the time will fly by!

Eva-Love Zakariya (sp?) OMG can't believe you're due so soon, time is flying by way too quickly. I'm going to be 30 in August and I'm already getting wrinkles, I know some of you will pah at me lol but I really do feel as though I'm getting old.

Ok, so there has been a development on the job that rich has been offered. It is around 25% less base salary than he currently receives but he will be expected to work abroad around half of the year on and off which will suplement his wages plus if he manes any sales during his line of work he will get bonuses or whatever. One of the top managers had to go to Aberdeen from Gloucester yesterday, apparently he'd normally fly but he drove deliberately so he could have a stop off and meet Rich for a meal, basically to try and convince him to take the job as Rich had near enough decided to turn it down but the man was very convincing to Rich... My two main worries would be taking dd1 away from the only life she's ever known and her dad, and Rich working away a lot of the time at uncertain times, but I've been a single mum for years so I'm sure I'll manage. Or another option is that we're pretty sure he's going to get offered a job working offshore, 2 weeks on 3 weeks off, which would be fab as he'd be at home 3 weeks at a time to spend with me and kids but there is not a lot of potential for him to progress in that position although from a financial position, he would be well paid. I think he really wants to take the Gloucester one as the manager said he is the type of person that they want and that he could go far in the company. There is no doubt that he wants to leave his current place of work as the culture is horrible, every man for themself, whereas he prefers to work as part of a team etc.
So what do you all think? I want to try and make the right decision but how do we know what is right until further down the line? the plan would be to move in the summer hols, so dd1 will be changing schools anyway, Shannon wont care aslong as she has her kittly and daddy and I don't really have a preference, I want to do the best for us all. We've also said that it may male DD1 feel more secure if we where to get married, so that she knows we are a strong secure family unit, and it doesn't matter where we are, and of course I will do my best for her to see her dad and he can come whenever he likes (even though I can't stand him, I would accomodate him for her sake).

Grrr it's so hard, opinions please :)

Oh and whilst I've been writing this I have had a call from my younger brother to let me know I'm going to be an aunty again. The one that doesn't have children yet, his girlfriend is lovely so I hope it works out for them. Find it hard to get excited though, is that weird? Maybe because I'm not very close to him.

Right better get dressed.

Hello lovely ladies.
Just had my wrist tapped by NC for my awol ... thanks for your thoughts on the 21st and the 26th..I have been trying to help my cousin sort and clear 30+ years of memories ...it has been very painful especially for her of course... and I have been coming home(60mile round trip)too exhausted to be bothered doing more than an occasional FB message...and we have barely even scratched the surface of what needs doing, but she returned to work today so I am home for a change and just vegging today.

Strawberry; I'm so sorry about Dhs job etc it must be very very worrying...I do so hope something comes up for him really, really soon. (((hugs)))

Neeps; congratulations on the very quick delivery of your utterly gorgeous girl...I love the name, but, please excuse my ignorance is it pronounced with a hard J or a Y? I do hope the BFing settles down soon .. it is sooo worth it.
(says she who is still allowing her 3 yr old to bf in the morning...but he dropped the bed time feed for himself over Christmas so I think the morning one will finally stop fairly soon too)

Inzi;so sorry to hear about your MIL if only for your DHs sake... but glad to hear George is doing so well.

NC. Pah! at you getting wrinkles! (you asked for it) as the matriarch of this group (by a long way ) I forbid you from referring to age! Sorry to read about the rectocele...I have one too (tmi) but the doc thinks that more pelvic floor excersises should fix it i hope you get your sorted soon
I love your ideas for QOLs profile
Congrats on your imminent "aunthood" again..I understand your lack of excitement..I still have mixed feelings about my own imminent aunthood too (the more I meet her the more his girlfriend has the ability to rub me up the wrong way...a combination of her 'take a break' mind set and apparent lack of the manners and principles that my brother and I were brought up with )at least you like your brothers partner and the new baby to be is a good excuse to get closer to them if you so wish.
I think that your heart will tell you what is best for you and your family (very much including Rich of course). Moving during the Summer would be the perfect time for DD1, when everything would be changing for her anyway and everyone in her new school will be in the same boat as it were, if you are going to do it and from what you say about her father a move away from him would be no bad thing. As far as Richs' job options are concerned the only advice I can give is that my Dh, before I met him, chose a career path that led to relatively good pay early on but with few prospects for promotion and he now regrets that though he has few complaints about he deal he is on, the path he took is a dead end, so he has no room for furtherance and will be stuck doing the same thing for the next 20 years or more .. not a very satisfying prospect for a 'striver' .
Oh, and I'm sure I dont need to say it but if you and R are going to marry I hope it is for your sakes and not just for DD1s security issues...unneeded lecture aside...how exciting! shall I dust off my hat?

QOL Good luck with the internet dating... have fun...I did... and look where it landed me!!!

Eva...so near already!!! It is hard to believe, it has come round so fast. You still have a few weeks to keep discussing names yet...and would the family not be happy to have John as a middle name like your DH has? My Dhs middle name is John after his grandfather and his family would have liked me to use it for Alex too but were very understanding when I insisted on using my (recently deceased)dads name for his middle name.

Neeps and Inzi your worries about not being likes are exactly what Dal said last summer...dont be daft! We already know we like you. And yes, unless too many cry off, the 30th July it is. I'm very much looking forward to it.

Hi FT :) Sorry it's been so difficult, I bet you could do with a good vegging out for a while. A nice holiday maybe, I know it wont mend anything but maybe you could do with recharging your batteries for a change as you look after everyone else and I bet you forget about yourself (Oh yes, I know you do!) or maybe a haircut, pedicure, meet up with friends. Just something to look forward to? I sincerley hope things get better soon. Thank you for the mention about DH taking that path, I will pass it on as I think that is a good example to use when deciding.

Spoke to dd1 this morning about it and she is suprisingly accepting of the idea Can't believe it, hope she stays as positve as she has been about it today. Been to docs, he said to stay on my tablets and sort all the external problems out that are probably affecting my 'stability', I also had to push quite hard to get a referral for dd1 to see someone to speak about how she's feeling and her worries, he said it was normal but there are aspects that I don't think are healthy for her, I'm just that tired today I can't remember what they are

Do you know, you should all tell me off when I stray from the point... as in I was replying to Eva, and then start going on about my age. I'm just rubbish, sorry!

Anyway, had better go, Rich came tonight and I asked him to collect dd1 from Drama club as I'm starting to feel rubbish with a cold or something, only sent him to get there at 7 and it didn't finish till 7.30. So he's been sat for over 30 mins waiting in the car park there, don't think he's going to be very happy when he comes in! Even less so if I'm on MN chatting

It's with a y, the spelling is Macedonian. Dh wanted to use y but I liked the origional.

Morning, I need to catch up but am so sleep deprived right now so it won't be for a few days probably. I am reading though and thinking of you all.

Jana is not sleeping at night at all right now, midwife coming today so going to chat with her about it. Left boob still very sore. DH been really good most of the time, cooking me nice food and looking after ds except last night he said I could come and get him so I could at least get an hour of sleep. He lasted fifteen minutes in which he just moaned that we should let her cry it out! I refuse to do that to a newborn ffs. Anyway he went back to bed and is still bloody in it even though dd is now sleeping so I could be too if he would get up and watch ds. Arse.

Oh neeps, I hope you get sone rest soon. You need a lot of rest right now just to recover from the birth never mind the rest! If dh does that again go and bloody tell him to get out of bed and watch ds and get yourself some much needed sleep! ((hugs))

I'm just nipping in to say ditto to Dals wise words Neeps...Hope Jana starts to give you a bit of a break as of now and if she doesnt kick Dh out of bed!

Thanks, dh has been vile all day and I don't know why. He said just now he is very angry but doesn't know why. It's been a horrible day and I just feel really uncared for right now. He didn't even buy me flowers after the birth despite lots of hints and knowing I like stuff luke that. Then today he has been trying to pick a fight all day and just been horrible. Feeling very horrible right now.

Glad of this thread as no one else to talk to.

Awww Neeps, sorry he's being a pig. Probably feeling very overwhelmed, tired, emotions alre all over. you know what men are like, maybe send him out for a few hours with Ds to park to run off some steam or something while you have a bit of girly time with Jana? Maybe crap idea though, or he could go see a mate or go to the gym or something. I know it should be you getting looked after, but he may be able to do it better when he's got whatever it is out of his system..
Hope feeding get's easier also. Have you got anyone else to come and help for a bit?

Well the decision has still not been made, 60% in favour of moving atm and am crapping myself as I need to let DD1s father know that it may be on the cards and I know I am going to get threats etc, plus I feel terrible for taking her away from him as she really is his world, even though he isn't very good at the parenting thing. Maybe I shouldn't tell him until it's been decided for definate, but want to get it out the way..