June Mummies 3 - One handed typers over here!!

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A new thread.

Lynny - meant to say "happy to see you and your Dh in your old loving WAYS"

Goodness! I am becoming such a bad typer! I'll blame on dh's computer!

EYM - Hope you ahve a good night too!

Evening

Lynny - sounds like your holiday was a really postive experience despite your awful scare - glad Leona was OK! Lovely that your Nana got to meet Jess too. DD should be meeting both her Great Grandmas next weekend, they are both in their nineties, I'm really looking forward to it. Ohhhh how annoying about your hair - I too have the dark curly celtic gene, but strangely, have had more layers put in to 'thin it out' which works ok when I can be bothered to straighten it. But as I can barely be bothered to dry it, let alone style it, it has regressed to a fuzzy mess at the moment .

EYM - Glad you are finding support. Hope William sleeps well for you tonight!

Coop - you always make me smile - totally relating on the panic if no choccy or cake in the house. I thought my sweet tooth was just a pg thing, but apparently not . DH used to stock up if he saw we were running low on cake, rather than risk the hormonal wrath of a pregnant woman!! . Also loved that DD1 gave you a hug to make you feel better - aw, just to think that my DD could do that to me one day - hard to imagine just yet.

Lua - Lindt chocolate is fab, have you tried Co-op fairtrade dark chocolate, its lovely! So is the milk and fruit and nut come to mention it! .

SFX - How lovely to have visitors who do housework! And isn't it nice to get some time to yourself in the evenings! Do you really check DD every 10 mins? I must be a very lax mum, as I just leave the monitor on and I have to say, don't check dd at all as I am too scared of waking her up. In fact, unless she wakes up fully, I don't go in to her, but let her settle herself back to sleep again . That is until I go to bed at 10pm, her cot is in our room, so then I'm with her all night.

Wishing all junies and LOs good nightxxx

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morning all
lovely night dd fed twice but barely awake settled fast. playful mood this morning.

mandy- no i dont have to check every 10min,dd is a very relaxed baby, alas mummy and daddy are mr&mrs neurotic. i have to check breathing. crazy i know, eventually i will relax. fortunately she sleeps through this nonsense.

sun has returned, hope to go for nice walk

you have supply of cake and chocolate in the house? i feel positively virtuous! no desserts in my house. i dont really have a sweet tooth except during pg. my real weeknesses are dark chocolate, fresh bread and butter, so i never keep these in the house. still M&S is within walking distance of front door

Morning all,
Glad to hear that everything turned out ok after the holiday Lynny and that you are going to cuddle up together a bit more now.
I've had a crap morning - mainly as I'm knackered out. Ds fed is normal 2 times between 7 and 7 but various reasons I didn't get much kip (car alarms, non specific anxiety etc etc)
Anyway I had a go at dh for not appreciating me and never saying thankyou for the fact I get up so quietly to feed ds and have never asked him to do a feed - he always gets his 8 hours. He's probably a bit down at his folks going back to NZ and a bit preoccupied with that so I should be more kind. He left me note saying some lovely things and I know I should just let it go but I'm still hacked off and a bit tearful. I suppose it's just normal with all the sleep deprivation - at least I can come on here and just have a rant.
Hope you're having better mornings x

Morning all,
Glad to hear that everything turned out ok after the holiday Lynny and that you are going to cuddle up together a bit more now.
I've had a crap morning - mainly as I'm knackered out. Ds fed is normal 2 times between 7 and 7 but various reasons I didn't get much kip (car alarms, non specific anxiety etc etc)
Anyway I had a go at dh for not appreciating me and never saying thankyou for the fact I get up so quietly to feed ds and have never asked him to do a feed - he always gets his 8 hours. He's probably a bit down at his folks going back to NZ and a bit preoccupied with that so I should be more kind. He left me note saying some lovely things and I know I should just let it go but I'm still hacked off and a bit tearful. I suppose it's just normal with all the sleep deprivation - at least I can come on here and just have a rant.
Hope you're having better mornings x

Damn. So hacked off I posted twice - sorry

Morning all,
Welshie - If it is any consolation I have the exact same feelings towards my DH at times. He has got up for dd2 once in 12 weeks and that was because I asked him to. The onus is all on me as I am the one b/f. To be fair I don't mind this too much as it works for us and he does have to go to work for 6 am every day but I can't help thinking that he should appreciate it a bit more. At least your dh left you a kind note and therefore took you seriously, my dh tends to just ignore my rants . Hope you are feeling better. Lack of sleep is a nightmare and makes lots of things seem worse than perhaps they are, not that I am saying you are being unreasonable you understand, far from it, but the sleep depravation just makes problems bigger I think.
Lynny - Glad you got Jess into the knitted clothing. One thing I am good at is remembering who bought what for the dd's and always dressing them in that outfit if we are seeing somebody. My older ssis was amazed at this, esp as she didn't recognise what she had bought lol. Your nan would have appreciated it. It is a bit of a shock when you notice them getting older isn't it. My Granny is still going strong but is really struggling with her memory now and dh's nana who is 89 is amazing and still hosts big Christmas parties, goes on holidays, drives etc, but she is in hospital at the mo with breathing difficulties and it has come as a bit of a shock to us all to realise that actually she is an old lady.
SFX - No treats in the house . Remind me not to visit you . Only joking. I wish I had your restraint. I made rice krispie cakes with dd1 this week and ate four in two hours . They were only small though, honest. I am trying to make sure I eat lots of fruit as well though.
EYM - Glad you have made a decision to contact Cruse. I think this is a really positive step. My friends father died (cancer) when they were in their teens and we all thought their mum was amazing with how she coped with it all and was strong for the boys. It hit her years later and she had a breakdown and we are all sure a factor was that she did not allow herself any time to grieve when it happened. You mustn't worry about upsetting William either especially when he is so small. If you need to cry then you must. Hope it goes well.
Well dd1 and I have had our hair cut today by a lovely lady who comes to the house thank goodness (and only charges £10 for a really good cut) so we are waiting to find out where dh is going to take us this afternoon to show us off. We have just had lunch and dd1 is sat here at the table with me with fingers up both nostrils demanding Tractor Tom and strawberries - sigh. I can do the strawberries though. Had better go and sort her out.

Well she now has her strwberries so just wanted to add for Lynny that I am so glad that things seem back on track with you and esp that Jess is more settled! That must make the world of difference .

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hi there
beloved DHs of ours! life gets complicated after baby, not only are we hormonal and tired the whole dynamic of the relationship shifts.
sometimes i have terrible moods pretty much out of nowhere but sometimes out of non specific resentment. talking helps but i guess we have to let it out somehow.
dh does help but in the early days he failed to realise just how much i needed a break from baby once he was home, no matter how hard his day, its hardly as relentless as taking care of an infant.

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Hi Lynny

Next do something similar - bouquet & teddy - not sure on delivery times. Or interflora online.

Morning mums hugs

A bit left handed this morn, wiiliam on my knee, lol

I agree skmum we need a break to, soon as hubby came home last nite i gave him william and went and had a bath, we need out time out too.

Feeling the way i had all afternoon, hubby could see i had been crying was very sympathetic and he is lovely person anyway bless him took baby straight away.

Welshie sorry you had such a bad morning hugs at least hubby left a note, so you can sort it out.

Lynny im glad things worked out for your little family its nice that leona is bonding with Jess, my older boys love wiiliam especially my 20 year old picks him up all the time and says aint he cute lol middle son james 18 cuddles him too. Matthew my 16 year old says i never smelled like that when i was baby lol when william has pooed.

funny having all my boys together

Coops thanks for the kind words, ive had my old school friend here this morn first time weve actualy sat down and caught up as we both have grown up family, told her about my mum she said its normal to feel upset but i do have such good life now, lovely hubby, so its time to move on.

lol told her about Ann Summers said suit me down to the ground shes up for first party.

have a lovely afternoon mums xxxxx

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Hi everyone

Lynny - what a scare I once 'couldn't find' dd1 at toddler group, which is normally packed, 3 rooms plus the church and upwards of 40 families... it sends the fear of god into you doesn't it..? I think having a pretty bracelt for Leona would be a good idea, just like those medic-alert ones. It sounds sensible, especially if she can't communicate, I bet you could find some lovely ones if you searched online.

How old is jess now Lynny?? I must say i was a bit late with the old drinking cups last time and am not thinking about it now until dd2 is probably 6 months. but she is being bf and I'm not sure I want to mess with that, but I'm really not expreienced about whether that will be a good idea or not I never give dd1 juice in a beaker with a lid, mainly because that is what she drinks from all day and I don't want the sugars around on her teeth all day. She is allowed juice at meal times from a cup with no lid or when we go out she has cartons and stuff. The way I see it is that when she is older she'll hassle me enough for what she wants, so while i'm in control (more or less!!!) she gets water. We never have juice in the house really, I only drink water too.

Coop - You only ate 4 krispie cakes in 2 hours???? How restrained!! If I weren't cutting back I'd have eaten that amount in 2 inutes I really have no self-control

Thank you so much for your toilet training advice. I plan on doing it after the holiday. It just seems sensible. In the mean time I am preparing her with showing her her new knicks, talking about it etc etc, saying bye to nappies. We'll see!

Welshie - I hear ya on the sleep front. dd2 has a cold and wakes up every couple of hourse for a little feed or cuddle in our bed this is very unusual for her, she's been a great sleeper. Dd1 has also been waking up calling "mummeeeeee. mummeeeeeeeee!" I think it's so cute that she wants methat I go running in straight away! It's usually something genuine, like wanting a drink or a toy and then she lies down again - thank goodness!

I love fridays!!! It means take away and snuggly dvd for dp and I!!!

Gawd!! I sound like a right yummy mummy on the old "she only drinks water blah blah" but I'm not like that all the time honest!! Today she had an M&S croissant for lunch coz I was in a hurry

Took ds for his second jabs yesterday, I walked there, it was raining so I had a blanket and the pram cover over him. By the time I unearthed him in front of the nurses he looked really hot and was a bit red in the face then as I sat down by them, I banged his head on their desk then the poor thing had to endure jabbed on both his legs. I'm a bad mum. More of that later. Unfortunately

Coop - bless your dd1 giving her wussy mum a hug You're lucky you didn't get an abscess - Losing half my filling was how mine started (leading to root cananl treatment) My goodness, it was painful. Recently discovered how Patrick Swayze almost lost his LEG due to a tooth abscess poisoning his blood!

Lua - mine loves his revolving musical mobile too - sometimes he's so engrossed I can get a shower! Got my wash more or less sorted, thanks for posting!

Do vibriting chairs actually vibrate?

Lynny - what a scare! Glad everything's ok. Sounds like you should get a discount for all the stuff that was missing in your caravan. My ds will not drink water, which he should because he's on formula. HV suggested putting a little baby fruit juice in some water for him once a week as he's been a bit constipated due to Gaviscon Occasionally use a little feeding cup I brought home from the hospital. Very messy business. Poor you with your hair - bad hair cuts used to make me feel really crap. It's all one length (elbow length) now, so don't have any styling problems. Apple thing sounds ok to me as long as it's not a "crumbly" apple so bits can't break off. Bless your nan. Mine came down to meet ds last week and had quite a few cuddles. She's 84, I also had the feeling she might not see him again. My ds is about the same as your dd - 11lb 8oz, so also below the 9th centile. Seems like everyone's babies are bigger than ours doesn't it? How fab having a best friend ALL your life! Try M&S website?

Lots of you still into choc then? I haven't had a bite since the day I had ds.

Glad I'm not alone in feeling ABSOLUTELY KNACKERED. It seems I feel sick with tiredness every day. When I went to baby clinic after ds's jabs yesterday, a woman from my ante-natal group was there and she told me I looked like I'd aged ten years!! Shit. Ds has, sadly, turned into a snacker. Since midnight to now, I've fed him 9 times,(a total of 520ms so far) anywhere between 35mls and 85ml at a time. I've tried feeding him every 3 or 4 hours, but he just won't eat much and he's been down his charts. It's the only way I can get the stuff into him. Is anyone else's baby a snacker??

I have a snacker, all through the day, but I think it's more common with bf babies? Plus I am useless and give in to her too easily.

He snacks all night too

Grrrrrr, typed a long post and lost it.

Charleypops, no wonder you are so tired. Can your DP take over for a night so you could at least get one full night's kip? Wish I had some useful advice - have you tried asking on the breast-feeding/bottle feeding section?

DS2 was wide awake and full of smiles at 5.30 this morning and has only just dropped off to sleep (what a fun morning we've had ). I'm so tired myself I'm tempted to have a nap too but DS1 will be up to no good if I do.

Welshie, sorry you are feeling so fed-up, good for you for saying something though. It's very easy for them to take things for granted if you keep quiet (well it is in my house). Had a similar conversation with DH last night - he's been working really long hours for the last week or so, got loads of praise from his bosses for all the work he's done and I wanted to shout 'what about me, none of this would be possible if I wasn't at home doing all the childcare, washing, cooking etc' so after a couple of glasses of wine I started ranting. No nice note here I'm afraid but he did at least say thank you.

Lynny, what a complete nightmare, you must have been in such a state. There's no panic like it is there? I lost Thomas in Mothercare once and it was awful.

EYM, Cruse sounds like a really good idea, hope they call you back soon.

Better go, need to take DS1 to the park. Hope all your babies sleep well tonight.x

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Afternoon mums william been asleep all afternoon lol bliss.

Lynny what a dilema for you. my hubby too looks after his mum does all thee garden work ,DIY< ect but she is 76 and up to meeting me 4 years ago he lived with his mum. Do be honest it was really hard when we decided to get married, as he had always lived with her ever since his dad died when he was 13. It sounds like your hubby is trying to be strong, and put his own family first which is good for him, I hope things work out for you all.

Mrs W i feel a bit like that, hubby goes to work all day and a year ago i was working full time, very busy and always planning lol if you know any nursry nurses you ll know what i mean. At the moment have lots of time (which i absoulty love spending time with william) but i just need to be busy using my brain.

charley your a brilliant mum, and we all get days like today im afraid, its so tiring with a newborn try and take some time for you hugss.

lippy enjoy your friday and well done on the drinking cup, i would say about 6 months too.

baby waking xxxxxxx

evening all
very tired but really good day

lynny- i can see how this can become such a big problem, honestly i would just let him know you are aware of his double life.
you are right when you say that parenthood makes us think about our chilhoods and the relationship with our parents. i always thought that knowing the pressures i would somehow understand why they did the things they choose to do, but frankly i am far less tolerant of their nonsense. (soory outburst)

another thing is i am quite happy with the way dh is involved but surely i should not have to feel lucky, surely its equal responsibility in all senses of the word. he agrees with me on this and gets embarrased when praised, by outsiders for doing things around the house.

oh life! huggs to all