June Mummies 3 - One handed typers over here!!

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A new thread.

Lynny-we're also staying in a caravan and have been told the main bedroom probably won't be big enough to fit the travel cot.If that's the case then Dh can sleep out in the lounge area with Oscar-he he he!!!

I am so embarrassed-just got back from the baby clinic.Ds now weighs 14lb 9oz!
The lady asked how old he was and I said"he'll be 13 wks on Sunday".She looked on her calendar and said "no,he's only 11 weeks at the mo",so I told her she'd got it wrong.Turns out I'd got it wrong-how bad is that,not knowing how old he is?!!!.

Anyway...got to get off here,stay off and pack-havent even started."See" you all in a week.xx

lol bubs go pack

sorry if this post upsets anyone

Welshie my mum died of secondary breast cancer, she got it first when she was 45 had the boob off, then second when 56 she had ful massectomy but they never tokk her Lymph noded so the cancer travelled. Our last time was last year and by then the cancer had spread to her bones and brain,it was awful to see her she was only 69. We lost my mum died last Nov, and she was only dignosed in july i had been married 5 months.

At least we got to tell her about the baby and she was so pleased she loves my hubby thinks hes areal gentleman so thank god we got to tell her.

Recentently my cousin has been diagnosed with breast cancer so now they are advicing all the family have cancer screening

Anyway i do feel better today thank you all for carng xxxx

EYM Hugs to you - it's totally crap.
Mine got it at 48 too, had a lumpectomy then 5 years later it returned in her spine, hips etc She died about 6 months after the secondaries set in. Bloody awful time and it took me ages to get over it - one of the reasons we didn't try for kids until an advanced age(!)
Mine would have been so over the moon about the kids - she adored children. Ho hum.
Love to you EYM - nice t o know I'm not alone in it

Hello everyone

it's nice and sunny here, I hope you are all having good September weather too.

EYM and Welshie - So very sorry to hear both your mums died from cancer. My FIL did too a few years ago and it seems everyone I know has a relative or friend afflicted with it, it's awful

Matrix lie flat - Dd2 is still lying flat in hers, but she isn't troubled by reflux of windiness. She is troubled be too-longness and soon will have her feet sticking out of the window I never used it as a seat in the car, only on the pram chassis. I don't think it ever fitted in our car, the seat belt wasn't long enough and it just looked too precarious that way!! We bought a Britax seat suitable from birth instead, can't remember when, maybe about 3 months?? Dd1 was equally long.

Good luck and happy times to those of you planning christenings or naming days. Ours was brilliant and I'm so glad we did it, we all felt so special.

Tea and Lynny - have fac hols!! All those cream teas Last year we went to Cornwall and every trip was punctuated with a cream tea we barely gpt 5 miles before we needed a little refreshment!!!

Charley, hi again I leave dd2 crying for far longer than 3-4 minutes! But then, I am a ruthless second-time Mum and my time is much more limited than first time round

Dd2 is 10 weeks tomorrow and hasn't found her feet. Sucks her fingers for England though, so I'm hoping she'll suck her thumb soon. All those baby milestones are a nuisance. Obviously, they are helpful to know how your child is developing, but they can get you into a right tiz if your child isn't doing them at the recommended age For example, my dd1 rolled over when she was about 5 months I just decided that she thought that this kind of activity was not very lady-like and she wasn't going to waste her energy She is perfectly fine physically, just didn't like rolling.

SFX - Ah baby groups!! I am sahm and didn't bother with them until dd1 was about 9 months. Although we did do other organised stuff, swimming etc. They can be cliquey, they can be great. As Welshie says, you may make some great Mummy mates!

Dd2 weighed in today at 11lbs

Mummy weighed in last night at almost 11 stone What the fck??? it's those scales at the gym, they make* them about 5lbs heavier so you go there more to workout Oh well.

hi there thanks for feedback on baby groups

to EYM and welshie- sorry i did not follow fully about your mothers stories. mine died of cervical cancer about 20yrs ago. of course it gets easier but you never forget.
now that i have dd i can tell you it has been emotional, i had her at the same age she had me she was gone in my middle teens. i always avoid the doctor like the plague, pretty much one of those that feels better as soon as i walk into the syrgery, but now i really want really regular check ups and taking very good care of myself, its no longer just me. my new GP is very helpful too, it helps.

sorry if that was down post, didnt mean it like that, life is precious and we should live to the full everyday.

EYM - I can see why they are advising you to get screened, but I want to say before you go in, do take the results with a very large grain of salt.
I assume you are being screened BRCA? If you have the gene you stillhavemore chances of never having cancer, than of having. And, to be honest,if you don't have it, you have almost as much of a chance of having it. I know they say you areX timesmoreorless likely if you have the gene. But 10X 1% is still not very large, IYSWIM.
Sorry - you probaly don't want to hear all this science babble.... but if you want some more info, do let me know. I am not a doctor, but I work in genetics.

Sorry, meant to say : "even if you don't have the gene, you still have almost as much of a chance of having cancer"

Hi to everybody else. Am bloody stressed out with work -but am keeping an eye on the thread

Hugs to all who've lost parents and inlaws to cancer, awful Just a quicky to say I'm participating in the Breakthrough Generations breast cancer study if anyone else wants to take part. I think they are still recruiting, I've just had my first questionnaire and request for blood samples.

Awwwwww thanks mums thats really nice of you

Welshie i was fine when i was pregnant because all i think about was my baby, and how i coudnt be sad, but now william is here it just keeps hitting me again.

Lua yes it is BRCA and all my sisters 4 will all have to be screened to, I have thought a lot about it, and of course was very frightened first of all. I think its best to be aware if i have the gene or not, and aslo to have regular mamagrams, and regular check ups from my doctor.

I just have to be positive, so thats what well do, and just take each step as it comes.

life is so precious your right Sfxmum hugsss

EYM - one thing has really helped me is how often I see a family resemblance in my children. Especially with dd - sometimes I see something of my mum flash across her face, or more often hear her voice in someting I say (not always to the good ) It's a bitter sweet reminder - but precious none the less.
Harder for you though EYM - I'm further down the line with it all x

EYM and Welshie and SFX - So sorry about your mums. Can't begin to imagine how it feels. Hugs to all of you.

Hello all, have to totally agree with Mandy for those of you who have lost your Mums especially so young. It must make this time even more emotional than ever.

Have to quickly let you know that it looks like we are moving back to Cosford near Wolverhampton when we come back to the UK . DH and I are completely gutted to be honest, but we have no choice and so will have to make the best of it. We are fed up because it is so far from where we wanted to be and where our family and friends are (Suffolk and Kent). It also messes with our plans to buy a house when we get back (although this is something I really think we need to do anyway.) I also know how upset my family will be as they will have spent the last 2.5 years away from us missing the girls growing and now we are coming back it is to the other side of the country. Don't get me wrong, it really could be worse, but I can't help but feel a bit sad at the moment. On an up side my DBIL and his wife live around there so I guess we will get to see more of them. I am off to try and find out a bit more. Take care all.

Baby groups - I have a wonderful one here run in a side room at a cafe with free tea and coffee. I drop dd1 at creche and go for a couple of hours on a Monday and eat cake and chat. All of us are forces families so have something in common automatically and it a called a Parent and Baby support group and it is fab. I really enjoy it. The toddler group I go to is fun too but is more geared around the children so not as friendly sometimes. The baby group is v friendly and I met all my good friends there when I first arrived in Cyprus with dd1 then age 5 months. HTH. They are def worth a try. You don't have to go back if you hate it.

Sorry to hear that you're moving somewhere you don't want to be Coops. I spent a little bit of time v near there in August - went past the base in fact - and the countryside is really beautiful. Not much consolation but I thought I'd pass it on.

Welshie - That is a good thing for us. We will get our dog back and are country bumpkins really so like the countryside. Thanks.

EYM and Welshie - we went through this last year with my MIL. She diagonsed with breats cancer in Aug 2003 and passed away from secondaries in her brain Aug 2004. i fell pregnant with DD2 two weeks after her funneral. her birth was quite sad in that we weren't able to share this her second grandchild with her. it was also diffiuclt because DH's sister and Step-dad didn't quite get why visiting 4 days after the baby was born would be a problem. if she'd been still with us she would have told them to respect our choice and to visit when we said it was okay and that yes sore boobs, tears and midwife visits are all legitament reasons for not wanting visitors. and why having my mum here was different. sorry this anger has been bottled up since DD2's birth and i guess i'm still cross that they made us feel really guilty when we said no you can't visit. i also miss her a lot. we got on really well and she was like a second mum to me.

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Awwwwwww katz know what you mean, we were lucky all our family waited til we said it was ok, but as you can imagine when i was pregnant my sisters bless them were so concerned about me, and as soon as i went in hospital lol first time in labour they all called labour ward. Just to say we went in labour ward 5 times before having william lol I knew all the rooms and the staff by the end.

But when it came to christmas last year that was our saddest time not having mum here so i had aboxing day buffet and invited all my family, and just being with each other and talking about mum helped.

Lynny have a lovely holiday hugssssssss

Coops at least you ll be able to see your family even though its the other side of country, im sure you will settle down.

Thank you Mandy for your kind words

nite mums sleep well xxxxxxx

Morning mums hugsssss lol where is everyone?

Anyway william has been very unsettled last couple of days, i dint know if its a reaction to jabs or not,he isnt taking full feed, just snacking on 2 to 3 ounzes, wonderd if any june babys are acting the same, just unsettled.

Tryed to sort out christening apparently have to go church services ( a while i suspect) before even talk about christening, did any of you have same problem? we have to go for babtist preparation too

Well hope you all have lovely wekend chat later xxxxxx

Hi EYM. ds was unsettled for about 48 hours after his jabs - grumpy/sleepy and feeding more. We didn't measure his temperature, but her seemed a bit hot as well. All passed after a couple of days, and he's fine now.

Until the next one, of course....

EYM, Toby's been very unsettled as well, only taking small feeds during the day. When did William have his jabs? Toby's nearly due his next lot now Could be the weather I guess?

Katz, sorry to hear about your inlaws. I had to tell various of mine they couldn't come round, even my BIL who lives far away and was only visiting for the weekend. I must say, I felt no guilt in doing it, those first days need to be entirely about you and baby and nuts to everyone else.

Coop - funnily enough, I don't think of Wolverhampton as that far from here (I know your family are a bit further east but even so). Then again when I last lived in the UK it was in Edinburgh, so even where I am now is about 3 hours closer to the parents than before. You'll soon be an A14 road warrior like me, charging back and forth at the drop of a hat.

Well, I don't want to jinx anything, but last night for the first time we put ds down in the cot at 7:30 and he slept on his own til his next feed. Not sure how he got any sleep with me creeping in every 10 minutes to check he was still breathing It was incredibly liberating and I got all the jobs I would normally be doing this morning done last night. Although I don't know why, because it was dh who normally had him on his knee. That's weird. Hey ho!

Hello ladies,
Poor dd1 has been ill this weekend (sick twice on Fri night and last night) and so we have spent a lot of time giving her cuddles and doing washing lol. I slept on the floor in her room on Fri and dd2 is still wanting feeds every 2-3 hours so I have been a bit tired too. Also got addicted to MN all over again and so have spent too much time on the computer (trying to choose boots of all things!) See coops boots in members profiles for a laugh. I am getting used to this waking at night malarky and dd1 continues well in the toilet training dept. She even asked to go to the toilet when I was showering her off in the bath after her ill episode which I found very encouraging poor little thing. She also asks to go in the mornings despite having her nappy on and we have had a few dry nappies too. Sorry that my current obsession is not at all relevant to our babies. I hope to be over it soon .
I have managed to send some photos to family too this weekend.
Trib - I think it is the crap busy roads that we are dreading really. We used to do York to Ipswich quite often and I didn't mind that journey as it was only two roads really lol. We will make the best of it, I just know how disappointed my mum and stepdad and dad and stepmum will be too . It goes with the territory of DH's job, but it is certainly one of the disadvantages, however I am sort of looking forward to exploring another part of the country and we loved our time in York despite not wanting to go there to begin with so I am trying to keep an open mind. Getting used to it the more I think about it I suppose and it won't be forever. Just wanted to be near the grandparents while the children were small, and there was a chance at one point.
Well all my family are asleep again, dd's in bed and all 6ft2 of dh sprawled on the living room floor lol. He gets up early to do his training so that he is not leaving me with the girls at the weekend, but has to have a lunchtime nap as a consequence lol. Right, have to go for now. Take care all.

'Ola

It's been a bit of a rainy w/e here and just mizzle and cold here today, rather adds to the flat feeling created by 9/11 4 years on.

EYM, we had dd's Baptised/ christened last week. We enjoyed it very much, it was a great family time. We do go to church however, so attending services prior to the event wasn't a problem. I think that having some contact with church before you have the service is reasonable. During our dd's service, all the congregation took vows to help guide and support them in their lives etc and it was very much considered to be an including into a community. If you aren't religious, why not have a naming ceremony instead (although I quite understand the want for tradition etc)? Either way, you will love it!

Coop sorry to hear you're moving somewhere you don't want to be One of the things I really couldn't cope with about the forces I reckon. I must look this place up on the map, it may be close-ish to me and maybe Lynny. Look on the bright side, you'll be able to come to MN meets!!! I envy you being country bumpkins at heart I wish we were, then we wouldn't have to live in a stupidly expensive, small house in a city, with no room to swing a cat!!! And we could have everything I dream of for a home... just not what I dream of for a social life!

Welshie, did you get my email about the Sleep Lady??

Dd2 was up again in the early hours I was too tired to care about co sleeping, have had a series of late nights, must get back on track next week so I can make the night feed count.

The fitness is going well, have had 3 workouts this week and will take dd1 swimming this afternoon and get some lengths done myself if possible. I still can't believe I need to lose another stone ~puzzled face~ Maybe I'll just stick to 11 stone and have another slice of cake...

We re-watched Lord of the Rings Part I on Friday. it was brilliant! I hadn't read the book and don't think I'll ever bother, but the films had me gripped. We only saw them once at the cinema too, so it has been a while. Perhaps the fact that they were made in NZ makes them even more special for us too.

Well I must go and get the house sorted out before next week. There always seems to be so much to do all the time ~exasperated emoticon~ ??? Anyone else feel they are never quite on top of things??

Evening All,

I'm a bad Junie and haven't caught up in ages. However, i have discovered the members profile bit:
Bubb - what a gorgeous photo of your DS
Coop, can I comment on what especially lovely knees you have

Hope you are all fine and well and have had a lovely weekend. I'll try and catch up soon

Hello Junies,
Coops - I hope dd1 is on the mend and you get some more kip.

Lippy - I sent you a long reply to your email to me. Wonder where that went to? Willl resend. Apologies.

Trib - congrats on getting an evening back - it's fab isn't it?!

Katz - sorry about your mil.

EYM - we go to church, a woolly, liberal one that I've been going to for 17 years! Read on for christening update....

I'm in a pretty emotional state. We've just had ds' christening and the in-laws fly back to NZ tomorrow after 4 months here helping us out. I know they can be irritating but they've been fab in lots of ways - and mostly by really loving our two darlings. I've just had a cry wondering who is going to provide that love now. It makes me so sad for them, my dad can't be 4 grand parents.

That aside the christening was beautiful - my dad is a minister so he baptised ds (in Welsh and English!) his god mother read a poem I love that is called the Planned Child. It ends

'....the world that was not enough for her without me in it,
not the moon, the sun, Orion
catwheeling across the dark, not
the earth, the sea - none of it
was enough, for her, without me.'

And it's true